In Podcast #236 I answered four listener questions. Below you will find the audio of all four questions and the transcript for question #1. Please bear in mind that I speak in a slightly more informal fashion than I write, which you will notice in the transcript below. The transcript has been edited slightly for clarity. If you have a question you would like answered in a future podcast please let me know. Question: When you're doing your tap-along audios you say the words "in big and ...
A few weeks ago I put out the call for your questions about EFT and how to best use it. I received a number of amazing questions. (Note: If you would like a question answered on a future podcast please send it to me via this link) In this episode I answer questions about: The phrases I use when I tap. Surrogate tapping for the physical and emotional needs of loved ones. How to use the SUDs scale when you don't like using numbers. Saying tapping phrases out loud when you are tapping ...
When Gary Craig first introduced EFT he very intentionally presented it in a way in that encouraged others build upon his work, much in the same way he had built upon Roger Callahan's Thought Field Therapy (TFT). To stress this point, Gary named his new process Emotional Freedom Techniques. Please note the "s" on the end of Techniques, for all the different ways could be done. Matrix Reimprinting, which was developed by Founding EFT Master Karl Dawson, is one of the best known of the EFT ...
Question: I am worried that if I say negative phrases while tapping I will bring negative things into my life. How can I use EFT without having to use negative phrases? I have received this question a lot and there are few reasons why it’s such a common question. First, some people don't want to focus on the negative because they are worried that they will tap something negative into their system. When we are tapping we are not tapping anything in or anything out of our system. Instead we ...
Addiction to porn and sex can be crippling for individuals and devastating to couples. All types of addictions carry shame, but it is particularly acute where sexual and porn addiction are concerned. In this conversation Dr. Doug Weiss and I talk about the environmental conditions that can contribute to a sexual and porn addiction, the impact that this type of addiction can have, and how it can be treated. We also spend some time talking about those with partners suffering from sexual and porn ...
Before I commit to working with a new client we have a conversation to see if we will be a good fit for each other. First, I ask the potential client what they would like to change in their life. At this point they usually give me a clear description of what is wrong and I follow up by asking what they would like instead. They are often unable to answer the question because they are so stuck in their problem that they can't clearly see what they would like instead. Without a clear ...
Even those just starting out with tapping know that Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) works via the meridian system. I know that when I am explaining tapping to the uninitiated I will just say, "It is like acupuncture without needles." When Roger Callahan first developed Thought Field Therapy (TFT), the precursor to EFT, he devised a system of tapping in which specific points were matched to particular issues. When Gary Craig developed EFT he decided that instead of determining which exact ...
Many people don't know that the T in EFT stands for "Techniques", which is plural. When Gary Craig, the creator of EFT, was studying Thought Field Therapy and teaching EFT, he understood that the process would grow and change with time. Each time a new person learned tapping, they had the opportunity to add a new twist. I love the fact that tapping is constantly growing and changing. The way I use tapping today is radically different than just five years ago. I have added techniques from ...
My favorite phrase that I hear from my clients when we are in the middle of a session is "this probably has nothing to do with it, but…" and then they share some story that seems unconnected. We usually find that a story coming out of left field like this has everything to do with it. It never ceases to amaze me how much we carry our past into each moment of our lives and how much that past impacts us. I have spoken to a number clients in the last few weeks who have felt that they weren't ...
It is natural to want credit for the work that we do. Being given credit and recognition feeds our healthy human need for being acknowledged as significant. It’s normal to want to feel as though your contribution matters. Conflict can come up when we do not receive the credit we feel we deserve. When there is a sense of unfulfilled deserving it’s easy to feel hard done by, which in turn can give rise to bitterness and resentment. This week I have a tap-along audio to help you when you are ...
We can find ourselves in the middle of catastrophe in an instant. A catastrophe can impact us personally (like a fire in our home) or can involve our entire community (like a natural disaster or mass violence). When this happens we are faced with dealing with the issue in the moment and also its aftermath. In this conversation Jenn Goddard and I talk about how to respond in the moment, what to do in the short term, what to do in the long term, and how to gain perspective. We also do some ...
There is a complicated relationship between reality and what we believe about the world. We behave as if our beliefs are true. We act as if our beliefs are reality. On a subconscious level we experience our beliefs as reality, which can create complications in daily life. In this interview with Steve Wells we talk about: the five categories of beliefshow these beliefs impact us day to dayhow to identify beliefs that are inaccurate or no longer usefulhow to transform unuseful or unhealthy ...
Responding to the consequences of sexual violence is complicated. First, it can affect those parts of life related to sexuality, intimacy, and relationships. Second, sexual violence doesn't have include physical violence to be damaging and violating. There are many times when victims don't recognize that they have been victimized. In this conversation with Alina Frank we talk about the ways that sexual violence can impact lives and how we can work towards healing these wounds. This is a frank ...
When we are in the middle of a strong emotion it is hard to believe that our emotional state is a choice. In those moments it feels like an outside force has taken over our body and our experience. It is possible for us to gain more control over our emotional state and even get to a point where we are able to choose our emotional response. In this conversation Deborah Miller and I talk about how we are impacted by our emotions, what we can learn from that, and how we can change negative ...
We have control over very little in this world. We can control our thoughts, actions, and emotional responses. And that is about it. Because of this it is easy to feel overwhelmed by the barrage of negative news (of which we have had more than our fair share this week). When I am able to recognize what I do control and how powerful that control can be in my own life, the easier each moment is and the more powerful my action becomes. Here is a simple tap-along to help lift your mood (and ...
Before I ask a client what they want, I first ask them what they don't want. We are often unclear about what we want. We only know and want to stop what is uncomfortable, disappointing, and displeasing. In this conversation with EFT Founding Master Carol Look we talk about how we can use tapping to get clear about what we want and how to trust our judgment when we are making choices. This may seem like a simple and obvious skill to master, but once you do it will make a huge difference in ...
When I talk about the tapping work I am doing on and for myself, the phrase I always return to is "being comfortable in my own skin". When I am comfortable with who I am in a situation, it is a lot easier for me to be my authentic self. When I am my authentic self, I don't make perfect choices, but I am much more likely to make the choices and take the actions that I will be happy with in the big picture. A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to present at the Spring Energy Event ...
The first set of EFT training videos were recorded by Gary Craig over 20 years ago. Gary developed EFT after he trained with Roger Callahan in the tapping protocol Thought Field Therapy, which was developed 10 years prior to that. In the last 30 years there have been many names for and many presentations of tapping. This week I have a conversation with Gwyneth Moss about whether or not there are right or wrong ways to do tapping. Gwyneth Moss Guest: Gwyneth Moss Contact: web @ ...
One of the easiest ways to tap for an issue is by using the storytelling or movie techniques where you are tapping and working through the basic facts of the story. It can be harder to tap on your own when you don’t have a specific story to tap on. When we feel an emotion strongly but it is not attached to one particular event or situation, it can be hard to find a story to tap through. Here is a simple process you can use to tap on an emotion when you are in this position. This is also ...
Animals are highly perceptive when it comes to understanding human emotion. So much so that many animals will pick up and take on the emotions of the humans they are with the most. In this week's podcast I have a conversation with Susanne Peach who has dedicated her career to working with and tapping for animals. She shares what happens when animals take on the emotions of their human companions and how best to tap for them. Susanne Peach Guest: Susanne Peach Susanne's Contact Info: ...