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Pod #270: How To Support Those With Serious Illness w/ Annabel Fisher, Annie Siegel Alexander, and Ange Finn

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When a loved one is diagnosed with a serious illness it can difficult to know what to do next.

On one level we want to be helpful but also recognise that they may need their space so we don't want to be intrusive. Often we are so shocked ourselves that we just don't know what to do next.

At the 2017 Spring Energy Event I was given the opportunity to moderate a panel discussion between Annabel Fisher, Annie Siegel Alexander, and Ange Finn. All three of these amazing women (and tapping practitioners) have battled life-threatening diseases. (You can read more about the three of them at the bottom of this post.)

The conversation is not primarily about how to use EFT for life-threatening illness, though all three of them talk about how tapping was helpful in their own journey. Instead we cover:

  • Their individual experiences of diagnosis and treatment
  • How they managed their emotional experience
  • How their loved ones responded to the situation

In the conversation you will hear practical advice on how you can best support your loved ones in these kinds of situations.

I feel fortunate to have participated in this very honest and powerful conversation in which these brave women were willing to share their stories.

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Ange Finn: Ange is an AAMET Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner. In addition to working with clients to resolve the patterns of behavior that keep them stuck, she also specializes in helping horseback riders overcome fear after falls. She can be found online at TapIntoYourself.com and RideWithoutFear.com

Annabel Fisher: Annabel is a British Columbia based practitioner who works with clients struggling with chronic and serious illnesses. She can be found online at EFTTappingSessions.com/ and you can also listen to her past Tapping Q&A podcast interviews here.

Annie Siegel Alexander: Annie uses EFT, Matrix Reimprinting, and hypnotherapy for anxiety, stress, relationships, and sleep problems. She can be found online at RoadToEmotionalFreedom.com/

Pod #269: How Tapping and Acupuncture Are Related (Part 2) w/ Beth Kearns

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Last August I had a conversation with acupuncturist Beth Kearns about each of the tapping points we use in the basic tapping routine. If you haven't listened to the conversation, I encourage you to go back to it because it is informative.

There are three main differences between tapping and acupuncture. The first and most obvious is that we tap with our hands and an acupuncturist uses needles. Second, when we are tapping we usually say phrases out loud and if not, we are still focused on a particular issue. This is not required with acupuncture. Third, when tapping we use the same seven to fifteen tapping points for any issue. An acupuncturist uses a custom set of points on the body for each issue from a choice of hundreds.

In this conversation Beth explains her intake process to me, what she is looking for when working with clients, and how she decides which points to use. We even play act the intake process with me talking about the specific issue that first brought me to tapping.

I found all of this information extremely interesting.

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Beth Kearns
Beth Kearns

Guest: Beth Kearns

Contact Beth: web @ BethKearnsAcupuncture.com

About Beth: Beth is a fully licensed acupuncturist in the State of Colorado. She is a certified Diplomat (Dipl.Ac) by the National Certification Commission in Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine (NCCAOM). She completed the four-year program at the Institute of Taoist Education and Acupuncture (ITEA) in Louisville, CO. ITEA is a Classical Five-Element Acupuncture school. In addition to acupuncture, Beth is also an advanced Neuro-Structural Integration Technique (NST) practitioner. Beth is a teacher at ITEA and loves sharing this amazing form of acupuncture with students. She is available to bring acupuncture and NST to businesses and groups and give lectures on many topics including acupuncture, depression/anxiety, grief, women’s issues, and much more.

Pod #268: Letting Go of Limiting and Unhelpful Beliefs

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We enter this world as a blank slate. With each new experience and relationship we begin to form a series of beliefs about the world and our place within it.

These beliefs become the bedrock of our emotional experience because they determine our interpretation of everything that happens to us in life.

This becomes problematic when the beliefs informing our experience are not useful or are outdated. For example, if I believe it is unsafe for me to be who I am called to be, I will live my life constantly feeling like an impostor because I am not being true to myself.

