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He Called Me An Internet Huckster (AKA: Why TappingQ&A Exists)

March 9, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

You Internet Hucksters!Good Morning,

I recently received another one of those emails when I was selling my Advanced Tapping Training.

It went like this:

“Oh I see how it is! You promise that you are going to give us all this free stuff only so you can sell us products.

I have seen this from other internet hucksters. Your bait and switch isn’t going to work on me.

I never want to hear from you again! You should be ashamed!!!!!

It has been a while since I last did this and I thought this was a good prompt to re-explain why TappingQandA.com and this newsletter exist.

So here are the 3 reasons I send these newsletters and one change coming up.

Reason #1: To Provide Good, Useful Content

My hope is that every time I add a resource to TappingQ&A you will find it helpful. That it will help you understand your issues in a new way and that it will help you to grow your tapping skill set.

I know that not everything I create will be useful for everyone on my list. My aim is to listen to you, my readers, so that I am covering the topics that are most useful.

Reason #2: I Learn A Lot

The process of running the website has been an amazing learning experience for me. I have had the chance to interview some of the brightest minds in change work and there have been countless times where I have written a post and then thought, “Wow! I didn’t realize I believed that.”

Having to think about what serves you every week is helping me to learn more and grow. I am so much healthier and happier because of this website.

Reason #3: To Grow My Business

Yes, this is in fact a business and livelihood. The only way I am able to create so much free content for the site is because I am able to make money from selling products and services.

The nice thing about the way I have built my business is that it’s dependant upon only a very small percentage of my readers. In most cases when I offer something for sale fewer than 1% of my readers buy it.

That means the odds are that you have never bought anything from me AND that is perfectly fine.

I hope at some point in the future you find an offering that works for you. Until that happens, keep enjoying the free content.

The One Change That Is Coming

I have been looking at the site data from the last few years and I have noticed an interesting trend. When I send emails less frequently, more people unsubscribe and when I send emails more often, people become more engaged.

I know, that seems backwards, but it is what is happening.

To that end you are going to start hearing from me more often. Instead of once a week it will be closer to twice a week.

The good thing is you control whether or not you hear from me. If at any point you no longer want to receive these emails because they are not serving you, all you have to do is click unsubscribe at the top or bottom of the email.

You will never receive another message from me again.

I don’t want to send you emails unless you want to receive them. I am happy when people unsubscribe because it means they are controling their time and what is coming into their inbox.

Thanks For Being A Reader

It is really amazing to think that all of this started from a blog that I hosted free of charge in my spare time. I have learned so much from my clients and readers. My life is so much better because TappingQ&A exists.

Please continue to let me know how I can keep serving you in the future. The easiest way to reach me is to hit reply to a note like this.

Blessings,

Gene

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Pod #160: The Problem With Empathy

March 4, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 5 Comments

The Porblem With Empathy[Note: Last change for the 40% the Advanced Tapping Training go here http://bit.ly/gatherdeal]

One of the keys to being an emotionally intelligent human being is understanding what the people around us are feeling and experiencing.

This skill can be particularly useful when we are helping and caring for others.

When it comes to emotional intelligence there is a big difference between empathy and sympathy. Both are can be useful, but for us to be healthy we need to understand the difference between the two and when each is appropriate.

In this podcast we explore the difference between these two approaches, the consequences for using the wrong one, and how to be present in a healthy way to loved ones and clients.

I would love to hear your experience of how you have been successful and unsuccessful with this issue in your own life.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Care, Emotions, Empathy, Sympathy

Pod #159: Action, Belief, and Identity – 3 Levels Of Change With Tapping

February 25, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Action Belief and IdentityThe things we want to change in our life show up most obviously in the choices we make daily. Because of this it makes the most sense to focus our tapping work on trying to transform these choices.

Even if our tapping is successful in doing this, it is often not enough to make long-term, lasting change. In addition to the choices we make moment to moment, our success is impacted by our beliefs about the world and our self-identity.

In this conversation with Adele Wang I share how we can distinguish between actions, belief, and identity. We also discuss how you can tap on each one to ensure long-term change and transformation.


