Pod #194: Where To Start An EFT Session

November 11, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

One of the most common questions I receive is “Where should I start? I have so many issues to tap on that I feel paralyzed. What should I do?”

This is a great question.

The truth is there is no one place to start, but it is much more important that you do start. I know how intimidating tapping can feel the first time you are trying it on your own. You want to get it exactly right. You feel self conscious because you it feel and looks weird.

As you do it, you will feel more comfortable. As you feel more comfortable, it will be easier to do.

In this week’s podcast I have for you a process that is great for new and experienced tappers alike. For new tappers it will provide a great guide to help you get your feet under you. For experienced tappers it will help to uncover new issues that need to be tapped on.

To do this process you will need to go to EFTSetupPhraseGenerator.com/

Listen to the podcast first, then go to the site to try it out.

Pod #193: EFT for Self-Respect

October 28, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 3 Comments

Recently I was reminded of the Joan Didon quote “Self-respect is a discipline, a habit of mind that can never be faked but can be developed, trained, coaxed forth.”

I find this quote so encouraging because helps me to recognize that self-respect is a point of view about myself that I can cultivate.

This week I have for you some tapping that will help you (and me!) recognize that we are worthy of self-respect. Below you will find both a tap-along audio and the tapping script.

I choose to know I am worthy of respect…I choose to know that I am worthy of respecting myself…I don’t need to do anything to prove that I am worthy of self-respect…I am made for self-respect…I don’t need to do anything to gain my self-respect…I know I am not perfect…I know I make mistakes every day…I know there are things in my life I would like to improve…Even though I am not perfect…I am worthy of self-respect…I am worthy of seeing that I am good…I am worthy of seeing that I am lovable…It is possible to see that I am worthy and still know that I would like better…By respecting myself I am not stopping my growth…By respecting myself I am not stopping my healing…Who I am is not determined by other people…Who I am is not determined by what others think…My value is not determined by other people…My value is not determined by what other people think…I choose to know I am worthy…I choose to know I am lovable…I choose to know that I am worthy of being heard…I am worthy even if I don’t believe I am worthy…My belief in my worthiness is not a prerequisite to my worthiness…I am worthy of respect even if I don’t believe it right now.

Pod #192: EFT For The Fear Of Public Speaking w/ Tania A. Prince

October 21, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

In survey after survey public speaking finishes near the top of the list of people’s greatest fears. It’s a fear that can hold us back professionally and can cause us much anxiety and discomfort ahead of having to speak in front of groups.

Most basic tapping and EFT trainings teach that when we fear something we should look for the first time we had a bad experience. The problem with doing this when it comes to public speaking is that often the moment in our past that taught us that public speaking was dangerous had little or nothing to do with public speaking.

In this week’s conversation I talk with EFT Founding Master Tania A. Prince about the many different root causes that can lead to a fear of public speaking and how we can tap for them.

Tania A. Prince

Guest: Tania A. Prince EFT Master

Contact: web @ eft-courses.co.uk, e-mail @ contact page

Biography: Tania is an EFT Master (one of fewer than thirty in the world). She has extensive experience of using EFT with clients and has worked on a vast range of issues, including fear of public speaking, blushing, panic attacks, success coaching, phobias, depression, addictions, anxiety, weight management, agoraphobia and serious illnesses, etc. She works from two clinics in Cheshire, England as well as working with clients throughout the UK and internationally via the phone. Her work has been featured on TV and radio shows both in the UK and abroad. She presents regularly at major international conferences and is a TAT Professionals Trainer.

Pod #191: EFT For Getting Past Fear w/ Mary Ayers

October 16, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

(At least here in America) one of the most common pieces of advice you’ll hear for overcoming fear is to “just grit your teeth and fight your way through it!”

That advice is plain silly!

Fear is not something we should simply muscle through. Instead, it is a primitive emotion that does everything it can to keep us safe.

This week I have a conversation with Dr. Mary Ayers who was in exactly that situation. She had to do something that scared her and was told by those around her that she just had to overcome the fear and get on with it.

She decided to take another path. She faced the fear head on, figured out why it was there, and removed it. Not only does Mary share her own experience of transforming fear, she shares how she did it AND how you can do it too.

Guest: Dr. Mary Ayers

Contact: web @ TapIntoAction.com; web radio @ The Chickenshits Guide to Success; facebook @ Tap Into Action

About Mary: Dr. Mary Ayers knows how to get people un-stuck! With her years of experience as a therapist and a coach, you won’t find the typical or ordinary coaching techniques in her programs. When it comes to taking action, she pulls out all the stops – delving deep to find those hidden fears and limiting beliefs. Known for her UNconventional, often “off the wall” methods, she will get you moving towards your goals without bullying, shaming or “pushing through the fear”. With over 27 years in the Human Development field, her accomplishments include 5 years as a coach with the Anthony Robbins Organization, EFT Expert on The Tapping World Summit, and Host of the radio show “The Chickenshits Guide to Success”.

