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Pod #325: EFT For Recognizing Your Success (Productivity Series: 6 of 7)

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This is Part 6 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series.

Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here.

One of the difficulties with being successful is that success is not an all-or-nothing proposition. Success usually comes in stages as part of a process. When we are doing the work and taking action we are often too close to what is going on to see the progress we are making.

This can be discouraging and slow down our progress because it doesn't feel like the effort we are putting in is paying off.

This week's tap-along audio (and printable script below the player) will help you to recognize the progress you are making and to regain your momentum.

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I recognize that my progress is incremental…I recognize my progress is not happening all at once…And because that is the case…It's really easy for me to miss my own progress…It's really easy for me to not recognize how I am moving forward…When I do not recognize my own progress…It's so easy for me to feel discouraged…It's easy for me to lose momentum…Because it doesn't feel like I'm moving forward…Since it doesn't feel like I'm moving forward…I don't want to waste my time or energy on something unsuccessful…I give myself permission to recognize the new normal…As being something that is different than the old normal…I give myself permission to recognize that progress is happening…Even if it is only happening in small ways…It is happening…I am moving forward…And I am making progress…I can see that progress when I take a step back…And reminding myself of my progress will help me to keep moving forward…It will help me maintain my momentum…It's a process…Sometimes I wish it wasn't always a process…But I recognize that is how success happens…I give myself permission to trust the process…And to trust that my action are having an effect…I am open to the process…I'm open to being more aware of the progress I am making…I give myself permission to keep taking action…Even when it doesn't feel like I'm moving forward…Because I am moving forward towards success.

Pod #324: EFT For Doing The Right Task First (Productivity Series: 5 of 7)

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This is Part 5 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series.

Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here.

There is a part of us that wants to everything in exactly the right order, and that's because there are times in which the order we do tasks really matters, such as when baking a cake.

But for most tasks or projects, there isn't an exact right order. There may be an overarching plan that needs to be followed, but it doesn't have to be done in exact steps.

This concern about the right order of tasks can be a stumbling block to taking action because on some level we are worried about wasting energy and having to redo actions because we did them in the wrong order.

This tap-along audio (with printable tapping script) will help you to trust the order in which you think you need to act, as well as helping you to get comfortable with the idea that taking actions one at a time will add up to success and that success isn't dependent on any one thing.

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There is a part of me that is worried I'm going to do this in the wrong order…If I do this in the wrong order I'll have to do it again…Because I'm worried about doing things in the wrong order…I'm not taking action at all…This is a way for me to say safe…This is a way for me to be healthy…Because I'm not wasting time and energy…And I also know that if I don't take any action at all…I am certain to fail…Action is required for my success…I give myself permission to trust that I will do the tasks in approximately the right order…It doesn't have to be perfect…It doesn't have to be exactly right…It just needs to be close to right…Because most of the tasks do not have an exact right order…Most of the tasks do not require me to be perfect…I trust that I'm going to do this in a way that is useful…I also recognize the fact that the tasks that I need to do are important…But my success does not rely on any one task…Success comes when all these tasks add up…Doing a little work at a time…Adding up to something big…And because success will come from is the sum total of these tasks…Doing them is enough…Trusting that I am close enough to doing them in the right order will move me towards success…I know these efforts will add up…I know these steps will add up…Putting me in a position to be successful…I trust the order I am going to do these tasks…I trust the effort will add up into something good…I know that as I continue to take action my way will become clearer and clear…Taking action now is more important than trying to figure out the perfect action…I choose to trust myself.

Pod #323: EFT For Following Your Vision (Productivity Series: 4 of 7)

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This is Part 4 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series.

Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here.

There are times when we have a clear vision of what we wish to do, but we are held back by our emotions. This part of us may be worried that our vision isn't right for us, that others don't believe in our vision, or we are mistrustful of our own inner guidance.

This tap-along audio (with a printable tapping script below) will help you to trust in your inner guidance, trust your vision, and help you to take action even when those around you just don't get it.