At the 2017 Spring Energy Event I was given the opportunity to talk about how we form our beliefs and what to do when those beliefs become limiting and no longer serve us.

In the talk I cover:

  • How our beliefs are formed
  • The eight operating principles I work from when working on changing or releasing limiting beliefs
  • A simple process you can use to identify the beliefs holding you back and how to tap to transform them

Below the audio player you will find the notes from the presentation.

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Operating principles:

  1. We always make the best choice possible based on the __ we have and the _________________ that we are in.
  2. The goal is to have well _________________ responses.
  3. We learn _________________ because it is fuel efficient.
  4. Fear is our _________________.
  5. Trauma is caused by events that are _________________, _________________, _________________, and in which we have a _________________.
  6. Our primary work is _________________ rules, patterns, and cause/effect relationships.
  7. We are notoriously bad _________________ to our own experience.
  8. As practitioner my goal is to be _________________.

How To Identify The Belief

  1. Imagine taking the action
  2. Feel it in the body
  3. Ask it:
    1. What is it afraid of?
    2. What proof does it have this is true?
    3. Who will be disappointed if you let go of this belief?
    4. Who also holds that this belief is true?
    5. What goes wrong if you release this belief?

How To Release The Belief

  1. Name the new belief you would like to have
  2. When I tap for this:
    1. I am not letting go of the people who gave it to me
    2. I am not saying they tried to hurt me
    3. I am not saying they are wrong for trying to give it to me
    4. I am not saying I am wrong for picking it up
    5. I am not saying it wasn't useful for them
  3. When tapping for this I am
    1. …Picking up a new belief…
    2. …That is helpful in the moment…
    3. …I have the right to pick up the old belief in the future if I decide it is useful…

Overcome The Three Biggest Obstacles To Tapping Success

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When people first sign up for my mailing list I send them an email asking them for the two biggest obstacles they encounter when tapping for their issues.

Far and away the three most common responses are:

  1. Not taking the time to tap even when you know you should.
  2. Not knowing what to say when tapping.
  3. Not knowing where to start with a particular issue.

In many ways I think the second and third responses are the reasons for the first. If you don't know what to say or where to start, you will avoid tapping. Nobody likes to feel incompetent.

In the end, it feels safer subconsciously and emotionally not to try than to deal with feeling inadequate.

I know I behave in this way from time to time.

There is a simple solution, but first a little story…

It was a great big experiment
Back in January I had this wild idea of offering just a few people the opportunity to tap with me for 15 minutes once week for an entire year. When I made the offer I mainly felt confident that it would work, but at the same time I was a little nervous.

First, I was nervous because I had never made an offer like this before and I didn't know how my audience would respond. Second, I had never worked clients in that way before. I was confident in my ability and confident in the power of tapping regularly, but I didn't know how the format it would work out for clients.

It was an experiment.

AND it turned out even better than I planned. I absolutely love these client calls! It is so much fun to work with a client over a long period and have the chance to help them exactly where they are each week.

What the participants are saying
It's one thing for me to feel like the process has been a success, it is something else to hear from the people with whom I have been tapping. Last week I sent each of the participants a note asking if they would be willing to share their experience.

Here is what a few of them had to say:

“With the combination of tapping, Gene's insights, and the recordings to use forever after, SO much is accomplished in just 15 minutes! I'm very grateful — and a little amazed — by the richness of these short sessions.”

“When I saw Gene’s offer for weekly 15-minute tapping sessions, I jumped at the chance. I appreciate the brevity of the appointments, the ease of scheduling sessions online, getting reminders via email, and that Gene calls me and I don’t have to do anything but answer my phone. I would probably not find time to tap without these quick weekly sessions. Gene has a gift for finding exactly the right thing to tap about in a thoughtful and non-judgmental way.” — Catherine

“Tapping with Gene has been one of the most effective forms of personal development work I have experienced. Gene has the unique gift for grasping the topic I want to work on with minimal explanations and instantly finds the right words to help uncover core issues. Additionally his sense of humor makes working with him as pleasurable as it is rewarding.”

