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Pod #237: EFT For When We Don’t Want To Be Noticed

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Dont Want To Be Seen

There are times in our lives where we feel out of place in the world.

We feel we don't belong because we don't believe we are smart enough, popular enough, attractive enough, or something else enough.

When this happens to me there is a small part inside my mind that wishes the earth would just open up and swallow me whole, so I don’t have to be seen.

Here is a tap-along for such moments, with the tapping script written out below.

I recognize the fact that there are times where I feel like I don't belong in any meaningful way…I feel like I'm not smart enough…That I'm not good enough…That I'm not talented enough…That I'm just not enough…And when this happens I simply want to disappear…When this happens I don't want to be known anywhere…When this happens I wish I didn't have to be there at all…I feel insignificant…I feel scared…I feel like I'm only causing problems…I feel like I'm a burden…I recognize the fact that when I'm in a situation like this I'm not actually standing out…I'm not actually being noticed…Almost everybody present is too busy thinking about themselves anyway…Is too busy thinking about what is in front of them to even notice me…What is much more important is the fact that I am worthy of being there…That I do belong…That I actually do have something to contribute…The part of me that is scared remembers those times where I didn't fit in…Where I didn't belong…Or at least that's how I felt…And when we feel like we don't belong…We notice what we think is proof around us…That shows we don't belong…But there isn’t actual proof…We are just drawing a conclusion that is far from the truth…I give myself permission to know that I am no different than anyone else I am around…I am worthy of being here…I belong here…I give myself permission to trust myself…To trust that I can stand tall…To know that I am worthy because I was made worthy…My worth is something that is intrinsic…It is something that is a part of who I am…Even though there is a very young part of me that doesn't believe it to be so…This part is trying to keep me safe from all of the danger it sees in the world…I give myself permission to trust myself and to trust what is going on…Knowing that I can be seen…Knowing that I can be present…Knowing that I'm capable of doing this…I give myself permission to trust the process and to trust myself…Because there's a part of me that knows I belong…There's a part of me that knows that I am worthy…And there's a part of me that knows I have nothing to prove.

How To Tap For Your Loved Ones

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In Podcast #236 I answered four listener questions. Below you will find the audio of all four questions and the transcript for question #2. Please bear in mind that I speak in a slightly more informal fashion than I write, which you will notice in the transcript below. The transcript has been edited slightly for clarity. If you have a question you would like answered in a future podcast please let me know.

How To Tap For Your Loved OnesQuestion: How can we use tapping as a remedy for others who lack confidence and suffer from various unwanted habits and physical problems?
Kesavannamboothiri, India

This question sounds like it’s about how to tap surrogately for someone else.

If you're not familiar with the term surrogate tap, that's basically when I am tapping on myself as a surrogate in place of you. Often people will teach that we are all connected and we can heal each other. If I just tap on myself, it will have a healing effect on you. I don't know if that's necessarily the case. There isn't any specific scientific evidence that says that is possible. The study of quantum physics and the quantum mechanical principle of entrainment lead us to believe that this is something that is possible and as time passes we're discovering more and more about this. There are some interesting studies that see this as a possibility, but they're anything but conclusive.

With that being said, this is the way that I approach it.

The only thing that I truly have control over are the choices I make and my emotional responses. Sometimes I don't even have control over those. But in the best of all possible worlds, when I am in a resource-rich state and I'm doing the best that I can, that is what I can control.

I can't control you. I can't control the weather. I can't control choices that other people make. I can't control the dog down the street.

I can control myself and I can control my response.

When I try to positively impact someone around me I'm not actually going to change them because I can't do that. Instead, what I'm going to do is I'm going to change the way that I show up for them. Because if I show up in a different way, then I will give them the opportunity to make a different choice.

Here is an example to illustrate the way we show up differently and how it impacts the people around us. I travel a lot. Travel problems are inevitable. When that happens there's this long line of people who are standing up to talk to the gate agent to make changes to their ticket because things have gone wrong.

In that moment people are frustrated because they're out of control, they're depending upon someone else, and typically people don't get on planes unless it's for something important. If I'm now delayed I'm missing that important thing, or if I'm now delayed I'm missing getting home when I need to get home or when I expect to get home and it's causing me trouble.