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I give myself permission to trust myself…I give myself permission to trust my vision…There's a part of me that's so excited about my vision and moving forward…And there is a part of me that is also scared to death…It's worried that putting my hope in something like this might only lead to heartbreak…Might only lead to disappointment…I give myself permission to trust my vision…Even though that vision might not be perfect…I give myself permission to know I am heading in the right direction…And by trusting this vision…I will move forward…I will be successful…I am can remain safe…I can trust my vision…Even though I know everything will not going to be perfect…I can trust my vision even though I'm worried everything won't go exactly as planned…I know that others in my life don't share my vision…Some even doubt my vision…And that can make it hard for me to take action and to trust myself…When I am going against the opinions of others…I can question myself…There have been times in my life where my vision did not match up with that of others…And that was OK…I was still successful…And it was the right path for me…I ended up where I needed to be…It would be great if others shared my vision…But that is not necessary for me to be successful…They don't have to endorse my vision for me to be safe…I give myself permission to trust my inner guidance…Even when it conflicts with other people's opinions…Even when it conflicts with the ideas of those around me…This isn't their life…This is my life…And I allow myself to trust my inner guidance…Even in the face of others doubting me.

11 years ago this week (special deal)

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Eleven years ago this week Tapping Q & A was born! (I wrote the first article July 29th, 2007 and shared it with the world August 1st.)

It is hard to believe that something that started as a hobby in my free time has turned into a website that has had millions of page views and a podcast that's been downloaded over a million times by people in over 160 countries!

It means sooooooo much to me that you take the time to read, listen, comment, give feedback, and share the Tapping Q & A resources with your loved ones.

As a thank you, I am offering these two special special deals:

1) One-on-one sessions with me: Normally I charge $225 per 1-hour session, but this week you can get then for $110. (Maximum of 5 sessions per person, must be used by December 31st, 2018.)

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Thanks again for your part in the amazing experience this has been for me. I had no idea how this would turn out when I started and it's so far beyond my wildest dreams that I can't even process it!

As always, please let me know how I can be helpful to you in your tapping journey.

Blessings,

Gene

PS: If you would like full details on the 10 Question System, you can read about it here: https://tappingqanda.com/the-10-questions-that-changed-my-life/

Pod #322: EFT When Having To Learn Something New (Productivity Series: 3 of 7)

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This is Part 3 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series.

Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate  self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here.

When we are faced with doing something that we don't know how to do or that we don't have a great of experience with it is common that we won't take the action we what.

This is because there is a part of us that want to protect us from failure AND when we don't know how to do something failure is much more likely.

This tap-along audio (and script below) will help you to take action when you are feeling dumb, struggling because you don't know where to start, and that others will judge you because you don't know what action to take.

Tapping to this will make it easier for you to trust yourself when you don't feel comfortable or competent with the tasks in front of you.

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I recognize I need to do something to do…To take action towards something that is new for me…When I'm having to do something that is new for me…It is easy for me to feel incompetent…Because I am when it comes to this particular task…I don't like feeling incompetent…I don't like feeling dumb…Every single thing that I am able to do…I had to learn how to do it first…Even the things that I do the best…At one point I couldn't do them all…I give myself permission to know it is okay to feel incompetent…It is okay that I don't know how to do this…I know I will learn how to do it…It can also be difficult to start with something new…Because I don't know where to start…If I knew how to do this I would know where to start…Figuring out where to start as part of the learning process…I give myself permission to just begin…As I take action I will learn…as I take action I will understand more…This means it will be easier for me to move forward…In thoughtful and deliberate way…As I learn how to do this I will learn what the next step is…As I learn something new I am afraid that other people are going to recognize the fact that I don't know what I'm doing…They are going to judge me as being stupid…They're going to judge me…I trust myself to know it is okay for me not to know…The judgment from others is not important when it comes to me having success…I give myself permission to be okay that others might see me being unsuccessful…As I learned how to do this…Eventually they will see me as successful…Because I will have learned what to do…I trust that in this process my belief in myself is more important than others judgment…This will allow me to take action…I will end up knowing how to do this well.