“Here’s what you need to know – 1) It’s definitely worthwhile and amazing value for money, and 2) 15 minutes is definitely long enough for a highly impactful session! Furthermore, Gene records the sessions which means I can go back to them at any time and draw on what we did together on that day. I now have new resources I didn’t have before that are helping me each day to cope in a world where we’re all way too busy and believe that perfection is the standard.” — Caren Hendrie

“This is the most helpful thing that I am doing right now for my business and for my personal healing. Gene is a first-class coach who focuses just on my needs and the weekly sessions allow me just the right amount of time to digest what we discuss and to have my questions ready for the next session. Feeling totally supported in this way means I can take bolder steps. Things are really shifting.” — Dan

Why work with a practitioner?
One of reasons that tapping with another person can feel so much more powerful than tapping alone is because it solves the three problems listed above. First, you show up to tap because you have made the commitment, second, they provide the words for you, and third (when they are a skilled practitioner) they help you quickly to get to the root cause of what is going on.

Clients have told me countless times, “I had no idea that was the real issue. Thanks for helping me to find it!”.

Room for 6 more people
It’s been a lot of fun doing this type of work and I have seen how powerful these regular sessions have been for my clients, so I have decided to open up the offer to six more people in a slightly modified way.

You can have someone to help you to tap every week for the next six months for only $997. That price represents a 30% discount off my normal hourly rate.

There are only six spots. Once they are filled, that’s it. In order to be fully present to each of my clients I have to limit how many new people I can take on.

Read all of the details below carefully before you sign up. If you have any questions all you need to do is reply to this email.

  • You will receive a 15-minute session once a week for six months (26 weeks).
  • You are allowed to skip two weeks and have them added to the end of the six months.
  • You may not combine weeks to create longer sessions.
  • I am available for sessions 7:00 am to 5:30 pm Eastern time Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday. My regular office hours are between 10:00 am and 5:30 pm. I have added the extra morning hours just for this program.
  • Because of travel I am not always available every single Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday, but will always be available at least two of these days a week.
  • It is the client's responsibility to schedule their sessions on my online calendar.
  • The purchase is non-refundable.
  • Every effort will be made to record the sessions so that you can go back and tap along to the audio again in the future, but there is no guarantee the session will be recorded. I make every effort to make this happen, but very occasionally technical issues that corrupt the audio get in the way.

I know. All of those details seem kind of heavy and not in the spirit of healing. I wrote those bullet points in blunt terms to make sure that we are all on the same page.

Like I said, there are only six spots.

If you would like to sign up, you can do so here: https://tappingqanda.com/6months

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Pod #267: EFT for Fibromyalgia Follow-Up w/ Sue Ingebretson

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Last month I shared an interview with Dr. Norman Shealy about fibromyalgia. Dr. Shealy shared his experience from the point of view of a medical doctor who has worked with fibromyalgia for more than three decades. It’s a great interview and if you haven't yet listened to it, it is well worth your time.

The interview stuck a nerve and I received a huge amount of feedback about it, including from a number of people who have worked with fibromyalgia successfully in different ways. I was lucky enough to get the opportunity to interview Sue Ingebretson about her work in the field and her own experience of overcoming fibromyalgia.

This is not a debate between Norm and Sue, or anyone else. Instead this is more information that you will find useful.

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Sue Ingebretson

Guest: Sue Ingebretson

Contact: web @ RebuildingWellness.com; facebook @ FibroWHYalgia; twitter @ sueinge

About: Sue Ingebretson is an author, speaker, a certified holistic health care practitioner, and the director of program development for the Fibromyalgia and Chronic Pain Center at California State University, Fullerton. She is a Fibromyalgia Editor for ProHealth.com, as well as a Patient Advocate and the Fibromyalgia Expert for the Alliance Health community of health conditions website. Her #1 Amazon chronic illness bestselling book, FibroWHYalgia, details her own journey from illness to wellness.

