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Pod #135: Tuning Into Our Bodies For Information w/ Carol Tuttle

July 9, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

When I am tapping on my issues it is my conscious mind that most often gets in the way.

The conscious mind is wired to figure out explanations for what is going on and won’t rest until it has done so.

This becomes problematic when the reason it has decided is behind an issue is wrong.

I have seen this with countless clients. They come to me because they can’t seem to get tapping to work on their issue. After a little investigation it becomes clear they had been approaching the wrong root cause.

Knowing that the conscious mind isn’t always the best at figuring out the healing path, what are we to do?

In this interview I talk with Carol Tuttle about how we can use the information and wisdom of our physical body to identify the right focus for our tapping work.


Carol Tuttle

Guest: Carol Tuttle

Contact: web @ CarolTuttle.com; twitter @CarolTuttle; blog @ TheCarolBlog.com; radio show @ Carol Tuttles Better Parenting Show; facebook @ TheCarolTuttle

About Carol: Carol Tuttle is a 20 year pioneer in the personal development field. She is the best-selling author of “Remembering Wholeness” and the creator of Energy Profiling and Dressing Your Truth. Her legions of fans acknowledge her for making a lasting difference in their lives through her books, CDs, DVDs, home study courses and online learning portals. If you are ready to “live your truth” Carol Tuttle will help you in that pursuit.

Carol is the mother of 5 children (4 of whom are married) and has been married to Jon Tuttle for over 30 years. They are the owners of their family based business and employee their 2 sons, daughter, daughter-in-law, and son-in-law. They love the harmony and abundance they create as a family and enjoy not only working together, but playing together.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Body, Carol Tuttle, Physical Response

Why You Are So Scared To Take Action

July 9, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

There are lots of reasons why we don’t take action.

In the end most of those reasons boil down to fear.

We are afraid that we will fail, be judged, look stupid, show that we aren’t good enough, prove that we aren’t worthy of success…and the list goes on.

Sometimes we are able to name our fear clearly but often it is something indistinct that is holding us back, bubbling away in the background.

It makes perfect sense that fear would hold us back from taking action. Fear is a vital primitive response that kicks in when danger threatens our safety. It keeps us safe.

So fear is not the problem.

The problem is when fear shows up in the absence of danger or when we experience fear much larger than is warranted for the situation.

How Big Does The Fear Need To Be?

One of the things I love about NYC in the warmer months is cycling around the city. I put on my helmet and off I go. But that wasn’t always the case.

I can remember when I moved to Washington, DC to go to university. The first time I rode a bike in a major city was a scary experience. I was not used to being just inches away from cars or having to avoid parked cars everywhere.

I grew up in a small town in Wyoming where most cars were parked in driveways, the roads were wide, and with the exception of a few major roadways there was very little traffic.

The difference between today and my first ride in a major city is lots of experience. I don’t cycle in a carefree, thoughtless way today, but because of my experience I know which situations are dangerous and which aren’t.

The Problem Of No Experience

A lack of experience when we are trying new things is one of the reasons that fear crops up. The part of us trying to keep us safe doesn’t know how things are going to turn out so it over reacts and perceives situations as more dangerous than they really are.

The fear of the unknown creates a situation where it is very hard to take action.

How To Tap Before The Action

I find tapping before I try something new really helpful. When I spend a few moments tapping to clear my resistance and fear it allows me to move forward without feeling paralyzed or overwhelmed.

The tapping looks something like this:

I understand that I am about to try something new…And because it’s something that I don’t have a great deal of experience with…There is a part of me that is hesitant…There is a part of me that is worried this won’t work out…There is a part of me that is worried that I don’t even know the right things to be worried about…But I have done new things before…And I have done them successfully…I’m not going to rush in blindly…I am not going to be careless…Or thoughtless…But I trust myself enough to know that I will learn from this attempt…I know that I don’t have to do it perfectly the first time…The next time I do it I will do it better…And I choose to be calm and confident as I embrace this new experience.

After tapping in this fashion I know that I am more likely to take action AND with lowered stress levels my action feels more comfortable and manageable.

Clearing The Fear

If you are looking for help with clearing the fears (named and unnamed) you have before taking action I would encouge you to check out the Ruach Center where you will find over 280 tap-along audios. More than 100 of them are geared towards clearing resistance to action, which shows up in the form of fear.

Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Fear, Perfect

Pod #134: Having A Plan With Your Tapping w/ Gwyneth Moss

June 25, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 4 Comments

Knowing how to tap is not enough. We need to have a plan when we approach an issue.

In this interview, Founding EFT Master Gwyneth Moss shares a simple and elegant approach that you can use for every tapping session.

Whether you are new to tapping or have been tapping for decades you will find this 4-step approach useful and it is so easy you can start using it immediately.


Gwyneth Moss

Guest: Gwyneth Moss

Contact: web @ EFThelps.com; email @ contact form; web @ Annual EFT Gathering

About Gwyneth: Gwyneth Moss is one of the original EFT Masters and the founder of the EFT Gathering annual community conference which has run since 2009. With a degree in Physics and an MBA she is known for the clarity and depth of her teaching style and for her innovative techniques which include EFT Imagineering; Protective Distancing; Projection Tapping; The Surrogate EFT Protocol and more. Gwyneth teaches EFT in the glorious countryside of Yorkshire and at Esalen, Big Sur, CA.

Gwyneth is the host and curator of EFT Gathering every year in York, UK. I will be one of the speakers at the event in January 2015. We would love to see you there!

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Gwyneth Moss, How To

Can I Tap For More Willpower?

June 16, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Recently I was working with a client I’ll call “Devon”. During our call she was giving me an update on her week and her progress with her to-do list.

She said, “Things are going really well. I’m starting each day with the tapping we talked about and I’m making lots of good choices in the morning. The problem is that by the end of the day I seem to have no willpower left. Is it possible to tap for more willpower?”

My answer to this was, “No and sort of.”

Let me explain…

[Read more…] about Can I Tap For More Willpower?

Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Will Power

Fail Forward Fast

June 11, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

A few weeks ago I wrote about the main reasons we don’t take action is fear.

Of all the fears we experience the one my clients talk about most is the fear of failure and the consequences that come with failure, such as the waste of time, feeling embarrassed that others have seen us fail, and missing an opportunity, to name just a few.

The truth is that often failing is the best thing that can happen to us because of how much we learn about failure.

Ready! Fire! Aim!

There is a common misconception about the skill of sharpshooters. Most people believe that they are so skilled and prepare so much for a shot that when they fire they are prefect.

In reality, particularly for long distance shots, they quickly line up the best shot they can and once they have fired, they follow the trajectory of the bullet. When they see where their first shot lands they have a better understanding of the conditions (like wind). They rapidly adjust and fire again.

The second bullet is fired so quickly that their target hasn’t had a chance to respond to the first shot.

You could see the first shot as a failure as it missed the target, but because a lot was learned from the first shot, the second is much more precise.

Fail Forward Fast

When successful business men and women are asked what they would do differently in growing their businesses a common response is, “I would have made my mistakes much quicker. I didn’t know what I didn’t know and my assumptions were flawed. Only through trial and error did I find my way to the right path.”

In the first press conference after Cam Cameron was hired as head coach of the Miami Dolphins he declared that the team was going to “fail forward fast”. He was setting the tone for his players and coaches that mistakes were OK as long as they were made in the right direction and lessons were learned from them.

Not Failing For Failure’s Sake

It’s important to note in the sharpshooter example that the first shot is fired with thought, training, and experience. Once a reasonable shot is lined up feedback is gathered from the results.

When we take action we are not doing it mindlessly or carelessly. We are not seeking failure just so we can claim progress from it.

Instead we are doing enough planning to take a reasonable action that will move us forward and if we do fail we will also have the opportunity to learn from it.

Here is a simple way to tap to help you to take action when the fear of failure is holding you back:

There is a part of me that is afraid that I will fail…Failure is no fun..Failure hurts…Failure shows others I can’t do this…Failure is a waste of time…Failure is a waste of an opportunity…Because I am worried about failure I am not taking action…I recognize the fact that everything I can do today…At some point I couldn’t do it…And I failed many times while learning how to do it…When I fail I am gaining real world experience…And that will help me to make better choices next time…I will never get it perfect by planning and planning and planning…At some point I need to take action…I am not going to be careless…And I am not going to be thoughtless…I give myself permission to take action knowing I won’t be perfect…Because I can make progress and be successful without having to be perfect…I have survived failure before and I will survive it again…I am not failing just to fail…I am not seeking failure…But when it happens I will make the most of it.

