One the most important ideas that I try to convey to all of my clients is the fact that emotions are not the enemy. Emotions are not a problem that we need to fix. Instead, our emotions can provide us with useful information about how we are interpreting what is happening to us in the moment. The aim of tapping is not to get rid of our emotions. Instead, we are working towards understanding why we are feeling those emotions, which in turn enables us to transform our understanding so that ...
It is always encouraging to hear first-person success stories. Hearing about other people's success helps us in a couple of ways. First, it shows us what is possible. When we aren't making the progress we would like, and as quickly as we would like, it is easy to feel discouraged. Hearing about the success others have had gives us encouragement and inspiration. Second, other people's success stories offer us a great opportunity to learn. Hearing how they overcame obstacles and found ...
Tapping is a powerful tool in helping us to find relief from physical and emotional discomfort. It can reduce pain in the moment, diminish overpowering emotions, and can even help us to see a problem more clearly. As wonderful as all of this is, I believe we are missing half of the benefits tapping can provide by focusing only on finding relief. What if it were possible for us to have more than relief with tapping? A few weeks ago at the Spring Energy Event I presented two tools that ...
Through my work with clients, I have come to realize that the fear of rejection is the biggest obstacle to taking positive action in our lives. The power of this particular fear goes right to the heart of why the human species has survived. Thousands of years ago, humans were able to survive because of the protection and support of their tribe. Exclusion from the tribe would have meant facing a dangerous world alone, an almost certain death. That's why rejection stirs up this powerful and ...
Because of all of the conversations around the law of attraction and manifesting in the self help community, I often hear the concern "I don't want to say any negative phrases when I am tapping because I'm worried I'll manifest negative outcomes in my life." Given the way that manifestation in this world view is taught, I can understand how this might be a concern. To help you understand how to get the most out of your tapping, this week's podcast covers: The scientific research on ...
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) focuses on challenging and changing thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors, improving emotional regulation, and the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems. That sounds a lot like what we are trying to do with tapping. This week I have a conversation with Joan Kaylor who uses both tapping and CBT with her clients. She compares and contrasts the two approaches, highlights where they overlap, and how one can inform ...
With every passing year, more and more research is being conducted into how tapping works and its efficacy. Dr. Peta Stapleton is one of the researchers at the forefront of this work. Peta recently completed writing The Science Behind Tapping (publication date: April 16th). The book provides a brief history of tapping and a comprehensive overview of existing scientific research on tapping. Based on scientific research, it also provides a clear set of recommendations on how to get the most out ...
As Dr. Rick Henson shared with us back in Podcast 349, it is important that we spend time not just feeling positive emotions, but reveling in them. By doing this we can do more than enjoy feeling good in the moment, we can turn it into a habit for life. For most of us, including me, spending a lot of time feeling celebratory isn't the most natural experience. Celebration can feel embarrassing. It can feel boastful. It can even feel egotistical. This week we talk and tap about how ...
Even though tapping is such a powerful tool, at times it feels as if it is just taking too long to get the results we want. In this week's podcast we are talking about: Why healing sometimes needs to happen as part of a processHow to make the healing process as quick as possible (when it doesn't feel quick at all)How to deal with the frustration of slow transformation In the last step we will tap for the frustration around our healing not happening as fast as we would like, and why ...
In this conversation with Brad Yates he shares the Zig Ziglar quote "You cannot consistently perform in a manner which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself." The quote came up because we were talking about the reasons we sometimes don't get the results we are seeking with tapping. We often tap because we want something to change in our lives. BUT if we don't believe we are the type of person who can have the outcome we want, we will sabotage ourselves to make sure we don't get ...
This post is a little different than the usual one you get from me. I am going to do three things. I am going to celebrate, I am going to share a useful challenge with you, and I am going to ask you for help. #1 Celebration! Sunday March 3rd marked the 10-year anniversary of the Tapping Q and A Podcast!!!! When I started the podcast all I had was a $19 microphone and a doohickey that I bought from RadioShack (remember them?), which allowed me to connect my landline (remember them?!) to my ...
Fear, worry, and anxiety are some of our most primitive emotions. Their main goal is to keep us safe and in some cases, alive. Because of their vital function, these emotions will override all our other emotions, ensuring that they are heard first. For the most part, this is a good thing and these emotions truly do keep us safe. Problems arise when our feelings of worry and anxiety are too intense for what is actually going on. In this week's podcast Julie Schiffman and I talk about how ...
Dr. Kim D'Eramo was frustrated that she wasn't getting the results that she wanted in her medical practice. Then she discovered tapping. Using tapping with her clients made a huge difference…but she still wasn't getting the results she wanted. Because of this she dedicated a lot of time to thinking about why some issues were more difficult to clear, and why some symptoms lingered. In this interview we talk about the two main reasons why issues don't clear with tapping. Supporters of the ...
In podcast #249 I talked to Rick Hanson about our three basic human needs for safety, satisfaction, and connection. Most of the unconscious, subconscious, and conscious actions we make are driven by one of these three needs. Tapping can be a powerful tool in helping us to make sure that we meet these needs in a healthy way. This week's podcast covers firstly how you can identify which one of these needs you are trying to meet, and then how best to tap for each of these needs. If you ...
When people are looking for long term results with tapping they commonly run into one of two problems. Either they are working on the wrong issue for their desired outcome OR they are only working on a symptom and not the root cause. If you are making either of these mistakes, chances are that you're not getting as much as you can out of your tapping practice. New York Times bestselling author Rich Hanson has done a masterful job in breaking down the types of problems in relation to our ...
Parenting can often feel like a struggle. As a parent you have a clear idea of what needs to be done over the course of day. There are meals to be planned and served, errands to be run, getting the kids to and from school, homework to be done, and all of the other tasks that fill daily life. Kids, on the other hand, lack the same sense of priorities or an understanding of the necessity of this structure, which means it can feel like hard work for their parents just to get through the ...
One of the best parts about tapping is how easily it can be combined with other tools and modalities. Recently, Steve Wells has been working using the power of intention combined with tapping to achieve deeper healing and longer lasting results. The idea of intention in this context is not about the outcome we desire (for example "my intention is to be confident speaking in public") but instead holding specific intentions about the healing process. Steve calls his new approach ...
Making mistakes can be frustrating, but it is even more frustrating when you mess something that you know you can do, have done before, but right at the moment when it's most important to get right, you mess up. Athletes deal with this problem all of the time. There are actions that they can do perfectly over and over again in practice, but are unable to perform to the best of their ability when they get into a game setting. We may not be professional sportspeople, but the same can happen ...
Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call "pro-you choices". These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 4 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series. I can't imagine not being a thoughtful, kind person in the world. I am glad that at least some of the time I am able to respond to other people's wants, needs, and suffering. But one of the ...
Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call "pro-you choices". These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 3 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series. For those of us who are of a thoughtful and caring disposition, it is natural to want to care for others. The problem comes when we spend so much time taking care of everyone else, we don't ...