Note: This article was first published May 14th, 2014 and has been updated. I need to warn you upfront: This article may come across as a little harsh. I don’t mean to be harsh. I don’t intend to be mean. But this is an important concept you need to keep in mind when approaching change work. The fact is simple: Our loved ones want us to transform and have a better life as long as they don’t have to change too. It’s not that they don’t want the best for us or that they don’t think ...
It sometimes feels like your body is letting you down. No matter what you try, healing doesn't happen. This can lead to frustration and disappointment to the point where you feel like you are fighting your body and yourself. In this week's podcast we explore three keys to understanding how our body and our overall system function. This simple understanding will give you the ability to understand what is going on in your system and, much more importantly, provides an insight as to what you ...
Note: This article was first published October 12th, 2014 and has been updated. If you have been reading my website or newsletter for any length of time, then I am sure you have read something where I was bragging about my great editor. She is the best! (And more importantly she has become a good friend.) She does more than make sure my dyslexic writing is clear and readable, she really cares about the quality of work that appears on the site. When what I have written is unclear, she ...
In an effort to make the research around tapping more accessible to the general public David Feinstein, Ph. D., is writing summaries of these studies. You can find all the summaries that have been shared so far here. One of the biggest challenges in being an effective tapping practitioner comes down to this question: What words do I use (or ask my client to use) to accompany the tapping process? Choosing the right words, phrases, or sentences based on an individual's temperament, ...
Tapping is a wonderful tool that can help us to feel better in the moment, which is why it’s sometimes referred to as emotional first aid. As much as I love emotional first aid, I find tapping's ability to help us to clear fear and resistance so that we make better, more thoughtful choices even more impressive. If I am consistently able to make more choices that are congruent with my authentic self, then I am much less likely to be overwhelmed by emotions in the first place. Emotional ...
In order to get the most out of a tapping session we know that the more specific we are about an issue, the faster we will get results. In more than a decade of working with clients I have come to realize that 95% of all issues have the exact same core issue. In this week's podcast I share what that core issue is, the best way to uncover it (it only takes two questions), and how you can tap for that issue. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google ...
In an effort to make the research around tapping more accessible to the general public David Feinstein, Ph. D., is writing summaries of these studies. You can find all the summaries that have been shared so far here. Tapping on acupuncture points while saying certain statements aloud is a powerful tool for resolving mental, emotional, and physical difficulties. More than 120 clinical trials show the approach (which falls under the category of “Energy Psychology”) to be fast and effective ...
Note: This article was originally published October 22nd 2012 and has been updated. From the very beginning, the first step of Gary Craig's Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) was to tap on the side of the hand and use what he called the set-up phrase: "Even though I have this issue I deeply and completely love and accept myself." I can appreciate the sentiment of wanting this for ourselves, but many clients over the years have queried why they need to use this phrase. Here are five ...
We have all heard the old saying that "hindsight is 20/20 vision" because it is so much easier to look back and see how we could have done things differently from the vantage point of the present. When this happens we can end up judging ourselves very harshly. The problem with this type of evaluation is we are judging our past self with new knowledge. It's easy to think "What on earth was I thinking?! It is so clear that was the wrong choice to make!" when in reality we were doing the best ...
[In this series we examine the importance of the words we use and how changing our vocabulary can change our minds, giving us an opportunity for transformation. More articles can be found in this series here: Tools:Words] Note: This article was originally published November 20, 2011 and has been updated. I was recently working with a client who has Lyme disease. At one point in the session he said, "I created this situation." This statement really struck me. I asked myself, "Did he ...
As my friend Jondi Whitis likes to say, "At our core we are herd animals." This statement has some profound impact when it comes to how we see ourselves, the actions we take, and how self-sabotaging behaviors show up in our lives. When we are making choices and taking action, we aren't just considering facts and practicalities, we are also influenced by our genetic heritage. This week I explore how some of our hardwired survival instincts impact our ability to make choices that line up ...
Note: This article was originally shared on June 4th, 2013. This is an updated and edited version of that article. While working with small business owners I bump into the issue of perfectionism a great deal. We all worry about what other people think of us but this becomes a particularly acute problem for small business owners whose success is directly related to their personal credibility and how they are perceived by others. As an example, a client I'll call "Jane" was building a ...
One of my favorite ways to use tapping is to help people to take the actions they want more consistently. At this point it is probably the number one focus of my work with clients in private sessions. It's an issue that I love working with BUT it doesn't mean that I am immune to self-sabotage in my own life. In August of 2019 I conceived a new project that resonated with me all the way to my core. It felt more like a calling than a project. It is now 19 months later and I am just now ...
This was originally written Jan 5th, 2010 and has been updated. Author Nick Hornby was interviewed by Jesse Thorn from the radio program The Sound of Young America around the time that his new book “Juliet, Naked” was published. In the interview Thorn asked Hornby about his screenplay for the movie “An Education”. Thorn commented that his wife, Theresa, had thought that the movie was identifiably Horby's work because it is about people becoming comfortable with who they are, rather than ...
Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio Today's podcast is a little bit different. I'm going to give you an update on some really great changes that are coming to the Tapping Q & A website. Below is an edited transcript of the information that I am sharing in this week's podcast so that you can either listen by clicking the play button above or read the text below, whichever works best for you. Before I share the ...
One of my favorite parts of running a question and answer website are the questions I am asked by readers and listeners like you. The reason I love it so much is because answering your questions pushes me to think about the work that I do in new ways so that I can clearly articulate and share my approach to tapping. In this week's podcast I answer the following questions: How do you approach tapping for guilt and shame?Is it normal to have drastic ups and downs on the tapping journey? ...
Last summer I was on a second or third date. As we were (illegally) drinking wine in the park, my date said to me, "We have to talk about your confidence. I want to know all about it." I raised an eyebrow of concern. She quickly said, "No, no, don't get me wrong. I'm not calling you conceited. You just have this ease and confidence about you that is appealing and it's something I am a bit jealous of." To be honest, I was a little taken aback. In my professional life I am quite clear ...
The human experience is complicated. At times it can feel like we are being pulled in multiple directions, as if we are of two (or many) minds. I recently thought this was expressed perfectly on one of my favorite TV shows, Project Runway (US version). In the midst of struggling with choosing her creative direction one of the contestants, Victoria Cocieru, said “In my brain I have a thousand little brains and they are fighting with each other.” It can be hard to take action or create a space ...
Over the weekend my friend, and all-around amazing thinker and practitioner, Alan Davidson died. Next week I will be sharing the last interview I did with him. In this week's podcast I would like to highlight the amazing interviews that I have done in the past about responding to grief. Grief is not an emotion that we only feel when a loved one passes away. It is an emotion we experience whenever we experience losses, no matter how big or small. Here are all the past podcast episodes about ...
Recently I was writing about the history of tapping, tracing the different tapping points used over time and also why different practitioners and innovators had added and subtracted points. In doing the research I realized that a number of tapping points have "fallen out of favor". Usually this was to do with how to teach tapping in the easiest way possible and had nothing to do with the efficacy of the points. In this week's podcast I explore three different tapping points that are ...