Pod #225: EFT to Lift Your Mood

June 16, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

We have control over very little in this world.

We can control our thoughts, actions, and emotional responses. And that is about it.

Because of this it is easy to feel overwhelmed by the barrage of negative news (of which we have had more than our fair share this week).

When I am able to recognize what I do control and how powerful that control can be in my own life, the easier each moment is and the more powerful my action becomes.

Here is a simple tap-along to help lift your mood (and bring hope) when it feels as if there is just too much to manage every day.

Pod #224: Gaining Clarity with EFT w/ Carol Look

June 8, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

Before I ask a client what they want, I first ask them what they don't want.

We are often unclear about what we want. We only know and want to stop what is uncomfortable, disappointing, and displeasing.

In this conversation with EFT Founding Master Carol Look we talk about how we can use tapping to get clear about what we want and how to trust our judgment when we are making choices.

This may seem like a simple and obvious skill to master, but once you do it will make a huge difference in your daily interactions.

Guest: Dr. Carol Look

Contact: web @ CarolLook.com; twitter @CarolLookEFT;

About Carol: A pioneer in the Energy Psychology field, Dr. Carol Look has brought unprecedented innovations to the application of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), and has produced outstanding results for her clients around the world.

Don’t forget to check out all of Carol's other podcast interviews

Pod #223: Becoming Comfortable In Your Own Skin w/ EFT

June 1, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

When I talk about the tapping work I am doing on and for myself, the phrase I always return to is “being comfortable in my own skin”. When I am comfortable with who I am in a situation, it is a lot easier for me to be my authentic self.

When I am my authentic self, I don't make perfect choices, but I am much more likely to make the choices and take the actions that I will be happy with in the big picture.

A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to present at the Spring Energy Event outside New York City on this exact topic. In the presentation I share the reasons why we aren't comfortable in our own skin, how our life changes when we are, and a simple tapping exercise you can use to move towards being more comfortable in your own skin.

You can hear the full presentation here:

Pod #222: Is There A Right Way To Do EFT? w/ Gwyneth Moss

May 25, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

The first set of EFT training videos were recorded by Gary Craig over 20 years ago. Gary developed EFT after he trained with Roger Callahan in the tapping protocol Thought Field Therapy, which was developed 10 years prior to that.

In the last 30 years there have been many names for and many presentations of tapping. This week I have a conversation with Gwyneth Moss about whether or not there are right or wrong ways to do tapping.

Gwyneth Moss

Guest: Gwyneth Moss

Contact: web @ EFThelps.com; email @ contact form; web @ Annual EFT Gathering

About Gwyneth: Gwyneth Moss is one of the original EFT Masters and the founder of the EFT Gathering annual community conference which has run since 2009. With a degree in Physics and an MBA she is known for the clarity and depth of her teaching style and for her innovative techniques which include EFT Imagineering; Protective Distancing; Projection Tapping; The Surrogate EFT Protocol and more. Gwyneth teaches EFT in the glorious countryside of Yorkshire and at Esalen, Big Sur, CA.

How To Tap For Any Emotion In 10 Easy Steps

May 23, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

One of the easiest ways to tap for an issue is by using the storytelling or movie techniques where you are tapping and working through the basic facts of the story. It can be harder to tap on your own when you don’t have a specific story to tap on.

When we feel an emotion strongly but it is not attached to one particular event or situation, it can be hard to find a story to tap through. Here is a simple process you can use to tap on an emotion when you are in this position.

This is also an excellent tool to use when you are teaching someone to tap. If you follow these steps, writing your answers out on a sheet of paper, not only will you have a successful tapping session, but you will also end up with a tapping script that you can use again.

1) Name The Emotion

This seems like an obvious first step, but sometimes we don't name what we are experiencing in detail. The more detail we have, the more effective our tapping will be. There is a difference between anger, rage, and betrayal. On the surface we might simply say we are mad, but as we investigate more thoroughly, we can see the subtleties to the emotions we are feeling.

