The human experience can be full of complications and conflicts. My clients often say things like "I am of two minds" or "My head is telling me one thing but my heart is telling me something else." It's difficult to move forward if we feel we are being pulled in multiple directions! To help navigate this, I have created what I call the Grounding Process. It is designed to move you from feeling scattered to being fully grounded by connecting your mind, heart, and physical body to your ...
Music can be so powerful at setting our mood. So much so that experiments have shown that music can dictate our interpretation of events where images are accompanied by different kinds of music. For example, grave images with whimsical music were seen as humorous, and sad pictures with silly music were perceived as funny. We have a special connection to music in our teenage years for a number of reasons: It's usually the time in our lives in which we listen to music the mostTeenagers ...
Did you know that during adolescence the brain goes through more neurological changes that it does at any point in human development? That's even more changes than during the notorious "terrible twos" and one of the reasons why interacting with teenagers can be so complicated. Being around teens can be challenging because they constantly seem to be on a giant emotional rollercoaster! This week I have a conversation with Janey Downshire who is one of the co-authors of Teenagers Translated: ...
A concept that I learned very early on in my training as a practitioner was: Our emotional response is dictated by how we describe the world, and not the way the world actually is. That's why I am constantly asking my clients for more details about how they understand what is going on in their lives. In many cases, when we are able to change the way they describe their situation, their emotions shift, even before we have started tapping. One of the words that always gets my attention, is ...
In Pod #370 last week we talked about how best to use tapping when contemplating or going through a divorce. This week I have a conversation with Melissa Beasley about abusive relationships. Between these two conversations you can see how hard it is to talk about relationships that are going badly. There is so much cultural and personal baggage around admitting that a relationship hasn't worked out and it becomes even more complicated when emotional and physical abuse is part of the ...
Divorce is a tricky subject. One one level there is all the cultural pressure to find a way of making a success of a struggling relationship. On the other, there is the desire to keep yourself happy and healthy by ending a relationship that is no longer working. Because of these opposing desires, figuring out a divorce is seldom straightforward. This week I have a conversation with Kate Anthony, a coach and the author of the "Divorce Survival Guide". We talk about the emotions that ...
A common characteristic of people involved in personal development and self-help is that they are caring and thoughtful people. As well as trying to improve their own lives, they strive to make the world a better place. Because of this, they are sensitive to other people's needs and desires and they really want to make a difference. At the same time, they tend to put other people's needs before their own and sometimes their loved ones take advantage of this. They start to feel like ...
Our internal critical voice is one of the key reasons we fail to take the action we want in life. This constant nagging voice in our heads points out all of our past failings, why we aren't capable of taking action now, and why we will fail in the future. When we have a voice inside of our head telling us this over and over again, it can become crippling. The stronger the critical voice is, the less likely we are to take action. In this podcast Jacqui Letran and I talk about why the ...
As much as I love tapping, it is not the only or best tool that we can use for our health and wellbeing. In her latest book "Energy Healing: Simple and Effective Practices to Become Your Own Healer" Kris Ferraro goes beyond the basic EFT tapping recipe and teaches many other tapping-type tools. They are all easy to learn, can be self-applied and each take less than a minute to perform. Kris shares three of those tools on this week's podcast, which you will be able to use right away. In ...
In part one of "Getting Out Of My Own Way", the ten-part guide for using tapping to eliminate self-sabotage, I shared with you tapping to use at each end of your day. Tapping is a great way to start off your day on the right foot. Ending the day with tapping helps to let go any unresolved emotions from the day and helps us to get a better night's sleep. But tapping in the middle of the day is often overlooked and can be really helpful, providing the opportunity to: Release any ...
Feeling like we don't belong is tough. It might be because we don't feel we are smart enough, talented enough, have something offer the world, or that we just don't fit in. Feeling like a fraud means that we don't contribute or speak up, we hide in the background, or we don't even show up. All of these strategies are to keep us safe because we don't want to be found out. In most cases, feeling like a fraud has nothing to do with who we are, what we can do, and what we have to offer. ...
In Recovering Sell - A Healing Manifesto I share twelve thoughts on healing. Number six is: "There is always resistance to change because if there weren't resistance, you would have changed already." As a tapper, this means that one of our most important tasks is to find the root cause(s) preventing us from taking action or making change. Lori Lamont has developed an easy tool that you can use as a practitioner, or when you are tapping on your own to uncover these hidden resistances. In ...
Grief is a topic that we don't talk about much publicly. We talk about loss. We talk about moving on. But we don't talk about grief itself. When we don't talk about and process grief, it lingers and can cause problems for us in the future. This week I have a conversation with Lynne Staley. Lynne is a tapper and certified Grief Recovery™ Specialist. In this podcast episode we cover: Why we experience griefThe difference between grief and mourningAll of the experiences that can cause ...
One the most important ideas that I try to convey to all of my clients is the fact that emotions are not the enemy. Emotions are not a problem that we need to fix. Instead, our emotions can provide us with useful information about how we are interpreting what is happening to us in the moment. The aim of tapping is not to get rid of our emotions. Instead, we are working towards understanding why we are feeling those emotions, which in turn enables us to transform our understanding so that ...
It is always encouraging to hear first-person success stories. Hearing about other people's success helps us in a couple of ways. First, it shows us what is possible. When we aren't making the progress we would like, and as quickly as we would like, it is easy to feel discouraged. Hearing about the success others have had gives us encouragement and inspiration. Second, other people's success stories offer us a great opportunity to learn. Hearing how they overcame obstacles and found ...
Tapping is a powerful tool in helping us to find relief from physical and emotional discomfort. It can reduce pain in the moment, diminish overpowering emotions, and can even help us to see a problem more clearly. As wonderful as all of this is, I believe we are missing half of the benefits tapping can provide by focusing only on finding relief. What if it were possible for us to have more than relief with tapping? A few weeks ago at the Spring Energy Event I presented two tools that ...
Through my work with clients, I have come to realize that the fear of rejection is the biggest obstacle to taking positive action in our lives. The power of this particular fear goes right to the heart of why the human species has survived. Thousands of years ago, humans were able to survive because of the protection and support of their tribe. Exclusion from the tribe would have meant facing a dangerous world alone, an almost certain death. That's why rejection stirs up this powerful and ...
Because of all of the conversations around the law of attraction and manifesting in the self help community, I often hear the concern "I don't want to say any negative phrases when I am tapping because I'm worried I'll manifest negative outcomes in my life." Given the way that manifestation in this world view is taught, I can understand how this might be a concern. To help you understand how to get the most out of your tapping, this week's podcast covers: The scientific research on ...
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) focuses on challenging and changing thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors, improving emotional regulation, and the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems. That sounds a lot like what we are trying to do with tapping. This week I have a conversation with Joan Kaylor who uses both tapping and CBT with her clients. She compares and contrasts the two approaches, highlights where they overlap, and how one can inform ...
With every passing year, more and more research is being conducted into how tapping works and its efficacy. Dr. Peta Stapleton is one of the researchers at the forefront of this work. Peta recently completed writing The Science Behind Tapping (publication date: April 16th). The book provides a brief history of tapping and a comprehensive overview of existing scientific research on tapping. Based on scientific research, it also provides a clear set of recommendations on how to get the most out ...