I'm not sure if this is clear, but everytime I send something out my goal is to be helpful and to serve you in some way. This is true of something as short as a 140 character tweet or as long as an 3000 word article. It is even true when I send out a sales letter about a new program. When I send out a sales letter (like the one I sent last week) I have two goals: 1) To share something with you that I believe to be of the highest quality and will enrich your life if you choose to ...
Pod #109: How To Use EFT In The Absence Of Specific Memories w/ Lindsay Kenny
Sometimes there is a clear entry point to a problem. There is a past moment we keep reliving where we see exactly what went wrong. Other times there is a clear pattern we are trying to change, like emotional eating, where we can tap on specific actions that are happening regularly. But this is not always the case. Sometimes there are issues beneath the surface which affect us more generally, such as low self esteem, and it’s difficult to know how to tap for them. In this interview I talk with ...
Is The Way You Are Talking About Your Issues Stopping Your Progress?
photo by Marlon Malabanan The words we use to describe our world are very important because they impact the way we understand what we are experiencing. The words we use give our experience meaning. For example, if I say, "Everyone at work hates me!" that will impact the way I walk into the office because I will have my guard up with every interaction. If a client says this to me, my follow up question is, "Really, everyone?" Most of the time their response is something like, "No, ...
Pod #108: EFT For Fear of Rejection In The Age Of Invitation w/ Rick Wilkes
We live in interesting times. Every morning when I wake up I am bombarded with friend requests, invitations to attend events, fund projects, and try new programs. At the exact same time it is possible for me to go through an entire day and not have one single profound connection with another person. In this conversation with Rick Wilkes we talk about how scary it can be to put yourself out in the world with the intention of making genuine connections when it feels like we will be judged. This ...
The Scariest Thing I Have Ever Done With Tapping And How You Can Benefit From It
Please read this carefully! I am only making this offer available to 7 people. This is not one of those fake offers like a business that has been having a going out of business sale for five years. Only 7 spots! (And you will see why there are only 7 as you read on.) If you don’t want to read this long note...no worries. You will receive the regular newsletter on Thursday with links to the resources you have come to expect from Tapping Q and A. Gene * * * I don't know if ...
Pod #107: When We Care So Much That The World Becomes A Painful Place
Most of my readers, listeners, and clients are big hearted people. Not only do they see the obstacles in their own lives, but they recognize the struggle of others. When we recognize the struggles of others we also open ourselves up to experiencing their pain. On one hand this allows us to connect and respond to where they are coming from. On the other hand it can open us up to feeling overwhelmed and a great deal of pain when we realize how many problems we are unable to solve. It is a ...
Video: EFT For Shame
For me, the most painful and debilitating emotion is when I feel ashamed of something I have done wrong. When I feel ashamed, it is because I know I could have done better or I chose the wrong path. Many times I know the right thing to do and still choose the wrong thing. That produces a lot of feeling ashamed! And as I hate feeling ashamed, I limit my risk. I don't take chances. Because if I don't take chances then I can't make poor choices. And if I can't make poor choices then I ...
Pod #106: EFT For When We Can’t Trust Our Self w/ Andy Bryce
When I am working with clients one of the things I keep in mind with all behavior is that when someone makes a choice they are making the best choice they can make based on the information they have and the resource state they are in. We can quickly realize that we have made a bad choice (something in a split second after we have acted), but in that moment we are really doing the best that we can. The problem comes when we are working for a place of fear. When this happens we will make lots of ...
Video: How To Use EFT After You Have Failed To Reach Your Goals (w/ Tap-Along)
One of the main focuses of My EFT Year program (which you can try for only $1) is working towards clearly defined goals. I love goals and goal setting! Much my personal success over the last decade was in direct proportion to how well I was using my goal list. But there are times, even with the best goal setting tools in the world, when we can lose our momentum. This is exactly what happened to me in February and March. As my British friends would say, I completely lost the plot. I ...
How To Tap Surrogately For Animals
Last week I was in Portland, OR visiting my sister. On Saturday we took my sister's dog Addison to the vet for a regular check-up and to have her nails trimmed. (The photo is of Addison looking at me while I was doing client sessions from my sister's.) Addison doesn't like having her nails cut. She was already a little skittish, but when the time came to have them done she did everything she could to hide in a room that had no hiding place. It took my sister and a vet tech to get Addison on the ...
