On the surface it might not seem like an obvious connection, but in many ways fear of failure and fear of success are the opposite sides of the same coin. Fear of failure is concerned about what goes wrong when things don't work out. Fear of success is concerned about what goes wrong when things do work out. (And, yes, things can still go wrong when we are successful.) Both fears keep us from taking action, believing it will keep us out of harm’s way. In this interview with Annabel Fisher we ...
Pod #127: Your Self-Sabotage Is Brilliant w/ Brad Yates
Self-sabotage can be so frustrating. There are times when we know exactly what we need to be doing, yet we still choose the wrong course of action. Sometimes I can see myself getting in my own way and I am amazed at how creatively I self-sabotage. If it didn't negatively impact my life I would almost think it is funny! Brad Yates uses an interesting word to describe this type of creative self-sabotage. He calls it "brilliant". It is not brilliant in the outcome that results, but it is ...
Pod #126: Lesson From Tapping With Children With Cancer w/ Deborah Miller PhD
EFT is such a powerful tool that we all know that we should "try it on anything." Even though most of us have tried it on anything we haven't taken it to the extremes. Most of have tapped for deep and powerful issues, but not in moments that are literally life or death. Deborah Miller has done just that. She works with children with cancer and their parents. She is doing more than trying it on anything, she is being successful! In this interview we talk about what all tappers can learn ...
Pod #125: EFT For Lessons And Experiences From Our Childhood That Impact Us Today w/ Jacqui Crooks
There is no question that we are impacted by our past. That seems so obvious that it doesn't even seem worth commenting on. Nevertheless I think it is easy to underestimate how some past experiences impact us. In my private sessions with clients it is amazing how often we find our way back to roots planted firmly in their childhood via current issues. We are more than impacted by our childhood experiences, we are deeply imprinted by them. In this interview I talk with EFT Master Jacqui Crooks ...
Empower The Philippines (We NEED Your Help!)
What Would You Do If You Lost Your Home In A Typhoon?
Good morning, Last November super typhoon Haiyan devastated parts of the Philippines. 12 million people were impacted directly 4 million people were displaced from their homes 1 million homes were damaged or destroyed In addition to the hardship of the destruction, I can't even begin to imagine the emotional toll an experience like that would have on me. Some of the children who lived through it described being crippled with fear every time the wind blows. My ...
Pod #124: EFT For Performance Anxiety w/ Gina Parris
It happens all the time. You know how to do something. You might have done it a ton of times before. But the moment you step in front of someone else and have to do it you freeze. You might be before a whole group of people, like giving a presentation, or just in front of one person, like in a job interview. You get tense. And sweaty. You can't remember what to say or do. You might even shake. Things that usually come easily to us are suddenly really difficult when others are watching us. In ...
You Are Acting Too Responsible AND It Is Hurting You
I'm lucky. My life is filled with caring people. People who go much more than the extra mile to take care others. They are thoughtful, they are insightful, and they often know the needs of their loved ones before their loved ones do. When I see this type of love, care, and concern I am inspired. And I am heartbroken. Give Too Much The problem that very insightful and caring people have is that because they so clearly see the suffering and needs of other that they often put other ...
The Reason You Aren’t Tapping? You Aren’t In Enough Pain
[Note: If you find listening to instruction more helpful than reading you should check out the podcast version of this topic.] I have some of the nicest readers in the world. Like anyone who has an email newsletter, people unsubscribe from my list every day. When unsubscribing there is an option to leave me a comment. Not everyone leaves one, but when they do my readers leave the nicest messages. They thank me for my work, let me know the ways in which newsletter has been helpful, ...
Why My Readers Open My Emails
A few weeks ago I sent out an email explaining why I run TappingQ&A. As part of the email I invited readers to unsubscribe from this mailing list. It's not that I wanted people to unsubscribe. It is just that I know how valuable your time is and my aim is to be helpful, not a drain on your time. I only want to be sending emails to people who find them useful. Two things happened. One, I had a higher unsubscribe rate than I normally do. Many of the people who unsubscribed explained ...
You Have Questions! I Have Answers!
