We do not live in a vacuum. Not only do the choices we make impact others (and vice versa) in the moment, but there is also a lasting impact from the relationships we have had in the past. Some of these relationships have obvious deep impact, while others affect us in ways of which we are unaware. In this interview I talk to Gwyneth Moss about a new approach that she uses in helping people to understand and unpack the web of life. This is a tool that she uses only occasionally because of the ...
EFT For A Good Night’s Rest
One of the issues I am asked about the most is tapping for a good night’s sleep. Below is the tapping script I use when I have trouble sleeping. You can download a pdf version of the script here downloadable pdf. [Note: If you find this script helpful I would encourage you to check MyEFTYear.com. This is the type of resource that shows up at least 4 days a week.] Are you looking for something to help you sleep through the night? Try this right before you go to bed. There are a ...
What Are The Biggest Mistakes Made By Beginner Tappers?
I recently asked some of my favorite tappers "What are the biggest mistakes made by beginning tappers?" Below you will find their answers. When everyone answered they didn't know what anyone else was saying. I found it very instructive to see the number of similar answers that were given by many people. ...
Pod #99: EFT For Resentment w/ Gwenn Bonnell
Gwenn Bonnell is always one of my favorite guests on the Tapping Q and A Podcast because every time I talk to her I learn something new. This interview was no different. In this interview we talk about how to tap for resentment. And this is not just about feeling resentment towards other people. We can also resent our computer for not working, a company for not being helpful, and ourselves for making the same bad choice again and again. The interesting thing about resentment is that it is an ...
EFT To Stay Healthy During Flu Season
It has been one of the worst flu seasons in years here in the States. And even if you managed to avoid the flu, there were lots of colds and stomach viruses going around. Below is the tapping script I use when I feel a bug coming on. You don't have to use the whole thing. Feel free to pick and choose the parts that work best for you. Here is a downloadable pdf version of the script. [Note: If you like this script I would encourage you to check MyEFTYear.com. This is the type of ...
Did You Know You Aren’t Trying To Get Rid Of Emotions With EFT?
photo by Kerr Photography A recent conversation with my client went like this... Client: I am really sad because I am never going to get to see him again. Me: Good! Client: What do you mean good? Me: It is good that you are mourning the loss of the friendship. It is important to mourn that loss. It’s healthy to recognize that the relationship was important to you, recognize the positive things it gave you, and acknowledge you are going to be missing something. Client: I ...
Why Do I Always Make Change So Hard? How To Make It Easier With EFT!
photo by mjzitek Why do I always make it so hard for myself to change? I know there is an easier way, but I always choose the hard way. Why am I doing that? That is a direct quote from one of my clients this week. (Did you know you can work with Gene too?) In my experience, there are two main reasons why my clients make things harder for themselves: value and worth. Making Our Work Valuable As a culture we attribute value to hard work to the point of making it a virtue. ...
EFT Gone Wrong (Funny!)
3 Things You Need To Keep In Mind Before You Start An EFT Session
photo by The Happy Rower Often, in advance of working with someone one-on-one, we will have short conversation to see if we will be a good fit to work together. (If you are interested in working with me one-on-one visit WorkWithGene.com.) Recently, during one of these consultations, I was asked this thoughtful question: “I have never worked with a practitioner before, is there anything I should know or keep in mind as we start to do this work?” I have a pre-session audio [link] ...
Pod #97: Dealing With Misperceptions That Can Hinder The Healing Process w/ Dr. Shoshana Garfield, PhD
One of the biggest struggles we have in doing any sort of transformational work is the fact that it is possible for us to NOT see the issue at hand clearly. We are shaped by our experience, our training, our biases, the stories we tell about ourselves, and what we hope is true. Because of this, even with the intention to do healing work, we can end up going down a path that is not fruitful. The problem with these misperceptions is that it is nearly impossible know when this is the case and if ...
Is It OK To Say “Not” While Doing EFT?
In a number of your EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) scripts you use the words "not" and "does not" For example in your forgiveness tapping script, "When I choose to forgive John, what I'm choosing to do is to no longer be emotionally tied up in this past instance...More than likely, John doesn't give this transgression any thought at all...It doesn't do me any good to keep re-living this wound over and over again..." I have heard that the subconscious mind ignores the word "not" and every ...
