We hold many beliefs about how the world works, who we are and about how worthy we are. Many of these beliefs are wrong, unhelpful, outdated and sometimes even harmful.
Today we are going to tap to release in a healthy, lasting way, the beliefs that are no longer serving us.
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The hardest person to love is usually ourselves. We know all the ways in which we could be better. We know all the ways in which we fall short or fail.
When others fail, we are willing to give them the benefit of the doubt, but we are not often willing to grant ourselves that same grace.
Today we are going to tap to love ourselves more.
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It can be hard to trust your intuition. You might find yourself in a situation where trusting it turned out badly in the past. Or you might be unused to trusting yourself in that way.
Today we are going to tap for making it easy to trust our intuition.
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Sometimes our emotions feel too big or unsafe and we try to stuff them away so that the current moment is easier. Intellectually we know this isn't healthy.
This short tap-along will help you to give yourself permission to feel all of your emotions in a safe and healthy way so that they can be healed and transformed.
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Because of everything going on in the world at the moment, my theory is that we are all paying a 20% energy tax from the moment we get up. It's as if we are losing 20% of our energy before we have even started the day because of the underlying feelings of worry and overwhelm.
Some days these feelings are at the front of our minds and hearts, other days they're constantly playing in the background.
At some point these long term energy and emotional leaks add up and we just hit an emotional or energetic wall. Life feels too much for us to manage and we just break down.
This week I have a tap-along audio and tapping script to help when you feel like you have slammed into a brick wall.
Reminder: I have compiled a list of over 50 free tapping resources to help to manage all of the emotions stirred up by the pandemic.
You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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There are times when things go wrong and then there are times when things REALLY go wrong. The week of recording this podcast my website was down for a number of days and I was unable to access my email.
I experienced a range of strong emotions around the situation including feeling frustrated, maddened and overwhelmed.
This week's podcast contains the tapping you can do when life is going very wrong. As well as tapping for the big picture “things are going very wrong” issue, I have also included tapping for how to calm down in the moment and how to tap where your emotions get the better of you and you do things you regret. (You will hear exactly why I needed to do that type of tapping in the audio.)
This is a tap-along that I recommend you bookmark and save so that when something similar comes up for you, you will be ready.
You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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Many of us have a love/hate relationship with social media. One one hand I genuinely love how easy social media makes it to stay connected to my friends and family from all over the world. It's great to be able to see what they are up to. I love seeing their kids grow up and I love being able to share a joke across the country and across the world.
At the same time, looking at the seemingly perfect pictures others post on social media about all the good times they are having can be perilous.
This is especially true for the current situation we are in the middle of right now. As we struggle with our day-to-day we are confronted by pictures of all the incredibly creative things people are doing with their free time and how they seem to be handling this mess so much better than we are.
It's vital to remember that social media tends to show us a carefully curated version of people's lives. It is the good things. It is the happy things. It is the pretty things.
When we only see the best of other people's lives it's easy to feel like we are failing and that comparison can feel toxic.
This week I have a simple tap-along audio and tapping script for those times when you are struggling with comparanoia.
You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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The more time I spend studying the human body, the more its complexity amazes me. We are a combination of biological functions, thoughts, beliefs, memories, and an entire pharmacy of biochemistry that is released and absorbed by our bodies based on a whole host of factors.
Even though our system is so complex, it does work in predictable ways and this is true for the way we experience and remember trauma. Understanding how these processes work makes it easier to use tapping to create healing and transformation.
In this week's podcast Jen Cincurak and I explore how the brain, organs, and nervous system are involved in trauma. We also talk about how this understanding can make it easier to achieve more powerful results with tapping.
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Guest: Jen Cincurak
Contact: email @ Jen@yourconsciousentrepreneur.com; facebook group @ money mindset; facebook group @ conscious EFT; podcast @ Intro to Conscious EFT
About: Jen Cincurak is equal parts Naturopathic Doctor, EFT enthusiast and mindset anatomy geek. She loves talking about success blocks and money blocks and has even hosted two charity-driven money mindset summits. She’s put out over 220 podcasts on how to use EFT and other mindset tools to bolster success and has recently been collaborating with other leaders in the field to increase awareness around the anatomy and safety of doing personal work like EFT.
Every day in the month of November I will be posting a brand new free tap-along video to my website and I am going to encourage you to tap along with me.
This week I spent some time working on the list of topics I plan to cover in the videos, based on the questions I've been receiving in my inbox and the conversations I've been having with my clients.
Do you have a topic you think I should cover? If so, I would love to hear from you.
As an incentive, I am giving away two free 30-minute one-on-one Zoom sessions with me.
One of those sessions will be awarded to the person who submits the topic I like the best. The other session will be given to someone selected at random.
The most common reason that most people don't tap on their own is because they don't know what words to say. Nearly everyone is taught to tap using words, so this preoccupation is understandable.
In this podcast Gwyneth Moss and I have a conversation that has completely changed the way that I teach tapping and how I encourage most people to tap on their own.