Clearing The Fear

If you are looking for help clearing the fears (named and unnamed) you have before taking action I would encourage you to check out the Ruach Center where you will find over 280 tap-along audios, with over 100 of them geared towards clearing resistance to action which shows up in the form of fear.

There are over 45 minutes of tap-along audios geared to dealing with the fear of failure and over 30 minutes designed specifically to clear the need to be perfect before taking action.

Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Failure

Pod #133: EFT For Our Goal w/ Steve Wells

June 11, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

I love having conversations with Steve Wells. When we started this one we decided that we’d talk about how we can use tapping to improve the quality of our working lives.

In the end we used the issues and obstacles we face at work to explore a much larger topic of how we can use tapping to take action AND how we can use taking action to help us uncover those things we need to tap on.

It turned into a great discussion about goals.

Put simply, if you would like to take actions to improve your life and are having a hard time doing so, then you should listen to this conversation.

Guest: Steve Wells

Contact: web @ EFTDownunder.com

About Steve: Steve Wells is an international leadership coach and peak performance consultant based in Perth, Western Australia. He helps people to overcome the hidden blocks to achieving their goals and getting what they really want from life.

Steve was one of the first to apply tapping to performance enhancement work with elite athletes and to take tapping to the corporate environment. He regularly teaches and consults worldwide with elite sport and business achievers to improve their performance and enhance the performance of their teams.

Steve is co-creator (with Dr David Lake) of the user-friendly tapping approach Simple Energy Techniques (SET) and the unique advanced Energy-based approach Provocative Energy Techniques (PET). He has helped thousands of people through his worldwide personal development and professional training workshops.

Steve is on the faculty of the Curtin University Centre for Entrepreneurship, where he presents to business owners and senior leaders on peak performance and resilience. He is also on the faculty of the Emotional Intelligence Institute. He is co-author of 4 books, including Enjoy Emotional Freedom.

Steve’s programs and presentations are always inspiring, engaging and filled with powerful practical strategies you can use immediately to get better results – with less stress.

Getting More Help In Clearing The Blocks To Taking Action

If this conversation struck a chord with you, helping you to recognize that there are a number of tappable issues that are holding you back from taking action, I would encourage you to check out the Ruach Center. The Ruach Center was built to help you to identify and clear the blocks to taking action.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Goals, Steve Wells

Thank You One Million Times!

June 11, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Good morning!

On Thursday something amazing happened.

TappingQandA.com received its one millionth page view!

It is hard to believe that a simple website that started as a hobby has grown into a site with over 550 resources and close to 100 hours of free audios.

TappingQandA.com has changed my life. I have made friends all over the world, I have learned a great deal, and I hope that I have provided a resource or two that you have found useful along the way.

As a thank you for all your support I would like to offer you a special deal on one-on-one sessions with me.

I am offering 33% off a single session and 25% off a bundle of 5 sessions.

If you would like to take advantage of this deal go to: http://WorkWithGene.com.

At checkout use the discount code “singlemillion” to receive the discount on a single session.

Use the discount code “bundlemillion” to receive the discount on a bundle of 5 sessions.

Thank you for being part of the 1,000,000 page views.

Here’s to 1,000,000 more!

Gene

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Bonus Pod #46: Tapping To Get Your To-Do List Done

June 4, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 8 Comments

One of the most powerful things I have done to improve my productivity is spending a few moments every morning tapping on my to-do list.

When I clear away all the emotional resistance to the items on my to-do list I find myself easily able to take action throughout the day.

I have also found that I do the highest value tasks first, making sure I achieve the most of my time.

I was talking about this technique recently at the Spring Energy Event in New York and my friend Kris Ferraro was in the audience. Kris does all the interviews for the Tapping Insiders Club and she asked if I would explain in detail how I use the technique.

Here is our conversation so you can add it to your morning as well.

Looking For Help With Tapping To Take Action?

Over in the Ruach Center we have over 200 tap-along audios dealing with resistance to taking action.

Full details here: Ruach Center.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Resistance, To Do

Just Because We Can Try It On Anything Doesn’t Mean It Works For Everything

May 25, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

I love the emails that I receive from my readers. (You can always email me directly.)

