The history of business is a history about how companies and organizations can be more efficient. Much of this work is about how companies and organizations can create an environment where they can get their employees to be more productive. For most of history this has been about automating processes, educating employees, and learning how to empower employees to make better choice. Today, forward thinking companies like Google and Zappos are starting to look beyond people as cogs in the machine ...
TapAlong: Being Who You Are – AKA Not Needing To Fit In
No two people are alike. That is something that we all understand, but for some reason we feel like we need to hold ourselves to some standard where we are constantly comparing ourselves to those around us. We compare our relationships, our jobs, our physical health, and our financial success. Not only do we make these comparisons about the things we achieve, but we also make these comparisons about the things we prefer. When we don’t like the same music, TV, food, and activities as the people ...
Things Your Physical Body Needs To Hear You Say
photo by David E. Merino [Note: This is part 1 of a 5 part series. When all five parts are published you will be able to find them at Talk To The System. When we are learning the basics of tapping we are taught the more specific we can get the more effective the tapping is going to be. This is not only true for specific issues, but also specific parts of the system. I was inspired by the exercise I call "The Grounding Process" to look at each parts of our system and tap for it. ...
Pod #68: Therapy v. Discipleship w/ Jake Khym
Many of the practitioners I know are very spiritual people, but for one reason or another they are not connected to a particular denomination or faith tradition. My friend Jake Khym is a different in that regard. He explicitly does Christian counseling. In this conversation we talk about how and why he transitioned from traditional counseling to Christian counseling and how his work now looks different. Also, we spend a great deal of time talking about what it means to provide instruction and ...
My 10 Favorite Articles From 2011 Featured On Tapping Q And A
photo by Susanna S. Here is a look back at some of my favorite posts from 2011. They are not necessarily the best, but they are thoughts, ideas, and articles that I still look back and learn from. Knowing Good Enough Is Good Enough OR The Myth Of Excellence This is the thought that changed my life! Create v. Responsible Ever thought to yourself, "Everything that is going wrong in my life is all my fault! How did I create this mess?" You didn't create it all! Here is new way of ...
TapAlong: Saying “I am sorry.”
Saying we are sorry is difficult. We have to admit that we are not perfect. Often we have to confront the fact that we have let someone else down or hurt them, but we need to do it. Many times when I need to say I am sorry I have already decided that I am sorry and until I apologize the relationship will struggle. I need to say I am sorry for myself. I need to say I am sorry for the person I have hurt. ...
Better Then Any New Year’s Resolutions – Tap To Get Rid Of What Isn’t Needed
This article was written while being powered by a tasty lunch bought by Lee Carter of FL. Thanks Lee! photo by Roger Glenn As we come to the end of another year I have been reflecting on my life, my goals, and how I spend my time. After careful concideration I have come to realize that my goals and dreams for the new year aren't much different than the goals I had at the beginning of last year. I would like to have better health and well being, richer ...
TapAlong: Please See How Much I Am Putting Myself Last!
I love helping other people out. I think I am good at it and I know that I enjoy it. I also know that others have noticed that I am good at helping people. I have personally and professionally been recognized for doing so. It is part of who I am and it is part of my identity. I am seen as a ‘go to’ guy. None of this is bad unless I start defining myself as someone who helps others. None of this is bad unless I start to think this is the only way we can have value. We can find ourselves in a ...
Are You Tapping The Wrong Way? (You Are Going To Be Surprised!)
I respond much better to doing setups on my sore spot(s) than on the Side of Hand point. But I have found that my best response is if I tap on, even thump a bit, on the sore spot(s) rather than rubbing. Is this common or am I very unusual? Also, when I tap on my collar-bone it works much better if I tap on my sore spot as well as my collar bone spot. Is this ok/normal? There are a few things that need to be kept in mind when we consider using tapping as a tool in our lives. First, the ...
