We are connected to many people in our lives, some very closely, others less so. When we make choices we don't make them in a vacuum as we know that they impact other people, either affecting them directly or simply in the way they see us. Because we consider how our choices influence how others think about us we sometimes hesitate to act because we are unsure of their reaction, or we fear that they will react negatively. Our subconscious may restrain us from taking action unless we feel we ...
When Unexpected Things Come To Mind
When I am tapping all sorts of things come to mind. Sometimes the memories are clearly connected to what I am tapping on. Other times they are thoughts about memories and people that seem to have nothing to do with what I am tapping on. What should I do with these thoughts? When I am working with a client during an Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT)/tapping session, typically the first question I ask them after a round of tapping is, “What came to mind as we did that round of tapping?” You ...
Pod #64: Thought Field Therapy w/ Joanne Callahan
As more time passes few and few people are aware of the roots of tapping as we know it. Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) as presented by Gary Craig build upon the foundations of Thought Field Therapy (TFT). In this interview I chat with Joanne Callahan the co-developer of Thought Field Therapy with her husband Roger Callahan. Joanne has many great insights into not only how Thought Field Therapy came to be created and how we can add the tools and techniques of TFT to our daily tapping. In ...
Creative and Alternate Set-Up Phrase Generator For Tapping/EFT
I am asked all the time by clients, “Do I really have to say ‘I love and accept myself...’ when I am tapping?” You don't have to say it. If it doesn't feel right for you consider this before you abandon it. To make it easier for you I have created The Random Set-Up Phrase Generator. Below you will find 10 alternative set up phrases. Reload the page and it will generate 10 more phrases. The generator is built to come up with over 2500 unique phrases. All you need to do is read the ...
Pod #63: Self Love With Brad Yates
Doing this interview was particularly special to me. My guest Brad Yates was the person who first introduced me to Tapping/EFT. In this spirited conversation we talk about the importance of self-love, the obstacles to loving ourself, and what we can do with tapping to improve our view of ourselves. I know we talk a lot about self love and self acceptance when it comes to tapping. It is right there in the set up phrase, "I love and accept myself." Even with that being the case it is still one of ...
10 Lessons Learned From Teaching Tapping in Jail
photo by Bernardo Borghetti For the last few months I have been blessed to be spending my Monday and Wednesday mornings in the local county jail helping out with the Advanced Anger Management class. It has been an amazing experience. Recently I ran into my friend whose place I have taken as assistant teacher for the class. She asked, "Isn't it addictive?" Addictive is the only way I can describe it. It is one of the coolest things I have going in my life right now. I have learned ...
Pod #62: Being Honest With Ourselves, Being In The Moment, and Other Thoughts w/ Jondi Whitis
In this podcast my friend Jondi Whitis discuss a bunch of topics around tapping and healing. In the conversation we cover: Being able to be honest about where we really are and why that is paramount to healing. Using where we are to build on knowing where would like to be. How to stay in the moment (which leads to healthier choices). Noticing what is happening emotionally. Is tapping similar to hypnotic induction? Why we resist healing and how can we deal with it. Why tapping ...
Transforming Our Critical Voice Into Something Helpful With Tapping and EFT In 8 Easy Steps
[Note: In this article I am going to be addressing the role of the critical voice. I am going to speak as if the critical voice has a personality and motives. I am not saying the critical voice is a distinct personality or that it is separate from us in any way. But by speaking of it as if it is distinct it will give us the ability to deal effectively with only one part of our personality, helping us to get some perspective on what is going on and enabling faster transformation.] One of the ...
Pod #61: Tapping for the effects of cancer w/ Deborah Miller PhD
We all know the EFT mantra, "Try it on everything!" Deborah Miller took this completely to heart. Today she visits a cancer ward five days a week where she has the opportunity to work with children, parents, and even the hospital staff. In this interview she talks about her experience, what she has learned, and her hopes for the future. Even if you don't know someone with cancer and you don't think you will ever work in a hospital setting I encourage you to listen to this interview. There are ...
Good Questions Help Illuminate the “Big Picture” of a Core Issue
We are taught when tapping it very import to be as specific as possible. The more specific we are the faster Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT)/tapping works. Sometimes it is better to take a more global approach to an issue. Instead of moving from the general to the specific we can use the specific to find our way to a much deeper issue. When doing this we see the specific as being a symptom to a much larger issue that we weren't aware of. In this article Vermont based practitioner Jade ...