Pod #266: The Latest Scientific Research About EFT w/ Dr. Peta Stapleton

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One of the biggest questions about the tapping is how we know if it really works or if the positive shifts it produces are just down to some sort of placebo effect.

Dr. Peta Stapleton finds herself in a unique situation. As a college professor charged with supervising a number of master's level students and their research projects, she has a disposition that is inclined towards the unconventional, and also lives in Australia, which is a little more laid back than the US and is open to new ideas than some other countries.

Because of this, Dr. Stapleton has been able to perform rigorous research into the effectiveness of tapping for a number of issues for over 10 years. In this conversation we talk about her work, how the research studies have been done and their findings. This information is particularly great to have when you are sharing tapping with skeptics.

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Dr. Peta Stapleton

Guest: Dr. Peta Stapleton

Contact: web @ PetaStapleton.com/; twitter @PetaStapleton; instagram @petastapleton

About: Dr. Peta Stapleton has 22 years experience as a registered Clinical & Health Psychologist in the State of Queensland, Australia and has completed a Bachelor of Arts, Postgraduate Diploma of Professional Psychology and Doctor of Philosophy. Peta held academic positions at Griffith University for 14 years, teaching and coordinating psychological research trials into new therapies in the area of obesity and weight management and is now Associate Professor in Psychology at Bond University.
Peta regularly contributes to the academic field with publications in the areas of nursing, morale, communication, psychological interventions and eating disorders. She regularly reviews for academic journals and offers supervision for new and existing Psychologists as well as students.

Here is a list of published research papers which Peta has authored or coauthored about EFT:

All interviews with Dr. Peta Stapelton:

Pod #265: EFT for Weight Release w/ Terran Leigh

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Releasing weight is about much more than simply knowing you should eat better and exercise more. First, there are usually a number of emotional blocks to making healthy choices and, second, even when we make the right choices, our system may still cling to the extra pounds.

This week I have a conversation with Terran Leigh about the most effective ways that you can use tapping to release excess weight. We talk about getting to the root cause of emotional issues, the best ways to tap for those issues, and some simple techniques you can use daily to clear the space required for emotional healing.

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Terran Leigh
Terran Leigh

Guest: Terran Leigh

Contact: web @ TerranLeigh.com; facebook @ Terran.Trosclair.EFT;
twitter @terranleighEFT](https://twitter.com/terranleighEFT); youtube @ Videos

About: Terran started working with EFT in 2009 for her own emotional health. She now works with clients to realize their own changes waiting just under the surface. She helps her clients first to release stress and then to target and shift their emotional blocks, bringing more success, happiness and peace into their lives. She works in-person in NYC and does phone sessions with clients all over the world.

Pod #264: Compare And Contrast TAT And EFT w/ Tapas Fleming

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In 1993 Tapas Fleming developed an acupressure technique that was later named TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique). In many ways it is a sister protocol to EFT.

In this conversation with Tapas we talk about how TAT was discovered, how to do it, and its similarities and differences to the tapping most of us are used to doing.

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Tapas Fleming
Tapas Fleming

Guest: Tapas Fleming

Contact: web @ TATlife.net; twitter @mytapasfleming; @ facebook TATLifeHome; youtube @ TATLifeVideos

About: Tapas Fleming is a licensed acupuncturist in California. In 1993, she discovered and developed TAT® (Tapas Acupressure Technique®) to help people get over allergies. Surprisingly, the technique opened a gold mine of emotional, spiritual, mental and physical transformation.

Pod #263 EFT For Difficult Children w/ Heather Chauvin

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I am always amazed when I stay with my friends and family who have small children. The amount of time, effort and dedication it takes to be a good parent is overwhelming to me as single man.

In this week’s podcast I have a conversation with my parenting expert friend, Heather Chauvin, on the best actions to take when dealing with difficult children or when children are having a difficult time.

The answers she provided are surprising and useful to all of us, not just parents.

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(I talked to Heather back in Pod #212 on how to be a better parent.)