The Center For Non-Violent Communication has come up with a great list of emotions. Print this out and read it over. It will help you to tune into what you are feeling in detail.

2) Name A Specific Instance

In as much detail as you can come up with, describe one specific occasion when you felt this emotion. Talk about who was there, what was said, what you were thinking at the time, what you are thinking now as you remember it, and all the outcomes of the situation.

Imagine you are sitting across from me in a coffee shop and telling me what happened as if I know none of the details.

3) Rate The Emotion On The SUD Scale

On a scale of 0 to 10 rate how large the emotion feels right now. SUD stands for “Subjective Units of Distress” and the SUD Scale is a subjective rank from 0 (no emotion at all) to 10 (overwhelmed by the emotion to the point it is all you can think about).

4) Describe The Physical Sensations

Describe the physical sensations that go along with the emotion in as much detail as possible. In which part (or parts) of the body do you feel it? Is it hot, tight, heavy, itchy, stiff, trembling, clenching, or some other feeling? Do you feel it in more than one part of your body? Describe each part separately. Is there some sort of mental dialogue going on as you feel the emotion? What is the internal voice saying? Who does the voice sound like? Who does it remind you of?

5) List 3 Things That Went Wrong

Because of the instance you describe above what are (at least) three things that went wrong and how were/are you impacted by these outcomes? Sometimes one moment can impact later events and moments. Don’t just think of what went wrong in the moment, but also how it affected later moments. Again, the more detail you use, the better.

6) List 3 Outcomes You Would Like To Have Happen Instead

After something goes wrong there are ways we would like to see it turn out better. What are (at least) three hopes you have for how this could turn out better in the future? Is there a relationship you would like to see mended? Is there something you would like someone to do? Is there a lesson you would like to learn? It is helpful to name how we would like things to turn out.

7) Re-rate On The SUDS Scale

After doing these steps I always like to re-rate the level of emotion. One of three outcomes are possible.

First, the number could go up. This is because you have now spent time thinking about the issue in detail. Often this tunes us into the issue more sharply so that we notice it more, making it feel bigger.

Second, you might notice that the number goes down. Many times simply getting something out of your head will be enough to diminish its intensity. Our minds can be relentless echo chambers, taking negative thoughts or emotions and bouncing them around over and over again. When we drag them into the light of day they often lose their power.

Finally, there might be no change at all. This simply means that the emotion will need more tapping to get it moving.

8) Start To Tap

Go back to the top of your notes. Start reading what you have written out loud as you tap. At the end of each sentence move to the next tapping point.

This is not a race. There is no reason to rush. As you read what you have written out loud pay close attention to the words you are saying. If you are describing what happened then try to relive what you are saying. If you are describing how you would like to see things turn out in the future, really tune into the emotion of having the new and better outcome.

9) Take Notes While You Are Tapping

As you reread what wrote before it is possible that additional details will come into focus. You may also notice new and even better outcomes around this issue for the future. If these things come to mind it is a good idea to take the time to write them down. Not only will you learn valuable things about this specific issue, but you will also learn things about yourself and the larger scope of this particular emotion.

10) Re-Rate One More Time

After you have read through what you have written and have tapped along, re-rate the issue to see where it is now. If you are down to a zero you are done, if you are not then you have the opportunity to move back to the top of the page and tap again.

Conclusion

It is possible to feel an emotion, tap in the moment, and feel better in that moment without making any lasting change. By taking the time to tap through your emotion in this systematized way, not only will you feel better in the moment, but you will be working towards lasting change.

Pod #221: EFT For The Emotions Animals Pick Up From Their People w/ Susanne Peach

May 18, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

Animals are highly perceptive when it comes to understanding human emotion. So much so that many animals will pick up and take on the emotions of the humans they are with the most.