Good morning! I am so excited about the live training event I am doing in March! After sending the note out last week I received a number of emails and phone calls with questions about the event, which I have answered below. If you have any other questions please let me know by replying to this email or calling 443.957.1317. As always, let me know what I can do to be helpful, PS: If you don't know what I am talking about, you can check out the full details here: ...
Pod #123: Tapping For New Year’s Resolutions That We Have Already Given Up On
In a recent Time magazine artile Jessica Lamb-Shapiro points out that only 8% of us follow through on our New Year’s resolutions, with most people giving up within a week. There are lots of reasons for this. We create goals that are too big, we don't create an infrastructure or system that will set us up for success, and we are trying to change old habits with willpower alone. It is really easy to feel frustrated with our failed attempts at change. In this week's podcast we tap for dealing ...
Gene, Stop Sending Me So Many Emails!!! (Why Does TappingQ&A Exist)
I have heard it a lot lately. "Gene, why are you sending so many emails?" Since the question has come up I thought it would be a good time to share why I send these emails and why TappingQ&A exists. Why Do I Send These Emails? There is one and only one reason I send an email. It is because I think the content of the email will be useful to you in some way. This could be for a variety of reasons. It might be instructional, encouraging, challenging, or even fun. It might be ...
Tapping To Feel Better (And Why That Isn’t Always A Good Thing)
I think one of the reasons that tapping is so appealing is because it is so easy to use and it produces relief very quickly. The first time I experienced the true power of tapping out in the wild (as opposed to being in a training session) was when I woke up in the middle of the night with a massive headache. It felt as if a dagger had been stuck into the top of my head. I started tapping. 60 seconds later I was pain free and 90 seconds later I was asleep. It is truly an amazing ...
Pod #122: Ask The Expert w/ Gene Monterastelli
In December I was the guest on the Tapping Solution's monthly ‘Ask The Expert’ call. We answered questions about anger, fear of finding work, how to tap for the fear that comes up when physical symptoms persist, how to tap for feeling overwhelmed, and what to do when we keep sabotaging our own success. Thanks to Kris (and the callers) for such a great time. If you missed the call you can hear the whole thing here. If you enjoy this type of opportunity to hear Gene answering questions about ...
The Best Of 2013 @ TappingQandA.com
2013 was the busiest year yet at TappingQandA. Thank you for taking the time to listen, read, tap along, and comment. Here are some of the best of, most commented upon, and some of my personal favorites of the year. I would love to hear what you liked over the past year! My Holiday Embarrassment - Last year during the holiday season I learned a valuable lesson about what is important to me and how I can care for others. This is worth a re-read to remind us of what we can do day to day ...
The First Tool I Teach After I Teach The EFT Basics
Good Morning! Every day I receive emails from all over the world asking me questions about tapping and how to best use to use it. As I talked about last week (last week's newsletter) I love getting these questions. To help manage my time better I set aside a couple of hours every few days to answer all the emails at once. After doing a few client calls on Saturday morning I was doing just that and something strange happened. I sent eleven emails with the exact same link in ...
You Have Been My Greatest Catalyst To Learning AND I Want To Give Back
Good morning! Over 6 years ago when I created Tapping Q & A I thought it would be a good idea to build a website around the idea of answering questions. Little did I know how good an idea that would turn out to be. At least, it was the best choice for me and my learning. Every time I sit down to write about a topic in response to a question from one of my readers I learn something. This is has made me a better tapper. I am better at tapping for my own issues and I am better ...
Pod #121: Tapping For Holiday Stress and Frenzy
The holidays can be a very stressful time. There are million things going on, we are tempted by tasty treats at every turn, and we are surrounded by people who sometimes push our buttons. In this audio we tap for: Not having enough time Feeling like we have to accept every invitation we receive The temptation of too much unhealthy holiday food The financial stress of buying gifts Holiday travel Spending time with loved ones who are very different than us The loneliness we feel ...
What If Results From EFT Are Nothing More Than The Placebo Effect?
The old joke goes something like this: Dave is complaining of headaches. After a full examination his doctor can find nothing wrong with him but Dave insists that his doctor prescribe him something. Wanting to get Dave out of his office the doctor prescribes him harmless and useless sugar pills. Dave leaves the doctor’s office happy that he has something for the pain. A week later Dave calls his doctor to report that he has been pain free since taking the pills twice a day. The ...