Heather Chauvin

Guest: Heather Chauvin

Contact: web @: http://heatherchauvin.com; podcast @ Mom's In Control; Free Gift @ 21-Day Mom Is In Control Challenge

About Heather: Heather Chauvin has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deepest potential and lead the life their soul craves. She reaches thousands of readers worldwide and leads innovative retreats and coaching programs that teach women to succeed in their most sacred work in parenting and business. Heather’s the creator of the New & Noteworthy Podcast, Mom Is In Control, and has been featured on the OWN network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others. Through her Courageous Rewrite Initiative, Heather has given voice to many humans who have taken courageous, inspired action towards creating a life they’re proud of. With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of how they want to lead, work, play and parent.

Pod #262: EFT For Encouragement

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My clients constantly tell me, “I know I should be tapping, but I don't want to spend time stuck in yukky negative emotions.”

I can sympathize. Connecting with and feeling our negative emotions isn’t much fun. Even though tapping is a powerful tool to shift them, it makes sense that we avoid what is uncomfortable.

This week I have a tap-along audio filled with positive affirmations. I recommend tapping along at the beginning of your day, before tackling a difficult task, or any time you just need a pick-me-up.

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I am brimming with energy.
I am overflowing with joy.
I possess everything necessary to be successful.
Creative energy surges through me.
Today I will find new and brilliant ideas.
I abandon my old habits and pick up new habits that serve my health and my wellbeing.
My efforts are being supported by the universe.
My dreams are coming true before my eyes.
Happiness is my birthright.
I feel joy and contentment.
By allowing myself to be happy, I inspire others to be happy as well.
I look at the world around me and smile with a deep feeling joy.
My heart is overflowing with love.
I expect to be successful because success is my natural state.
I feel powerful, capable, confident, and energetic.
I am a solution focused problem solver.
I am unique. It feels good being alive and being me.
I act from a place of personal strength.
I find deep inner peace with who I am.
Every cell in my body is made for energy and for health.
I pay attention and listen to what my body needs.
I am a peacemaker wherever I go.
I am focused and engaged with the task at hand.
I am grateful for this moment.
I observe my emotions without getting attached to them.
Every day I am more and more at ease.
I draw from my inner strength.
I trust myself.
Today will be a gorgeous day to remember.
I show compassion and I show love.
I choose to see the light that I am to this world.

Pod #261: EFT for Fibromyalgia w/ Dr. Norman Shealy

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Over the years I have been asked a number of times about how to tap for fibromyalgia. Unfortunately I have not been of much help as I have no experience working with this complex condition and all of the practitioners I have reached out to have reported achieving inconsistent results at best.

For this reason I have been searching for the right guest to interview for the topic and I’m happy to say that I have found Dr. Norman Shealy MD. Dr. Shealy has been working successfully with fibromyalgia patients for over 30 years.

As you will hear in this interview, there is a reason why tapping for fibromyalgia is so hard to tackle AND what you can to to be successful in finding relief.

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C. Norman Shealy, M.D., Ph.D
C. Norman Shealy, M.D., Ph.D

Guest: C. Norman Shealy, M.D., Ph.D

Contact: web @ https://normshealy.com/; twitter @ normshealy; youtube @ normshealy; facebook @ NormShealy

Tool talked about in the interview: Ring of Air

About: C. Norman Shealy, M.D., Ph.D. is a neurosurgeon and one of the world's leading experts in stress and pain management. A true innovator in the field, Dr. Shealy holds 10 patents for ground-breaking discoveries, and has published over 300 articles and 25 books.

As one of the first physicians to specialize in this discipline, he founded the Shealy Institute in 1971, a center for therapy and research of chronic pain. The center was the first comprehensive, holistic clinic in the country for the management of depression, migraine, fibromyalgia, and back pain, resulting in numerous pioneering treatments.

Demonstrating the success of a comprehensive, holistic approach to almost all illnesses, this pioneer has helped to bridge the gap between holistic medicine and traditional Western medicine to allow individuals to take responsibility for their own health.