This Is Just Like My Mother/Father
photo by sean dreilinger I've noticed a pattern in my life that is just like my parents and I can't seem to tap it away. Is there something special I need to do when dealing with issues that I have picked up from my parents? It makes perfect sense that we pick up the patterns, traits, and beliefs from our parents. They are the ones who cared for us and taught us during our most formative years. Not all of these patterns and beliefs are helpful. Tapping/Emotional Freedom Techniques ...
Pod #96: Best Practices To Get The Most Out Of EFT w/ Dawson Church, Ph.D.
EFT is a very powerful tool for bringing about change and can be used in many different settings. It can be done alone, with a practitioner, in groups, in short bursts, over a number of sessions, and over the telephone or Skype. As time passes not only are studies being done to explore what EFT is effective for, but the data from these studies is also being used to uncover the best ways to use EFT. In this interview Dawson Church and I discuss what these studies tell us about how to get the ...
My Holiday Embarrassment
I spent the Christmas holiday in my home state of Wyoming. The last night I was home my sister asked if I could share a way she could tap for a friend who was grappling with a lot of difficult changes in his life. I spent about 30 minutes talking my sister (and my mother) through the "Talk About, Talk To, Talk As If" tool. My sister then asked if it would a good idea if we tapped for a family member, "Bob," who was having a particularly hard time. It hit me like a ton of bricks... ...
Pod #95: EFT For Self Love And The Power Of Self-Love w/ Brad Yates
It is very easy to say (especially in tough times) “All we need is love”. The hard part is to know what that means beyond bumper sticker sentimentality. In this interview with Brad Yates we talk about in real terms what is love, what is self-love, and most importantly how can we use EFT to feel a sense of love in a tangible way. Brad Yates Guest: Brad Yates Contact: twitter @EFTWizard; web @ TapWithBrad.com ; facebook @ facebook.com/BradYatesTapping About Brad: Brad has had the ...
What would you do with 113 articles, podcasts, tap-alongs, and videos? – The Best Of 2012
I want to thank you for your continued support of TappingQandA.com. The website is a labor of love and it always warms my heart when I receive your emails and read your comments. There are a lot of great things planned for 2013 including a new season of the Tapping Q & A podcast, the launch of 2 new websites, and few other surprises. Before we move on to all that is new it good to look back on 2012. This year 113 new articles, podcast, tap-along audios, and videos were added to ...
Helping Someone With EFT Right Now!
I recently had a chance to do EFT with someone who was having a really bad day. I didn’t have a lot of time to explain what we were doing and I didn’t know how to start. Because I wasn’t sure how to explain what we were going to do, I didn’t do anything. Do you have any suggestions on how to share EFT when you don’t have time to explain what you are doing? photo by eyesplash Mikul Here’s a story about using EFT when the person didn’t even know she was doing EFT. I am part of a ...
Trying On The Old Positive Feeling
Things in my life have gone all pear-shaped lately. About three years ago life was going great and then everything seemed to fall apart. I started to have health issues, I ended a long-term relationship, and I just didn't have the same energy when I got up in the morning. Is there a way that I can use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to make my way back to feeling good? photo by Maria Morr I love synchronicity in life. I received this email the same day I worked with a client ...
Transforming Our Critical Voice Into Something Helpful With Tapping and EFT In 8 Easy Steps
[Note: In this article I am going to be addressing the role of the critical voice. I am going to speak as if the critical voice has a personality and motives. I am not saying the critical voice is a distinct personality or that it is separate from us in any way. But by speaking of it as if it is distinct it will give us the ability to deal effectively with only one part of our personality, helping us to get some perspective on what is going on and enabling faster transformation.] One of the ...
I Can’t Do It Unless I Do It Perfectly – One Of The Most Common Reasons We Don’t Take Action
There are lots of things that motivate us to do well. We all want to be successful. We want to be proud of our work and we want others to recognize our good work. Sometimes there is an even more powerful driver to success itself: the worry that others will criticize our work. When we are working from this fear we are coming from a place where everything has to be perfect. The problem is that we are rarely perfect. Since we are rarely perfect we don’t try because we are afraid of the ...