It makes perfect sense that people will be disoriented and emotional in those moments. I observe people going up to talk to the gate agent after I've been helped. As each person approaches the counter you can see the gate agent immediately respond to the person who is in front of them based on how they emotionally show up.

If the person steps up to the counter really, really frustrated, immediately they go into defensive mode. And if the person shows up with the attitude of “This really sucks. I know this isn't your fault. Can you please help me?” even before they say those words, you can see the gate agent actually relax a little bit because they know they're not fighting with the person in front of them because the person they're talking to understands what's going on.

The way the person approaches the counter and the emotion that they are carrying gives the gate agent permission to act in a different way. The kinder they are, the more space there will be for them.

That is the way I approach tapping for others. First is how I show up emotionally. If I show up calmly and I'm not angry, or I'm not anxious, or I'm not worried, it immediately creates space for you to make better choices. The second thing is if I show up in a way in which I'm not overreacting to the way you are acting, then we're never going to be in the circumstance where anything gets escalated, and my presence and my response makes what you're doing worse.

Not that I'm taking responsibility for your choices but it's possible for me to show up in ways where it makes it easier for you to be agitated because of the way I respond to what you do. My goal whenever I want to ‘tap for someone else' is just to get myself as emotionally clear as I possibly can when I come to the situation.

The way that I do this is through a technique that I call Talk About, Talk To, and Talk As If. There's a comprehensive explanation of this in Bonus Podcast #22. In that podcast I have a much longer explanation of this process, but I'll give you a short explanation now so you can use it right away.

It happens in three steps:

  1. Talk about
  2. Talk to
  3. Talk as if

I use this protocol when I'm trying to get myself clear and I use it for an individual. I'm not doing it for people in general but for one person.

I tap the entire time through all three phases, tap, tap, tap. Just let your fingers do the walking. In the talk about phase, I'm going to imagine that I am sitting down with a friend and I'm catching up, and I'm just talking about what is going on for the person whose life ‘I'm tapping for'. I'm going to give them all the details and tell them how I feel. He is doing this and I feel that. She is not doing this and I feel that. I say this, they say that, I feel this. Just talking about what's going on and then talking about how I feel. The more detail you can go into, the better. The more emotion you can tune into, the better. Again, just talk about it and tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap.

Part two is talk to. In the talk to phase I'm going to be pretending. I don't have the person around me, they're not sitting across from me, but I'm going to imagine that I'm going to talk to this person whose I want life to be better. As I do this I share with them everything I want them to hear. And some of those things will be super-positive, “I love you…I want what's best for you…I want you to heal”. Some of those things might be super-negative, “I hate the fact that you do this and it hurts my life…I hate the fact that you're acting so selfishly that we have to pick up the pieces for you”. It can be instructive, “I really wish you would pick this up…I really wish you would try this…I really wish you would listen to your mother”. Whatever that is.

As we do this, we imagine everything we say we're saying directly into their heart and mind, and it is being heard with the intention that we are saying it. In real life we know that's not the case. I can say something and you can misconstrue it. I can say something and you can bring your biases to it. By doing it in this way I am ensuring I am putting myself in a position where I can just speak freely. I'm going to imagine you're hearing it, again, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap.

The third part is talk as if, and in this phase we're going to guess. We're not going to know for certain but we're going to guess we know why the person subconsciously is making the choices that are making. Not consciously but subconsciously. Let's pretend that we're really concerned about a drinking problem that a loved one has. Talking as if would be, “I have a feeling that you are drinking every single day after work because you feel really desperate and you feel hopeless, and you don't want to stay in your apartment alone and drinking a lot numbs the pain”.

When I say that I'm not saying it's a good choice. I'm not saying it's a valid way to act. It's not saying that you don't have to take responsibility for the bad outcome of that. I'm simply explaining from a subconscious level why they act the way that they do.

Or it could be, I have a feeling that the reason you overreact at work all the time is because in your last job you weren't taken seriously, so every time you speak up you're still fighting to be taken seriously. That’s the reason why you're so combative. I don't know if that's the case but I'm guessing. What we do is we take this part and we tune into the person and we do all three steps.

We talk about, we talk to, we talk as if. I found when we do this we show up in a very different way, which makes the relationship better, and we create space, which allows them to make healthier choices. Doesn't mean that they're always going to, doesn't mean they have to change, but we're creating the space and the opportunity for that to happen.