Pod #321: EFT For Staying Focused (Productivity Series: 2 of 7)

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This is Part 2 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series.

Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here.

Allowing distractions, such as email or social media notifications, is one of the easiest ways to be unproductive. Distractions also come in the form of unruly thoughts rattling around in our heads. This tap-along audio (with a full printable script below the audio player) will help to calm your mind before you begin working, helping you to stay focused.

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I recognize the fact that I have a lot going on…I recognize that my mind is trying to keep track of so many things…And because my mind is trying to keep track of all of these things…It bounces from place to place…Making it difficult for me to stay focused…And difficult for me to get everything done…I appreciate that these distractions are just a part of my system trying to keep me safe…It doesn't want me to miss anything…It bounces from idea to idea because it thinks all of the stimulus is important…I know all of these distractions aren't actually important… I don’t need to pay attention to them right now…But my subconscious mind doesn't always realize that…It doesn't always know what is important…It bounces from place to place because it thinks everything is important…But I recognize the fact that it is possible for me to stay focused…And to ignore all of these other distractions…And still be safe…It doesn’t mean I will miss something important… When I focus on what is in front of me…I'm not ignoring everything else…I'm simply setting it aside for the moment…I'm simply avoiding it for now…Once the task in front of me is done…I can return to paying attention to all of the other tasks…I can pay attention to any other idea that my subconscious mind throws up…Because I know these thoughts will not be lost…I will be reminded of anything I need to do in the future…So I give myself permission to focus on what is in front of me right now…Calmly letting go of everything else…Except what I am working right now…And if I am distracted again…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…Simply to let the distracting thoughts pass…Returning to the task in front of me…Without beating myself up for the distraction…As I keep letting these distractions go…It will become easier and easier for me…I will become more focused on my work…I will be kinder to myself regarding these future distractions…I know it is possible for me to be more focused…I give myself permission to find that focus gently.

Pod #320: EFT When We Have An Unclear Vision (Productivity Series: 1 of 7)

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This is Part 1 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series.

Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate your self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here.

It’s difficult to take action when we don't have a clear vision for exactly what we want. A lack clarity about our goals means we have to deal with both the practical and emotional blocks to taking action.

On a practical level it is difficult to take action because we aren't exactly sure what the best action looks like. A clear vision creates a tangible goal, which leads to concrete steps to take and the order in which to take them. Without that we may struggle to know what the best, most constructive actions are.

On a subconscious level we prevent ourselves from taking action as a way of saving energy and effort. When we don't have a clear vision, our subconscious mind worries that we might choose to take action that isn't useful. It sees that we don't know exactly what we want and knows that any action we take is just a guess as to if it is a useful action. The subconscious therefore prevents us from taking any action as way of ensuring we don't take the wrong action.

In this week's tap-along audio (and tapping script found below) we tap for being able to take action when we don't know exactly what we are moving towards.

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I recognize the fact that it is difficult for me to take action when I don't have a clear vision of where I'm going…When my vision is unclear my subconscious tries to keep me safe…By preventing me from taking action…Because my subconscious doesn't want me to waste time…My subconscious doesn't want me to waste energy…My subconscious is worried that if my vision is not clear…Then the actions I take might be in the wrong direction…That the actions I take might be moving away from my ultimate goal…And because it doesn't want me heading in the wrong direction…It prevents me from taking any action at all…I appreciate the fact that it's trying to save me energy…I appreciate the fact it's trying to save me time…By not wasting my effort on something that isn’t useful…When I take action it is an opportunity for me to learn…It is an opportunity for me to get feedback…To see if I'm heading in the right direction…Even if the action I am taking isn't leading in the right direction…Taking the action can be useful…Because I'm going to learn…I am going to get feedback…And it's going to give me clarity about what my goal actually is…In moments when I lack clarity…I give myself permission to take the action that seems most logical…Even if it isn't moving me in the exact right direction…It will help me to learn what the right direction is.

