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Pod #204: EFT For Growing Positive Emotions

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The Center For Nonviolent Communication created one of my favorite tools, the feelings inventory, which I used a great deal when working with the incarcerated. I found that the men I had the opportunity to work with lacked vocabulary when it came to describing emotions. Even though their emotional experience was highly nuanced, they had only a very limited way of talking about it. Talking about and creating change is difficult with a limited emotional vocabulary because our experience can only ...

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What You Are NOT Doing Is Breaking My Heart

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A few weeks ago I was tapping with one of my clients for a deep ache she was feeling in her heart. The situation: she was in the process of filling up one of her programs and was having lots of conversations with prospective clients who would be perfect for it. They would commit to the program, get really excited...and then back out at the last minute. My client said, "It's not that I am worried about the loss of the sale but my heart aches over the fact that they are so close ...

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Pod #203: EFT For Confidence

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In my own life I have found that my level of confidence has less to do with how good I am at something and much more to do with how comfortable I am with myself at a given moment. I think it is a mistake to believe that all we need to do is get better at something to be more confident. In reality confidence is all about who we allow to be the judge our success. No matter how good we are we will not feel confident if we judge success based on what others think. This week we tap to shift ...

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Facing My Fears Unexpectedly Led To Action

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The Cost Of Looking Fear In The Eye Last year I spent some time trying to figure out what my next venture would be. Working on a new project that calls on my creativity feeds my soul. The project I was considering was a new podcast called "Facing Fear". My plan was to record a weekly podcast where I would explore one of my deepest, darkest fears. I’m talking about the kind of fears that would have me tossing and turning for hours in the middle of the night. Fears like: There is ...

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Pod #202: EFT For Not Being Ashamed Of Your Dreams

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"In most pursuits, one's self is one of the biggest hurdles to get over. You can't pursue something and be committed to it if you're apologizing for it at every party." – Lisa Kudrow, Vasser Commencement Address, 2010 For some reason part of us believes that it is not proper to want more. Maybe it is because we recognize that we already have it better than so many other people. Maybe it is because we have been taught that we should know our place. Maybe it is because we don't want to jinx our ...

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Pod #201: How To Make EFT A Daily Habit

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As we move into the new year I am guessing you are like most people as you consider the goals you want to achieve in 2016. EFT can be such a powerful tool in helping you make the changes you want in life and will have the highest impact when used daily. Here is what you can do to set yourself up for success in the new year by establishing EFT as a habit. ...

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Pod #200: What To Do When Your Speaking Voice And Your Inner Voice Are In Conflict While Tapping

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I hear it all the time from my clients when we are tapping together. We’ll finish a round of tapping and they will report that while we are tapping their critical voice is saying the exact opposite to our tapping phrases. I know how frustrating this can feel, but in reality it is one of the best outcomes to happen when you are tapping. That seems counterintuitive, but it is quite true! Listen here to see why and how you can leverage this to get more out of your tapping. ...

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Pod #198: EFT For Beating Yourself Up Over Your Past

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As humans we are skilled at learning from our past. This also means that we can be overly critical and spend too much time beating ourselves up over poor choices we have made in the past. Part of us resists self-forgiveness because of the concern that we will repeat the same mistake over and over again. Here is a tap-along audio to help you stop beating yourself up for the past and know that you have learned the lessons from your mistakes. ...

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Pod #197: EFT For Resisting Doing EFT

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There is an amazing contradiction that exists for most people who use EFT. On one hand we know how powerful it is. On the other hand we don't use it as much as we could. I have even heard many clients report that there are times when they actively resist tapping. Just last week I had a client tell me: I knew I should tap because my emotions were getting the best of me. While thinking this there was a part of me that just said "No! I refuse to tap." It was almost as if there was a small child ...

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Pod #196: EFT For Seasonal Overwhelm (w/ Tap-Along)

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Here in the United States the unofficial beginning of the holiday season kicks off tomorrow with Thanksgiving. As much fun as the holiday season is, it can also feel stressful and overwhelming. There is a never-ending list of tasks that need to be done to prepare for the holidays AND it seems like there is another holiday party to attend every night of the week. It can quickly feel like too much. Here is a simple tap-along audio help you manage the holiday craziness. ...