Transformation As A Process, Not A Single Giant Step

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In Podcast #236 I answered four listener questions. Below you will find the audio of all four questions and the transcript for question #1. Please bear in mind that I speak in a slightly more informal fashion than I write, which you will notice in the transcript below. The transcript has been edited slightly for clarity. If you have a question you would like answered in a future podcast please let me know.

Transformation As A Process, Not As A Single Giant StepQuestion: When you're doing your tap-along audios you say the words “in big and small” ways a lot. I never really connected with these phrases. Could you expand on why you use those phrases?
– Melissa, Texas

There's a specific reason why I use those phrases. Our subconscious mind is very good at making the things we experience in the world into all or nothing propositions. The reason it does this is because every single time we have to think a new thought, it costs us energy.

Thinking is one of the most energy intensive things that we do in our bodies. That's the reason why if you ever go to a training course and you're learning new things all day, at the end of the day you just feel like you've been flattened and wiped out energetically, even though the only thing you've done is just sat there and listened and taken notes. Because you're thinking so hard it is very energy intensive.

As we navigate our day, the reason we have habits is so we don't have to think. A number of studies have been done where they have taken nodes and stuck them right into the middle of the brains of rats as they are learning a maze and making the maze a habit. Once it becomes a habit, it takes very little energy for them to navigate the maze because they're simply responding to the habit they have developed.

Where that shows up in the rest of our life is it makes things into all or nothing propositions because we don't have to think. If everything is good or everything is bad about something, then there's no nuance, there's no subtlety. The instant we bring subtlety into play, it's a bad idea…except in this situation…because of these extenuating circumstances…it's actually a good idea. That takes a lot of capacity.

Don't get me wrong, that's what I think we should be doing. I think we should be thoughtful as we navigate this. When we're talking about transformation and we're tapping on the phrase “I allow myself to change this in big and small ways”, what I'm doing for myself – and this might not resonate with you and might not work with you – is I'm communicating with myself that this transformation doesn't have to be an all or nothing proposition.

Often really small changes add up into amazing things in my life…when a small change is multiplied by every moment of my day, or every moment of my week, or every moment of my life. When I use that phrase “in big and small ways” I'm encouraging my system to remember that is how transformation can happen and it doesn't have to be an all or nothing proposition. And I found for myself it allows change to happen more quickly because it's opening my system to incremental change and not making the transformation all at once.

Pod #236: Your Questions about EFT Answered

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QandA BlueA few weeks ago I put out the call for your questions about EFT and how to best use it.

I received a number of amazing questions. (Note: If you would like a question answered on a future podcast please send it to me via this link)

In this episode I answer questions about:

  • The phrases I use when I tap.
  • Surrogate tapping for the physical and emotional needs of loved ones.
  • How to use the SUDs scale when you don't like using numbers.
  • Saying tapping phrases out loud when you are tapping alone.

You can find the full transcript of the audio below the player.

Transcripts of the questions and answers:

Pod #235: Comparing Matrix Reimprinting with EFT w/ Karl Dawson

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Matrix ReimprintingWhen Gary Craig first introduced EFT he very intentionally presented it in a way in that encouraged others build upon his work, much in the same way he had built upon Roger Callahan's Thought Field Therapy (TFT).

To stress this point, Gary named his new process Emotional Freedom Techniques. Please note the “s” on the end of Techniques, for all the different ways could be done.

Matrix Reimprinting, which was developed by Founding EFT Master Karl Dawson, is one of the best known of the EFT iterations.

In this interview we compare and contrast EFT to Matrix Reimprinting. Even if you have no plans to study Matrix Reimprinting, there are a number of tips you can take from this conversation to add to your tapping.

Karl Dawson
Karl Dawson

Guest: Karl Dawson

Contact: web @ MatrixReimprinting.com/; twitter @MatrixReimprint; facebook @ Matrix Reimprinting

About Karl: Karl Dawson is one of only 29 EFT Founding Masters. Over the last 12 years he has taught thousands of EFT trainees from all over the globe how to transform their physical and emotional health by releasing stress and trauma from their energy systems.

Karl’s first bestselling book, Matrix Reimprinting Using EFT, written with co-author Sasha Allenby was released in 2010. His second Hay House title Transform your Beliefs, Transform your Life, with co-author Kate Marilatt, was released in 2014.

