When working with clients, it is important to listen closely to the words they use and pay attention to everything they are saying.
When I do this, I am not just listening to the meaning of the story my clients are telling, I am also paying ...
The deeper we get into our study of transformation, the more we understand.
We gain a greater understanding of how transformation works, the workings of the subconscious mind, how emotions operate and, most importantly, how we are in the ...
I am fortunate enough to have engaged and self-aware clients, many of whom have spent years studying healing and transformation. That means they are often aware of the root causes of their issues and come to me for help because they are too close to ...
This week we are continuing the Healing Fundamentals series with what I think is the most controversial fundamental of the whole series...at least at first glance.
One of the biggest complaints I hear from my clients is when they are berating ...
This week we are continuing the Healing Fundamentals series, where we are covering the ideas and concepts that underlie every part of the healing and transformational process.
This week we are talking about fear.
Fear has an entire episode ...
It can often feel like our negative emotions are the enemy and it makes sense why. When we experience negative emotions, we feel bad AND they also get in the way of us making better choices in the moment.
That is why when Gary Craig created his ...
As humans, we are great at complaining!
And I don't mean that as a put-down because there is a sound evolutionary reason why we excel at complaining. A complaint is a recognition of something that is bad, painful, or distasteful.
This is the ...
It is so common to apologize when we get emotional in front of others.
You may feel like you are overreacting, or being extra, or that you are burdening the people around you.
Awareness of how our emotions can impact others is a good thing, BUT ...
If you are in any way familiar with tapping, then you have repeatedly heard how important it is to get to the root cause of an issue. The thinking is that by finding and dealing with the root cause, we will be able to take care of the whole ...
It is odd to think about the word toxic being associated with kindness, but I have noticed a growing conversation around the idea of "toxic kindness".
Toxic kindness can be described as encouragement in a difficult time that actually makes you ...
Note: This article was originally published October 22nd 2012 and has been updated.
From the very beginning, the first step of Gary Craig's Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) was to tap on the side of the hand and use what he called the set-up ...
In my mind there are three main reasons why we tap.
The first is for emotional first aid. This is the tapping we do in the moment to help us when our emotions feel overwhelming.
The second is for clearing hurtful memories and limiting beliefs. ...
Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your ...
One of the main reasons that we tap is to reduce or eliminate negative emotions, but that doesn't necessarily mean that negative emotions are bad. Emotions are just information coming from our internal guidance system.
Tap along with this short ...
These uncertain times mean that our emotional guidance system is on overdrive. It is working nonstop to keep us safe because it's dealing with the unknown.
That means we're expending energy all day long in the background as our emotional system ...
When we sit down to tap we are doing it because we want to feel better. It is easy to fall into the trap of feeling like the only way our tapping will be successful is if we feel absolutely wonderful when we have finished.
In truth, that isn't ...
Today it is commonly acknowledged that cultivating a sense of gratitude can be a powerful tool for helping us to live better and emotionally healthier lives. So much so that I even have clients who try to find their way to feeling a sense of ...
One the most important ideas that I try to convey to all of my clients is the fact that emotions are not the enemy. Emotions are not a problem that we need to fix.
Instead, our emotions can provide us with useful information about how we are ...
A key reason we don't tap in the moment is because we are so engulfed by what we are feeling that we don't remember tapping is something helpful we can do.
Or sometimes we may remember to tap, but we still don't do it because we don't know where to ...
When we are in the middle of a strong emotion it is hard to believe that our emotional state is a choice. In those moments it feels like an outside force has taken over our body and our experience.
It is possible for us to gain more control over our ...