Tag Archives: Fear

How Progress Happens – 10 Lessons Learned From Working With The Feeling of Anxiety All Day At Work

February 19, 2011 By Gene Monterastelli 5 Comments

photo by Phil Hollenback Recently I was working with "Kelly." We had been working every week or two for 30 minutes at a time on the issue of anxiety she was feeling at work. When we started working she described the anxiety as being present ...

FEAR! – 4 Questions That Will Help Us To Deal With It. (part 2 of 2)

February 9, 2011 By Gene Monterastelli 2 Comments

Where do I start with unbridled fear? photo by Loretta Prencipe I recently asked the members of Tapping Q and A Facebook Group what topic I should spend some time writing about. The first response back was "Where do I ...

FEAR! – Why It Exists (part 1 of 2)

January 12, 2011 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Where do I start with unbridled fear? photo by Sasha Wolff I recently asked the members of Tapping Q & A Facebook Group what topic I should spend some time writing about. The first response back was "Where do I start with ...

When Excited Clients Disappear

December 25, 2010 By Gene Monterastelli 4 Comments

Recently I had three clients that I had great first sessions with. We did amazing work. They were excited. One of them was even talking about how she was also going to get her husband to come see me for a session. Now they are gone. I have tried ...

Psychological Reversal

July 10, 2010 By Gene Monterastelli 2 Comments

One more time, what is the deal with psychological reversal and how does it relate to secondary gain? A friend of mine was working on a writing project and she called to get my perspective on psychological reversal. Here are my reflections. What is ...

Pod #37: Tapping for Trauma w/ Gwyneth Moss

June 9, 2010 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Trauma is one of the words that we throw around when talking about difficult times. In this interview I talk with EFT Master Gwyneth Moss about the true nature of trauma. She very succinctly explains how we experience trauma and how to deal with it. ...

Fear of Loving and Being Loved

April 1, 2010 By Gene Monterastelli 8 Comments

I know I would like to have deeper loving relationships in my life, but for some reason I keep self-sabotaging. Is there a reason I might be doing this and is there a way to us Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT)/tapping to deal with it? Often ...

My Goal Isn’t Believable (2 of 10)

January 15, 2010 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

[Note: This is part 2 of a 10 part series on using EFT/Tapping for weight release with a new article or podcast being added every 10 days. The complete series can be found @ weight release series.] photo by Hans ...

Pod #24: Fear, Anxiety, Safety, and Freedom w/ Rick Wilkes

January 9, 2010 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Writing a description of an interview with Rick Wilkes is always a difficult task. On the surface there is the topic at hand for the interview, but when we are chatting things move more much far afield into deep issues of healing and well-being than ...

Can I Tap In Something Bad?

September 13, 2009 By Gene Monterastelli 4 Comments

I have a very important decision to make. When I consider one of the options I have a very strong emotional reaction. I am not sure if this is my higher-self warning me about making the choice or if it is a limiting belief that I shouldn't heed. I ...

Losing My Ability To Feel Emotions

March 31, 2009 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

I have been successful with EFT when it comes to working on minor aches and pains. There are some big emotional things from my past I would like to tap on, but I am afraid. I worry that I am going to tap away my ability to feel emotions. Is EFT going ...

When Our Change Affects Others

February 5, 2009 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

I love EFT and use it a lot. It’s been very helpful with small emotional issues and simple physical pains. But when it comes to bigger issues I have a concern. I’m afraid that if I change the person I am I will hurt the people I love. Do you have any ...

Seeing Yourself as an Expert

April 21, 2008 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

I am very passionate about EFT and have seen results for myself and my clients, but for some reason I still struggle with my confidence in feeling I am really good at what I’m doing. I have gotten extensive training for EFT, so it’s not a matter of ...

When thinking of the problem is too much

April 10, 2008 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

I want to do EFT for a major issue in my life, but somehow I always find an excuse not to do EFT. I know it will help me. I do want to get over this, but it just doesn’t happen. What can I do? photo by (Erik) I have been teaching ...

When We Don’t Know The Root Cause Of An Emotion

April 9, 2008 By Gene Monterastelli 3 Comments

My 11-year-old daughter has suddenly developed a fear of school. She has previously been very, very happy there, and can’t give a reason for feeling like this. She really wants to go but feels she can’t, and doesn’t know why. Any ...

Permission to Heal

February 2, 2008 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Why do you use the phrase “I give myself permission” so much in your EFT phrases? photo by Matthew Fang I use this phrase because we don’t often feel like we deserve the things we actually do deserve. In that case, something in us is ...

Trouble on the phone

September 19, 2007 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

I have hesitancy (read as fear) when making phone calls. How can I use EFT on this issue? photo by Jason Nicholls When we are using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) for any issue of fear there are two basic approaches I use with my ...

Doing It All Wrong

September 3, 2007 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

I’m having trouble getting started with EFT. It’s almost like I have a fear that I will do it wrong. Any suggestions? This questions was written in response to the article Fear of fear, where I talked about clients who have a hard time starting ...

I’m doing it all WRONG!

August 16, 2007 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

It’s hard for me to get motivated to do EFT because I’m afraid I’m going to do it wrong. What can I do? Trying new things is always hard. We get used to being able to do things well. Most of us, as adults, don’t have to learn many new skills. ...