Layers of Resistance
This article was written while being powered by a few cups of coffee bought by Judy Fay of Ireland. Thanks Judy! I know that I need to spend time tapping on my issues, but I can't seem to get myself to do it. After the fact (of not tapping) I feel a lot worse because I haven't done the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping that I know works. Is there any way I can get over my block about sitting down to tap? There are lots of reasons that we don't sit down to tap. We can ...
Pod #60: EFT for Self Acceptance w/ Steve Wells
One of the biggest blocks for beginning tappers is using the setup phrase, "Even though...I love and accept myself." Sometimes we just don't believe it. Sometimes it is painful to think of how we don't love and accept ourselves, and because of this we don't spend time tapping. In this interview I chat with Steve Wells about the idea of self acceptance. During our conversation I quickly came to realize that Steve and I see acceptance and resistance in the same way. We talk about Steve's own ...
Is It A Big Deal?
I am spending a great deal of time and energy worrying about a number of issues. This is consuming so much of my energy, but most of the issues are really no big deal. How do I deal with the fact I am spending so much on something that isn’t very important? Recently my sister underwent surgery for a tumor that was between her ribs and her right lung. My sister is only 32, healthy (a yoga instructor), has health insurance, a great medical provider, and a family with the means and flexibility ...
The Hardest and Most Radical Tapping You Can Do
photo by Abby I was working with a client named “Jane”. Jane really knows Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT)/tapping. I said to her, “I have a radical suggestion for you. And you don’t need to do it. But it is a thought. I think you need to surrogately tap for both of them!” Her response was a loooong pause, followed by, “OK, I’m listening. Why would I do that?” Let me back up a little. Jane had called me because she was feeling frustrated, hurt, and stabbed in the back. It was a ...
Reasons That Stop Us From Trying
Often we are ourselves the biggest obstacle to our success. We hold beliefs that prevent us from trying, that prevent us from recognizing the opportunities we have to move forward. “Brian” was in a situation where he wanted to move forward with his business. He came up with a number of brilliant ideas to move his business ahead, but when push came to shove he wouldn’t take the steps he needed to take to move forward. When we successfully identify these beliefs, tapping/Emotional Freedom ...
Stages Of Awareness For The Healing Process (with or without Tapping/EFT)
In real terms, what does it actually look like when I start making changes in my life with Tapping/EFT? Tapping/Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) can make changes in our lives in very practical ways. It allows us to change the way we respond to the world around us. EFT is often most useful for aspects of life where we feel like we have the least amount of control. These could be situations where we feel like we are a victim to circumstance or a victim of other’s choices, or where we feel ...
Not using “Even thought I…” and the KC point
I have read a number of your articles. I love the fact that you often give tapping phrases to go along with the info, but you don’t give them in a way that I am used to seeing tapping phrases. Why don’t you use the phrase “even though I...” while tapping on the KC point and why don’t you list tapping points with the tapping phrases? photo by anna vignet It is important to remember the technique is called tapping/Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). Most people miss the “s” on the ...
When You Can’t Feel Any Emotion AND When Loved Ones Give Us Limiting Beliefs
photo by Steven Depolo I am looking for help with emotions. I have seen and looked at a couple of specific emotions (anger, depression, etc.), but my problem is that mine are completely blocked off...I feel NONE. The root cause is from my father telling me as a child that men do not display emotions (cry or laugh were his actual words) and any time I gave any type of an emotional display I was punished...what I am looking for is some help clearing this block. What can I do? This is a very ...
Pod #59: Fear of Public Speaking w/ Janet Hilts
"According to most studies, people's number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death. Death is number two. Does that sound right? This means to the average person, if you go to a funeral, you're better off in the casket than doing the eulogy." Jerry Seinfeld Fear of public speaking can affect not only large moments when we speak in front of a group of people, but also in the small moments like asking for help at a store. This is how I originally found my way to tapping. I could speak in ...
10 Simple Steps To Tap On Any Emotion
I deal with anger all of the time and because I experience it so much I don't know where to start. Where can I begin? Here is a great tool when you don't know where or how to start with any emotion. This is also an excellent tool to use when you are teaching someone to tap when they are on their own because it also creates tapping phrases. For this reason I have found it best to use this like a worksheet and write out each of the steps. 1) Name The Emotion This is easy thing to do. ...