At least once a day I receive some version of the question: “What are the tapping phrases I should use for [insert issues]?”

This question is flawed in two ways.

First, the words we use are not magic. There are no “right” words to tap to. (I address this in “The Most Misunderstood Part Of Tapping: The Words You Say”.)

Second, there are times when tapping isn’t going to solve the problem.

For example, one of my clients recently started our session with, “I am having trouble sitting down to build the website for my business. I would like to tap for that.”

I didn’t ask about emotional issues. I didn’t ask what she was afraid of. I didn’t ask about past childhood traumas with computers.

I asked, “Do you know how to build a website?”

She said, “No.”

[Read more…] about Just Because We Can Try It On Anything Doesn’t Mean It Works For Everything

Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Action, Resistance

Pod #132: EFT For Animals Transitioning Into A New Home w/ Susan Peach

May 7, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

When a new animal enters a family it can be stressful for the animal and the family alike.

The animal must deal with new surroundings, routines, expectations, and relationships. The family has to adjust to a change of dynamic because of the addition of a new personality.

In this interview I talk with animal and tapping expert Susanne Peach about what you can do before and after the addition of a new animal to your family to make the transition easier for everyone involved.

If you are new to tapping for animals, make sure you also check out my conversation with Susanne on how to tap surogately for animals


Susanne Peach

Guest: Susanne Peach

Susanne’s Contact Info: web @ Animaleze.com, phone @ 303.926.5414, e-mail @ contact page

About Susanne: Susanne Peach, Animal Energy Behaviorist, has been surrounded by animals her entire life. She has had the opportunity to study the energy of animals in many instances, from time spent on her godmother’s farm in Germany to a designation as a certified wildlife rehabilitator. After successfully using EFT on humans, she learned by trial and error how to apply it to animals. She’s dedicated her life to helping animals have emotionally happy and healthy lives, tapping for animals all over the world.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Animals, Surrogate, Susanne Peach

Pod #131: Tapping For Relationships w/ Dawson Church

April 30, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

If you have been around tapping and EFT for any length of time then more than likely you are aware of Dawson Church’s work. He has been on the forefront of research being done to prove tapping’s efficacy and tapping best practices. He has also been very involved in conducting research into best practice for practitioners.

When I approached Dawson about doing another interview he insisted upon talking about relationships. When I asked why he said, “It is something I am really passionate about. When people have stronger relationships they have better lives.”

You can’t argue with that!

This interview isn’t your typical interview about relationships. Forever the scientist, Dawson talks about how what is going on in our brain impacts the type and quality of relationships that we have. We then discuss how we can use tapping to impact the brain in ways that directly lead us to find the right relationships.

It is not a path that I would have expected us to go down in a conversation about tapping and relationships, but it is really good stuff. I know you will enjoy it.


Dawson Church, Ph. D.

Guest: Dawson Church, Ph.D

Contact: web @ EFTUniverse.com

Bio: Dawson Church is the author/coauthor of 8 books (including The Genie In Your Genes) and manages the web site EFTUniverse.com. He travels the world as a trainer and speaker. His passion is tapping and getting tapping into the hands of those who could benefit most from its power.

If you are interested in this type of research check out past interviews with Dawson.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Dawson Church, Love, Relationships

You Can’t Think Your Way Out Of Irrational Fear

April 27, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

[Note: If I were to boil down the root cause for why people don’t take action it would be fear. Today we are going to explore fear and how it impacts our capacity to take action.]

Of all the emotions that we experience, fear is the most powerful.

I don’t mean that it is the strongest emotion. In my experience that is sadness.

When I say fear is the strongest what I mean is that if we are feeling a number of different emotions at once, fear will override all others.

[Read more…] about You Can’t Think Your Way Out Of Irrational Fear

Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Action, Fear

Pod #130: How To Use EFT To Move You To Take Action

April 23, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 4 Comments

The first weekend of April the 2nd annual Spring Energy Event was held outside NYC. My friend Jondi Whitis did an awesome job once again of putting together a great event.

This year I was asked to talk about how we can use tapping to move ourselves to taking the action we want.

