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Pod 246: Why It Is Important to Be Selfish

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Note: This week's topic is so important that I have written an article and recorded a podcast. The article shares the same ideas, but is not a transcript of the podcast. This way you can choose the form that works best for you. The tapping script is identical in both the article and podcast. I think that being selfish gets a really bad rap. Most people think that being selfish is bad and we are taught from a young age to be giving and not selfish. Personally I don’t believe that being selfish ...

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Pod #245: “What If” Tapping w/ Julie Schiffman

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When we are in a great deal of emotional or physical pain it can be a struggle to believe it can get better. We might believe that our situation can be manageable, but we have lost hope in true transformation. Once we feel hopeless, our natural state is not to take action. Subconsciously we understand that if better isn't possible, then taking action will be a waste of time. We choose to do nothing in order to save fruitless effort. Julie Schiffman has come up with the perfect tapping tool ...

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Pod #244: Sharing EFT With Conservative Communities w/ Manal Khalife

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Anything that is new and different takes time to be accepted into the mainstream. EFT is no different. EFT has the added hurdle of often being paired with other practices and modalities that are outside the mainstream. In this conversation I talk with Manal Khalife about how we can best present EFT to individuals and communities who would not see the value of tapping, and might even perceive it as dangerous. Manal Khalife Guest: Manal Khalife Contact: Web @ ManalKhalife.com/; twiter ...

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Pod #243: EFT For When We Are Waiting On Others To Make A Choice

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There is so much of the world that we do not control. We are surrounded by people, just like us, who are making choices and exercising their free will. In many ways, we can't escape the impact of other people's choices, especially when we are collaborating with others. That means we often have to wait on someone else to make a choice so that we can move forward with what we want to do. We can be worried that they will make a choice that we don't like OR we can feel stuck because we can't do ...

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Pod #242: EFT for Peak Performance w/ Gina Parris

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Once we have learned a basic skill, our ability to be successful while doing that skill is very dependent on how we are feeling at the time of performing the action. If we feel confident, we will perform to the best of our ability and will be able to handle problems with grace and ease. If we feel worried or overwhelmed, we will make mistakes and not perform at our best. Gina Parris works closely with business professionals and athletes to help them to work at their peak state. In this ...

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Pod #241: Love, The Primitive Brain, and EFT w/ Rick Wilkes

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Fear is one of our most primitive defense mechanisms. It is the reason that humans as a species exist. Our ability to notice danger and to feel are what keep us safe. The problem is that we don't live in the same world we did 10,000 years ago. We no longer need to be on guard at all times for fear of being eaten by wild animals. The way we feel fear has not evolved to match the world we live in. Because of this, our subconscious disposition is towards fear. This makes openness, connection, ...

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Pod #240: EFT Creating Helpful And Healthful Boundaries

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Healthy boundaries are important for our wellbeing, both in the short and long term. The struggle comes when we encounter someone in pain. As caring people it can feel cold and heartless to create a boundary of any sort in this setting. This week I talk about how to create boundaries in a way that allows us to be loving, supportive people while also taking care of our own health. Then we do some tapping for the resistance to creating boundaries. Below the player you will find a printable ...

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Pod #239: Using EFT With The 12 Step Process w/ Gloria Arenson

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Tapping is a very effective tool for working with addictions. 12-step programs are very effective for working in addictions. What would happed if you combined the two? That is exactly what is covered in this interview. Gloria Arenson has decades of experience working with both and she talks about how the two approaches can complement each other. Gloria Arenson Guest: Gloria Arenson, MS, LMFT, DCEP Contact: web @ GloriaArenson.com; facebook @ gloria.arenson; twitter @ glotao About: ...

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Do I Have To Say The Phrases Out Loud When I Use EFT?

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In Podcast #236 I answered four listener questions. Below you will find the audio of all four questions and the transcript for question #4. Please bear in mind that I speak in a slightly more informal fashion than I write, which you will notice in the transcript below. The transcript has been edited slightly for clarity. If you have a question you would like answered in a future podcast please let me know. Question: I would like to know whether it is best to talk out loud when you're ...

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Pod #238: EFT for Postpartum Depression w/ Manal Khalife

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The emotional journey that mothers go through during the birth of their children is increasingly better understood. Birth is not only a physically taxing process, but it also takes a significant emotional toll. Because there is now a tiny little human that needs so much attention, it is very common for mothers to neglect their self-care. In many cases mothers even feel guilty for having any needs at all. This week I have a conversation with Manal Khalife about postpartum depression and how we ...