Pod #319: EFT for Betrayal w/ Dr. Debi Silber

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Betrayal is unlike other emotions because it creates problems beyond the immediate pain we feel when we realize we have been betrayed. Betrayal also sows seeds of doubt at a subconscious level, which can create lasting physical and emotional problems.

This week I have a conversation with Dr. Debi Silber who has dedicated her research and work to understanding how betrayal impacts us physically and emotionally. More importantly, she has also developed a process (Post Betrayal Transformation) to help heal those wounds.

In this conversation we discuss the conditions required for betrayal to happen, how it impacts us, and the first steps towards healing.

During the interview Debi refers to a short quiz that you can take to see if you are being impacted by a past betrayal. You can take the quiz here.

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Dr. Debi Silber

Guest: Dr. Debi Silber

Contact: web @ PBTInstitute.com

About: Dr. Debi Silber, founder of PBT Institute is a Transformational Psychologist, and a health, mindset, empowerment and personal development expert. She is also a speaker, a coach and the author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis.

Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, TEDx, The Huffington Post, Shape, Self, Health, Working Mother, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, Yahoo Shine, Ladies Home Journal, MSN, Woman's World and Glamour.

Her doctoral study led to two discoveries around how women experience and heal from betrayal. Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, she has created a multi-faceted approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from the trauma of betrayal.

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Good morning,

In case you haven’t already heard the good news, Google has just made it a whole lot easier to listen to podcasts on your Android phone!

Up until last week you had to install an extra app to access podcasts, which wasn't the most convenient.

Now it is a super simple two-step process:

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Pod #318: What is the best way to use EFT for this issue?

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I often hear from frustrated clients because they have tapped for an issue, but they haven't made any progress. When this happens they question whether tapping can help.

The reality is that in many of these cases the issue isn’t whether tapping will work, but instead what is the best way to tap for an issue.

This week I have for you a simple four-step process to ensure you are tapping in the most effective way to get to the root cause of an issue.

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Pod #317: EFT For Feeling Like An Outsider

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For me, one of the hardest feelings is that of feeling like an outsider. When you are in a room full of people, feeling like you don’t belong and your head spins with imagining what everyone is thinking about you – and NONE of it is good!

Last weekend I found myself feeling exact this way – even though I know that, in reality, most people are far too caught up in their own lives to spend much time worrying about or judging me. Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script for when you find yourself in the same situation.

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I feel like an outsider…I feel like nobody gets me…Even if there were the time and space to explain myself…They still wouldn't understand…Or they wouldn't accept me…Or they would say I don’t belong…It is painful being in a situation where I am surrounded by people…And yet I feel completely alone…When I sense a connection in the room that I'm not a part of…It feels like there is no entry point…Where I feel like my presence is a burden to others…The only thing to do is to try to escape…I recognize the fact my emotions are working way too hard…I recognize the fact that I do have common ground…There are connections that I can make…I don't always have to feel like I'm on the outside…Even if they don't fully understand me…I do have something to offer…There are ways that we can connect…Even if I am not totally at home I can find connection…I can find community…I can be accepted for who I am…Without having to prove myself…I am valuable…I have something to offer…I can connect in a true human way…I am not as alone as I feel…I do not have to fear…I can be completely who I am…Even though it feels scary to be vulnerable…Even though it feels overwhelming to be who I am…Even when it feels like I have nothing to offer…Or that they will never understand…I give myself permission to trust myself…I give myself permission to trust others…I give myself permission to believe in human connection…Knowing that I can create space where I feel at home…My fear of judgment is trying to keep me safe…My fear of judgment is working way too hard…This does not mean I become careless…This does not mean I become reckless…This does not mean I become completely unguarded…Trusting myself and trusting others does not mean I'm letting all of my barriers down…I can be more open and connect more while still keeping myself safe…While still keeping myself healthy…I give myself permission to trust myself…I give myself permission to trust others…I give myself permission to know that I am acceptable…I give myself permission to know that I am lovable…I am lovable in big and small ways.