Will Tapping To Negative Phrases Manifest Negative Outcomes?

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Should I avoid negative phrases when tapping-

Question: I am worried that if I say negative phrases while tapping I will bring negative things into my life. How can I use EFT without having to use negative phrases?

I have received this question a lot and there are few reasons why it’s such a common question.

First, some people don't want to focus on the negative because they are worried that they will tap something negative into their system. When we are tapping we are not tapping anything in or anything out of our system. Instead we releasing the thoughts and beliefs that are not useful. It is a process of returning to our natural emotional balance.

Second, some people believe that the subconscious mind does not understand negative statements and take these as statements of desire. For example, the belief is that since your subconscious mind doesn't understand the negative when you say “I don't want to be fat!” the subconscious hears “I want to be fat!”

There is no proof that this is the case (as in this has never been proven in the context of scientific experimentation). AND I could not find an explanation why it would be useful for our subconscious mind to screen out the negative.

I believe it works in exactly the opposite way. Instead of not hearing the negative, I believe that if there is any belief in our subconscious mind about a negative outcome, it will present itself no matter what we say.

Positive v Negative Phrases

Let's take a look at what happens when we are tapping using both negative and positive tapping phrases. For this example we are going to use the issue of wanting to lose weight.

If we used negative phrases we might tap on something like this:

I have failed before at losing weight…and I’m worried that I will fail again…every time I lose the weight it creeps back…but this time will be different…not only do I have a plan to lose the weight…but I have a support system in place…to help me keep it off.

If instead we decided tap with positive phrases, it would go like this:

I am going to lose weight…I am going keep the weight off…I am going to look awesome…I am going to feel so much better.

On the surface it looks as if we are only focusing on the positive, but our internal monologue is very different. Every time one of those phrases is said out loud if there is any part of the system that doesn’t believe the phrase to be true, the critical voice will speak up to voice its objections. It might go something like this:

What is said Out loud: I am going to lose weight.
What the internal critical voice says in response: And then gain it right back.
Out loud: I am going keep the weight off.
Critical voice: No you aren’t. You failed before and you will fail again.
Out loud: I am going to look awesome.
Critical voice: Only for a short while.
Out loud: I am going to feel so much better.
Critical voice: And then the weight will pile back on and you will feel like crap.

You can see that when we only focus only on the positive and there is a part of us that doesn’t believe the positive statement, the negative will show up.

The good news about this that it doesn’t matter if we use positive or negative phrases because either way we will find our way to tapping on the issues needing attention.

Which Should I Tap On?

The question becomes “Should I use positive or negative phrases while tapping?” For me, the answer is both.

If I recognize a specific limiting belief or block, like the fear of gaining the weight back, my tapping will be most effective if I go right at that issue.

At the same time, when I state the goal I want to achieve in the positive I will find my way to negative self-talk and limiting beliefs that I didn’t know existed.

When tapping I recommend that you alternate between positive and negative phrases so that you get both of these benefits.

Pod #234: EFT for Sexual and Porn Addiction w/ Dr. Doug Weiss

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eft for porn and sexual adiction

Addiction to porn and sex can be crippling for individuals and devastating to couples. All types of addictions carry shame, but it is particularly acute where sexual and porn addiction are concerned.

In this conversation Dr. Doug Weiss and I talk about the environmental conditions that can contribute to a sexual and porn addiction, the impact that this type of addiction can have, and how it can be treated.

We also spend some time talking about those with partners suffering from sexual and porn addiction. Often times the loved one of addict doesn't realize that they need help as well. We discuss how the loved ones of addicts can get best care for themselves.

Dr. Doug Weiss
Dr. Doug Weiss

Guest: Dr. Doug Weiss

Contact: web @ DrDougWeiss.com/; facebook @ Doug Weiss; vimeo @ DouglasWeiss; twitter @ drdougweiss

About Doug: Doug is the President of the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT). He has developed the Sex Addiction Training program to train therapists and coaches how to treat sexual addiction. The program uses Doug's methodology and modality, as well as his clinical application for treating sexual addiction, providing proven treatment for sexual addiction recovery. He is also Executive Director at Heart to Heart Counseling Center for more than 20 years where he has the opportunity to see many men and women walk in freedom from their sexual addiction.