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What To Do When The SUD Scale Doesn’t Work For You

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In Podcast #236 I answered four listener questions. Below you will find the audio of all four questions and the transcript for question #3. Please bear in mind that I speak in a slightly more informal fashion than I write, which you will notice in the transcript below. The transcript has been edited slightly for clarity. If you have a question you would like answered in a future podcast please let me know. Question: For people who don't like numbers and tend to measure intensity in very ...

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Pod #237: EFT For When We Don’t Want To Be Noticed

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There are times in our lives where we feel out of place in the world. We feel we don't belong because we don't believe we are smart enough, popular enough, attractive enough, or something else enough. When this happens to me there is a small part inside my mind that wishes the earth would just open up and swallow me whole, so I don’t have to be seen. Here is a tap-along for such moments, with the tapping script written out below. I recognize the fact that there are times where I feel like I ...

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How To Tap For Your Loved Ones

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In Podcast #236 I answered four listener questions. Below you will find the audio of all four questions and the transcript for question #2. Please bear in mind that I speak in a slightly more informal fashion than I write, which you will notice in the transcript below. The transcript has been edited slightly for clarity. If you have a question you would like answered in a future podcast please let me know. Question: How can we use tapping as a remedy for others who lack confidence and ...

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Transformation As A Process, Not A Single Giant Step

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In Podcast #236 I answered four listener questions. Below you will find the audio of all four questions and the transcript for question #1. Please bear in mind that I speak in a slightly more informal fashion than I write, which you will notice in the transcript below. The transcript has been edited slightly for clarity. If you have a question you would like answered in a future podcast please let me know. Question: When you're doing your tap-along audios you say the words "in big and ...

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Pod #236: Your Questions about EFT Answered

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A few weeks ago I put out the call for your questions about EFT and how to best use it. I received a number of amazing questions. (Note: If you would like a question answered on a future podcast please send it to me via this link) In this episode I answer questions about: The phrases I use when I tap. Surrogate tapping for the physical and emotional needs of loved ones. How to use the SUDs scale when you don't like using numbers. Saying tapping phrases out loud when you are tapping ...

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Pod #235: Comparing Matrix Reimprinting with EFT w/ Karl Dawson

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When Gary Craig first introduced EFT he very intentionally presented it in a way in that encouraged others build upon his work, much in the same way he had built upon Roger Callahan's Thought Field Therapy (TFT). To stress this point, Gary named his new process Emotional Freedom Techniques. Please note the "s" on the end of Techniques, for all the different ways could be done. Matrix Reimprinting, which was developed by Founding EFT Master Karl Dawson, is one of the best known of the EFT ...

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Will Tapping To Negative Phrases Manifest Negative Outcomes?

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Question: I am worried that if I say negative phrases while tapping I will bring negative things into my life. How can I use EFT without having to use negative phrases? I have received this question a lot and there are few reasons why it’s such a common question. First, some people don't want to focus on the negative because they are worried that they will tap something negative into their system. When we are tapping we are not tapping anything in or anything out of our system. Instead we ...

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Pod #234: EFT for Sexual and Porn Addiction w/ Dr. Doug Weiss

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Addiction to porn and sex can be crippling for individuals and devastating to couples. All types of addictions carry shame, but it is particularly acute where sexual and porn addiction are concerned. In this conversation Dr. Doug Weiss and I talk about the environmental conditions that can contribute to a sexual and porn addiction, the impact that this type of addiction can have, and how it can be treated. We also spend some time talking about those with partners suffering from sexual and porn ...

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Pod #233: How Our Values Impact Our Transformation w/ JB Glossinger

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Before I commit to working with a new client we have a conversation to see if we will be a good fit for each other. First, I ask the potential client what they would like to change in their life. At this point they usually give me a clear description of what is wrong and I follow up by asking what they would like instead. They are often unable to answer the question because they are so stuck in their problem that they can't clearly see what they would like instead. Without a clear ...

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Pod #232: All About The Tapping Points w/ Beth Kearns

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Even those just starting out with tapping know that Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) works via the meridian system. I know that when I am explaining tapping to the uninitiated I will just say, "It is like acupuncture without needles." When Roger Callahan first developed Thought Field Therapy (TFT), the precursor to EFT, he devised a system of tapping in which specific points were matched to particular issues. When Gary Craig developed EFT he decided that instead of determining which exact ...

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