Adele Wang

Guest Host: Adele Wang

Contact Adele: web @ SafeHavenHealing.net; YouTube @ Adele Wang

About Adele: Adele helps smart and sensitive women break through the stress of perfectionism and overwhelm so they can have better relationships, more professional success and better health. With an energy medicine and EFT background, she works with women to clear anxiety without the use of drugs so they can reclaim their lives and their natural feminine radiance. She is a licensed Art of Feminine Presence instructor, a frequent guest blogger on websites devoted to spirituality and consciousness, an advanced energy healer, and an EFT practitioner. She works with clients via Skype and in person in her office in Atlanta, GA.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Identity, Limiting Beliefs

Pod #158: Getting Unstuck w/ Carol Look

February 18, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 2 Comments

Getting-UnstuckI think we all know what it is like to feel stuck. We know what we want to do or we know what we want to change, but for some reason we just can’t take action.

There is an obvious cost to being stuck. For every passing moment that we don’t change the thing we want changed, we lose that moment and never get it back.

Even more than that being stuck costs us all the emotion and energy we spend on the how we feel about being stuck.

In this interview with Carol Look we talk about the emotional cost of being stuck, how it impacts other parts of our life, and how we can tap for it.

Guest: Dr. Carol Look

Contact: web @ CarolLook.com; twitter @CarolLookEFT;

About Carol: A pioneer in the Energy Psychology field, Dr. Carol Look has brought unprecedented innovations to the application of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), and has produced outstanding results for her clients around the world.

Also, do forget to check out all of Carol’s other podcast interviews.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Action, Carol Look, Stuck

Pod #157: Lovership w/ Rick Wilkes

February 11, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

lovership-mainI always find my conversations with Rick Wilkes interesting. Of all of the interviews I do they tend to be the least planned because they are much more interesting conversations than they are traditional interviews.

When I email Rick to see what he wanted to chat about this time he replied with the world “lovership”.

My first thought was, “That sounds great!” and then, “I have no idea what that means.”

When Rick uses the word lovership he is talking about how we create relationships (that aren’t sexual) in a way that is open, transparent, and in congruence with the other person.

It is somewhere between making choices out of obligation (saying yes or no without thought) and always saying yes to any request a friend has.

It is a state of intentional friendship building.

It is a great conversation that will help you to evaluate if your relationships are serving you.


Rick Wilkes

Guest: Rick Wilkes, LMT

Contact Info: thrivingnow.com, Rick@Thrivingnow.com, 1-828-357-4674 or 1-888-222-3856

Bio: Rick Wilkes is an EFT practitioner based in Asheville, NC. Over the last six years Rick has worked with more than 1500 clients. He works regularly with individuals and with his Thriving Now Groups.

Here’s what one of Rick’s loyal clients says: “Working with Rick Wilkes both privately and on team calls has helped me greatly to release the past, move more confidently into the future, and mostly to be more joyfully present in the now. Rick’s open-hearted broader perspective, amazing intuition, and great sense of humor always help me to get right to the core and effectively reframe whatever issue I have. Listening to him work with others has helped me to get in touch with stuff I didn’t even know was there and inspired me in my own work with others. It is a blessing and honor to work with such a master.”

Rick’s articles, programs, and products Thriving Now

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Friendship, Love, Relationships, Rick Wilkes

They Would Arrest You If They Could Hear Your Thoughts

February 8, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

If-They-Could-Hear-Your-ThoughtsA number of years ago Andy Hunt wrote an interesting article on his site Practical Wellbeing that has stuck with me.

In Self-Hate Speech he looks at the hate speech laws of the UK and asked the question of how would law enforment respond to you if they heard the words you thought about yourself.

I don’t know about you, but I am certainly capable of thinking some nasty things about myself.

In addition to thinking nasty, hateful things about ourselves, for some reason we also give those thoughts much more weight than the positive thoughts..

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Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Easy With Self, Self Esteem, Self Talk, Words

Pod #156: How To Share Tapping With Others Without Sounding Like A Whackjob

February 4, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

HOW-TO-TAPI love talking about the work I do.

When I am meeting someone for the first time I don’t jump right into tapping or EFT. I talk about self-sabotage, limiting beliefs, and emotional healing.

At some point in the conversation, because people are so interested in what I do, the conversation turns to how I do it.