The best part about it is that it doesn't require you to come up with any words or phrases, which makes it easier to tap.
Much of what Gwyneth Moss talks about in this interview is based on Gunilla Hamne and Ulf Sandström's Trauma Tapping Technique (TTT). You can find out more about TTT by visiting their website peacefulheart.se.
Download the Traffic Light Tapping Handout that Gwyneth talks about during the interview.
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Guest: Gwyneth Moss
Contact: web @ EFThelps.com; email @ contact form; web @ Annual EFT Gathering
About: Gwyneth Moss is one of the original EFT Masters and the founder of the EFT Gathering annual community conference which has run since 2009. With a degree in Physics and an MBA she is known for the clarity and depth of her teaching style and for her innovative techniques which include EFT Imagineering; Protective Distancing; Projection Tapping; The Surrogate EFT Protocol and more. Gwyneth teaches EFT in the glorious countryside of Yorkshire and at Esalen, Big Sur, CA.
One of the sessions in my recent Mastering the Art of Delivery training was about the lessons I've learned from other teachers and healing masters.
I started the presentation off with this video, which is how NOT to work with a client, but it always makes me laugh.
You have been there before. You're trying to make a positive change in your life, such as giving up sweets.
The first day is hard. The second is harder. The third day, for some unknown reason, is really easy. You feel awesome. You are making progress. Real change is happening!
But then along comes day four…
You come home from work and find yourself eating one little piece of candy. You think, “This is no big deal. It is only one piece.”
Before you know it, one piece turns into two, then four, and then the bag is empty and you think, “Screw it! It’s too late and I've totally messed up!” and you devour every sweet in the house plus some potato chips for good measure.
Within moments you’re filled with shame and self-loathing. You wake up the next morning feeling defeated.
What you have just experienced is an “extinction burst”. I think David McRaney described extinction burst perfectly when he writes: “a predictable and common blast of defiance from the recesses of a brain denied familiar rewards.”
In this week's podcast I share with you:
This is a concept that is key to understand to be able to heal and move forward.
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When we are tapping for a specific issue it can often feel as if there is a small bit of it remaining that we can't quite put our finger on. It seems like a shadow of the issue hanging around in the background, rather than the issue itself.
When this happens it is hard to know which phrases to tap on to resolve the last little bit of the issue. In this week's podcast I share the process I use when the SUDs level is at a 2 or less. You can learn it in just 30 seconds and will find it easy to repeat whenever you need it.
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Chronic issues can be some of the most difficult to address with tapping and EFT because usually there is no obvious root cause. The physical ailments can begin months or even years after the trauma occurred and since it's hard to know when the issue began, we don't have a clear target for our tapping.
In this conversation Dr. Peta Stapleton shares why trauma can create chronic issues and how to tap effectively for these issues using their physical symptoms. Her perspective is informed by the early results of the tapping for chronic illness study that she is currently leading.
Peta has been a guest many times on the podcast and you can find all of our past conversations in the podcast archive.
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Guest: Dr. Peta Stapleton
Contact: web @ PetaStapleton.com; twitter @PetaStapleton; instagram @petastapleton
About: Dr. Peta Stapleton has 22 years of experience as a registered Clinical and Health Psychologist in the State of Queensland, Australia and has completed a Bachelor of Arts, Postgraduate Diploma of Professional Psychology and Doctor of Philosophy. Peta held academic positions at Griffith University for 14 years, teaching and coordinating psychological research trials into new therapies in the area of obesity and weight management and is now Associate Professor in Psychology at Bond University
Peta regularly contributes to the academic field with publications in the areas of nursing, morale, communication, psychological interventions and eating disorders. She regularly reviews for academic journals and offers supervision for new and existing Psychologists as well as students.
Recently I have changed my mind about making bad choices. Instead of feeling frustrated with myself, I have decided to embrace occasionally making bad choices as long as I make them in a conscious way.
Strangely this decision has been helping me to make better, healthier choices!
In this week's podcast I explore why I am allowing myself to make poor or unhealthy choices, why it ultimately helps me to make better choices, and I have also included a tap-along to support these choices.
You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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Tapping and EFT are powerful tools that can be used for so many different issues it can be difficult to know exactly where to start. The part of us that wants to get our tapping “exactly right” means that sometimes we don't tap because we want to avoid tapping on the “wrong thing”.
Over the last few months I have changed the way that I tap to start my day. My process takes less than 10 minutes, but by doing it every morning I ensure that I get my day off on the right foot. Using the process helps to clear my head, gives me a little boost of energy, and makes starting my day a bit easier.
In this week's podcast I teach you the simple process I have been using. All you need is a timer (like your mobile phone or watch), a pen, and a piece of paper.
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When we are describing ourselves (or when others are describing us) we identify with a whole host of different characteristics. You might be known as a hard worker, a caring person, a great wit, or a loyal friend.
Some of these characteristics are aspirational, some are from the ways others describe us, and others may have been picked up from our families and cultures of origin.
