There are times when we find ourselves caring for someone who is going through something major, be it a physical or mental issue. We want nothing but the best for our loved one, but we can end up spreading ourselves too thin. We give everything we have to the point that we are harming ourselves. It is important that when we are caring for others that we take the time to also care for ourselves. If we don't take care of ourselves we can't care for others. In this interview I talk to Ron Ball as ...
TapAlong: Feeling Like I Need To Suffer – Forgiving Self
On more than one occasion I have thought, "I made a mistake and deserve to suffer for it." Culturally the belief is that when someone has done something wrong they should be punished. Even if we don't personally think this, it is such a pervasive cultural value that it’s easy to understand how it can creep into our beliefs as well. When we do something wrong a part of us often feels that we deserve to be punished. Additionally, because we hold ourselves to such high standards, we’ll ...
Tapping Ninja Video – Tapping Before Eating
Tapping can be used in lots of different ways. One way we can use it is to tap before we eat to promote better digestion, more enjoyment of our food, and a great sense of gratitude. In this short video I explain how to use tapping before we eat. Click here to read what others have to say or add your own thoughts and comments. I would really love to hear what you think! Video Transcript Hi! This is Gene Monterastell, the Editor of TappingQandA.com and welcome to ...
The Great Visualization Hoax – A 4 Step Tapping Plan Of Attack
Question: I would like to use visualization and law of attraction principles with my tapping. How can I do that? [NOTE: I have a feeling this article is going to ruffle a few feathers. The science cited is far from definitive, but very interesting. I would love your feedback on this so please let me know your thoughts.] The tool that is cited the most in the LOA community is visualization. "If you can see it, you can be it." Personally, I have always been a little skeptical. I ...
Pod #73: Why I Hate The Word Manifest – A Conversation About What We Create, What We Responsible For, and How To Make Choices
There is a lot of talk about the idea of what we manifest in our lives, both positive and negative. I personally think that we pay too much attention to manifesting and attracting and give nowhere near enough credit to personal choice and response. In this conversation with my friend Jondi Whitis we talk about what we can control, what we create, and what we are responsible for. This is just one point of view and I would love to hear your thoughts on the topic. What are your thoughts on ...
TapAlong: It Doesn’t Always Have To Be Hard
There is a very American ethic that says that if something is worth having it is worth working hard for. Great virtue is attached to working hard so that you are able to say you "deserve" what you received. I have nothing against hard work, but it doesn’t always have to be hard. I take flights because it is much easier than travelling in a covered wagon. I use my stove because it is easier than cooking over a campfire. I shop for food because it is easier than farming. We often feel bad about ...
Tapping Ninja Video – Knock Out The Last Little Bit w/ The Collarbone Eye-Roll
Sometimes when we tap we are able to reduce our SUDs level down to less than a two, or to the point where it feels like just a shadow of the issue. When this happens there is a very simple way to knock out that last little bit. In this video I explain how to do this. Click here to read what others have to say or add your own thoughts and comments. I would really love to hear what you think! Video Transcript Hi! This is Gene Monterastelli, the Editor of ...
Things Your Heart/Emotional Self Needs To Hear
[Note: This is part 3 of a 5 part series. When all five parts are published you will be able to find them at Talk To The System. When we are learning the basics of tapping we are taught the more specific we can get the more effective the tapping is going to be. This is not only true for specific issues, but also specific parts of the system. I was inspired by the exercise I call "The Grounding Process" to look at each part of our system and tap for it.] Our hearts are powerful. In a moment ...
Pod #72: Strengthening Romantic Relationships with Tapping/EFT w/ Alina Frank
Our romantic relationships take up a great deal of our time and energy. They can bring us great joy and great frustration (and sometimes both at the same time). Even though each relationship is a new and different experience we can find ourselves falling into the same patterns. Some repeat themselves from relationship to relationship, whilst others keep repeating themselves inside the same relationship. In this interview with Alina Frank we talk about how we can identify these patterns and how ...
TapAlong: Being Judgmental Of Others
Wayne Dyer said, “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.” I am much more judgmental of others than I would like to admit. I think I am a kind person. I think I give others the benefit of the doubt. But there are times when I judge others too quickly. I don’t do this because of who they are, but because of who I am. Often when I am judging others it is because they remind me of something in myself that I don’t like. I don’t like to be judged and I am going to work ...