Pod #316: Wanting Better For Others

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It can tough to see our loved ones making choices that aren't serving them well. Because we have distance from their situation, we are able to see the bigger picture in that way that they cannot.

What can be even more difficult is that often they are so deeply entangled in the issue that they aren't able to hear our our advice.

This week I have for you a simple process that you can tap to when you are wanting better for someone in your life. While remaining responsible for their own actions, this process can help to create the space needed for them to gain a fresh perspective, which opens up the possibility of change.

Not only do I have the simple step-by-step process explained in the audio, but I have also included a link where you can download it and 13 other tapping tools free of charge.

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Pod #315: It Only Takes A Minute

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Sometimes I put off tapping because I don't feel I have enough time for an in-depth tapping session. But often you don't need much time to make a huge difference to how you are feeling.

Recently I had a small physical issue that was more of an inconvenience than the cause of any great pain. I never thought to tap for it because it was so small.

Eventually I got around to tapping for it, which was really effective and I couldn’t believe I’d waited so long! Here’s the simple three-step process I used. Give it a try!

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Pod #314: Releasing Limiting Beliefs

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Many of our beliefs are held at a subconscious level and some of them do not serve us well. They may be inaccurate in the way we describe ourselves, our relationships, and the world and this inaccuracy causes us problems in daily life because subconsciously we believe them to be true.

Once we identify these beliefs we can then use tapping to transform them into a clearer reflection of the way the world works.

Beliefs that have been passed on to us by our loved ones are particularly hard to change. This is because part of us fears that if we let go of the belief, we will also be letting go of the person who gave it to us.

Logically we know this isn't the case, but because this perception exists at a subconscious level it can slow or even halt our progress.

This week I have a simple process you can use to transform the beliefs that have been passed on by others, with a tap-along section at the end.

In the audio I also share with you how you can get a free written version of this tool, the tapping script, and 13 other great tapping tools.

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Here is the tapping script that you are going to use as part four of this process. In the audio above, not only do I share the first 3 steps.

I know that I am approaching this just like the people in my life…and I know that approach is not serving me…but there is a part of me that doesn’t want to let this belief go…there is a part of me that believes that if I let this belief go then I am letting them go…that I am saying that they are wrong…I am saying that I don’t love them…I am saying that I am not grateful for what they have done for me…but I know this is not true…I can let go beliefs that they had without letting go of them…I can know that I love them and that they love me and not hold everything they said or did as true…They were imperfect…and it is OK to say that they were and are imperfect…and there are many beliefs that served them in a time and place that don’t serve me…they want what is best for me…and they might think that one way is right…but even when they want things for me that aren’t perfect for me…they do this because they want what is best for me…I can do what is best for me and love my parents…I can do what is best for me and appreciate everything they have done for me…I can do what is best for me and keep the relationship strong…letting go of something they have given me is not the same as letting them go.

Pod #313: When People Push Our Buttons

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For some reason, certain situations and certain people just push our buttons, despite knowing logically that our response is irrational and shouldn't elicit as much emotion as we feel.

In this week's podcast I share with you a simple 7-step process you can use when you are having your buttons pushed.

In the audio I also share with you how you can get a free printed version of this tool (and 13 others).

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Pod #312: EFT for Resource and Energy Management in Relationships

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Our relationships are living, breathing organisms, alive with the constant dynamic of give and take. At times there is a lot more give than take. This can affect our feelings about the relationship, about the other person in the relationship, and can even have a detrimental effect on our other relationships

At this year's Spring Energy Event, held just outside NYC, I shared how our relationships impact us and 5 simple tools you can use to cultivate healthier, stronger relationships. This podcast is a recording of my 35 minute presentation.

We would love to see you at next year's event. You can sign up to receive recordings from past events and information about next year's at ,a href=http://springenergyevent.com>SpringEnergyEvent.com.