In this week's podcast I have a conversation with Susanne Peach who has dedicated her career to working with and tapping for animals. She shares what happens when animals take on the emotions of their human companions and how best to tap for them.

Susanne Peach

Guest: Susanne Peach

Susanne's Contact Info: web @ Animaleze.com, phone @ 303.926.5414, e-mail @ contact page

About Susanne: Susanne Peach, Animal Energy Behaviorist, has been surrounded by animals her entire life. She has had the opportunity to study the energy of animals in many instances, from time spent on her godmother's farm in Germany to a designation as a certified wildlife rehabilitator. After successfully using EFT on humans, she learned by trial and error how to apply it to animals. She has dedicated her life to helping animals have emotionally happy and healthy lives, tapping for animals all over the world.

Pod #220: Rewriting Your Personal Story with EFT w/ Jacqui Crooks

May 11, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

As humans, one of our natural dispositions is to create stories about why the world functions the way it does. This is a primitive skill that kept our ancestors safe.

For example, when we see tracks in the mud we write the story “These tracks were created by a large animal that will mistake me for dinner. I had better walk in the other direction.”

Because the function of these stories is to keep us safe, our subconscious mind is not satisfied if we don't have a story and will create one in its absence. That’s why our actions can be influenced and guided by stories that are not true.

This can happen with the stories we tell about ourselves about why we are the way we are and who we can be.

In this conversation, Jacqui Crooks and I discuss these stories we have about ourselves that are no longer true and useful. She also shares how we can transform these stories.

Jacqui Crooks

Guest: Jacqui Crooks

Contact Jacqui: web @ JacquiCrooks.com

About Jacqui: Jacqui is one of the pioneers in using Energy Psychology, finding EFT IN 1999. Her life's not been the same since! She is an international speaker and trainer and an EFT Founding Master. She specializes in helping people to change limiting beliefs and old family and ancestral patterns that create self-sabotage and keep people stuck. Her background is in Ericksonian hypnotherapy and NLP, and through the development of unique ways of combining EFT with hypnotic language and NLP Jacqui is able to help effect deep level changes quickly and easily without trauma. She runs retreats in interesting places and trains EFT, worldwide. She presents at conferences and is one of the authors of EFT and Beyond.

Pod #219: Creating Space For Deep Healing w/ Joanne Callahan

May 4, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

One of the reasons that EFT is so powerful is because of how easy it is to use, anytime, anywhere. You don't need someone else to tap with and it is super easy to have a daily tapping practice.

But sometimes that is not enough. Sometimes you need help from the outside. It can also be beneficial to take time away from your daily life to work in a concentrated way.

This week I talk with Joanne Callahan about the importance and power of going on a healing retreat.

Joanne Callahan

Guest: Joanne Callahan, MBA

Contact: web @ Thought Field Therapy; web @ Well-Being Retreat

About Joanne: Co-developer of Thought Field Therapy with her husband Roger, and CEO of Callahan Techniques, Ltd.

Joanne Callahan, is a graduate of the University of California Santa Barbara and received her MBA in Healthcare Administration from California State University San Marcos.

Joanne Callahan is Director of the Thought Field Therapy Training Center and publisher and co-editor of The Thought Field, a quarterly newsletter.

She is trained in TFT at the Advanced and Voice Technology™ levels and the only person other than Dr. Callahan certified to teach all levels of TFT.

Joanne Callahan co-authored Thought Field Therapy and Trauma: Treatment and Theory, and the recently revised Stop the Nightmares of Trauma (with Forward by Jack Canfield, co-author Chicken Soup for Soul® Series), and Chapter 12, Thought Field Therapy: Aiding the Bereavement Process, in Death and Trauma: The Traumatology of Grieving.

You Have Been My Greatest Catalyst To Learning AND I Want To Give Back

May 2, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

Tired Of Superficial Results, Being Unsure Of Core Issues, And Healing That Just Doesn't Last?