This means we have to talk about tapping and EFT. Don’t get me wrong, I love talking about EFT, but to the uninitiated it sounds weird.

OK, it’s not just weird, it’s really weird.

Because of this I think we need to be careful in the way we share tapping with others. I am not saying that we should hold anything back or be dishonest, but instead we need to remember where the other person is coming from when we are sharing new information.

Here are few simple things to keep in mind when sharing about EFT so that others will be more willing to hear what you are saying.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: How To, Teaching

Pod #155: Creating Emotional Boundaries w/ Rue Hass

January 28, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Create Emotional BoundariesI love people who have a natural healing disposition. They see their healing talents as a gift that they want to share with others.

Sometimes this giftedness has the drawback of attracting many more people than we are capable of helping.

For helpers and healers it can be hard to create healthy boundaries. When our boundaries are overrun it’s easy simply to want to cut ourselves off.

In this conversation with Rue Hass we talk about how we can establish boundaries from a generative rather than a defensive posture.


Rue Hass

Guest: Rue Hass

Contact Info: web @ IntuitiveMentoring.com, email @ rue (at) intuitivementoring (dot) com

How Rue describes herself: When I first meet a new client/customer/co-creative partner, I walk them through an interesting process of understanding their life as a story. It concludes with asking them to consider what they want their life to leave in the world as a legacy. How do they want the world to be a better place for their having been in it?

When I contemplate this in myself, and ask, “What do I want to focus on in this phase of my life, as a culmination of everything I have learned and gained?”, what emerges for me is the concept of “spiritual eldering.” This impulse finds expression in my work with individuals and local groups, inviting and assisting people and communities to move into a sense of the real transformative power of their spiritual Presence in the world.

I particularly like to work with young people, adolescents and young adults as a mentor/coach. I have always been drawn to the kind of kid who might find him/herself in trouble in school, academically or socially, but who on the inside is bright, sensitive, perceptive, intuitive, often artistic or athletic, deep hearted and imaginative, and who just doesn’t fit the norm. I want to make it easier for these young people to find their place in the world. I think they are here to save it.

Make sure you check out all of Rue’s guest articles and podcasts on Tapping Q and A.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Boundaries, Rue Hass, Sensitive Temperaments

Getting Past The Extinction Burst

January 25, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 2 Comments

Extinction-BurstYou have been there before. You are trying to make a change, like giving up sweets.

The first day is hard. The second is harder. The third day, for some unknown reason, is really easy. You feel awesome. You are making progress. Real change is happening.

Then along comes day four…

You come home from work and you find yourself eating one little piece of candy. You think, “This is no big deal. It is only one piece.”

Then it is two, then four, and then the bag is empty and you think, “Screw it! It’s too late!” and you devour every sweet in the house plus some potato chips for good measure.

Within moments you’re filled with shame and self-loathing. You wake up the next morning feeling defeated.

The Extinction Burst

What you have just experienced is an “extinction burst”. I think David McRaney described extinction burst perfectly when he writes: “a predictable and common blast of defiance from the recesses of a brain denied familiar rewards.”

In more common terms you are in the process of making a change and some part of your system is not getting what it wants, it is royally pissed off, and so it does whatever it can to get what it wants.

In our example, the body was expecting a feel good sugar high from sweets. When it didn’t get what it wanted it it turned you into an emotional monster that was willing to eat everything in sight.

What You Can Do To Overcome The Extinction Burst

First, knowledge is power. When we know that something troubling is coming (aka an inflection point) we are much more likely to make a good choice if we have a plan to deal with it.

Imagine this is like the fire drill you practiced as a kid at school. If there ever was a fire you would know exactly what to do.

The way I deal with this is when I feel an extinction burst coming on I name it and tap for it. It looks something like this:

Right now my system is throwing a bit of a temper tantrum…It wants its needs met in a way that I know is unhealthy…I know I could easily give in to its needs…And I would feel better for about 7 seconds…But then I would feel really awful and disappointed in myself…I am making choices that are going to serve me in the long term…If I can last through this extinction burst then the habit of making better choices will be stronger…I am stronger than this…And I am worthy of making the better long-term choice.

Do you think saying this out loud and tapping is silly? You’re right. But since the first of the year I have effectively fought off donuts, chocolate, and white bread just like this.

