Why do you use the phrase “I give myself permission” so much in your EFT phrases?
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I use this phrase because we don’t often feel like we deserve the things we actually do deserve. In that case, something in us is likely to resist that healing. The most common resistance to this healing is a feeling of not being worthy of the change. The feeling of unworthiness generally takes two forms.
The first is the feeling of not being worthy of healing from something that already exists. “You deserve the pain you have. You’re being punished. You shouldn’t ask for better. This is as good as it’s going to get.”
The second feeling is of not being worthy of better in the future. “Who are you to think you should have a better job…better life…more pay…doing work you love…lose weight…find the partner of your dreams? You already have too much. You shouldn’t ask for more.
There are people with far less than you have. You’re being greedy. Only good people deserve more, and you are not good.”
These are very powerful thoughts and beliefs that can imprison us for years. These feelings often make it difficult even to get the strength to do any sort of change work. This is the reason the phase “I give myself permission to…” is so powerful. It speaks directly to the part of us that doesn’t feel it is allowed to change because it isn’t worthy enough to deserve change.
The idea of permission is very powerful. I often tell my clients “I give you permission to change your life for the better, and you are allowed to give yourself permission as well.” Just by having someone else tell us it’s okay, we suddenly feel like it really is okay. I have even gone as far as to write some clients notes (just like we use to get from mom and dad for getting out of school) to give them permission to change their lives.
It is a very easy thing to incorporate into your tapping routine. Any area you want to change just add, “I give myself permission to…” as you tap.