My presentation was broken into three parts:

Part 1: Tapping For Action v. Tapping For Relief
Part 2: The 9 Immutable Laws Of Taking Action
Part 3: 4 Ways To Use Tapping To Move You Towards Taking Action

The version of the handout I created for the talk had a number of blanks for the audience to fill in while listening. I have provided the completed notes below.

If you are looking for help taking action you will find over 200 audios, classes, and resources in the Ruach Center designed specifically to move you taking action.

### Notes on from recording ###

When are we motivated to take action?

  • Close to goal
    • doesn’t have to be the big goal, but it is it seems easy to achieve
  • In lots of pain

When are we not motivated to take action?

  • Tolerable middle

Two Types of Tapping

  • First Aid
    • feel better/less pain
    • feel in the moment
    • feel relaxed
  • Action
    • feel energized
    • feel driven
    • see possibilities

Tapping for first aid leads to relief and pause.

Tapping for action leads to action.

Part 2: 9 Immutable Laws Of Taking Action

1) If it wasn’t for resistance to change, the change would have already happened.

2) You can’t think your way out of an irrational fear.

3) The problem is not the problem (most of the time).

  • Four reasons we don’t take action
    • don’t know what we want
    • don’t know how to do it
    • hurts to do it
    • hurts to be successful
  • First two might be the problem
  • Second two aren’t the problem

4) Fear is not the enemy. Misinformed and disproportionate fears are.

5) Change what you fear, change how you act.

  • If you are free of fear you don’t have to prioritize your to-do list.

6) The challenge to change is inertia.

  • The shit we know is better than the shit we don’t know.

7) When we are resource poor we will make emotional choices.

  • Physical
  • Emotional
  • Cognitive

8) The people in our lives want us to change for the better as long they don’t have to change.

9) You don’t need to be be fearless. You need to be fearless-ish.

Part 3: 4 Ways To Tap For Action

Tap for to-do list.

Tap for the four reasons we don’t take action

  • Ask yourself:
    • What is unclear about my goal?
    • What don’t I know how to do?
    • What would/could go wrong if I took action?
    • What would/could go wrong if I succeeded?
  • Look at:
    • practical
    • emotional

How To Tap To Action (The Great Visualization Hoax)

  • See yourself trying to do what you want, encountering obstacles, and see yourself overcome the obstacles.

Tap On Not Needing To Be Perfect

  • Perfectionism is the arch enemy of action
  • Perfectionism is nothing more than over-functioning fear

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Action, Sabotage, Self Sabotage

Pod #129 (part 2): Tapping For Luck w/ Rue Hass

April 16, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 2 Comments

[Note: This is part 2 of our conversation. Listen to part 1 here.]

I am guessing as you read the title of this week’s podcast you are thinking, “Luck is an odd thing to tap for. They say try it on anything, but luck… really?”

I would agree with you. When my friend and EFT Master Rue Hass recommended this as the topic for our conversation I was curious.

In the end the conversation turned out to be so fruitful that I needed to split it into two parts.

When Rue is talking about luck she is talking about how we access the opportunities around us to move towards our goals. Even though I personally wouldn’t use the word luck to describe what she is talking about you will hear in our conversation that I do agree with her disposition.

You will find this conversation in contrast to most of the conversation around an attraction (and law of attraction) world view.


Rue Hass

Guest: Rue Hass

Contact Info: IntuitiveMentoring.com, rue (at) intuitivementoring (dot) com

How Rue describes herself: When I first meet a new client/customer/co-creative partner, I walk them through an interesting process of understanding their life as a story. It concludes with asking them to consider what they want their life to leave in the world as a legacy. How do they want the world to be a better place for their having been in it?

When I contemplate this in myself, and ask, “What do I want to focus on in this phase of my life, as a culmination of everything I have learned and gained?”, what emerges for me is the concept of “spiritual eldering.” This impulse finds expression in my work with individuals and local groups, inviting and assisting people and communities to move into a sense of the real transformative power of their spiritual Presence in the world.

I particularly like to work with young people, adolescents and young adults as a mentor/coach. I have always been drawn to the kind of kid who might find him/herself in trouble in school, academically or socially, but who on the inside is bright, sensitive, perceptive, intuitive, often artistic or athletic, deep hearted and imaginative, and who just doesn’t fit the norm. I want to make it easier for these young people to find their place in the world. I think they are here to save it.

Make sure you check out all of Rue’s guest articles and podcasts on Tapping Q and A.

