The holidays can be a very stressful time. There are million things going on, we are tempted by tasty treats at every turn, and we are surrounded by people who sometimes push our buttons. In this audio we tap for: Not having enough time Feeling like we have to accept every invitation we receive The temptation of too much unhealthy holiday food The financial stress of buying gifts Holiday travel Spending time with loved ones who are very different than us The loneliness we feel ...
What If Results From EFT Are Nothing More Than The Placebo Effect?
The old joke goes something like this: Dave is complaining of headaches. After a full examination his doctor can find nothing wrong with him but Dave insists that his doctor prescribe him something. Wanting to get Dave out of his office the doctor prescribes him harmless and useless sugar pills. Dave leaves the doctor’s office happy that he has something for the pain. A week later Dave calls his doctor to report that he has been pain free since taking the pills twice a day. The ...
Pod #120: Tapping For Social Anxiety w/ Sebastiaan van der Schrier
Managing social anxiety can be difficult. It is not like the fear triggered by something like a snake we encounter in our path. Social anxiety is insidious, sitting just below the surface, and impacting our every interaction in some way big or small. Not having one specific memory to start with can make tapping for it tricky. I know this firsthand as this was the very issue that first brought me to tapping. I wish that I had known Sebastiaan van der Schrier when I started out on my own tapping ...
Roger Callahan Remembered
Recently I was sitting on a flight that was about to take off and there was a small child crying a few rows behind me. I decided to try a little surrogate tapping for the poor little guy who was having a bad morning. The person sitting next to me said, "Oh, you do that tapping thing too?" When something like this happens I always ask lots of questions because I’m curious to how people find their way to tapping. In most cases it is a family member, friend, or health care provider who has ...
The Main Reason EFT Doesn’t Work (And What You Can Do About It)
Good Morning! I don't know about you, but I love rollercoasters. One of my favorite sounds in the world is the clicking sound of the car right as you are about to reach the top of a big hill on the track. Then there is a split second of silence that feels like an eternity. The next thing you are hurtling towards the earth at what feels like a million miles an hour. As you read that last paragraph you were either thrilled or scared to death. Fear (and our relationship with fear) ...
What To Tap On Before Tapping On An Issue (Which Will Make All The Difference)
photo by Robobobobo In the discussion forum of a program I help out with an interesting question was posted this week. The poster, "Debbie", told the story of having to deal with a lizard in her house. Debbie is petrified of lizards. When she saw the lizard she started tapping and tapping and tapping. Twenty minutes later she was still suck in the fear. She didn't feel one bit better and her question was, "Why did tapping fail?" This is a really good question and a common ...
My Ego Gets In The Way Of My Healing
If you spent any time on Facebook this week I'm sure you noticed a lot of people's profile pictures were of a giraffe. This wasn’t because people love giraffes. It was because they had lost a bet. It went like this...on Sunday morning I saw this posted on a friend's Facebook wall: Here is the riddle: 3 am, the doorbell rings and you wake up. Unexpected visitors... it's your parents and they are here for breakfast. You have strawberry jam, honey, wine, bread, and cheese. What is the ...
It’s Not Your Fault – I Learned Everything I Needed To Know About Manifesting From Good Will Hunting
The most memorable moment from the 1997 movie "Good Will Hunting" is when Will (played by Matt Damon) is talking with Sean (played by Robin Williams) about his history of abuse. Will is sharing how his father beat him. Six times Sean says to Will, "It's not your fault". Again and again. "It's not your fault." Will slowly breaks down. "It's not your fault." By the end he finally believes him. It's Not Your Fault! Over the years it is amazing the range of things that my ...
What To Do When EFT Isn’t Producing Results
Good morning! When I sit down to write these newsletters I do it in a vacuum. Most of the time I am sitting at the big table in the back of Black Brick coffee in Brooklyn. My starting point is always the hope that I will produce something helpful. But I really don't know what will happen. Will you like it? Will it be useful? Or did I miss the mark? It's always fun when something I write really hits home for you. Based on the comments and personal emails I received I am ...
The 3 Stages Of Lasting Transformation
I was talking to one of my long term clients "Jesse" this week. She said, "Intellectually I get this, but I still can't seem to make the change." What Jesse is experiencing is very common. The reason that most of us find our way to tapping is because understanding something intellectually often isn't enough for us to change our behavior. In thinking about the process that most of my clients have gone through (and what I have experienced in my personal work) I have realized there are 3 ...