Tapping To Simplify Life
For 18 months I lived in my car. It wasn't because times were hard, but because it was a choice. I went to see the movie Almost Famous. In the 20-minute walk home I was thinking about living the life of a touring musician and how awesome that would be. At that point in my life I was already traveling over 100 days a year as a performer. Most of my travel was by air and my home base was Washington, DC. As I continued my walk home from the movie I thought, "What would I need in order to live on ...
Tap Along #23A: You Are Worth A Better/Easier Life
Often we don't feel comfortable making our own lives easier or better. We think, “Others have it so much harder than I do. A good life is only possible if I work very hard and struggle for it. I have wasted good opportunities before so why should life be easier for me now?” As long as we think are unworthy, we will never move forward. When we are able to recognize that we are worthy of a better life then we enable ourselves to start working towards it. This audio will help you to do just that. ...
It’s Gone . . . For Now – Taking The Final Step
photo by Susan NYC I was working with a client this week and we were dealing with the emotional charge around a relationship with a family member. "Jackie" felt like her mother was demeaning her. Jackie's mother always had nice things to say about all of her other adult children, but for some reason she was just really hard on Jackie. After about 15 minutes of tapping on lots of issues Jackie was feeling much better. She was no longer worried about her mother's unrealistic ...
TapAlong #21A: Mediocrity and Greatness
Mediocrity asks "Why?" with hesitation. Greatness asks "Why not?" with expectation. - @TheSingleWoman One of the biggest and most significant shifts we can make is moving from asking "why?" to asking "why not?" When we do this we are shifting from thinking about the place where we are stuck to moving towards what we can become. This is a powerful transformation. Even by simply being aware of what is possible, we feel like we are moving forward to something that is new and better. ...
“There Is No Such Thing As An Emotional Action” – Is That True?
This article came from an interview I did with Jared Tendler on performance (Improving Performance with Tapping). At one point in the interview Jared said, "I don't believe there is such thing as an emotional decision." After a brief discussion I agreed with him. photo by Nathan deGargoyle Below is a longer explanation than what we got into in the interview of why I think he is right and how we can use this point of view to improve our Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping. ...
TapAlong #17A: What would you choose for today?
TapAlong #16A Dealing With Shame And Blame For Past Choices
Shame is an interesting emotion. It makes us recoil inside ourselves, wanting us to hide from our past and our present. Despite this negativity, shame is rooted in a good place because it wants us to have done better, and wants us to do better in the future. The problem is that it prevents us from moving forward because it is trying to keep us safe from repeating our mistakes. Because of this we can feel crippled by shame, but we don’t have to remain stuck in that place. ...
Tapping To The Lessons I Learned While Tapping
photo by Stephan Reinwald When I am tapping I like to write down the insights I have while tapping. Sometimes they are things I already know (and have known forever) and other times they are completely new insights. I might only get one or two of these insights when I sit down to tap, but when I collect them over time I end up with a lots of wisdom that I need to hear. Here is a list of the some of the insights I have had recently while tapping. Every now and then I like to come ...
Deserve v. Worthy
photo by Annette Pedrosian [In this series we examine the importance of the words we use and how changing our vocabulary can change our mind giving us opportunity for transformation. More articles can be found in this series @ Tools:Words] "I don't deserve better..." One of the phrases I hear frequently from clients is "I don't deserve..." This phrase comes is all shapes and forms. I haven't done enough in the past to heal. I don't deserve to get better now. I have screwed up so ...
TapAlong #15A Accepting Compliments
One of the things I have struggled with over the years is accepting compliments. They made me feel uncomfortable. They made me feel judged. They made me feel like I needed to point out the things that were wrong with me. Over time I have learned that it is OK to take a compliment. It gives me a chance to recognize that I am good at something and that others also see the things I do well. ...
Tapping To Beauty To Open Your Heart
The key to a successful tapping/Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) session is to find a way to tune into an emotion. It doesn't matter how we find our way to that emotion. We can do it by saying phrases, retelling stories from the past, or just tuning into how a physical sensation feels in the body. The key is our focus and attention. The world we live in is full of amazingly beautiful things. Many of them we miss (or at least I miss) because we are wrapped up in our ‘to do’ list. When we ...