Pod #233: How Our Values Impact Our Transformation w/ JB Glossinger

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How Our Values Impact Our Transformation 2Before I commit to working with a new client we have a conversation to see if we will be a good fit for each other. First, I ask the potential client what they would like to change in their life. At this point they usually give me a clear description of what is wrong and I follow up by asking what they would like instead.

They are often unable to answer the question because they are so stuck in their problem that they can't clearly see what they would like instead. Without a clear understanding of what we want it’s hard, if not impossible, to move forward.

One the key components of knowing what we want is having a clear idea of what we value. JB Glossinger found that once he was able clearly to name his top six values, changing his life and his lifestyle became much easier.

In this conversation JB and I talk about the importance of naming our values, how to do just that, and how we can take action after our values are clear.

JB Glossinger
JB Glossinger

Guest: JB Glossinger, MBA, Ph.D

Contact: web @ glossinger.com; facebook @ JBGlossinger; twitter @ morningcoach

About JB: JB is a self-described “archaeologist of life”, who has studied human potential, performance, and happiness for over 40 years. He is widely beloved as the MorningCoach, with a daily podcast that has been downloaded over 17 million times. JB is a sought-after motivational speaker and coach with an international following. The Sacred Six is his first book for Hay House.

Pod #232: All About The Tapping Points w/ Beth Kearns

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All About The Tapping Points

Even those just starting out with tapping know that Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) works via the meridian system. I know that when I am explaining tapping to the uninitiated I will just say, “It is like acupuncture without needles.”

When Roger Callahan first developed Thought Field Therapy (TFT), the precursor to EFT, he devised a system of tapping in which specific points were matched to particular issues.

When Gary Craig developed EFT he decided that instead of determining which exact point would be best to tap on, it would be better just tap on all of them.

For years I have wanted to learn more about the complexities of the meridian system. I have also wondered if that knowledge might improve my tapping. In this week’s podcast my conversation with Beth Kearns, an acupuncturist, helped me to figure that out.

Beth Kearns
Beth Kearns

Guest: Beth Kearns

Contact Beth: web @ BethKearnsAcupuncture.com

About Beth: Beth is a fully licensed acupuncturist in the State of Colorado. She is a certified Diplomat (Dipl.Ac) by the National Certification Commission in Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine (NCCAOM). She completed the four-year program at the Institute of Taoist Education and Acupuncture (ITEA) in Louisville, CO. ITEA is a Classical Five-Element Acupuncture school. In addition to acupuncture, Beth is also an advanced Neuro-Structural Integration Technique (NST) practitioner. Beth is a teacher at ITEA and loves sharing this amazing form of acupuncture with students. She is available to bring acupuncture and NST to businesses and groups and give lectures on many topics including acupuncture, depression/anxiety, grief, women’s issues, and much more.

Tapping Tools You Might Have Forgotten About

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ToolsForgottenMany people don't know that the T in EFT stands for “Techniques”, which is plural.

When Gary Craig, the creator of EFT, was studying Thought Field Therapy and teaching EFT, he understood that the process would grow and change with time. Each time a new person learned tapping, they had the opportunity to add a new twist.

I love the fact that tapping is constantly growing and changing. The way I use tapping today is radically different than just five years ago. I have added techniques from hypnosis, NLP, parts mediation, and many other protocols to my work. (Learn how I use these other techniques with tapping.)

One of the drawbacks to all of this innovation is that we end up leaving behind lots of useful tools and techniques. In the last few months I have found myself returning to many of these older, forgotten tools because they work.

Here are a few of my favorites:

Collarbone Eye Roll

I find that the Collarbone Eye Roll is most useful when the intensity of the issue you are working on is at a 2 or less on a scale of 0–10. It is also a great way to seal your work. If it feels like there is a shadow of an issue left after you have worked on it, the Collarbone Eye Roll is a great way to resolve that feeling.

To do the Collarbone Eye Roll focus on the issue you are tapping for, tap on the collarbone point and continue to tap there until you finish this routine.

While tapping keep your head still and your eyes open:

  • rotate your eyes 3 times clockwise
  • rotate your eyes 3 times counterclockwise
  • move your eyes from floor to ceiling 3 times, like you are watching a helium filled balloon rise up
  • dart your eyes left to right 3 times, as if you are watching the ball in a tennis match

Finger Points

When you look at most tapping point diagrams you see only the ones that are on the body. Even in my book on using EFT for Anger Management I excluded these points.