Being Open To What Is Around You
Are you looking for help to being exactly what Rue talks about into your life? Are you ready to be able to access the opportunities that are around you every day? The Ruach Center was designed to help you do just that. There are over 150 resources to help you get clear about what you want and to help you access the opportunities around you. Take a few moments to check it out. You will be glad you did.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Law of Attraction, Luck, Rue Hass

Pod #129 (part 1): Tapping For Luck w/ Rue Hass

April 11, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

[Note: This is part 1 of our conversation. Listen to part 2 here.]

I am guessing as you read the title of this week’s podcast you are thinking, “Luck is an odd thing to tap for. They say try it on anything, but luck… really?”

I would agree with you. When my friend and EFT Master Rue Hass recommended this as the topic for our conversation I was curious.

In the end the conversation turned out to be so fruitful that I needed to split it into two parts.

When Rue is talking about luck she is talking about how we access the opportunities around us to move towards our goals. Even though I personally wouldn’t use the word luck to describe what she is talking about you will hear in our conversation that I do agree with her disposition.

You will find this conversation in contrast to most of the conversation around an attraction (and law of attraction) world view.

Listen to part 2 here.


Rue Hass

Guest: Rue Hass

Contact Info: IntuitiveMentoring.com, rue (at) intuitivementoring (dot) com

How Rue describes herself: When I first meet a new client/customer/co-creative partner, I walk them through an interesting process of understanding their life as a story. It concludes with asking them to consider what they want their life to leave in the world as a legacy. How do they want the world to be a better place for their having been in it?

When I contemplate this in myself, and ask, “What do I want to focus on in this phase of my life, as a culmination of everything I have learned and gained?”, what emerges for me is the concept of “spiritual eldering.” This impulse finds expression in my work with individuals and local groups, inviting and assisting people and communities to move into a sense of the real transformative power of their spiritual Presence in the world.

I particularly like to work with young people, adolescents and young adults as a mentor/coach. I have always been drawn to the kind of kid who might find him/herself in trouble in school, academically or socially, but who on the inside is bright, sensitive, perceptive, intuitive, often artistic or athletic, deep hearted and imaginative, and who just doesn’t fit the norm. I want to make it easier for these young people to find their place in the world. I think they are here to save it.

Make sure you check out all of Rue’s guest articles and podcasts on Tapping Q and A.

Being Open To What Is Around You
Are you looking for help to being exactly what Rue talks about into your life? Are you ready to be able to access the opportunities that are around you every day? The Ruach Center was designed to help you do just that. There are over 150 resources to help you get clear about what you want and to help you access the opportunities around you. Take a few moments to check it out. You will be glad you did.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Law of Attraction, Luck, Rue Hass

Your Goals Are Holding You Back

April 6, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

I am a huge fan of goal setting!

About once a year I sit down to craft out my goals for the next year. Once a month I look at my goals and rewrite them to meet the changes in my life. Every Monday morning I spend a few minutes reading and tapping with my goals.

I have found that goal setting has been hugely beneficial in my life and I don’t say that in a “I feel better” way. There is tangible evidence that I am more productive, happier, and healthier because of setting goals.

But there is a dark side to goal setting.

Sometimes we set the wrong goal.
[Read more…] about Your Goals Are Holding You Back

Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Goals

They Keep Telling Me I Am Stupid For Giving It Away Free (Are They Right?)

March 31, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

I am going be up front with you. This email is going to challenge you. I might even come off as a little cranky (or a lot cranky).

I’m OK with that. This is too important for me to worry about what you think about me.

“You Give Away Too Much!”
Hear this a lot from other practitioners. They tell me there is way too much free content and because there is so much free content nobody will ever hire me or buy my stuff. Why would they bother?

I personally think it is a good way to work but I decided to consider this more closely.

On the back of an envelope on a recent flight I did some calculations. Based on the average number of people who open my emails only about 0.6% ever hire me for sessions or buy anything from the site.

That is not 6%, but 0.6%.

That mean 99.4% use the resources totally free of charge.

In the end I am OK with that because my goal in creating the site isn’t only as a source of income. I know that the site ends up helping those who might not able to afford to pay for tapping resources.