These characteristics aren't bad in themselves because they help us to understand ourselves and often give us something to strive for. But they can become problematic when we use them as the sole measuring stick to judge ourselves, and when we beat ourselves up emotionally for not meeting these frequently unrealistic standards.
This week's podcast explores how and why we pick up these identities, how they can be harmful, and also how to tap to release identities that do not serve us.
You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series.
I like to check in with my email newsletter readers to find out what struggles they are facing with tapping so that I can create the most useful resources possible.
The majority of the responses I've received describe a similar problem, described in one of two ways. They are “I never remember to tap” and “I forget to tap in the moment of distress”.
There are two reasons why this happens. First, building a habit takes time and just because we want to do something regularly doesn't mean we automatically start to do it. In Podcast 201 I teach you easy ways to make tapping a habit.
The second reason we don't tap is because there is a subconscious part of us that resists healing. It isn't that we want to suffer, but on some level we believe that the safest option is to stay stuck exactly where we are.
It doesn't have to be this way. This week's podcast covers why we don't tap, even when we know it will be helpful, and how to start tapping more regularly.
You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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Trigger warning: In this email I share the story of a very intense client session that references self-harm.
Good morning,
I hope you have had the chance to listen to the podcast that was released on Wednesday. It is an amazing conversation with Mark Wolynn, who happens to be one of my favorite guests.
The podcast explores the difference between attachment trauma and generational trauma.
To start the conversation Mark shared the story of a client he worked with a few years ago. His client “Sarah” was struggling with some deep-seated emotional issues that manifested in physically cutting herself, but unlike most cutters she would cut very deeply near a major vein.
This landed Sarah in the emergency room a number of times and then in an inpatient facility, which is where Mark started working with her. The outline of Sarah's treatment was:
AND Sarah never cut herself again.
There are two takeaways for me from this.
First, gaining a better understanding of attachment trauma and general trauma has made me a better practitioner.
Second, it is amazing to hear a skilled practitioner talk about their process. Mark is very honest in the interview about the moments in which he was trying the first thing that instinctively came to mind and when he was using a specific tool. He moves seamlessly from asking good questions, to parts work, to family systems work, to generational healing.
When I use the term “art of delivery” this is exactly what I am talking about, because being able to tap in that way doesn't happen by accident.
Mastering the art of delivery is the ability to understand how the healing process works, where the client is emotionally in the moment, having multiple tools at your disposal for uncovering information around the issues, and then being able to tap in the most effective way.
That is why I created the Mastering the Art of Delivery training.
Even if you never find yourself in a situation where you are working with someone in such acute distress as Sarah, the better you are at the art of delivery, the better results you will see when tapping with clients or on your own.
I am offering this training four times over the next few weeks. Each weekend has a different start time to accommodate people in different parts of the world, so that everyone can take the class in daylight hours:
You don't have to go to the weekend that is geared for your part of the world, just choose whichever one works best for you.
You can find full details on the training here: http://MasteringTheArtOfDelivery.com
Use the discount code “art” for 50% off.
As of the writing of this note there are only 4 seats left in the first weekend.
This is your opportunity to move from having tapping work for you to using tapping in a way that takes less effort, is quicker, and creates longer lasting results.
Sign up use the discount code “art” for 50% off: http://MasteringTheArtOfDelivery.com
If you have any questions about the training, please let me know.
Gene
PS: If you would like to take the class, but need to pay for it with a payment plan, please let me know. We can work out something that works for you.
In the most basic terms it means that if one of our parents has a fear of water because of a traumatic instance in their life it is very likely we will have the same fear because it is in our DNA.
I believe that one of the most important discoveries in the study of trauma is the recognition that trauma can be passed down from generation to generation through our genetic code.
In the most basic terms, it means that if one of our parents has a fear of water because of a traumatic incident in their life, it is highly likely we will have the same fear because it is in our DNA.
The good news is that just because it is in our DNA, does not mean we are stuck with it forever. It just requires a different approach for the transformation because we don't have a specific memory to tap on.
In my first interview with Mark we talked about how trauma can be passed down through our epigenetics. This time we talk about how to identify if something is a generational trauma or an attachment trauma (in other words, something that has happened to us) through recognizing what he calls “trauma language”. The language we use to describe our trauma will help us to tell which type of trauma it is.
Take the time to dive into this one. I recommend that you listen to it twice.
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Guest: Mark Wolynn
Contact: web @ MarkWolynn.com; facebook @ Mark Wolynn
About: Mark Wolynn, director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, is a leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma. A sought-after lecturer, he has taught at the University of Pittsburgh, the Western Psychiatric Institute, Kripalu, The Omega Institute, The New York Open Center, and The California Institute of Integral Studies. Mark specializes in working with depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, fears, panic disorders, self-injury, chronic pain and persistent symptoms and conditions. His book IT DIDN’T START WITH YOU: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (Viking/Penguin) is the winner of the 2016 Nautilus Book Award in psychology. His articles have appeared in Psychology Today, Mind Body Green, MariaShriver.com, Elephant Journal, and Psych Central.