Did you know that during adolescence the brain goes through more neurological changes that it does at any point in human development? That’s even more changes than during the notorious “terrible twos” and one of the reasons why interacting with teenagers can be so complicated.
Being around teens can be challenging because they constantly seem to be on a giant emotional rollercoaster!
This week I have a conversation with Janey Downshire who is one of the co-authors of Teenagers Translated: A Parent’s Survival Guide. I met Janey at the EFT Gathering a number of years ago and was instantly impressed with her work in helping parents to understand and support their teenagers.
In the conversation we talk about:
- The difference between the settled and the unsettled brain (for teens and parents)
- How the adolescent brain is a work in progress
- Why teenage boys struggle to talk about their emotions
- Why teenage boys are risk seekers
- Why teenage girls struggle with fallout from friend groups
- Why parents often think something is a small deal when teens think it is a big deal
- Why the teenage years are harder than the “terrible twos”
- The goal we want for our teens: not calm, but good mental health habits that will stand them in good stead in later life
- How parents can avoid escalating conflict with their teenagers
- The best thing you can provide for your children
- What to tap on and when to tap as a parent
- How to introduce tapping to kids
If you have a teenager, spend time with teenagers, or have children who will soon be teenagers, I urge you to listen to this one.
Guest: Janey Downshire
About: Janey Downshire (Grad. Dip. Couns; Cert Emotional Literacy; MBACP) and her colleague Naella Grew are both qualified counsellors, specialising in teenage development. For over 10 years, they have worked together to design a unique range of courses for students, adults and teachers, which they deliver through their company Teenagers Translated. Their presentations distil the most current research in psychology, neuroscience, biochemistry and child development into practical, relevant strategies for their audiences. Their work aims to deepen understanding and awareness of the links between emotions, physiology, mental habits and behaviour in order to promote better communication and relationships and improve mental health, emotional regulation and wellbeing in families and schools. Janey and Naella are both parents, Janey has four children, now at university and working in London.