Tag Archives: Forgiveness

It is very important to spend time doing self-forgiveness work. If we do not forgive ourselves then we are never going to move forward because we are going to be an emotional prisoner to the past. When we refuse to forgive ourselves then it is like we are reliving the past moment over and over again.

There are many steps to this process, but one of the concepts I always talk to clients about is the difference between feeling guilty and regretting what happened.

I was working with a client named “Jane”. Jane really knows Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT)/Tapping. I said to her, “I have a radical suggestion for you. And you don’t need to do it. But it is a thought. I think you need to surrogately tap for both of them!”

Her response was a loooong pause, followed by, “OK, I’m listening. Why would I do that?”

One of the biggest struggles I face in my own healing is the ability to be easy with myself. I want better for myself. I expect more of myself. I know what I am capable of better. I WANT IT NOW! This makes it very hard to be easy with myself. It is something I tap on almost daily. In this article Janet Hilts a wonderful plan on how we can be easy with ourselves.

One of the most powerful tools in transformation is our ability to forgive ourselves and others. When we forgive we are not saying it is ok. We are not saying we want to have the same thing happen again. What we are saying is that we are choosing to no longer be emotionally entangled in the past. Forgiveness is one of the steps of moving from reliving to remembering.

In this show we will explore the power of forgiveness and how we can us tapping to make forgiveness of others and ourselves an important part of our transformation.

One of the many ways we can recognize the areas of our life for healing is by looking at the part of others peoples lives that frustrate us. Here is a simple tool to turn our frustrations in to tapping phrases.

We do ourselves a disservice by thinking we are constantly in need of improvement. Our true joy can be found in being who we are.

It is difficult for us to see the people we love suffer. Often we don’t consider the consequences when we rush in to help. Our need to bring peace and comfort can over riders all other thoughts and consideration. This is not always the healthiest choice for our self in the short and/or long term.

Sometimes when we choose to help we do so by taking on the burden of our loved ones. Many times we can carry these burdens for years. Often we don’t even realize this is case or we have taken on these burdens when we were very very young, having no memory of choose to takes these burdens on.

When the burdens of others have been a part of our lives for so long they feel like they are a part of us and we don’t realize they are something that can be released.

Over the lifetime of this web site I have been keeping a very close tab on the most frequently asked questions and the most popular articles. Here are nine common topics, most of which are based on conversations with clients and e-mails from readers, dealing with why tapping works, what a person can expect during the healing process, and how to improve one’s tapping practice. Please keep the questions coming.

On June 3rd I filled in as the guest host on the EFT Class on BlogTalk Radio. The topic for the show was EFT from a Christian Perspective and my guest was John Soriano.

Sometimes the hardest word to say is “no”. We want to be helpful. We want to give. We don’t want to be seen as selfish. We want to be asked again in the future. There are so many reasons to say “yes”. But there are also many good reasons to say “no”.