Pod #105: What Mistakes Do Beginner And Pro Tappers Make & The Most Effective Ways To Tap
Over the last few weeks I have shared with you thoughts from some of my favorite tappers. I asked them what mistakes beginners and pros make, as well as what they have found to be the most effective ways to tap. In this week’s podcast I take on all three questions: What Are The Biggest Mistakes Made By Pro Tappers? What Are The Biggest Mistakes Made By Beginner Tappers? What Have You Found To Be The Most Successful Approaches To EFT? In answering the third question I share the tool I ...
Video: How To Tap For A Memory That Is Still Affecting You Today
Until recently, every time someone made a particular hand gesture I would experience a jab of negative emotion. Once I figured out the root of the pain, a painful moment when someone else had used this same motion, I was able to tap for it. Here is a short video of me tapping for this issue for the very first time where you can see the process unfolding step by step. I would love to hear your thoughts on this process in the comments. ...
Pod #104: EFT For Feeling Invisible And Being Invisible w/ Rue Hass
In my client sessions and even in my personal tapping I have noticed an interesting internal conflict. On the one hand we want to be seen, noticed, and validated. On the other, there is a part of us wanting to go through the world unseen and unnoticed, because if we are seen we can be judged. In this interview I talk with Rue Hass about this dichotomy. We look at what it means to be invisible, how we end up being invisible, and how it is possible to be invisible to our own selves. We also talk ...
What Have You Found To Be The Most Successful Approaches To EFT?
I asked a bunch of my favorite tappers what mistakes beginners and pros make when tapping. Today I have their response to the question "What have you found to be the most successful approaches to EFT"? Jade Barbee – emotionalengine.com Using specific strategies to tap on the discomfort of change. Addressing past events in detail, one intense aspect at a time (personal peace journal). Addressing limiting beliefs and the consequences of changing them. Jondi Whitis – ...
Pod #103: Using EFT To Deal With The Fears Of Being A Practitioner w/ Jenn Goddard
It has been exciting to see EFT move increasingly into the mainstream. As tapping has grown in popularity more and more people are wanting to share what they have learned with others and become EFT practitioners. Working with clients can be a little scary at first. Instead of just doing work on your own or with friends and family members, you now have people investing their money and their trust in your skills. Even with great training, supervision, and mentoring a new practitioner can still ...
Using EFT For Goals That Are Hard To Measure
photo by Angie Torres I was recently working with a client, who we will call "Joe". Joe asked, "I am starting to wonder if I am on the right path. I have a set of goals, but I can't really tell if I working towards them. I know I am working hard, but I don’t know if I am moving forward. How can I tell if I am doing the right work and making progress, or just spinning my wheels avoid the real work because I am afraid of it?" This is a thoughtful question. When it comes to judging ...
Pod #102: EFT For Chronic Illness w/ Annabel Fisher
There are few things more frustrating than chronic illness. In addition to the pain and suffering that come with the illness there is also the way that the unending nature of the symptoms grind on the system. In this interview I talk to Annabel Fisher about her personal experience of chronic illness and how she transformed it with EFT. We also discuss the steps you can use to tap for chronic issues. Annabel Fisher Guest: Annabel Fisher Contact Annabel: web @ TheEFTHealingCentre.com; ...
What Are The Biggest Mistakes Made By Pro Tappers?
Pod #101: What Happens When We Heal But Our Life Is No Different
EFT is a powerful tool when it comes to healing and transformation. Burdens and wounds that we have carried for decades can be cleared. It is an amazing thing to experience this type of freedom in our lives. After this type of release there can be a let down because after healing something so powerful we feel like our life should be much different. Sometime we can release so much and still feel the same day today. Here are few thoughts on how to respond to the let down of things feeling like ...
Does Using EFT Erase Your Memory?
photo by Kristin Nador Here is part of an email I received from a reader last week: "I had a profound experience with my first EFT session whilst just tapping along and now I'm almost scared to indulge in some more. It's as if I have large chunks of my memory missing. Am I really erasing my memories?" This is a great question because it is a common experience. AND if we are worried that tapping will "erase" our memories it makes sense that we wouldn't want to use it. There are ...