There were a few reasons I moved away from teaching the finger points:

  • The main reason was that I was having enough success with just the tapping points on the head and body so didn't feel that I needed them.
  • It was easier to use fewer points when teaching beginners.
  • When I was working on the phone with clients who didn’t have a headset, I found they were awkward points to reach because they were holding the phone with one hand.

Recently, when tapping for my own issues, I have found myself using the finger points more and more and they have been very effective at clearing issues quickly.

Rubbing The Sore Spot

In the early versions of tapping we were instructed either to tap on the side of the hand or to “rub the sore spot” when we repeated the set-up phrase.

The sore spot is located between the shoulder, collarbone, and pectoral muscle. It is called the sore spot because it can feel tender. This is the place in the body where the by-products of the lymphatic system are dumped.

In addition to adding this to the beginning of my tapping sessions, I find it relaxing to rub the sore spot even when I am not working on a particular issue.

Liver Spot

The liver spot is located directly below the nipples on the edge of the rib cage. I think one of the main reasons the liver spot is not often taught is because some people find it embarrassing to explain in mixed company.

Tapping on the liver spot is great for helping to relieve frustration, anger, and rage.

Doing More, Not Less

I can appreciate the move to simplify tapping, but I worry that sometimes in our attempts to make it simpler, we end up losing some of its power.

Please let me know what your experience is of bringing back some of these often forgotten tapping points.

Pod #231: EFT For Facing Past Choices

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EFT For Facing Past Choices 2

My favorite phrase that I hear from my clients when we are in the middle of a session is “this probably has nothing to do with it, but…” and then they share some story that seems unconnected. We usually find that a story coming out of left field like this has everything to do with it.

It never ceases to amaze me how much we carry our past into each moment of our lives and how much that past impacts us. I have spoken to a number clients in the last few weeks who have felt that they weren't worthy of something good in the present because of a poor choice they made in the past.

It is important that we take responsibility for our choices, but that does not mean that we have to remain a prisoner to our choices for all time. Here is a tap-along to help you face those past choices of which you are not proud.

Pod #230: EFT For Bitterness Caused By A Lack Of Recognition

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EFT For Bitterness And Resentment Caused By A Lack Of RecognitionIt is natural to want credit for the work that we do. Being given credit and recognition feeds our healthy human need for being acknowledged as significant. It’s normal to want to feel as though your contribution matters.

Conflict can come up when we do not receive the credit we feel we deserve. When there is a sense of unfulfilled deserving it’s easy to feel hard done by, which in turn can give rise to bitterness and resentment.

This week I have a tap-along audio to help you when you are feeling bitter and resentful about not receiving the credit you are due. Even if this isn't an emotion you are aware of on the surface, I am willing to bet that is lurking at a deeper level.

Pod #229: Responding To Catastrophic Events With EFT w/ Jenn Goddard

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Responding To Catastrophic Events With EFTWe can find ourselves in the middle of catastrophe in an instant. A catastrophe can impact us personally (like a fire in our home) or can involve our entire community (like a natural disaster or mass violence).

When this happens we are faced with dealing with the issue in the moment and also its aftermath.

In this conversation Jenn Goddard and I talk about how to respond in the moment, what to do in the short term, what to do in the long term, and how to gain perspective. We also do some tapping which could be helpful in such circumstances.

This audio can be used two ways. First, it is useful to equip yourself with tools so that if you find yourself in a catastrophic situation, you are prepared. Second, in the middle of something tragic the tap-along will provide relief.


Jenn Goddard

Guest: Jenn Goddard

Contact Jenn: web @ AriseToday.com; twitter @eft_coaching; radio show @ EFT Tapping Team

About Jenn: Jenn lives and works in Orlando, Florida. She is an EFT expert practitioner and trainer through AAMET, a Matrix Reimprinting practitioner and trainer, a certified hypnotherapist, a certified NLP master practitioner, and a student of MetaHealth.

Pod #228: Transforming Beliefs With EFT w/ Steve Wells

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Transforming Beliefs With EFT

There is a complicated relationship between reality and what we believe about the world. We behave as if our beliefs are true. We act as if our beliefs are reality. On a subconscious level we experience our beliefs as reality, which can create complications in daily life.