Over 8 1/2 years ago when I created Tapping Q & A I thought it would be a good idea to build a website around the idea of answering questions. Little did I know just how good an idea that would turn out to be.

At least, it was the best choice for me and my learning.

Every time I sit down to write about a topic in response to a question from one of my readers I learn something.

This is has made me a better tapper. I am better at tapping for my own issues and I am better working with my clients.

Thank you for reading, commenting, and asking questions. My life is better because of it.

AND The Questions Keep Getting Better

One of the neat things (my editor doesn't like it when I use the word neat, but that is how it feels) I have noticed over time is that the questions you asking are becoming increasingly sophisticated.

Seven years ago more than half the questions I received were some variation on, “What are the right tapping phrases for [insert issue]?” as if there were some magic words to clear a certain issue.

Today the questions are about clearing resistance, the best way to identify and deal with core issues, and the best order in which to deal with issues for optimum results.

It has been a great joy watching the tapping community grow up!

I am sure you are part of this evolution and are looking to be a better tapper, or you wouldn't be reading this.

Getting Even Better At Tapping

Along with the development of the tapping community there has also been a maturing of the training resources available. There are at least 3 international organizations offering certification and it seems that every practitioner under the sun has created some “new” version of tapping they are teaching.

It is really hard to know which way to turn to expand your tapping tool set.

If you are looking to learn new tapping skills I have something for you to consider.

A Great Big Fat Marketing Mistake

I have put together what I believe are the best of the best tapping tools in what I think is the easiest way to learn them. This is probably a mistake, but I haven't come up with a fancy name.

If I were a better marketer I would call it something like SuperTapping, Exceptional EFT, The Monterastelli Method, or The Best Gosh Darn EFT Method That Will Make You Rich And Beautiful Beyond Your Wildest Dreams (AKA BGDEMTWMYRBBYWD Method).

To be honest the only name I considered was “Kick-* Tapping Techniques” but I was worried I might offend.

Coming up with names for things isn't my strength. Look how creative I got with my website name. I created a site that answers questions about tapping and called it TappingQandA.com.

What is lacking in name is made up in what I think is some of the best tapping training available.

Sharing My Tool Set

Over the last 8 years I have been slowly building my own tool set. I have consumed books, DVDs, and attended live trainings. I subscribe to over 50 newsletters and I spend 3 to 5 hours a week just working on improving my own skills.

I have studied NLP, hypnosis, age regression, parts work, neurological function, and guided imagery. I have spent hours with psychologists, doctors, chiropractors, acupuncturists, and psychiatrists picking their brains about what they have learned in their work.

I have spent hundreds of hours and well over $15,000 on building my tool set.

And I want to share that tool set with you.

I have taken my favorite tools, broken them down into simple steps, and presented them in such a way that you can start using them today!

What is taught?

I like presenting things in easy to use chunks so that you can take what you learn and put it into action right away. The class is organized into 8 lessons.

Lesson 1: 13 Foundations to Healing With Tapping That Every Practitioner Should Master
Lesson 2: 18 Lessons From 10 Masters Of Healing
Lesson 3: Hypnotic Patter And Language
Lesson 4: Guided Imagery
Lesson 5: Parts Work
Lesson 6: Age Regression
Lesson 7: Time Lines, Forgiveness Work, and Score Boards Oh My!
Lesson 8: Meta Models

(For a full description of each lesson please see the end of this note.)

Each of these lessons is designed to stand alone. You can start with any topic you want. I love this training because you don't have to complete it all to improve what you doing. Each step of the way you will be able to do new things with your tapping.

The moment you hit stop on any of the audios you will be ready to try the techniques.