Second, understand your system is seeking to have a need filled when you are having an extinction burst. As I was working my way off sweets my body was having a hard time because it needed them. In the first 3 days where I completely cut all carbohydrates out of my diet I was having headaches in exactly the say way I had caffeine withdrawal when I cut down on coffee a few months ago.

Even when I am tapping for fighting the extinction burst there is still an underlying need for pleasure or comfort or relaxation that requires satisfaction. It’s a good idea to plan how you you can meet that need in another way.

When my friend was quitting smoking she realized that part of the reason she was doing it was because she was looking for an excuse to go outside to get away from her crazy co-workers. So when she craved a cigarette she took a walk around the block instead to give her a break from the office.

When I was cutting out carbs it was permissible for me to have a teaspoon of all natural almond butter. When the extinction burst showed up and I wanted to eat everything I would allow myself the little treat and it got me through the afternoon.

Third, it is important to have clearly defined, measurable stepping stone goals so that you can reward yourself for reaching them as you work towards a bigger goal.

For me, I usually experienced an extinction burst when there was some unmet emotional need. I am much less likely to have emotional needs when I am feeling good about myself and my progress.

To boost my self-esteem I celebrate my successes along the way. For example, every time I lost another 3 lbs of body fat I would go to one of my favorite places in NYC and take photos.

Getting outside, with no work responsibilities, trying to find beauty, and give myself a chance to work on being a better photographer is a real treat for me.

By allowing myself a chance to celebrate my successes I was much more likely to have the will to make good choices as I kept working towards my goals.

Unfortunately (And Fortunately) It Is A Natural Thing

Unfortunately, extinction bursts are something that everyone experiences when they are trying to change a habit.

Fortunately, extinction bursts are something that everyone goes through. You are not crazy. You didn’t fail miserably. AND you are not alone. Because this is something we all go through. You will notice the use of the the word “predictable” in the definition above. It is not a matter of if this is going to happen, but when.

But with the right planning and preparation we can respond to it in a way that doesn’t derail our goals.

  • If you would like more information on extintion burst you should read this excellent article by David McRaney from his very excellent blog (You Are Not So Smart)[http://youarenotsosmart.com/].

Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Addiction, Habit, Weight Loss, Weight Release

Pod #154: EFT For Romantic Relationship w/ Stefan Gonick

January 21, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

TAPPING-RelationshipCreating the loving relationship we desire it isn’t simply about finding a partner. We want to find our way to the right relationship that feeds and nurtures us.

Unfortunately many people keep finding themselves in the same type of relationship that isn’t right for them.

In this conversation Stefan Gonick talks about what we can learn from our past relationship patterns and how to address our conscious and unconscious fears around them, thereby making useful action towards creating a fulfilling relationship possible.


Stefan Gonick

Guest: Stefan Gonick

Contact: web @ FindingTheLoveYouWant.com; phone @ 413/527-5491

About Stefan: Stefan Gonick is an internationally recognized Soulmate Attraction Mentor and Expert EFT Practitioner. For over 20 years, Stefan has helped smart, loving people attract the spine-tingling and lasting love they’ve always longed for, even when they thought it wasn’t possible for them.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Love, Relationships, Sex, Stefan Gonick

Before It Is Too Late

January 18, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Too-LateOver the last few weeks my Facebook timeline has been filled with memorials.

First, a friend and colleague, Mark, died suddenly of a heart attack. Second, American sports news personality Stuart Scott died from the cancer he had fighting for years.

The flood of kind words, memories, well wishes for the families, and stories of learning from the lives of the deceased was amazing. I discovered things about two men I admired that I didn’t know. I was touched to know how the lives of so many were deeply affected because of the admirable way that these two men lived.

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Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Death, Family, Love

Pod #153: Being Comfortable In Your Own Skin (w/ Tap-Along Audio & Script)

January 14, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 4 Comments

YOUROWNSKIN2BWhen I look at the work that I have done on myself since I discovered tapping I can distill almost every issue down to one thing.

Being comfortable inside my own skin.

When I am comfortable inside my own skin I am more likely to follow inspiration, I am more likely act with confidence, and I am more likely to see situations as they truly are.