Tapping Ninja Video – A Question You Have To Ask Yourself When Looking For What To Change
Click here to read what others have to say or add your own thoughts and comments. I would really love to hear what you think! Video Transcript Hi! This is Gene Monterastelli, the Editor of tappingqanda.com and welcome to another Tapping Ninja video. We call them Tapping Ninja videos because these are simple small techniques that you could add to your tapping protocol to make your transformation and your work more effective and last longer. Today what I'd like to offer you is the most ...
Talking Emotions and Tapping With Kids /w Jondi Whitis
I want to talk to my kids about their emotions and to teach them to tap, but I don't know how to start. Do you have any recommendations? I love tapping with kids, but not everyone is as comfortable as I am working with them. I had a chance to chat with Jondi Whitis of TappingStar about how to talk to kids about emotions, tapping, and what adults can do better when talking to kids about their emotions. I hope you enjoy this interview! ...
You Have No Choice! Just Give-Up Right Now!
[In this series we examine the importance of the words we use and how changing our vocabulary can change our mind, giving us opportunity for transformation. More articles can be found in this series @ Tools: Words] photo by Alberto G. With my day job I spend a lot of time talking to high school kids about the choices they make. When talking about their lives they often use the phrase, "I had no choice but to..." I hear it from my clients as well. "I had to. I had no ...
Pod #71: Using Metaphors For Healing w/ Rue Hass
When I am setting up interviews for the podcast I normally ask my guest, "What is the thing that really gets your juices flowing? It doesn't have to be what you are known for. I want to know what is exciting you right now!" Once we have agreed on a topic the guest sends me a few bullet points to help me to form questions. When I was having this back and forth with Rue Hass she said, "This is something I am really excited about and it is so new to me that I can't even send you an outline." I ...
TapAlong # 29A: I Don’t Have To Be Perfect
It is great that we spend time naming what we want our life to look like. It is wonderful that we create plans for how we are going to achieve it. But it is not going to happen the way we planned. It’s just not. Unexpected things will crop up. There will details we have missed. There will be days where we just choose to watch TV instead of doing what we need to do to move forward. And that is OK. I am not saying that we don’t need to try, but it is OK if we are not perfect. It is good for us to ...
Tapping Ninja Video – The Emotion About The Issue
Sometimes there is resistance to clearing an issue (physical, emotional, and limiting belief) because we are emotionally charged about the issue we are dealing with. We might feel disappointed in ourselves for dealing with this issue, or sad that our body has let us down. In this video we explore how to clear this resistance so clear the core issue is easer. Click here to read what others have to say or add your own thoughts and comments. I would really love to hear what you think! Video ...
Things Your Intellectual Self Needs To Hear
photo by Paul Downey [Note: This is part 2 of a 5 part series. When all five parts are published you will be able to find them at Talk To The System. When we are learning the basics of tapping we are taught the more specific we can get the more effective the tapping is going to be. This is not only true for specific issues, but also specific parts of the system. I was inspired by the exercise I call "The Grounding Process" to look at each parts of our system and tap for it. ] I ...
Pod #70: Recovering Self – A Healing Manifesto
Recovering Self: A Healing Manifesto By Gene Monterastelli A manifesto is nothing more than a statement of beliefs. This is what I believe about the healing process. This is not about tapping the tool, but what happens when we heal and transform. This is how I think when I am working with clients. Who "Recover Self - A Healing Manifesto" is For: This if for anyone who is interested in transforming their lives, healing past wounds, and people who are trying to understand how these ...
TapAlong: Being Brave When Overwhelmed Or Tired
There are times when we just don’t want to step up. It could be because we feel we have nothing left or it could be because we don’t think we are capable. Woody Allen is famously quoted as saying "Ninety percent of life is just showing up." Often all it takes is getting up and getting started. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Most of the time it doesn’t even have to be good. Just starting is enough. It gets the ball rolling and the juices flowing, and it gets us heading in the right direction. ...
Warning: Ask These Healing Questions At Your Own Risk
(For me) one of the basic tenets to all change work: If there wasn't some resistance to making change the change already would have happened. Most of the time we know what we want and we know how to get it, but we just don't take the steps needed. Something is holding us back. In most cases, we know (or falsely believe) that something is going to go very wrong if we get the change we want. Not that the change we want is bad, but it is also going to come with unwanted ...