I love the emails that I receive from my readers. (You can always email me directly.)
At least once a day I receive some version of the question: “What are the tapping phrases I should use for [insert issues]?”
This question is flawed in two ways.
First, the words we use are not magic. There are no “right” words to tap to. (I address this in “The Most Misunderstood Part Of Tapping: The Words You Say”.)
Second, there are times when tapping isn’t going to solve the problem.
For example, one of my clients recently started our session with, “I am having trouble sitting down to build the website for my business. I would like to tap for that.”
I didn’t ask about emotional issues. I didn’t ask what she was afraid of. I didn’t ask about past childhood traumas with computers.
I asked, “Do you know how to build a website?”
She said, “No.”
We Hate Feeling Lost
I don’t know about you, but I really hate feeling lost and confused. And feeling stupid is even worse.
When we don’t know how to do something we are very unlikely to attempt it. On a subconscious (and sometimes a conscious) level we don’t want to waste time by trying to do something we aren’t going to be successful with. By avoiding trying we don’t have to feel lost or to feel like we are wasting time in working on a task we can’t complete.
The next time you have something you want to take action on but can’t seem to get yourself to do it try asking yourself the question, “Do I know how to do everything necessary to complete this task?”
If the answer is “no” then your response might not be tapping but instead learning what you need to complete the task (or even better finding someone who already knows how to do it and can do it for you).
There Might Still Be Tappable Issues
After you have asked the question about if you know how to do something there may still be some tappable issues to work on.
Once we realise there is something we need to learn the next questions are:
- Is it comfortable and safe to admit I don’t know how to do this?
- Is it comfortable and safe for me to ask for help?
- Is it comfortable and safe for others to know I need help?
- Is it comfortable and safe for others to see me asking for help?
- Is it comfortable and safe to learn something new?
If you answered any of these questions “no” then you do have some tappable issues.
If is it feels uncomfortable or unsafe to ask for help then you will not do it. If you aren’t going to ask for help you will never learn what you need to take action. And if you are never going to learn what you need to take action then you will never take action.
Getting Help With Knowing If It Is A Tappable Issue Or Not
If you are looking for some help figuring out if what you are dealing with is a tappable issue, as well as help tapping for the issue you uncover, I would encourage you to check out the Ruach Center.
Not only will you have access to a library of tapping tools but you will have access to over 180 tap-along audios. Over 15 of those audios are designed to help you get past your fears of asking for help. Tapping with these will lead you directly to taking the actions you want to take. Full deatils!