The majority of the issues that I work on with my clients have something to do with the people in their lives.
Sometimes the issue concerns someone we interact with now, and at other times it is about the limiting beliefs people have given us in the past.
The struggle with issues that have to do with someone else is that we can’t change another person and we can’t take responsibility for their transformation. And even if someone else wanted us to take on their transformation and we were willing to do so, it can’t be done.
To that end I have created a tool called Talk About, Talk To, Talk As If. It is a framework for tapping that allows us to look at a relationship from three different vantage points, giving us the ability to tap on any issue from each of these points of view.
Two important notes: First, I think this tool is so powerful and useful that it’s the very first tool I teach people after I have taught them the basics of tapping. Second, this is also the tool I teach people when they ask about surrogate tapping. It is not surrogate tapping, but understanding this tool will help you to understand my approach to surrogate tapping.