With that in mind…

A Question For The 99.4%
I am guessing you keep opening my emails because you find them useful in some way. Not everything and not everyone, but there is enough useful stuff that you come back for more.

So the question I have for you is this…

How valuable are the hundreds of free resources that are available at TappingQ&A to you?

If I gave you the choice which would you do?

  • Give up one cup of coffee on the first day of the month or give up TappingQ&A
  • Give up two movies in the next year or give up TappingQ&A
  • Give up one night with friends or give up TappingQ&A

I’m Not Really Asking You To Give Up TappingQ&A
I am not asking you to give up TappingQ&A, but I ask those questions so that you consider what the free resources mean to you.

AND I would like to give you the chance to demonstrate what you think it is worth.

April 21st through May 12th ten EFT practitioners are going to the Philippines to tap with 10,000 kids whose lives were impacted by a major typhoon last November. I am asking you to consider a way that you can show your appreciation for the value of TappingQ&A is by helping to support this powerful work.

Better Than Any Thank You
I love the very kind notes that people often send me thanking me for the site. I love when people tell me about how they used one of the tools to make their life better.

It really means a lot, but this would mean so much more.

If you want to say thank you for what you receive free from TappingQ&A you can do it in a way in which you will be also helping kids on the other side of the world recover from a major trauma.

I am not asking you to do something I won’t do. I receive a number of things free of charge to which I willing give money monthly because I believe in the work that is being done. (I donate $100 a month to just one cause because I know it brings me so much value each month.)

If you would like details on the project you can find them here: Full details

Click this link and make a small donation.

A donation as small as $25 will mean EFT work for 5 kids.

You Give! You Get!
As a thank you if you donate $25 or more I will send you:

  • “50 EFT Scripts To Stop Self-Sabotage” ebook by me
  • “New Energy Therapies” ebook by Steve Wells and David Lake
  • “EFT Level 1 Manual” ebook by Tania A. Prince.
  • (If we reach the goal of $15k) I will do 4 free teleclasses.

Think of it like this: Kids receive the help they need and you receive some really useful tapping bonuses.

Click this link and make a small donation.

Thanks for your continued support of TappingQ&A.

Please let me know what I can do to be helpful!

Gene

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Pod #128: EFT For Fear Of Failure And Fear of Success w/ Annabel Fisher

March 26, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

On the surface it might not seem like an obvious connection, but in many ways fear of failure and fear of success are the opposite sides of the same coin.

Fear of failure is concerned about what goes wrong when things don’t work out. Fear of success is concerned about what goes wrong when things do work out. (And, yes, things can still go wrong when we are successful.)

Both fears keep us from taking action, believing it will keep us out of harm’s way.

In this interview with Annabel Fisher we talk about the fears of failure and success, how they are related, and how we can tap for them.


Annabel Fisher

Guest: Annabel Fisher

Contact Annabel: web @ TheEFTHealingCentre.com; facebook @ EFT with Annabel; Radio show @ Tap Into Your Healthy Self; twitter @EFTwithAnnabel; youtube @ Annabel’s channel

About Annabel: Annabel Fisher started her EFT Practice in 2005 on a shoestring, with no money to speak of, and still recovering from the long term effects of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). Having used all her savings to facilitate her recovery from illness, what she lacked in financial resources, she made up for in sheer determination! She’s since enabled hundreds of clients around the world struggling with chronic illnesses to transition into a living a healthy, vibrant and fully mobile life. A Certified AAMET EFT Practitioner and Trainer, and Certified Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner and Trainer, Annabel now focuses her attention on training and mentoring students to become masterful Certified EFT and Matrix Practitioners, and empowering them to create wildly successful EFT Practices. She is the host of the radio show ‘How To Create A Wildly Successful EFT Practice’, and the author of the upcoming book, ‘The Healing Game: Transforming Chronic Illness Using EFT’ (pub date Nov 2014).

Are you tired of your fear of failure, success, or both getting in your way of taking the action you know you want to take? In the Ruach Center we have over 180 tap-along audios, teleclasses, and tools to help you clear these fears and take the action you want. Take a tour of Ruach Center right now!

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Annabel Fisher, Failure, Fear, Success

Pod #127: Your Self-Sabotage Is Brilliant w/ Brad Yates

March 19, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Self-sabotage can be so frustrating. There are times when we know exactly what we need to be doing, yet we still choose the wrong course of action.