In this interview with Steve Wells we talk about:

  • the five categories of beliefs
  • how these beliefs impact us day to day
  • how to identify beliefs that are inaccurate or no longer useful
  • how to transform unuseful or unhealthy beliefs

One of the reasons I love interviewing Steve is because he has such a practical approach to transformation. This interview is no different and you will be able to put into action what he recommends right away.

Guest: Steve Wells

Contact: web @ EFTDownunder.com; email @ admin@eftdownunder.com; More interviews with Steve @ TappingQ&A

About Steve: Steve Wells is an international leadership coach and peak performance consultant based in Perth, Western Australia. He helps people to overcome the hidden blocks to achieving their goals and getting what they really want from life.

Steve was one of the first to apply tapping to performance enhancement work with elite athletes and to take tapping to the corporate environment. He regularly teaches and consults worldwide with elite sport and business achievers to improve their performance and enhance the performance of their teams.

Steve is co-creator (with Dr David Lake) of the user-friendly tapping approach Simple Energy Techniques (SET) and the unique advanced Energy-based approach Provocative Energy Techniques (PET). He has helped thousands of people through his worldwide personal development and professional training workshops.

Steve is on the faculty of the Curtin University Centre for Entrepreneurship, where he presents to business owners and senior leaders on peak performance and resilience. He is also on the faculty of the Emotional Intelligence Institute. He is co-author of 4 books, including Enjoy Emotional Freedom.

Steve's programs and presentations are always inspiring, engaging and filled with powerful practical strategies you can use immediately to get better results – with less stress. More information on Steve and his programs can be found at eftdownunder.com and stevewells.com.au.

Steve have been a guest on the podcast many time. Make sure you check out his past interviews.

Pod #227: Healing The Wounds Of Sexual Injury With EFT w/ Alina Frank

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Healing The Wounds Of Sexual Violence With EFT

Responding to the consequences of sexual violence is complicated. First, it can affect those parts of life related to sexuality, intimacy, and relationships. Second, sexual violence doesn't have include physical violence to be damaging and violating. There are many times when victims don't recognize that they have been victimized.

In this conversation with Alina Frank we talk about the ways that sexual violence can impact lives and how we can work towards healing these wounds.

This is a frank conversation about a difficult topic. If you are not comfortable or it is not safe for you to listen to this type of conversation, then please make sure you make a good, healthy choice.

Also, this is provided as information and is not a substitute for treatment. Sexual violence (and related issues) can be very complicated it is best to seek help from a qualified professional when working on any kind of sexual trauma.


Alina Frank

Guest: Alina Frank

Contact Alina: web @ TapYourPower.net; twitter @tapyourpower; email @ here

About Alina: Alina Frank is a highly sought after international EFT and Matrix Reimprinting trainer. Her trainings provide continuing education credits for many healing arts professionals including social workers and massage therapists. Along with her husband, Dr. Craig Weiner, Alina Frank runs the EFT MBA program which focuses on business and marketing skills for new or struggling EFT coaches. Through their annual tapping conference in the Pacific NW they've raised thousands of dollars for continuing EFT research.

Pod #226: How To Choose A Different Emotional Response with EFT w/ Deborah Miller PhD

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How To Choose A Different Emotional Response with EFTWhen we are in the middle of a strong emotion it is hard to believe that our emotional state is a choice. In those moments it feels like an outside force has taken over our body and our experience.

It is possible for us to gain more control over our emotional state and even get to a point where we are able to choose our emotional response.

In this conversation Deborah Miller and I talk about how we are impacted by our emotions, what we can learn from that, and how we can change negative emotions into more positive ones.

This interview is filled with a number of tools that you can start using and tapping along to right away.


Deborah Miller

Guest: Deborah D. Miller PhD

Contact Deborah: website and Tapping Guides @ DeborahMiller.org

About Deborah: Deborah D. Miller, Ph.D. in Cell and Molecular Biology is passionate about helping people feel empowered and capable of maintaining a healthy state of mind and body.