Pod #260: Lessons From 8 Years Of Podcasting About EFT And Tapping

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The very first episode of the Tapping Q & A was released on March 3rd, 2009.

There are now over 300 podcasts in the archive, which is over 150 hours of free content that you can learn from, tap along to, and share with others.

To celebrate its eighth anniversary, in this podcast episode I am interviewed by one of my favorite people in the world about what the last eight years have been like. You will hear about preconceived notions that I have had smashed, the lessons I have learned, and about my hopes for the future of the podcast.

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Pod #259: The 15 Questions I Use To Tap For Physical Pain

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Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is a very powerful tool for helping us to return to a clear and calm emotional state. The phrase “emotional freedom” is right there in the name.

Because of this, I think it is easy to forget how powerful a tool it is for dealing with physical pain. Personally, I continue to be bewildered and amazed at how effectively tapping works for physical pain.

In this week's podcast I share the 15 questions I use when tapping for physical pain.

You can see a text version of these questions in the Tapping Q & A App. (Download free here: Apple App |Google/Android App)

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Pod #258: EFT For Feeling Dissatisfied With Progress Being Made

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There is an odd phenomenon that happens when we make progress. Even though we are working towards our goals, there is a part of us feels dissatisfied with the progress. This can even happen when we have reached our goals. There is a part that still wants to pick away and criticize what we are doing.

This happens because change feels scary, even if that fear exists only on the subconscious level. Change means we are doing something new, which is unpredictable, and the subconscious often reads this as dangerous.

That explains why we shortcircuit our progress, undercut our actions, and sometimes even stop ourselves from taking any action at all.

This week I have for you a simple tap-along that will help to quiet the subconscious when it is dissatisfied with progress, which will help you to take more action.

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I know what I want…I know what actions I want to take…I know the goals I want to achieve…Intellectually I can see very clearly how taking these actions is best for me…Achieving these goals is best for me…But there is a part of me that is concerned…There is a part of me that is worried…It is afraid of what will come next…Even though what I have in this moment is far from perfect…Even though there is some pain in this moment…What I'm experiencing right now is predictable…What I'm experiencing right now is known…Because of that fact it is manageable…It is far from perfect…But I know what is coming and I know how to respond to it…The part of me that wants predictable is just trying to keep me safe…It is worried that unpredictable is unsafe…In order to keep me stuck in this spot it is undermining my actions…It is belittling my goals…It's not doing this because there is something wrong with the action…It is not doing this because there is something wrong with my goal…It is only doing this because it doesn't want me to change…It is using the tactic of picking on the choices I am making…It is taking on the tactic of belittling my goals…I recognize the fact that this part is trying to keep me safe…I recognize the fact that it is trying to keep me healthy…But it is working way too hard…It is choosing an unhealthy tactic…It is choosing a tactic that is safe…I give myself permission to know that change is good…I give myself permission to know that I can step into the unknown and still be safe…The actions I am taking are thoughtful…The actions I am taking are deliberate…I give myself permission to transform…Knowing that if the new way isn't right for me…I can always return to the old way…I trust the transformation…I trust myself…I give myself permission to take bold action today…Knowing that I can do this and still be safe.

Pod #257: EFT To Clear Clutter

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When my space is cluttered I find it difficult to work efficiently and the mess becomes an emotional and energetic drag on my day.

Recently I replaced my kitchen table with one that fits the space much better than its predecessor and took the opportunity to organize the piles of clutter that had made it their home. My tiny NYC apartment feels much more open and comfortable because that space is cleared.

Sometimes dealing with clutter is about more than setting aside the time to clean up. If you are having a hard time decluttering your space, it’s likely that there is an emotional component at play preventing you from taking action.

In this week's podcast I have for you my favorite technique for clearing out clutter and a tap-along to help you get started.