You Don't Have To Take My Word For It

Here is what some of the students who were present for the recording of this class had to say:

“Gene is a consummate teacher, and his classes are packed with useful, timely information that can immediately be put into use. It's rare to find a teacher whose intellect is matched equally by a generous spirit. I'd recommend this class to anyone who wants to surge forward in either their own work or their practice” JW, NYC

“As a professional in the therapy field I am thrilled at the ease with which Gene presents complex material and clarifies with such ease what could be intimidating. He has one of those voices that resounds with enthusiasm, gentleness, and wisdom. He knows his stuff! He knows how to share it!” Helen Kauffman MSW, LCSW-C Towson, MD

“Gene has an understanding of human nature and behavior that most people don't achieve in their lifetime. He's wonderful about sharing and explaining. He brings a refreshing outlook to teaching techniques. As a practitioner I learned new ways of looking at EFT that I will incorporate into my practice immediately. So, my advice to you is that even if you feel you know this stuff, take advantage and learn from Gene whenever you get the opportunity. You owe it to yourself.” Wendy Merron, WendyMerron.com

But That's Not All

In addition to the training audios I have these 6 bonuses to sweeten the deal:

Transcripts Of All Classes – Not everyone learns in the same way and sometimes it is easier to read through materials to find that one point you were looking for instead of searching through an audio file. This is over 150 pages of content!

Two Bonus Hours Of Teaching (plus transcripts) – Since the original recording of the training I have added two more hours of advanced tools. The hour on “Making sure you are solving the right problem” has revolutionized the way I do tapping work.

30-Minute One-On-One Coaching Session – Do you have questions about the material covered in the class, about other topics, or looking for someone to talk through a tough client with? You will be able to have a One-On-One coaching session with me to ask anything you want.

Audios Of Four Sessions – Want to hear exactly how I use these tools with my clients? You will receive four audio sessions of me working with real clients. There are two audios for each session. Audio one is an uninterrupted version of the session so you can get the flow. Audio two is interrupted from time to time with me explaining what I was thinking and why I did what I did every step of the way.

PowerPoint From All Presentations – All eight lessons were originally taught live using PowerPoint. You will receive copies of all PowerPoint slides so you can follow along.

Marketing Mumbo Jumbo

This is the part in the note where I am supposed to tell you how much all the bonuses are worth so you see the value in what you are getting. You are getting all the PowerPoint slides, all the transcripts, 4 hours of Q&A, four client sessions where you see these tools in action, one-on-one time with me, and two bonus hours of training.

I know these bonus materials are worth as much (if not more) than the price of the training program itself. I could tell you exactly what I would charge for each of these pieces. You might believe me, or you might think it is some marketing trick.

I know this for certain: this is A LOT of added value and it will transform the way you tap with yourself and the way you tap with clients.

40% Off

The Advanced Tapping Training normally retails for $497.

For the next two weeks if you use the discount code “spring2016” you will receive 40% ($200) off the price full price.

Guarantee

I know this is going to take your tapping to the next level, but if for some reason it doesn't work for you let me know. I don't want you to spend your money in a way that isn't useful. Just drop me a note in the first 30 days and I will refund all your money. No questions asked.

You don't want to miss out on this.

Please let me know if you have any questions about the training.

Gene

PS: Imagine what it is going to be like to get longer lasting results faster.

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Full Descriptions Of Audio/Video Content

Lesson 1 — 13 Foundations To Healing With Tapping That Every Practitioner Should Master.
In over two hours of audio and videos we will cover:
* Tapping: Not the basic recipe as a formula, but a comprehensive way of seeing tapping protocols
* Everything We Experience Is Internal. Everything We Experience Is Interpretation
* The Three Minds
* Models Of Information
* The Client As An Eyewitness To Their Own Life (Conference Room Of The Mind)
* Everything Exists To Serve Us, AKA: The Power Of Thanksgiving
* Resistance To Change
* Pain Vs. Suffering
* Stages Of Awareness
* Inspired Action Vs. Inspired Outcome
* Desire Without Emotional Attachment

Lesson 2 — 18 Lessons From 10 Masters Of Healing
There is much to be learned from the great teachers and masters in many different healing fields. We can learn from their teachings, how they learned themselves, and how they work with clients. In this section we will look at 18 different lessons from giants in the healing fields that have transformed the way I work. If you master even a handful of these lessons, it will transform your work.