If any of those things are true at the time of action I will be much happier with outcome. When all three are true, amazing things happen.

In this short audio I explore the importance of being comfortable inside our own skin and provide a short tap-along to nurture this sense.

Let me know your thoughts on this idea below.

There is a part of me…That wants the people around me…To love me…To appreciate me…To accept me…To see me as good…Because as a human being…I am communal…I am connected to others…It’s part of my nature…It’s part of who I am…It’s part of who I will always be…So it makes sense…That that there is a part of me…That is thinking about what others think…That is concerned about how they see me…But I recognize the fact…What is most important…Is the way I see myself…Because at the end of it all…At the end of each moment…At the end of each day…At the end of my life…The only person…Who is completely connected to my choices is me…Therefore I need to be comfortable with me…I need to be comfortable with my choices…I need to be comfortable with the way I see myself…When I see myself as good…When I see myself as worthy…I become comfortable inside of me…I am home inside of me…That doesn’t mean I’m perfect…That doesn’t mean I always get it right…That doesn’t mean I make the best choice in every circumstance…But it means in the moment…Because I’m only concerned with…The way I value myself…And not how others value me…I put myself into the position…That allows me to be successful…That allows me to be safe…That allows me to be truly me each day…I give myself permission…To work towards…Being comfortable in my own skin…To work towards loving myself…Because if I am capable of doing that…Then I will be able to handle whatever comes…With grace…With strength…And become who I am supposed to be…I give myself permission…Every single day…To be a little more comfortable…Inside of my own skin.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Self Esteem, Self Love, Self Respect

Pod #152: How To Tap For Self-Acceptance

January 7, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

how-to-acceptA few weeks ago in podcast #149 we talked about the trouble with saying “I love and accept myself”. As we discussed, sometimes it is hard to say and there are also times where it isn’t helpful to say.

It was a useful discussion you should check out.

I was overwhelmed with the response to that podcast. I as I noted in the Best Of 2014 I received the most emails about this particular post in the whole year.

One question came up again and again: “How exactly do I tap for self-acceptance?”

Here is a simple tool to do just that. You will need to use the Setup Phrase Generator and it only takes a few minutes a day.

I would love to hear how this works for you in the comments below.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Accept, Self Esteem, Set-Up Phrase

The Best Of 2014

December 28, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Best of 2014There are a number of books and movies that I revisit at least once a year. I do this because even though the stories and information are the same, I have changed and therefore they impact me in a new way.

It might be the sixth time I have re-read a particular book, but it feels like there are passages that I have never seen before.

As we come the end of 2014 I thought it would be useful to revisit some of the best of the best from TappingQ&A. If there is something from the site you loved this year, but I missed on my list please add it to comments below.

Thanks again for your continued support.

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Pod #151: Why Didn’t The Surrogate Tapping Cure Her Cancer?

December 24, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 4 Comments

Why Didn't It Work?Surrogate tapping is a tricky topic. Tapping itself is difficult enough to explain, but trying to explain how I can tap on my body to promote change in someone else is a whole other level.

At that point it sounds like we are talking about woo-woo crap that just can’t be true.

In the last few weeks I have witnessed some amazing things with surrogate tapping (or at least they appear to be the result of surrogate tapping).

First, my sister regularly takes her dog Addison to the vet. Like many animals, Addison gets really nervous when she visits the vet and she especially hates having her nails clipped. When a trip to the vet is scheduled my sister will send me a text so that I can tap for Addison (from the other side of the United States). And next I receive a picture from my sister of Addison lying calmly on the ground completely relaxed and serene. It has happened too many times for me to dismiss this as some kind of coincidence.

Second, I have been working with a family with a child who has been diagnosed on the autism spectrum. Over the last six months the family has seen some amazing results with surrogate tapping. A few weeks ago their son started to backslide and lost almost all the progress he had made to date. I put together a short tapping sequence and within a day he not only regained everything the family had achieved from the tapping, but it also triggered a significant clearing and release on a physical level from his system (I won’t go into detail here but am sure you get the picture!).

Sometimes people ask me how all this works and all I can think to say is, “I have no idea!”

With that being said, it doesn’t always work. Just because we are surrogate tapping it doesn’t mean that progress happens. There are times when we tap and yet we cannot perceive any progress.

