Many people don't know that the T in EFT stands for "Techniques", which is plural. When Gary Craig, the creator of EFT, was studying Thought Field Therapy and teaching EFT, he understood that the process would grow and change with time. Each time a new person learned tapping, they had the opportunity to add a new twist. I love the fact that tapping is constantly growing and changing. The way I use tapping today is radically different than just five years ago. I have added techniques from ...
My favorite phrase that I hear from my clients when we are in the middle of a session is "this probably has nothing to do with it, but…" and then they share some story that seems unconnected. We usually find that a story coming out of left field like this has everything to do with it. It never ceases to amaze me how much we carry our past into each moment of our lives and how much that past impacts us. I have spoken to a number clients in the last few weeks who have felt that they weren't ...
It is natural to want credit for the work that we do. Being given credit and recognition feeds our healthy human need for being acknowledged as significant. It’s normal to want to feel as though your contribution matters. Conflict can come up when we do not receive the credit we feel we deserve. When there is a sense of unfulfilled deserving it’s easy to feel hard done by, which in turn can give rise to bitterness and resentment. This week I have a tap-along audio to help you when you are ...
We can find ourselves in the middle of catastrophe in an instant. A catastrophe can impact us personally (like a fire in our home) or can involve our entire community (like a natural disaster or mass violence). When this happens we are faced with dealing with the issue in the moment and also its aftermath. In this conversation Jenn Goddard and I talk about how to respond in the moment, what to do in the short term, what to do in the long term, and how to gain perspective. We also do some ...
There is a complicated relationship between reality and what we believe about the world. We behave as if our beliefs are true. We act as if our beliefs are reality. On a subconscious level we experience our beliefs as reality, which can create complications in daily life. In this interview with Steve Wells we talk about: the five categories of beliefshow these beliefs impact us day to dayhow to identify beliefs that are inaccurate or no longer usefulhow to transform unuseful or unhealthy ...
Responding to the consequences of sexual violence is complicated. First, it can affect those parts of life related to sexuality, intimacy, and relationships. Second, sexual violence doesn't have include physical violence to be damaging and violating. There are many times when victims don't recognize that they have been victimized. In this conversation with Alina Frank we talk about the ways that sexual violence can impact lives and how we can work towards healing these wounds. This is a frank ...
When we are in the middle of a strong emotion it is hard to believe that our emotional state is a choice. In those moments it feels like an outside force has taken over our body and our experience. It is possible for us to gain more control over our emotional state and even get to a point where we are able to choose our emotional response. In this conversation Deborah Miller and I talk about how we are impacted by our emotions, what we can learn from that, and how we can change negative ...
We have control over very little in this world. We can control our thoughts, actions, and emotional responses. And that is about it. Because of this it is easy to feel overwhelmed by the barrage of negative news (of which we have had more than our fair share this week). When I am able to recognize what I do control and how powerful that control can be in my own life, the easier each moment is and the more powerful my action becomes. Here is a simple tap-along to help lift your mood (and ...
Before I ask a client what they want, I first ask them what they don't want. We are often unclear about what we want. We only know and want to stop what is uncomfortable, disappointing, and displeasing. In this conversation with EFT Founding Master Carol Look we talk about how we can use tapping to get clear about what we want and how to trust our judgment when we are making choices. This may seem like a simple and obvious skill to master, but once you do it will make a huge difference in ...
When I talk about the tapping work I am doing on and for myself, the phrase I always return to is "being comfortable in my own skin". When I am comfortable with who I am in a situation, it is a lot easier for me to be my authentic self. When I am my authentic self, I don't make perfect choices, but I am much more likely to make the choices and take the actions that I will be happy with in the big picture. A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to present at the Spring Energy Event ...
The first set of EFT training videos were recorded by Gary Craig over 20 years ago. Gary developed EFT after he trained with Roger Callahan in the tapping protocol Thought Field Therapy, which was developed 10 years prior to that. In the last 30 years there have been many names for and many presentations of tapping. This week I have a conversation with Gwyneth Moss about whether or not there are right or wrong ways to do tapping. Gwyneth Moss Guest: Gwyneth Moss Contact: web @ ...
One of the easiest ways to tap for an issue is by using the storytelling or movie techniques where you are tapping and working through the basic facts of the story. It can be harder to tap on your own when you don’t have a specific story to tap on. When we feel an emotion strongly but it is not attached to one particular event or situation, it can be hard to find a story to tap through. Here is a simple process you can use to tap on an emotion when you are in this position. This is also ...
Animals are highly perceptive when it comes to understanding human emotion. So much so that many animals will pick up and take on the emotions of the humans they are with the most. In this week's podcast I have a conversation with Susanne Peach who has dedicated her career to working with and tapping for animals. She shares what happens when animals take on the emotions of their human companions and how best to tap for them. Susanne Peach Guest: Susanne Peach Susanne's Contact Info: ...
As humans, one of our natural dispositions is to create stories about why the world functions the way it does. This is a primitive skill that kept our ancestors safe. For example, when we see tracks in the mud we write the story "These tracks were created by a large animal that will mistake me for dinner. I had better walk in the other direction." Because the function of these stories is to keep us safe, our subconscious mind is not satisfied if we don't have a story and will create one in its ...
One of the reasons that EFT is so powerful is because of how easy it is to use, anytime, anywhere. You don't need someone else to tap with and it is super easy to have a daily tapping practice. But sometimes that is not enough. Sometimes you need help from the outside. It can also be beneficial to take time away from your daily life to work in a concentrated way. This week I talk with Joanne Callahan about the importance and power of going on a healing retreat. Joanne Callahan Guest: ...
Tired Of Superficial Results, Being Unsure Of Core Issues, And Healing That Just Doesn't Last? Over 8 1/2 years ago when I created Tapping Q & A I thought it would be a good idea to build a website around the idea of answering questions. Little did I know just how good an idea that would turn out to be. At least, it was the best choice for me and my learning. Every time I sit down to write about a topic in response to a question from one of my readers I learn something. This is ...
Just because you know the basics of EFT doesn't mean that you can use it effectively when tapping on your own. This week in the podcast I talk to Ann Adams, who I believe is one of the best EFT trainers in the world. In our conversation we talk about the roadblocks people run into when they are tapping on their own. In her typical fashion, Ann provides very practical ways to be more effective with your tapping. Even if you are an old pro with tapping you will find ways to be more ...
Social media is a reality of modern life. In itself it isn't good or bad, it is simply a tool we can use. On one hand, social media channels can help us to find useful information, stay connected to loved ones, and connect with like-minded people we wouldn't otherwise have met. On the other hand, social media can create an overwhelming flood of information. Every time we check in we can see how others are doing so much better than we are, which can create feelings of shame and a bad case of ...
If I were to sum up all of my own personal development work for the last decade I would say it has been a process of becoming more "comfortable inside of my own skin". For me that phrase describes not only being OK with myself, but being in a place where I recognize my own worth and feeling comfortable in acknowledging that worth. When I operate from that mindset I find that my daily life is easier and I make better choices. When author Gala Darling talks about the same concept she uses the ...
There is an interesting phenomena that crops up when using EFT. Sometimes you can be using tapping successfully for a while, but then it stops working. There are two main reasons why this happens. In this week’s podcast we are going to explore both of these reasons and what you can do to make your tapping effective again. ...