There are lots of reasons why we don’t take action.
In the end most of those reasons boil down to fear.
We are afraid that we will fail, be judged, look stupid, show that we aren’t good enough, prove that we aren’t worthy of success…and the list goes on.
Sometimes we are able to name our fear clearly but often it is something indistinct that is holding us back, bubbling away in the background.
It makes perfect sense that fear would hold us back from taking action. Fear is a vital primitive response that kicks in when danger threatens our safety. It keeps us safe.
So fear is not the problem.
The problem is when fear shows up in the absence of danger or when we experience fear much larger than is warranted for the situation.
How Big Does The Fear Need To Be?
One of the things I love about NYC in the warmer months is cycling around the city. I put on my helmet and off I go. But that wasn’t always the case.
I can remember when I moved to Washington, DC to go to university. The first time I rode a bike in a major city was a scary experience. I was not used to being just inches away from cars or having to avoid parked cars everywhere.
I grew up in a small town in Wyoming where most cars were parked in driveways, the roads were wide, and with the exception of a few major roadways there was very little traffic.
The difference between today and my first ride in a major city is lots of experience. I don’t cycle in a carefree, thoughtless way today, but because of my experience I know which situations are dangerous and which aren’t.
The Problem Of No Experience
A lack of experience when we are trying new things is one of the reasons that fear crops up. The part of us trying to keep us safe doesn’t know how things are going to turn out so it over reacts and perceives situations as more dangerous than they really are.
The fear of the unknown creates a situation where it is very hard to take action.
How To Tap Before The Action
I find tapping before I try something new really helpful. When I spend a few moments tapping to clear my resistance and fear it allows me to move forward without feeling paralyzed or overwhelmed.
The tapping looks something like this:
I understand that I am about to try something new…And because it’s something that I don’t have a great deal of experience with…There is a part of me that is hesitant…There is a part of me that is worried this won’t work out…There is a part of me that is worried that I don’t even know the right things to be worried about…But I have done new things before…And I have done them successfully…I’m not going to rush in blindly…I am not going to be careless…Or thoughtless…But I trust myself enough to know that I will learn from this attempt…I know that I don’t have to do it perfectly the first time…The next time I do it I will do it better…And I choose to be calm and confident as I embrace this new experience.
After tapping in this fashion I know that I am more likely to take action AND with lowered stress levels my action feels more comfortable and manageable.
Clearing The Fear
If you are looking for help with clearing the fears (named and unnamed) you have before taking action I would encouge you to check out the Ruach Center where you will find over 280 tap-along audios. More than 100 of them are geared towards clearing resistance to action, which shows up in the form of fear.