10 Free Tap-Along Audios To Help You Take Action (+ 10 More)
Good morning (and Happy Thanksgiving to my Canadian friends)! My friend Jasmin is in the process of raising money for ovarian cancer research and is willing to wear old silly dresses to do it! As of the writing of this note she is only 35% of the way to her goal and we need to fix that. If you donate as little as $10 to the cause (and you can give more) I will send you 10 tap-along audios that will help you to take action towards your goals. These are not available on any of my websites ...
Sometimes Tapping Is No More Helpful Than Eating Ice Cream
photo by Giuliano Maiolini Good afternoon! The other night wasn't my proudest moment. I have been a little out of sorts and wasn't feeling my best. I had ridden my skateboard (yes, I ride a skateboard) down to the 5th Street pier on the East River to do my evening prayers while looking over at Manhattan. Normally this is a great way to end the day. I am outside enjoying the fresh air blowing off the river, the beautiful view, and time to spend in thought and prayer. Maybe it was ...
Pod #119: EFT For Long Term Change Not Just Short Term Relief
EFT does a great job of helping us to feel better in the moment. In a very short time we can go from being emotionally overwhelmed to calm. But we know there is much more that can be achieved with tapping. Not only is it helpful for short-term relief but it can also help create long-term change. I had an interesting conversation with a client this week. "Jackie" was relaying the fact we had tapped for an issue a few weeks earlier, a major shift had happened when we tapped, and it was still hard ...
What Do You Mean I Don’t Want To Get Rid Of The Emotion?
Yesterday morning I posted this on the Tapping Q & A facebook page: Post by Tapping Q & A. The first comment I received in response to the post was: Isn't it really anger elimination when you tap? It does far more than manage, don't you agree? That is a great question. EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques and so that would lead us to believe we are trying to be free of our emotions. But in fact, that is not our goal. Here is my response: No, it is not anger ...
Pod #118: Using EFT To Stop Acting Like A Doormat
photo by Jim Ellwanger I recently had a great conversation with one of my clients. She started the call by saying, "I have some great news! I am no longer a doormat. I am asking for what I need. I am only helping others in a way that is healthy for me. Most importantly I am able to say 'no' to others when I want to!" After sharing this story in my newsletter many people wrote to me asking how they could achieve the same change in their own lives. There are three main areas we can ...
You Don’t Need One Minute Miracles, You Just Need To Do A Little Every Day (And Here Is One Way To Start)
photo by Matthew I have written before on how I think the way we talk about one minute miracles is bad for the EFT community. One minute miracles aren't bad, but I think they create a very unrealistic approach. Just because we don't have one minute miracles with all of our tapping doesn't mean that it we need to do a huge amount in order to see change. Often it takes a little work every day. One of the neatest examples of this that I have seen recently was in a link that Jen Dziura ...
Pod #117: Simple Energy Technique w/ Steve Wells
One of the things I love most about tapping is its flexibility. Not only can it be used on a wide range of issues, but it can be used in a numerous ways. Steve Wells and his colleague David Lake have spent years playing around with the basic EFT recipe. They asked what worked, what didn't work, and how it could be improved. In the end they created something they call Simple Energy Technique (SET) which is a user friendly collection of the best of the best techniques. In this interview Steve ...
The First Question I Ask When I Can’t Get To The Root Of My Self-Sabotage
photo by Nina Matthews Sometimes we can be in two minds when it comes to change. There is one part of us that wants the change because it knows our life will be better because of it and then there is another part that wants things to stay the same. My move to Brooklyn is a perfect example. The move has been an exciting adventure that I have been wanting to make for a really long time AND Baltimore was my home for ten years and I left behind many people I love. When we are of two ...
What To Do When It Feels Like EFT Has Lost Its Power
Good Morning! Most tappers go through the same process. They are introduced to tapping, they love tapping, tapping is really helpful...and then they hit a wall. It feels like tapping isn't as effective as it once was. After a tapping session they might feel a little better, but major changes don't seem to be showing up like they once did. I think that there is a very logical reason for this. When we first start tapping most of the issues we work on are the easy ones. Because they ...
Pod #116: EFT for Generational Work w/ Jacqui Crooks
A huge piece of who we are is where we came from. Our personality and our beliefs are shaped from a very early age by the people around us and the stories they told. We describe ourselves by our family name, our heritage, where we grew up, and our nationality. This type of connection to our past is important and healthy, but there are times when it becomes a problem. It becomes easy to use these descriptions of who we are as a way of limiting ourselves unnecessarily, for example: The men in ...