This was originally written Jan 5th, 2010 and has been updated.
Author Nick Hornby was interviewed by Jesse Thorn from the radio program The Sound of Young America around the time that his new book “Juliet, Naked” was published.
In the ...
One of the most difficult parts of the healing process is being able to forgive ourselves.
It's common to believe that if we forgive ourselves, we are letting ourselves off the hook and failing to take responsibility for our past ...
I pride myself on being a thoughtful and helpful person. I like to believe that I am good at living up to my commitments.
Most of the time this is true.
BUT I am also human and I do make mistakes and unintentionally let people down.
This ...
It is difficult for us to see the people we love suffer but often we don’t consider the consequences when we rush in to help. Our need to bring peace and comfort can override all other thoughts and considerations. This is not always the healthiest ...
My favorite phrase that I hear from my clients when we are in the middle of a session is "this probably has nothing to do with it, but…" and then they share some story that seems unconnected. We usually find that a story coming out of left field like ...
As humans we are skilled at learning from our past.
This also means that we can be overly critical and spend too much time beating ourselves up over poor choices we have made in the past.
Part of us resists self-forgiveness because of the concern ...
[In this series we examine the importance of the words we use and how changing our vocabulary can change our mind giving us opportunity for transformation. More articles can be found in this series @ Tools: Words]
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photo by Abby
I was working with a client named “Jane”. Jane really knows Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT)/tapping. I said to her, “I have a radical suggestion for you. And you don’t need to do it. But it is a thought. I think you need to ...
[Note from Gene: One of the biggest struggles I face in my own healing is the ablity to be easy with myself. I want better for myself. I expect more of myself. I know what I am capable of better. I WANT IT NOW! This makes it very hard to be easy ...
One of the most powerful tools in transformation is our ability to forgive ourselves and others. When we forgive we are not saying it is ok. We are not saying we want to have the same thing happen again. What we are saying is that we are choosing no ...
Here is a tweet that I love: @robpurdie i am the things i don't like about other people.
Sometimes this is a really hard fact to admit, but I know in my own life it is true. When I am really bent out of shape by someone else's actions it is ...
Sometimes the hardest word to say is “no”. We want to be helpful. We want to give. We don’t want to be seen as selfish. We want to be asked again in the future. There are so many reasons to say “yes”. But there are also many good reasons to say ...
Dene Ballantine
There are few wounds that run deeper than being part of a decision about abortion. In this pod I talk with Dene Ballantine about how it is possible to heal this type of wound. Dene offers expertise from her own story and her ...
I have been successful with EFT when it comes to working on minor aches and pains. There are some big emotional things from my past I would like to tap on, but I am afraid. I worry that I am going to tap away my ability to feel emotions. Is EFT going ...
One of the biggest struggles in our process of growing and changing is the fact that we don’t often believe that we deserve healing.
We believe:
We have too much
We have done too much wrong
It is too late
Sometimes it is just a deep ache ...
What is the best procedure a person can take to learn how to forgive one’s self? I need to forgive myself desperately but don’t know how!
The question of forgiveness comes up a lot with the clients I work with. In the article Forgiveness Equals ...
There is someone at work who drives me crazy, always picking fights and causing lots of disharmony in the office. Changing jobs isn’t really an option for me. Is it possible for me to tap to change their behavior?
If you read most EFT websites ...
I was introduced to EFT about a year ago and I love it. I’m amazed at the way it quickly gets rid of unwanted emotions, but I’m wondering if this is always a good thing. I made some really poor choices in the past. I feel really bad about these ...
In a recent newsletter you talked about using a forgiveness poem as a tapping tool. I’m not sure what I am supposed to do. Can you give me more instruction?
photo by Pankaj
One of the reasons I love Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) ...