Lesson 3 — Hypnotic Patter And Language
The lessons I have learned from hypnosis have affected not only the way I talk to and communicate with my clients, but every interaction that I have during the day. There are two main skills we can learn from hypnosis: building rapport and navigation/guidance.

RAPPORT: If we are NOT able to build rapport and gain the trust of our clients then it will be very difficult for us to work together. In this lesson we will explore the way a hypnotist uses language before, while inducing, and during a trance. We don’t have to hypnotize our clients to use these tools to help us to create a relationship of trust as well as more easily guiding our clients to finding their root issues. Because of the nature of hypnosis this rapport is essential and, knowing this, a good hypnotist is working on building rapport even before they speak with the client the first time. There is much tappers can learn from this approach.

NAVIGATION/GUIDANCE: In fact all hypnosis is nothing more than self-hypnosis. A hypnotist is nothing more than a navigator. They are providing instruction and guidance as the client works their way to root causes and transformation. We can learn a lot from this strategy when helping our tapping clients. Not only will this help us to get out of our clients’ way, but also we can learn how better to help clients transform.

Lesson 4 — Guided Imagery
Most of the emotional work we do with clients is done in the subconscious mind. (Note: A comprehensive video lesson on the unconscious, subconscious, and conscious minds is part of the pre-class work.) We can’t directly access the subconscious mind to change it (and this is a good thing) so using guided imagery is a gentle and powerful way to create transformation at the subconscious level. In this lesson you will learn the seven steps I use in guided imagery that allow the client’s subconscious to lead us to the root of the issue, plus the concept of “fairytale physics” which will unlock your client’s creativity.

Lesson 5 — Parts Work
There is no tool that I use more than parts work. Over 90% of the sessions I do use some form of parts work. When we help a client approach their issues through the lens of a part we are able to help them to focus in on a small part of something that is much too big to deal with at once AND we are able to discover the solutions to the problem that the system already has. This is the most powerful tool I have in my tool kit. In this lesson you will learn the many different types of parts work (including parts mediation), how to gently guide the client to find their way to root causes, and how to empower clients to use these tools and resources after the session so that their healing can continue.

Lesson 6 — Age Regression
Age regression is a very specific type of parts work, so I devote a complete lesson to it. In age regression we are working with the younger version of the client. (Anytime we are thinking of a past memory it is a version of age regression.) In this lesson we will not only look at what age regression is, but we will look at how we can easily bridge back into the past to find the root of an issue, determine if we have worked back to the earliest memory, and how to heal/transform once we are in contact with these earlier parts.

Lesson 7 — Time Lines, Forgiveness Work, And Score Boards Oh My!
In this lesson I cover three of my favorite tools in my tapping arsenal. I never plan to use these tools, but there are times when working with clients when it will become obvious that one of these three tools will help a client much quicker than just tapping on the thought or emotion they are feeling. These tools are simple to use, each with an uncomplicated step-by-step formula.

Lesson 8 — Meta Models
It is amazing how inaccurate our language is when we are describing what is going on in our lives. “Everyone at works hates me!” “I am never going to get ahead!” “I just can’t do it!” There might be a kernel of truth in these statements, but they are not true. The problem comes when we approach the world as if they are true. Meta Models is a set of tools that helps us to recognize the logical fallacies in our thoughts and words that are affecting our actions and choices. In this part we will explore the 10 most common meta models, ways of helping our clients to see the flaws, and strategies to help clients transform these beliefs. In the practical part of this lesson participants will get the chance to work through real client case histories to practice identifying and reframing these meta models.

Pod #218: How To Use EFT More Effectively When Tapping On Your Own w/ Ann Adams

April 27, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

Just because you know the basics of EFT doesn't mean that you can use it effectively when tapping on your own.

