Merlin Mann is a technologist, a productivity specialist, and a professional provocateur. I mention the last part because he has the tendency to say things that are true and useful, but in a rather blunt way. During one of his fabulous podcasts (Back To Work) he was describing a question and answer session with a group of top level executives at a very large company. One of the execs was asking about how to manage her time and her inbox. She was describing how she had so many priorities ...
Last week I met up with a friend to catch up over a couple of drinks. As always, the topic of my dating life came up. Since we had last chatted there wasn't anything new to share. Interesting first dates that didn't lead to second dates. Dates who were really interested and interesting who ended up ghosting [1]. Chances to try new restaurants and bars in the city. Really, it was just more of the same. My friend said incredulously, "I don't know what is wrong with them!" referring ...
We often find ourselves in need to tap for issues that have many aspects either because the issue is so large or because it has unfolded over a long time. For example: an auto accident that is impacting your health, your finances, and your ability to work a divorce poor financial decisions that have left you feeling embarrassed and powerless It can be tough knowing where to start and how to tap for complex issues. EFT Master Lindsay Kenny has created a simple tool using the image of a ...
We hear it over and over again in our tapping training. "The more specific you are with your issue, the more effective the healing will be." "The earlier the memory you can find related to the issue, the faster you will be able to release it." For the most part these statements are true, but what happens when you are dealing with something general, like low self-esteem, or you are working on an issue without any memories attached to it? This week I talk with Gwyneth Moss who has developed a ...
We do not live in a vacuum. We are impacted by the issues others struggle with and vice versa. The healing process is also not something that takes place independently of others. Often our fastest route to healing is by walking that journey with others. Jondi Whitis has seen the impact of trauma on a community and the impact of a community on an individual's trauma firsthand. She has worked with both the families of those directly impacted by the New Town shooting and also with veterans and ...
In all of the training I have done to improve myself as a practitioner, learning about NLP meta-models has been some of my favorite. At its simplest, it looks at the way people use language to describe the world. Often by examining the way people talk we can identify the beliefs causing distress. Here is a simple example. Recently one of my clients "Debbie" said, "Everyone at work hates me." My follow up question was, "Really, everyone?" It is possible but highly unlikely that everyone ...
There is a counterbalance to most things in life. Success to failure. Happy to sad. Action to rest. Growth to deterioration. Often when we tap we are working only on the part we see as negative, thereby addressing only half of this balance. Even though the negative side is most obvious and painful there are often tappable issues on both sides. For example, I might feel frustrated that I don't have a better job, but there is also a part of me that fears the challenges a new job might ...
The other night I had a vivid dream. It was about a group of five friends in their early 20s who moved to New York City to pursue careers in entertainment. In the dream I didn't know the five of them well but I think they were friends of a friend. I was helping them to find their way in the city, like so many did for me when I moved here. In the dream they had been in the city for a few months, they had established themselves and we were meeting for drinks. As we were chatting I kept ...
When I am tapping on my issues it is my conscious mind that most often gets in the way. The conscious mind is wired to figure out explanations for what is going on and won't rest until it has done so. This becomes problematic when the reason it has decided is behind an issue is wrong. I have seen this with countless clients. They come to me because they can't seem to get tapping to work on their issue. After a little investigation it becomes clear they had been approaching the wrong root ...
There are lots of reasons why we don't take action. In the end most of those reasons boil down to fear. We are afraid that we will fail, be judged, look stupid, show that we aren't good enough, prove that we aren't worthy of success...and the list goes on. Sometimes we are able to name our fear clearly but often it is something indistinct that is holding us back, bubbling away in the background. It makes perfect sense that fear would hold us back from taking action. Fear is a vital ...
Knowing how to tap is not enough. We need to have a plan when we approach an issue. In this interview, Founding EFT Master Gwyneth Moss shares a simple and elegant approach that you can use for every tapping session. Whether you are new to tapping or have been tapping for decades you will find this 4-step approach useful and it is so easy you can start using it immediately. Gwyneth Moss Guest: Gwyneth Moss Contact: web @ EFThelps.com; email @ contact form; web @ Annual EFT ...
Recently I was working with a client I’ll call "Devon". During our call she was giving me an update on her week and her progress with her to-do list. She said, "Things are going really well. I’m starting each day with the tapping we talked about and I’m making lots of good choices in the morning. The problem is that by the end of the day I seem to have no willpower left. Is it possible to tap for more willpower?" My answer to this was, "No and sort of." Let me explain... ...
A few weeks ago I wrote about the main reasons we don't take action is fear. Of all the fears we experience the one my clients talk about most is the fear of failure and the consequences that come with failure, such as the waste of time, feeling embarrassed that others have seen us fail, and missing an opportunity, to name just a few. The truth is that often failing is the best thing that can happen to us because of how much we learn about failure. Ready! Fire! Aim! There is a ...
I love having conversations with Steve Wells. When we started this one we decided that we’d talk about how we can use tapping to improve the quality of our working lives. In the end we used the issues and obstacles we face at work to explore a much larger topic of how we can use tapping to take action AND how we can use taking action to help us uncover those things we need to tap on. It turned into a great discussion about goals. Put simply, if you would like to take actions to improve your ...
Good morning! On Thursday something amazing happened. TappingQandA.com received its one millionth page view! It is hard to believe that a simple website that started as a hobby has grown into a site with over 550 resources and close to 100 hours of free audios. TappingQandA.com has changed my life. I have made friends all over the world, I have learned a great deal, and I hope that I have provided a resource or two that you have found useful along ...
One of the most powerful things I have done to improve my productivity is spending a few moments every morning tapping on my to-do list. When I clear away all the emotional resistance to the items on my to-do list I find myself easily able to take action throughout the day. I have also found that I do the highest value tasks first, making sure I achieve the most of my time. I was talking about this technique recently at the Spring Energy Event in New York and my friend Kris Ferraro was ...
I love the emails that I receive from my readers. (You can always email me directly.) At least once a day I receive some version of the question: "What are the tapping phrases I should use for [insert issues]?" This question is flawed in two ways. First, the words we use are not magic. There are no "right" words to tap to. (I address this in "The Most Misunderstood Part Of Tapping: The Words You Say".) Second, there are times when tapping isn't going to solve the problem. For ...
When a new animal enters a family it can be stressful for the animal and the family alike. The animal must deal with new surroundings, routines, expectations, and relationships. The family has to adjust to a change of dynamic because of the addition of a new personality. In this interview I talk with animal and tapping expert Susanne Peach about what you can do before and after the addition of a new animal to your family to make the transition easier for everyone involved. If you are new to ...
If you have been around tapping and EFT for any length of time then more than likely you are aware of Dawson Church's work. He has been on the forefront of research being done to prove tapping’s efficacy and tapping best practices. He has also been very involved in conducting research into best practice for practitioners. When I approached Dawson about doing another interview he insisted upon talking about relationships. When I asked why he said, "It is something I am really passionate about. ...
[Note: If I were to boil down the root cause for why people don't take action it would be fear. Today we are going to explore fear and how it impacts our capacity to take action.] Of all the emotions that we experience, fear is the most powerful. I don't mean that it is the strongest emotion. In my experience that is sadness. When I say fear is the strongest what I mean is that if we are feeling a number of different emotions at once, fear will override all others. ...