Pod #311: EFT To Give Yourself Permission To Be Angry

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In last week's podcast I talked about (and shared the scientific evidence) as to why it can be useful to swear while tapping. Even if we accept that swearing is useful, it doesn't necessarily mean that we are comfortable doing it.

When I say uncomfortable I don't mean in terms of using swear words. Instead, we may feel bad because we are angry at all. Anger feels like such a strong and primitive emotion that we may believe that we should be above it and feeling angry represents some sort of personal failing.

Feeling angry from time to time is both natural and healthy. This week we are going to tap for being OK with the fact that we sometimes feel anger. (As always, the full tapping script can be found below the audio player.)


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I know I have a rich emotional life…My emotions are useful…My emotions are one way in which my system communicates with me…And because of this…It is useful information…I also recognize the fact…That there is a part of me that thinks I am above emotional responses…That believes I have transformed so much…That I should no longer be overcome by these emotions…I should be able to deal with everything…In a calm and reasonable way…The fact that I am feeling these emotions feels like I have failed…Feels like I have made a mistake…Feels like I haven't evolved as much as I think I have…But I give myself permission to know that I'm allowed to feel my emotions…I give myself permission to feel the whole spectrum of emotions…I give myself permission to know that emotions are healthy…I give myself permission to know my emotions are natural…I don't want my emotions to be disproportionate…I don't want to lash out at others with my emotions…But I am allowed to feel them…I am allowed to experience them…It is healthy for me to feel deep emotion…It is not a failing to feel emotion…It is not a shortcoming to feel emotion…Emotions are information…It is unhealthy for me to repress my emotions…I give myself permission to articulate my emotions in a clear honest and authentic way…I am healthier when I articulate my emotions…I am happier in the long term when I articulate my emotions…I give myself permission to feel…I give myself permission not to hold back…I give myself permission to grow through my emotional experience.

Pod #310: Why You SHOULD Swear While Using EFT

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Did you know that swearing is good for you?

And I don't mean just swearing for the sake of it, but there are a number of contexts in which scientific research has shown it is actually good for you. It can help to manage pain, build comradery, and release stress.

It can also be a powerful tool in helping you to tune into your emotions while tapping. Recently Emma Byrne combined her own research into the power of using curse words with the large body of other research on the same subject into a new book Swearing Is Good for You: The Amazing Science of Bad Language.

I have taken all of the pertinent information as it relates to tapping and have included it in this week’s podcast. I explain why swearing is good for you and how you can get the most out of tapping by swearing while you tap.


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Pod #309: EFT for Carrying the Expectations of Others

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One of the situations that my clients struggle with the most is dealing with the expectations of their loved ones.

Our loved ones want what is best for us, but they want what is best of us in terms of what they think will make us happy. Often what they think will make us happy and what will actually make us happy are totally different.

Difficulties arise when going against the expectations of our loved ones feels like a violation of the relationship and the trust inside it. When we fear hurting people in this way, either we do what they want OR we don't follow through on what we want, and remain stuck.

This means that we fail to move forward AND we can end up feeling resentful towards the people we love for holding us back.

This week I have a simple tap-along that will help you to respect and honor what others want while also being able to make the choices that are right for you based on what you want or need.

The full tapping script can be found below the player.

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I recognize that the people in my life want what's best for me…They want me to be successful, happy and healthy…Based on their experience they have a clear definition of what happy is…Since it is their definition of happiness…In their minds it must be everyone's definition of happiness…Therefore their expectation is for me to live up to that definition…I want to be happy too…But I recognize the fact that my definition of happiness and their definition of happiness are not the same…I can appreciate that they want what's best for me…I can embrace their desire for me to be happy…I can do this in such a way where I don't have to adopt their definition of happiness…I do not have to live up to their expectations…I don't have to pick up their specific desires for my life…I can accept that they want what's best for me…Without having to accept their definition of what is best for me.