Sometimes I can see myself getting in my own way and I am amazed at how creatively I self-sabotage. If it didn’t negatively impact my life I would almost think it is funny!

Brad Yates uses an interesting word to describe this type of creative self-sabotage. He calls it “brilliant”. It is not brilliant in the outcome that results, but it is brilliant in how creative it is in causing us problems.

In this interview Brad and I talk about the amazing ways we get in our own way and what we can do to leverage this brilliance into having what we want.


Brad Yates

Guest: Brad Yates

Contact: twitter @EFTWizard; web @ TapWithBrad.com ; facebook @ facebook.com/BradYatesTapping

About Brad: Brad has had the privilege and pleasure of working with a diverse group of clients, from CEOs to professional and NCAA athletes, from chiropractors and psychiatrists to corporate and federal attorneys, from award-winning actors to residents at a program for homeless men and women in Santa Monica. For several years he taught a weekly class using EFT and guided imagery at Sacramento Drug Court. He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including several International Energy Psychology Conferences and the Walk On Water (WOW) Fest in Los Angeles. He has presented at Jack Canfield’s Breakthrough to Success event, and has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale. He is also the co-author of the bestseller “Freedom at Your Fingertips,” a featured expert in the film “Try It On Everything” (along with Jack Canfield, Bob Proctor, Dr. Norman Shealy and Dr. Bruce Lipton), and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows.

Are you looking for ways to stop your “brilliant” self-sabotage? I have created an entire website design to help you. There are over 180 tap-along audios, tele-classes, and tool designed to help you move past your blocks and take the actions you want. Full details on Ruach Center.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Brad Yates, Self Sabotage

Pod #126: Lesson From Tapping With Children With Cancer w/ Deborah Miller PhD

March 12, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 3 Comments

EFT is such a powerful tool that we all know that we should “try it on anything.” Even though most of us have tried it on anything we haven’t taken it to the extremes. Most of have tapped for deep and powerful issues, but not in moments that are literally life or death.

Deborah Miller has done just that. She works with children with cancer and their parents. She is doing more than trying it on anything, she is being successful!

In this interview we talk about what all tappers can learn from her work with these extreme issues. We also talk about the book she has written on how parents and children can use tapping.

Guest: Deborah D. Miller PhD

The Dragon with Flames of Love The Book:

  • English (info | book | kindle)
  • Español (información | libro | Kindle en Español
  • Français (livre)

EFT Resources For Parents:

  • 8 Things To Keep In Mind When Tapping With Your Kids
  • 5 Things You Must Know Before Doing EFT With Children and Teens
  • How Parents Can Tap For Their Children (And Themselves) w/ Carol Tuttle
  • Children Who Are Reluctant To Tap
  • Talking Emotions and Tapping With Kids

About Deborah: Deborah D. Miller, Ph.D. in Cell and Molecular Biology is passionate about helping people feel empowered and capable of maintaining a healthy state of mind and body.

Deborah is an EFT Expert and Trainer, Deeksha Giver, Reiki Master, Nutritional Guide, Personal Motivation Guide and internationally recognized author. She understands the necessity of working with the emotional aspects underlying ‘dis-ease’ within the body and the need to cleanse and nourish the physical body. Her personal journey of improving her own immune system gives her hands-on experience of the requirements for improving one’s energy levels and health.

Deborah volunteers at a children’s cancer wing in Oaxaca, Mexico, applying EFT and energy techniques to the children, parents and nurses helping them reduce stress, fear and anxiety while improving their mental and emotional health in a way that is complementary to the treatments given at the hospital.

Helping these children has led Deborah to a heart-felt, passionate and inspired goal. She is dedicating herself to helping at least 1,000,000 men, women and children prevent future illness (mental, emotional or physical) using the simplest, easiest and most economical methods. Tap, eat & drink your way to health!

Deborah is the author of the beautifully illustrated book “The Dragon with Flames of Love”, which is dedicated to empowering parents and children facing the challenge of a serious illness in a way that provides relief and peace, and “Green Drink Red Drink”, which provides information and recipes on how to add healthy greens to your meals.

Deborah has been a guest on the Tapping Q&A Podcast a number of times. Make sure you check out her past appearances.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Cancer, Children, Deborah Miller, Parent

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