Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call "pro-you choices". These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 2 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series. I find that "I don't know!" is one of the hardest phrases to say. When I say it, it is easy for me to feel disempowered, incompetent, and less than. In a recent interview, actor and director ...
Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call "pro-you choices". These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 2 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series. The month of December is a super busy time of year. There are work parties, holiday parties, meals with friends, family obligations, performances, recitals...the list goes on and on. In a vacuum, ...
Sometimes we make choices that hurt others. Sometimes our emotions get the better of us, or we act thoughtlessly and cause someone else pain. Either way, it's easy to beat ourselves up for the pain we have caused. Even when we apologize and do what we can to make amends, we may still feel bad. This week's podcast covers how to tap for those times when we have unintentionally hurt others with our words or actions. We tap for feeling bad because we have caused someone else pain, for feeling like a ...
Tapping is great because it can be used on so many different issues, both physical and emotional. It works for issue from the past and worries about the future. Because the tool is so flexible, sometimes it is hard to know just where to start. You want to get the most out of your tapping and you don't want to waste your effort. When we are worried that we are going to do something wrong, such as picking the issue to tap on, it's easy for us not to take action at all. This week's podcast will ...
Note: This is Part 4 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. Often our harshest critic is the one living inside our own head. It points out everything we are doing wrong, all the expectations we are not living up to, and how we are destined to fail in the future. As hard as it is to believe, our critical voice exists because it's supposed to help us! By pointing out what we have done wrong in the past, it wants us to act differently in the future. ...
Gratitude and thanksgiving are powerful tools in helping us to be present in the moment and to help us to be even more aware of the blessings we have. But giving thanks isn't always the easiest of tasks because our lives aren't perfect. There is pain, struggle, and disappointment. This week I have a tap-along audio (and script below the player) to help us to be more thankful without being pollyannaish about the realities of our lives. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | Android | ...
Note: This is Part 3 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. Attempting to tame clutter can feel like an overwhelming task. There have been times when I've spent hours trying to clean up... I work and work and work, but somehow it doesn't feel like I am getting anywhere. When clutter persists and you just can't seem to get a handle on it, it's usually because there is an emotional issue underlying your resistance to cleaning up. This week I share ...
Note: This is Part 2 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. It can often feel like we are dealing with the same issues over and over again and when that happens, it can feel like tapping is just a giant waste of time. Our reasoning tells us that if tapping was working, the issue would be taken care of. There are three main reasons behind why it can feel like we aren't making any progress with our tapping. This week I explore these reasons and what ...
Note: This is part 1 of 5 in the Most commonly asked questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. When someone joins my mailing list, one of the two questions I ask them is, "What is the biggest issue you have when it comes to tapping?" When I started asking this question I expected to receive lots of answers about specific topics or issues that are particularly hard to deal with. I do get a lot of these types of responses, but a good 25% of the responses say something along the lines ...
One of the main reasons that people say they don't tap is because of their belief that tapping won't work. This is a reasonable concern. Tapping is weird and it does seem unreasonable that tapping on the body can provide healing and relief. When I have encountered this resistance in the past, I've asked the person who doesn't believe in tapping if they would be willing to tap on the fact that they don't believe it will work. And a funny thing usually happens...they are willing to tap on their ...
Recently I have been asked by a number of my clients about what type of daily tapping I do. My own tapping falls into three main categories: The first is a practical approach where I do some tapping for every task on my to-do list. I covered this process back in Bonus Pod #46 Second, when I have a clear idea of the exact issue, emotion, or limiting belief I'm experiencing, I use one of the 13 tools that can be found in Advanced Anger Management. As I have stated before, the book isn't really ...
Back in podcast 292 I chatted with Mark Wolynn about how we are starting to recognize the way that trauma can be passed on from one generation to the next through our genes. Recognizing that some of our issues have nothing to do with our own experience is useful because it offers us a new way to approach the work we are doing with tapping. In addition to the genetic component of trauma, our emotional understanding of our issues is also influenced by the generations before us. I have seen this ...
It makes sense that we would feel grief and sadness after the death of a loved one. But this is not the only time that we experience grief. The emotion of grief is our system telling us that we are missing or disconnected from something or someone that is important to us. This could be the end of a relationship, a missed opportunity, or when we realize that we have wasted valuable time by not acting sooner. These experiences create genuine grief, but because our definition of grief may be too ...
Recently I was talking with one of my clients. She has been doing an amazing amount of transformational work in her life. Personally, professionally, and emotionally everything was better, but she was struggling. The basic thrust of our conversation was "I know everything in my life is getting better, so why do I feel worse?" On the surface this might seem like an odd situation, but it happens a lot more than you would think. Much of it comes down to the fact that there are different types of ...
Jealousy is such corrosive emotion. It makes us think ill of others. It makes us feel bad for ourselves. I don't know about you, but it leads me to make poor and rash decisions. The worst part of jealousy is feeling the emotion about someone else, but having to deal with its negative consequences. Recently, I was at a professional training event and was so overcome with jealousy of the person presenting on stage that I could barely think straight. I was able to do some tapping in the moment to ...
One of the reasons that the human species survives is because of our innate ability to learn. Every time we experience something new, we have the opportunity to learn how the world works and how our fellow humans react to a certain set of circumstances. With each new experience, we are able to make subconscious comparisons with prior experiences. New information means we are able to update our understanding of ourselves and of the world we inhabit. There are two problems with the way that we ...
It can be difficult to remain focused on doing the work to improve your life. Sometimes you are pushing forward without seeing any progress. Sometimes the goal seem so far away that it is impossible. AND sometimes we just feel alone on the journey. When we are trying to improve our lives it's common to feel that the people around us are unwilling to do the same, and may even be resistant to the  fact that we are changing and growing our own. This can make the work of transformation to ...
This is Part 7 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we have been tapping for a specific emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. Being successful is hard enough. It becomes even harder when ...
This is Part 6 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. One of the difficulties with being successful is that success is not ...
This is Part 5 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. There is a part of us that wants to everything in exactly the right ...