Two years ago, a very dear friend of mine’s 33-year-old body succumbed to cancer. As I wrote about what it was like to tap for her I asked, “Why didn’t the surrogate tapping work?”

Because of the number of people who have been asking me about surrogate tapping (and specifically about my experience tapping for a friend with cancer) I thought this would be the perfect time to revisit the idea of surrogate tapping.

In this audio I talk about surrogate tapping, when I do it, and why I think it didn’t work on my friend’s cancer.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Cancer, Surrogate

All I Want For Christmas…

December 24, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

All I Want For ChristmasGood morning,

When I was a kid my mother would ask me wanted I wanted for Christmas and she’d always end the question with the addendum “and you are not allowed to ask for world peace.”

It’s not that my mother didn’t want world peace. She just knew that she wasn’t going to be able to find it in my size in time for Christmas day.

This year I have a different request for Christmas.

My friend Laura Reach is an amazing tattoo artist. (I happen to carry hours of her work on my left arm.) In recent years she has increasingly moved away from artistic tattoo and instead she is dedicating her time to doing incredibly realistic mammographic tattoos for breast cancer survivors.

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Pod #150: 3 Key Things To Keep In Mind Before You Start An EFT Session (w/ tap-alongs)

December 17, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

HowToStartOften our biggest obstacle we have to using tapping in the healing process is ourselves. This plays out in two ways.

First, sometimes a part of us doesn’t feel it is safe for us to heal. Since a part of our system doesn’t feel safe healing we short circuit the healing process. When this happens we don’t tap as much as we would like and always seem to have other things to do.

Second, there are times when we are tapping for the “wrong issue” or have the “wrong expectation” of how the tapping/healing process should look. In this scenario we can tap and tap and tap…but not get anywhere.

In this week’s podcast I explore how we can respond to the second way we prevent ourselves from getting the most out of tapping. Our mindset about what to tap on and what the healing process should look like make a world of difference in determining our success.

By keeping these 3 simple ideas in mind before you tap you will find your way to quicker and more effective healing.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Before You Begin, How To, Mind-Set

Pod #149: The Real Goal Of EFT – Proportional Well Informed Emotions

December 10, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 3 Comments

MORE-NEWMy clients often complain that even though they tap regularly for their issues, there are times when their emotions get the better of them.

The goal of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is not for us to become emotionless.

Our emotions are important because they allow us to feel in order to navigate the world and they are what give our experience richness.

The problems isn’t the emotions themselves, but when and how strongly they show up.

In this week’s podcast I talk about the ultimate goal of tapping AND how we can best understand our experience of our emotions.

I would love to hear what you think the main goal of tapping is in the comments below.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Emotions, Focus, How To

Pod #148: What If I Can’t Say I Love And Accept Myself (Thoughts On The EFT Setup Phrase)

December 3, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 3 Comments

cantsayiloveWhen Gary Craig first introduced the world to Emotional Freedom Techniques he used something he called the setup phrase.

You would tap on the side of your hand or rub the sore spot and say, “Even though I have [insert issue] I completely love and accept myself.”

As time has passed and EFT has evolved most teachers of tapping fall into one of two camps. They are either insistent that you do this every time or they never do it at all.

There are enough tapping teachers who are still sharing the setup phrase that about once every 10 days I receive an email asking “Do I really have to say the setup phrase?”

I think there is a middle ground. There are times when it is really useful and there are also times when it can slow the tapping process.

In this podcast we explore when to use the setup phrase. We will also look at why most people are avoiding it, which has nothing to do with its usefulness.

I would love to hear your thoughts on the setup phrase in the comments below.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Accept, Love, Self Esteem, Self Love, Set-Up Phrase

Thank You For Hearing Me

December 3, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 6 Comments

My walk home from Thanksgiving dinner took about a half an hour. It was a quiet afternoon and the Brooklyn streets were almost deserted.

As I was walking I started singing Sinéad O’Connor’s “Thank You For Hearing Me.” I find it to be a such a profound and holy song (and I don’t use the word holy lightly).

It would perfect to tap along to today.
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For every book purchased, four inmates will also receive a copy of the book.

For every book purchased 4 inmates will also receive a copy of the book.

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