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I recognize the fact that there is a huge amount of clutter that I need to deal with…It feels so overwhelming…It feels like it's never going to get done…Who knows what I'm going to find in those piles…I might be worried about what I'm going to discover…I also recognize the fact it feels like it is too much work…It is never actually going to get done…I am going to find myself stuck in the middle of this mess forever…I recognize the fact that if I take this a little at a time…If I clean this up bit by bit…Those small steps will make a huge difference…Every little bit of cleaning I do will move me closer to having this completed…Every bit of cleaning I do creates more space…It creates more movement…It makes my space more comfortable…Even if I only do some of this…It will make a difference in the long run…I give myself permission to allow that to happen…To see this as a gentle process…As I remove each little bit knowing I will feel better…I don't have to do this all at once…If I do this a little at a time I will be done sooner than I could imagine.

Pod #256: EFT For When We Are Judgmental Of Others

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In order to have the type of life that we would like, it is important to make good choices about who and what surrounds us. One of the ways we can do this is to evaluate our circumstances and who we spend our time with.

But sometimes we can take this too far. We move from deciding if something is the right fit for us, to saying something is inherently bad. We decide it is unworthy of our time and attention.

When I judge someone or their beliefs harshly, it is often because I am fearful. On some level I am worried that their beliefs or actions will undermine me.

This week I have a tap-along and script for those times when we become too judgy and critical of those around us. The full tapping script can be found below the player.

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I recognize the fact there are times when I am very judgmental…There are times in which I am very harsh…Where I put other people down and think that they are not good enough…I am really embarrassed by the fact that I do this from time to time…It's not who I want to be…It's not how I want to treat others…When I act this way I feel a great sense of shame…I feel a great sense of disappointment…I am embarrassed…I recognize the fact when I act in this way it's because I feel hurt…Or I feel attacked…Or I feel like I'm in danger…That is why I lash out…That's why there's a part of me trying to push someone else down…So I can feel safe…So I can feel secure…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…I must take responsibility for my thoughts, actions, and emotions…I can be gentle with myself when I make bad choices…Part of me feels ashamed…There is the part that knows that I can be better…The part that knows I was made for better…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…I encourage myself to strive to be all that I can be…To see the true worth of others…Without feeling insecure…To feel safety without feeling like I have to push someone else down…I know I can judge less…I want to be less judgmental…I give myself permission to love myself enough to know I no longer need to put others down…I commit to letting go of judging others.

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Pod #255: Regaining Focus With EFT

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Have you ever had one of those days where it is 3:30 in the afternoon and you realize you haven't managed to get anything done?

OR it is one of those days where you move from task to task to task, but somehow never seem to achieve anything?

OR you are just downright foggy and you can't seem to focus at all?

Tapping is the perfect tool to help you to regain your focus, clear out the mental cobwebs, and get stuff done.

This week I have the perfect tapping script to do exactly that!

Below the player you will find a text version of the tapping script that you can print out and take with you.

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I recognize the fact I am really unfocused…My mind is going in a million directions…Without landing on anything specific…Because it is floating from thing to thing to thing…I'm not getting anything done…I almost feel disoriented by it…I am frustrated by how unproductive I am being…This lack of focus is probably trying to keep me safe…It's probably trying to help me recognize that I am not prepared for what is in front of me…That something might go wrong if I do what I need to do…It’s all out of sorts…I appreciate it's trying to keep me safe in this way…At the exact same time I know I need to focus…I know I need clarity…I give myself permission to find that clarity…I give myself permission to take action now…Whatever it is I'm clinging that is out of focus…I give my system permission to let it go…If my system needs the distraction again…It will find its way back to it…I can release it right now…Because in this moment it is not useful…In this moment the lack of focus is not necessary…I imagine energy flowing through my body…Bringing me to sharp attention…Helping me to hone in on what is in front of me…If I do this…I can get my tasks done…I will be able to move on to what I want…I will be able to move on to what is useful…I give myself permission to shake off the lack of focus…To be fully present here.

Pod #254: EFT For The Frustration Of Not Doing EFT

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For me, knowing what to do and not doing it is more frustrating than not knowing what to do.

Not tapping when I know I should can quickly turn into beating myself up for failing to take good care of myself.