Do You Own A Smartphone? – Introducing The TappingQ&A App

October 11, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Over the last few months I have been working on (OK, I hired someone to work on) a Tapping Q & A app for both Android and Apple smartphones.

Both of them are now available. In addition to having access to all the free resources on TappingQandA there will also be some app only exclusives.

You can download the app here:

Once you download it, send me an email from inside the app and I will send you a free tap-along audio.

Let me know what you think.

Gene

PS: If you download the Apple App make sure you turn on push notifications.

Pod #190: Perfectionism, Self-Forgiveness, & EFT

October 7, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Perfectionism is tricky.

At its core perfectionism is motivated by wanting everything to be just perfect, because when everything is perfect it becomes manageable.

Making life manageable is great but the problem is that it will never be perfect. And when things are not perfect we can very easily fall into beating ourselves up for “failing” to meet impossible standards.

This week I have a tap-along to help us be gentler with ourselves for not being perfect, and to forgive ourselves for being unable to reach unattainable goals.

Pod #189: EFT For The Burdens Of Others

September 30, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

It is not uncommon for us to pick up the emotional beliefs or emotional burdens of our loved ones. In most cases we don’t even realize we are doing it.

Emotional beliefs are often formed when we are children because we are so impressionable at a young age. We usually shoulder the emotional burdens of loved ones out of the desire to care for or protect them.

At a certain point we realize that we must let these go in order to be healthy. This week I have a tap-along to help you to release emotional burdens and beliefs that are not serving you.

Even if you don’t think you have experienced either of these I encourage you to tap through this audio because we often don’t realize what we are carrying emotionally.

I would love you to share your experience of this tap-along in the comments below.

Pod #188: EFT for Grief w/ Sherry O’Brian

September 23, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

There two common misconceptions in understanding how grief affects us.

First, many people believe that the 5 stages of grief as defined by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) are the way humans always experience grief. Second, many people believe that grief is only experienced around extreme events, such as the death of a loved one.

Grief is a much more complicated and subtle process than those two perceptions would lead us to believe.

In this week’s interview with Sherry O’Brian we talk about the many different ways that we may experience grief and how we process it.

I am guessing if you haven’t had a loved one die recently you are thinking that this podcast isn’t for you. But I encourage everyone to listen to this because more than likely grief is present in your life in an unexpected way and you will find this conversation very helpful.

Guest: Sherry O’Brian

Contact: web @ mindbodyspirit-innergrations.com

About: Sherry O’Brian, LCSW, DCEP is a psychotherapist who has assisted thousands of individuals within her workshops, groups, and private practice to transform their pain into possibility. The inspiration behind Peaks and Valleys: Integrative Approaches for Recovering From Loss is her passion to provide a larger audience with these tools of transformation. Sherry has also developed a meditation CD, Release and Transform Burden: a meditation to awaken the healing light within, to assist others with releasing emotional pain, and transform their lives.

Pod #187: Clearing Space For Better Action

September 16, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Sometimes we get caught up in our emotions and make poor choices that we later regret. We want to make the best choice, we know what the best choice is, and we still let our emotions get in the way.

We can know exactly what triggers us and even when we spend time tapping on an issue that triggers us emotionally, we can still find ourselves highly emotional in a moment when these issues come up again. This week I share how you can tap for these instances so that you will be happy with your choices as the emotions come up.

Make sure you listen to see why I have chosen the artwork in this post.

Pod #186: Morning And Evening EFT w/ Wendy Merron

September 9, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 4 Comments

My clients are always telling me that they would like to tap every day but have a hard time making it a habit.

One of the reasons I think people struggle with creating a daily tapping habit is that they don’t know what to tap for. And because they don’t know where to start they feel silly or frustrated and so they don’t do it.

My friend Wendy Merron has created a wonderful tapping process for the beginning and ending of the day that she calls “AM/PM Tapping”. I love its simplicity and find that it’s the perfect way to start and end a day.

You can download a printout of the process here

Below you can hear Wendy describing the process and also hear us tapping through it so you can tap along too.

Guest: Wendy Merron

Contact: web @ TheCenterOfSuccess.com ; facebook @ Powerful Thinking on Purpose; book @ Powerful Thinking on Purpose

About: Wendy Merron is a Board Certified Hypnotist (BCH), Certified National Guild of Hypnotist Instructor, Adjunct NGH Faculty Member, and founder of the Greater Philadelphia Chapter of the National Guild of Hypnotists. She teaches the NGH Hypnosis Training Course at The Center of Success. Nurses, students, therapists, and people interested in the power of hypnosis have come from as far away as The Netherlands to learn hypnosis at The Center of Success in Pennsylvania. In addition to her Hypnosis credentials Wendy Merron is recognized as an accomplished Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Certified Trainer and Practitioner. Emotional Freedom Techniques Courses are also taught at the Center of Success.