I also recognize the fact that there are times where I assume others have expectations of me…I assume there is a specific definition about my life…These expectations impact me…But just because I believe expectations are there…Doesn't actually mean these expectations exist…There are going to be times in which I fabricate those expectations inside my own head…I give myself permission to let go of received expectations…Knowing it is possible for me to live the life that I want…Without those expectations.

Sometimes there are really clear expectations others have for me…These expectations are stated in subtle and obvious ways…There are times in which there is nothing I can do to live up to their expectations…Even if I tried to live up to those expectations every moment of the day…There are people in my life who will never be satisfied…And since they're never going to be satisfied…I might as well live the life that I want to live…It does me no good to be dissatisfied with my life…And to have them be dissatisfied with my choices…If they are going to be unhappy with unfulfilled expectations…I might as well live the life that I want…Because my choices will not impact their happiness…Therefore I need to make the choices that are best for me.

I give myself permission to know that the only thing that matters…Is how I perceive my life…Is how my choices resonate with me…About who I am creating myself to be…About whether or not I am satisfied with that…I know my choices impact others…I know there are people who have strong beliefs about how I should live…I know others have invested in me helping me create the life that I have…I have to take responsibility for my life…I have to take responsibility for myself…I give myself permission to know I'm allowed to live up to my expectations and not anyone else's…And that will serve me in the short term and will serve me in the long term.

Pod #308: EFT to Celebrate Success

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We all know that tapping is a powerful tool when we are in pain, distress, and discomfort. Did you know it can also be a useful tool when we are celebrating success?

The reason for this is because it is common to feel a number of negative emotions at the exact same time as feeling happy and successful. It is possible to feel:

  • That we are not worthy of success
  • Uncomfortable in the spotlight of attention that success can bring
  • Under pressure to always be successful
  • Anxious that our success was just down to luck and people will find out that we are an imposter
  • That it’s greedy or immodest to crave success and we should keep our head down and work harder

If any of these feelings are present, when we feel successful we will subconsciously want to avoid success in the future.

Here is a simple tap-along audio that will help you get comfortable with feeling successful and allow for more success in future. A full tapping script of the audio can be found below the player.

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I'm glad I have this moment for celebration…I'm glad that I've been successful…I appreciate all of the effort that I put into this success…I appreciate all the time that I put into making this happen…I'm glad I've had this success…It is appropriate for me to celebrate the success…Even though I understand intellectually I should be celebrating my success…It is possible that I have subconscious beliefs…About how success is bad and how celebration is wrong…There might be a part of me that is afraid…That since I've had this level of success…I always have to achieve this level of success…That this new success has become the new standard…I appreciate the fact that standards change…I'm glad that I'm consistently striving for more…I appreciate the fact that just because I have achieved this now does not mean I have to achieve this forever…This is a moment in time that demonstrates what is possible…What is possible does not become the new standard…I give myself permission to continue to have success…Without creating unrealistic expectations for the future…I also recognize that my success means people will notice that I'm having success…There's a part of me that doesn't like that sort of attention…There's a part of me that just wants to do the work…That wants to invest my time in what is important and move on to the next thing…I know this success is about me and what I'm getting from it…I'm not doing it for the attention…Any attention I receive does not impact that success…I give myself permission to focus on the success…I give myself permission to focus on what I have achieved and what I get for that achievement…Which gives me the opportunity to build more success in the future…There also might be a part of me that doesn't feel worthy of this success…It believes others deserve this success more…It sees others who have worked hard and not had the same success…It might even believe that this success is some lucky fluke that has nothing to do with me…And since it has nothing to do with me…I shouldn't have the success…I recognize the fact that I was made for success…I recognize the fact that I was built for success…I see how my success serves other people…I see how my success allows me to keep moving forward…I give myself permission to accept and enjoy my success…To use my success to build upon…To know that this is not a fluke…To know that my success does not mean I am stealing someone else's opportunity…I give myself permission to allow success to happen again…To know that I'm worthy of this success…To know I'm worthy of celebrating the success.