Deborah is an EFT Expert and Trainer, Deeksha Giver, Reiki Master, Nutritional Guide, Personal Motivation Guide and internationally recognized author. She understands the necessity of working with the emotional aspects underlying ‘dis-ease’ within the body and the need to cleanse and nourish the physical body. Her personal journey of improving her own immune system gives her hands-on experience of the requirements for improving one’s energy levels and health.

Deborah volunteers at a children’s cancer wing in Oaxaca, Mexico, applying EFT and energy techniques to the children, parents and nurses helping them reduce stress, fear and anxiety while improving their mental and emotional health in a way that is complementary to the treatments given at the hospital.

Helping these children has led Deborah to a heart-felt, passionate and inspired goal. She is dedicating herself to helping at least 1,000,000 men, women and children prevent future illness (mental, emotional or physical) using the simplest, easiest and most economical methods. Tap, eat and drink your way to health!

Deborah is the author of the beautifully illustrated book “The Dragon with Flames of Love”, (English: book | kindle; Español: libro | Kindle en Español; Français: livre) which is dedicated to empowering parents and children facing the challenge of a serious illness in a way that provides relief and peace, and “Green Drink Red Drink”, which provides information and recipes on how to add healthy greens to your meals.

Deborah has been a guest on the Tapping Q&A Podcast a number of times. Make sure you check out her past appearances.

Pod #225: EFT to Lift Your Mood

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We have control over very little in this world.

We can control our thoughts, actions, and emotional responses. And that is about it.

Because of this it is easy to feel overwhelmed by the barrage of negative news (of which we have had more than our fair share this week).

When I am able to recognize what I do control and how powerful that control can be in my own life, the easier each moment is and the more powerful my action becomes.

Here is a simple tap-along to help lift your mood (and bring hope) when it feels as if there is just too much to manage every day.

Pod #224: Gaining Clarity with EFT w/ Carol Look

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Gaining Claritywith EFT

Before I ask a client what they want, I first ask them what they don't want.

We are often unclear about what we want. We only know and want to stop what is uncomfortable, disappointing, and displeasing.

In this conversation with EFT Founding Master Carol Look we talk about how we can use tapping to get clear about what we want and how to trust our judgment when we are making choices.

This may seem like a simple and obvious skill to master, but once you do it will make a huge difference in your daily interactions.

Guest: Dr. Carol Look

Contact: web @ CarolLook.com; twitter @CarolLookEFT;

About Carol: A pioneer in the Energy Psychology field, Dr. Carol Look has brought unprecedented innovations to the application of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), and has produced outstanding results for her clients around the world.

Don’t forget to check out all of Carol's other podcast interviews

Pod #223: Becoming Comfortable In Your Own Skin w/ EFT

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BecomeComfortable In Your Own Skin with EFT

 

When I talk about the tapping work I am doing on and for myself, the phrase I always return to is “being comfortable in my own skin”. When I am comfortable with who I am in a situation, it is a lot easier for me to be my authentic self.

When I am my authentic self, I don't make perfect choices, but I am much more likely to make the choices and take the actions that I will be happy with in the big picture.

A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to present at the Spring Energy Event outside New York City on this exact topic. In the presentation I share the reasons why we aren't comfortable in our own skin, how our life changes when we are, and a simple tapping exercise you can use to move towards being more comfortable in your own skin.

You can hear the full presentation here:

Pod #222: Is There A Right Way To Do EFT? w/ Gwyneth Moss

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Is There A Right Way To Do EFT-

The first set of EFT training videos were recorded by Gary Craig over 20 years ago. Gary developed EFT after he trained with Roger Callahan in the tapping protocol Thought Field Therapy, which was developed 10 years prior to that.

In the last 30 years there have been many names for and many presentations of tapping. This week I have a conversation with Gwyneth Moss about whether or not there are right or wrong ways to do tapping.


Gwyneth Moss

Guest: Gwyneth Moss

Contact: web @ EFThelps.com; email @ contact form; web @ Annual EFT Gathering

About Gwyneth: Gwyneth Moss is one of the original EFT Masters and the founder of the EFT Gathering annual community conference which has run since 2009. With a degree in Physics and an MBA she is known for the clarity and depth of her teaching style and for her innovative techniques which include EFT Imagineering; Protective Distancing; Projection Tapping; The Surrogate EFT Protocol and more. Gwyneth teaches EFT in the glorious countryside of Yorkshire and at Esalen, Big Sur, CA.