Wendy speaks and holds workshops based on her book, Powerful Thinking on Purpose.

Pod #185: Information From The Physical Body That Aids Emotional Healing w/ Julie Schiffman

September 2, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Our physical bodies are constantly communicating information to our conscious minds to help us navigate our daily lives. Some of this information is obvious and direct. For example, feeling pressure on your shoulder lets you know someone is touching us trying to get our attention, or we feel pain when touching something hot.

It also communicates is less obvious ways. We feel tension when we are stressed or heavy-hearted when we are sad.

Most of us are not as in tune with our physical bodies as we could be. Because of this we could be missing valuable information that our body is trying to communicate. In this conversation with Julie Schiffman we talk about how to be more in tune with our physical body and how we can use this information to accelerate the healing process.

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Guest: Julie Schiffman

Contact: web @ JulieSchiffman.com; facebook @ Julie Schiffman EFT; instagram @Julieschiffman_tapintolife; youtube channel @ Julie Schiffman; YouTube demonstrations @ over 100 videos

About: Julie Schiffman, MSW, is an internationally recognized Expert EFT Practitioner. For more than 20 years, she has counseled thousands of clients, helping them break through physical and emotional barriers. Her life-changing YouTube videos have been viewed more than 4 million times.

She is best known for her expertise in helping others heal from pain, disease, weight issues, phobias and other emotional and physical stressors.

She was formerly the chief EFT practitioner for Dr. Mercola’s Center for Natural Health for over 15 years. Julie has been a featured presenter at the “Tapping World Summit” every year since its inception in 2008.

Pod #184: EFT For Shame (Part 2)

August 26, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Back in July I shared a tap-along audio for the shame of making a bad choice. I was overwhelmed by the positive response I received.

This week we go a little bit deeper in responding to the emotion of shame.

I hope you enjoy this tap-along audio.

Pod #183: EFT For Feeling Like You Will Be Judged For Being Different

August 20, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 4 Comments

Much of my client work revolves around helping people to take action. Most of my clients are trying to find a way to use their gifts and talents to help those around them in some way, but for some reason are holding themselves back.

This inability to act often stems from times in their childhood or more recent past where they were judged harshly by their loved ones for being different.

When this happens it makes perfect sense that they wouldn’t feel comfortable using their giftedness in the present.

Today’s podcast is a tap-along aimed at this exact issue. Even if you don’t feel like this applies to you, you might be surprised how this type of experience may be impacting you subconsciously.

Take a few moments to tap along.

Pod #182: Matrix Birth Reimprinting w/ Sharon King

August 12, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 2 Comments

Even though we don’t consciously remember coming into this world, we are fully conscious in utero and at the time of our birth. Because we are conscious, these experiences contribute to how we build models of the world that impact the way we live our daily lives.

In this interview Sharon King shares how Matrix Reimprinting (a tool set that uses tapping) can be used to help clear these unconscious memories.

Guest: Sharon King

Contact: web @ MagicalNewBeginnings.com/; twitter @SharonEFT; Facebook @ Sharon King; YouTube @ channel

About: Sharon has worked for a number of years specializing in the birth experience, and how it affects our emotional health during our childhood and adult life. She went on to develop the Matrix Birth Reimprinting protocols which became a foundational cornerstone in a self-help technique called Matrix Reimprinting and currently trains other practitioners worldwide. Sharon leads the field in this area, and her techniques are published in the book Matrix Reimprinting Using EFT, which is was released by publishing giants Hay House in August 2010 and she is currently writing her own book Heal Your Birth, Heal Your Life: Tools to Transform Your Experience of Birth and Create a Magical New Beginning.

Pod #181: Returning To The State Before Illness And Trauma w/ Jacqui Crooks

August 5, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 2 Comments

Our aim in tapping is to clear any trauma, events, or emotions in our lives that cause us discomfort, disease, or limiting beliefs. If it is true that we can pinpoint the moments that cause our issues, then it must also be true that we can find our way to a time in our system before these negative experiences.

Jacqui Crooks has developed a process which helps us to return to that original pre-issue state. Not only are we able to clear the issues, but also reclaim that happier, pre-issue state. In this interview she shares how we can access what she calls our original “blueprint”.