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Pod #195: EFT To Stay Healthy During Cold And Flu Season

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It is that time of year again (at least in the northern hemisphere) where every time you turn around there is another person coughing or sneezing. I have found tapping is a great way to keep these seasonal bugs at bay and to help to get healthy once you have gotten sick. This week I have the tapping script I use to get and stay health. I have provided both a pdf and audio of the script. Please feel free to share these as far and wide as you would like. Download the tapping script pdf! ...

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Pod #194: Where To Start An EFT Session

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One of the most common questions I receive is "Where should I start? I have so many issues to tap on that I feel paralyzed. What should I do?" This is a great question. The truth is there is no one place to start, but it is much more important that you do start. I know how intimidating tapping can feel the first time you are trying it on your own. You want to get it exactly right. You feel self conscious because you it feel and looks weird. As you do it, you will feel more comfortable. As you ...

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Pod #193: EFT for Self-Respect

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Recently I was reminded of the Joan Didon quote “Self-respect is a discipline, a habit of mind that can never be faked but can be developed, trained, coaxed forth.” I find this quote so encouraging because helps me to recognize that self-respect is a point of view about myself that I can cultivate. This week I have for you some tapping that will help you (and me!) recognize that we are worthy of self-respect. Below you will find both a tap-along audio and the tapping script. I choose to know ...

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Pod #192: EFT For The Fear Of Public Speaking w/ Tania A. Prince

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In survey after survey public speaking finishes near the top of the list of people’s greatest fears. It’s a fear that can hold us back professionally and can cause us much anxiety and discomfort ahead of having to speak in front of groups. Most basic tapping and EFT trainings teach that when we fear something we should look for the first time we had a bad experience. The problem with doing this when it comes to public speaking is that often the moment in our past that taught us that public ...

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Pod #191: EFT For Getting Past Fear w/ Mary Ayers

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(At least here in America) one of the most common pieces of advice you’ll hear for overcoming fear is to "just grit your teeth and fight your way through it!" That advice is plain silly! Fear is not something we should simply muscle through. Instead, it is a primitive emotion that does everything it can to keep us safe. This week I have a conversation with Dr. Mary Ayers who was in exactly that situation. She had to do something that scared her and was told by those around her that she just ...

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Do You Own A Smartphone? – Introducing The TappingQ&A App

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Over the last few months I have been working on (OK, I hired someone to work on) a Tapping Q & A app for both Android and Apple smartphones. Both of them are now available. In addition to having access to all the free resources on TappingQandA there will also be some app only exclusives. You can download the app here: Apple App Google/Andriod App Once you download it, send me an email from inside the app and I will send you a free tap-along audio. Let me know what you ...

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Pod #190: Perfectionism, Self-Forgiveness, & EFT

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Perfectionism is tricky. At its core perfectionism is motivated by wanting everything to be just perfect, because when everything is perfect it becomes manageable. Making life manageable is great but the problem is that it will never be perfect. And when things are not perfect we can very easily fall into beating ourselves up for “failing” to meet impossible standards. This week I have a tap-along to help us be gentler with ourselves for not being perfect, and to forgive ourselves for being ...

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Pod #189: EFT For The Burdens Of Others

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It is not uncommon for us to pick up the emotional beliefs or emotional burdens of our loved ones. In most cases we don't even realize we are doing it. Emotional beliefs are often formed when we are children because we are so impressionable at a young age. We usually shoulder the emotional burdens of loved ones out of the desire to care for or protect them. At a certain point we realize that we must let these go in order to be healthy. This week I have a tap-along to help you to release ...

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Pod #188: EFT for Grief w/ Sherry O’Brian

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There two common misconceptions in understanding how grief affects us. First, many people believe that the 5 stages of grief as defined by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) are the way humans always experience grief. Second, many people believe that grief is only experienced around extreme events, such as the death of a loved one. Grief is a much more complicated and subtle process than those two perceptions would lead us to believe. In this week's ...

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