When I talk about the tapping work I am doing on and for myself, the phrase I always return to is "being comfortable in my own skin". When I am comfortable with who I am in a situation, it is a lot easier for me to be my authentic self.
When ...
In survey after survey public speaking finishes near the top of the list of people’s greatest fears. It’s a fear that can hold us back professionally and can cause us much anxiety and discomfort ahead of having to speak in front of groups.
Most ...
(At least here in America) one of the most common pieces of advice you’ll hear for overcoming fear is to "just grit your teeth and fight your way through it!"
That advice is plain silly!
Fear is not something we should simply muscle through. ...
One of the key reasons my clients don't take action is because of perfectionistic tendencies.
The tendencies show up because there is a part of our system that is trying to keep us safe. We are worried that if something isn't done just right then ...
There is no question that our world is becoming increasingly complicated as our down time diminishes.
Because we are being pulled in so many different directions with little time to process our experiences it is easy to feel disquieted. In extreme ...
There are lots of reasons why we don't take action.
In the end most of those reasons boil down to fear.
We are afraid that we will fail, be judged, look stupid, show that we aren't good enough, prove that we aren't worthy of success...and the ...
[Note: If I were to boil down the root cause for why people don't take action it would be fear. Today we are going to explore fear and how it impacts our capacity to take action.]
Of all the emotions that we experience, fear is the most powerful. ...
On the surface it might not seem like an obvious connection, but in many ways fear of failure and fear of success are the opposite sides of the same coin.
Fear of failure is concerned about what goes wrong when things don't work out. Fear of success ...
Managing social anxiety can be difficult. It is not like the fear triggered by something like a snake we encounter in our path.
Social anxiety is insidious, sitting just below the surface, and impacting our every interaction in some way big or ...
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My life is a little crazy right now. From the outside it looks like I am being really brave in the midst of all the craziness.
I am in the process of moving from Baltimore to Brooklyn, NY. I am uprooting my life ...
When I am working with clients one of the things I keep in mind with all behavior is that when someone makes a choice they are making the best choice they can make based on the information they have and the resource state they are in.
We can quickly ...
(For me) one of the basic tenets to all change work: If there wasn't some resistance to making change the change already would have happened.
Most of the time we know what we want and we know how to get it, but we just don't take the steps ...
[In this series we examine the importance of the words we use and how changing our vocabulary can change our mind giving us opportunity for transformation. More articles can be found in this series @ Tools: Words]
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I have recently been diagnosed with a rodent ulcer on my chest that will need surgery...or will it? I am unsure what affirmation to use in this instance. Do you have any suggestions on phrases that I should use?
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From my point of view the opposite of love is not hate, but instead fear. Fear is a very powerful force. It is very primal and is going to over ride most other emotions an thoughts. In this interview I talk with Colleen Flanagan about the many ...
I have so many emotions and memories coming up all at once that I’m overwhelmed by them. It feels like they are queuing up to get fixed! Yes, I’m glad this stuff comes up and I deal with it as it comes, but issues are tumbling out so fast they are ...
Often we are ourselves the biggest obstacle to our success. We hold beliefs that prevent us from trying, that prevent us from recognizing the opportunities we have to move forward. “Brian” was in a situation where he wanted to move forward with his ...
"According to most studies, people's number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death. Death is number two. Does that sound right? This means to the average person, if you go to a funeral, you're better off in the casket than doing the ...
This is a slightly different type of podcast. Instead of a straightforward teaching or an interview it is much more a conversation. The topic of the conversation with my friend Jondi Whitis where we talk about using tapping protocols and how we find ...
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Recently I was working with "Kelly." We had been working every week or two for 30 minutes at a time on the issue of anxiety she was feeling at work. When we started working she described the anxiety as being present ...