Jacqui Crooks

Guest: Jacqui Crooks

Contact Jacqui: web @ JacquiCrooks.com

About Jacqui: Jacqui is one of the pioneers in using Energy Psychology, finding EFT IN 1999. Her life’s not been the same since! She is an international speaker and trainer and an EFT Founding Master. She specializes in helping people to change limiting beliefs and old family and ancestral patterns that create self-sabotage and keep people stuck. Her background is in Ericksonian hypnotherapy and NLP, and through the development of unique ways of combining EFT with hypnotic language and NLP Jacqui is able to help effect deep level changes quickly and easily without trauma. She runs retreats in interesting places and trains EFT, worldwide. She presents at conferences and is one of the authors of EFT and Beyond.

Even though there is a blueprint of the shining essence of me and I forgot that that is who I am, I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself.

Even though I forgot, I now gratefully accept help from my guides, helpers, angels, source, my higher self and all parts of me, to help and support, while cleaning, clearing and repairing all damage to my chakras, aura or any of my bodies, so that I return wholly to that shining, glowing essence of who I am.

Even though I forgot, I’m choosing now, to align to that blueprint of my shining essence and I ask that this is fuelled so that it continues, in ways that I don’t need to know, continually clearing the connection to source, so that I can continue to shine and glow and completely fill that me shaped space in the universe.

Pod #179: EFT For The Shame Of Being Wrong

July 15, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 2 Comments

I hate being wrong. I pride myself on making thoughtful choices and I work really hard to make sure I consider the best course of action and all the possible outcomes.

That doesn’t mean that I expect myself to be perfect before I act (which is a different issue), but that I am really hard on myself when I make a mistake.

Especially a public mistake where others can see I messed up.

This week’s podcast is about what comes up when we are dealing with the shame of making mistakes.

This is another example of me tapping for one of my own issues in real time. I hope you find it useful.

Pod #178: Trauma Busting Technique w/ Rehana Webster

July 8, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

EFT is a powerful tool for clearing trauma, but just because you know how to tap it doesn’t mean that you have a clear understanding of how to tap for trauma.

Founding EFT Master Rehana Webster has created a systematic approach to tap for trauma.

In this conversation she shares the simple steps behind what she calls TBT (Trauma Busting Technique).

Rehana Webster

Guest: Rehana Webster, BSc, EFT Master, NLP Master

Contact Rehana: web @ http://TraumaBusterTechnique.com

About Rehana:Rehana Webster is the developer of TBT (Trauma Buster Technique- a mind body therapy for the elimination of PTS Symptoms). She is also a founding EFT Master and NLP Master. Her formal education is in biological anthropology from the University of Toronto, Canada

She is a well known trauma therapist and specializes in Post Traumatic Stress (PTS) resolution including GADs (generalized anxiety disorders) , OCDs (obsessive-compulsive disorders) and other behavioral issues. She has studied a range of mind-body energy therapies and developed TBT through a synthesis of NLP and Energy Meridians.

Pod #177: Responding To Repressed Memories / w Sophia Cayer

July 1, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

The human memory is incredibly complex. As our understanding of the workings of the brain grows it is increasingly evident that the human memory can be very unreliable.

Even when we have total confidence in a memory we could be mistaken.

On some level most people are aware that their memory is fallible. This can cause clients anxiety when what feels like a new memory shows up in a tapping session.

These may have been repressed or they may also be false memories.

In this conversation with Sophia Cayer we discuss the nature of memory and how to respond to a memory that might be false.

Sophia Cayer

Guest: Sophia Cayer

Contact Sophia: web @ SophiaCayer.com; web @ PersonalPeaceFoundation.org

About Sophia Cayer: An EFT Founding Master, Sophia has been devoted to a full-time EFT practice and teaching EFT for more than 12 years. Specializing in trauma and abuse, she is well-known for her ability to resolve core issues and, with EFT, for helping clients to reshape their lives and gain a level of comfort with their new “norm”. For more than 22 years she has been dedicated to helping clients define and generate the solutions to resolve challenges and achieve their goals.

Pod #176: EFT For How Others React To Us When We Make A Major Change

June 24, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Over time we are going to change our minds. (At least, I hope I am changing my mind as I learn new things.)

And in a vacuum that seems like a good thing.

We are presented with new information and experiences. We re-evaluate the way we see the world and then we change our mind to think and act in a new way.

The problem is that we don’t live in a vacuum. When we change our mind it doesn’t only impact the choices we make, it also impacts the other people in our lives.

You might choose to leave a job, finish a relationship, or change the way you see God. When this happens the people in our lives may be impacted in practical or emotional ways.

Our loved ones may struggle because they have to change their understanding of who we are and how we see the world. They might not like our new choices or they might feel challenged by them.

In this week’s podcast we tap for the difficulties around how others react to us when we make a significant change. This is also a great audio if you are struggling with a major change that someone close to you has made.