This week I have a tap-along audio to help you release the feelings of frustration, failure, and shame that come with not tapping when we know it is best of us.

Yes, I understand the irony of asking you to tap for not tapping, but it works.

Below the audio player is the full tapping script so you can tap along at your own pace if you would like.

I recognize the fact that there is a part of me that doesn't want to tap…That doesn't want to transform…That doesn't want to change the state that I am in…It would much rather stay static…It would much rather stay in one place…Because not doing anything feels so much safer…Even though there is an issue at hand that needs to be tapped for…There is a part of me that is afraid…If I change this I don't know what I'm going to change into…Even though this is uncomfortable…Even though this isn't perfect…It is known…It is predictable…It makes sense that I want to stay in this place…I give my system permission to know it is OK for me to feel stuck…Because staying stuck is a way that I can stay safe…Or at least that's how it feels emotionally…Even though intellectually I know this is not the place that I want to stay…Emotionally I am stuck…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…There is a part of me that is beating myself up because I'm not doing what I can to change and transform myself…I am frustrated with the fact that I am unwilling to reach for the tools at my disposal…I feel like a failure…I am ashamed…Because I'm not doing what I need to do…I'm not doing what is best for me…I give myself permission to make a fresh start…Regardless if I have tapped for it in the past or not…I give myself permission now to make good, useful choices…To help me to move forward in a way that is healthy…Beating myself up for not tapping in the past will not help me in the future…I give myself permission to allow myself to make the choices in a new way…It is safe for me to transform…It is healthy for me to transform…It is good that I'm willing to do the work…I give myself permission to tap for that issue that I've been afraid to approach…Knowing that I don't have to take care of it all right now…Knowing that I don't have to take care of it all at once…But it is an easy process that I am allowed to move through…I give myself permission to start right now…Making good, healthy choices to take care of myself.

Pod #253: EFT To Love Your Body More

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Our bodies are far from perfect.

With each passing moment they are aging and showing those changes.

We are our own worst critics when we look in the mirror. We see each and every blemish. We notice even the slightest change. Even the smallest imperfection can seem like a big deal.

At the exact same time, our bodies are amazing! They are a community of over 37 trillion cells that are working together every moment of the day. There are countless systems and processes working faultlessly to which we give no conscious thought.

Today we are going to tap to appreciate our bodies more. I have found that when I do this type of tapping regularly I am healthier and happier.

Below the audio player you will find a text version of the script.

I recognize the fact that I am connected to my physical body…It is a part of me…And in some ways it is me…There are times when I feel like I am fighting my body…When I feel like my body is fighting me…As if my body is letting me down…Or even intentionally trying to hurt me…Or intentionally trying to make my life more difficult…This feeling of frustration and this feeling of betrayal comes simply from wanting better…It comes from wanting to be healthier…It comes from a place of wanting to be stronger…And wanting to look at my body and love what I see…I appreciate the frustration because it wants something better for me…I appreciate my body's desire for me to be healthier…For me to be stronger…For me to look good…Even inside this frustration I know my body is amazing…It is trillions and trillions of cells working in community…Keeping me healthy moment to moment…Allowing me to experience what is around me…There is so much I don't have to think about…I don't have to think about breathing…I don't have to think about my heart beating…I don't have to think about my food digesting…I just move through the world…I love and appreciate that my body is doing all of this…I know in each moment my body is trying to do what is best for me…I know in each moment my body is trying to do what is healthiest for me…Even if it isn't making the healthiest choice, it is motivated by health and well-being…Sometimes my body is misinformed…I give my body permission to ask for what it needs…I give my system permission to do what it needs to do to keep me healthy…I give my body permission to state its needs…Because it is not some foreign object asking…It is me…I am it…There is no separation between my mind and body…There is no separation between my desires and what my body is doing…They feel disconnected…They feel incongruent…But I give them permission to grow and heal together as one…Because they actually are one…I give my system permission to move forward in a way that is best for all parts of me…I give myself permission to love my body…Because I am my body.