This week in the podcast I talk to Ann Adams, who I believe is one of the best EFT trainers in the world. In our conversation we talk about the roadblocks people run into when they are tapping on their own.

In her typical fashion, Ann provides very practical ways to be more effective with your tapping. Even if you are an old pro with tapping you will find ways to be more effective.

Ann Adams

Guest: Ann Adams

Contact: web @ FromTheDeskOfAnnAdams.com

About: Ann Adams’ vision is to train and mentor EFT practitioners and other helping professionals to integrate the powerful tool of EFT into their existing toolkit in the most effective way so that the work they already do with others becomes even more powerful, effective and efficient. She offers several EFT workshops per year. She’s known for her ability to explain concepts clearly and make learning new skills fun.

Ann is known as THE EFT Master Trainer; she is uniquely qualified to teach and mentor others. Ann has almost 40 years of experience in clinical social work, as a therapist, trainer, supervisor and administrator. Ann has supervised dozens of therapists and staffed thousands of client cases while working in the mental health field.

Ann was awarded EFT Cert-Honors in Gary Craig’s EFT practitioner program. She worked closely with Gary Craig, EFT’s founder, in several EFT projects including serving as the Director of the former EFT Masters Program.

Pod #216: EFT For Radical Self-Love w/ Gala Darling

April 13, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

If I were to sum up all of my own personal development work for the last decade I would say it has been a process of becoming more “comfortable inside of my own skin”.

For me that phrase describes not only being OK with myself, but being in a place where I recognize my own worth and feeling comfortable in acknowledging that worth. When I operate from that mindset I find that my daily life is easier and I make better choices.

When author Gala Darling talks about the same concept she uses the term “radical self love”. In this week's interview we talk about what radical self love means to her and what we can do to have more of it in our lives.

One of the reasons that I wanted to interview Gala is because, unlike many of my interviewees, she is not a tapping practitioner but is someone who has found tapping to be a powerful tool in her own life.

Gala Darling

Guest: Gala Darling

Contact: web @ GalaDarling.com; instagram @galadarling

About: Gala Darling is an author, teacher, and speaker who has been teaching radical self love — a selection of powerful techniques and tools which help women transform their lives — for close to a decade. Her site, galadarling.com, helps a million women a month find their voice, live without fear, and fall in love with life.

Born in New Zealand, she moved to NYC with one suitcase when she was 24 years old, and used radical self love to heal from an eating disorder and depression.

Pod #215: Why Did EFT Stop Working For Me?

April 6, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

Why did EFT stop working for me There is an interesting phenomena that crops up when using EFT. Sometimes you can be using tapping successfully for a while, but then it stops working.

There are two main reasons why this happens. In this week’s podcast we are going to explore both of these reasons and what you can do to make your tapping effective again.

Pod #214: Using EFT To Increase Your Productivity w/ Dawson Church

March 30, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

If you are wondering if you have emotional blocks to taking action, I have a very simple way for you to tell. If you know what you want to do, know how to do it, have everything you need to take action, and still don't do it, then you have emotional blocks to taking that action.

This week I interview EFT Universe's Dawson Church about what happens on a neurological level when emotions get in the way of action and how we can tap to find relief AND take action.

During the interview I refer to a process I use to tap for my to-do list. Here is full audio on how I tap for my to-do list.

Dawson Church, Ph. D.

Guest: Dawson Church, Ph.D

Contact: web @ EFTUniverse.com

Bio: Dawson Church is the author/coauthor of 8 books (including The Genie In Your Genes) and manages the web site EFTUniverse.com. He travels the world as a trainer and speaker. His passion is tapping and getting tapping into the hands of those who could benefit most from its power.

If you are interested in this type of research check out past interviews with Dawson.

Pod #213: EFT To Respond To Our Mortality w/ Gregg Levoy

March 23, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

When I was in my twenties it felt as if I was going to live forever. I gave little thought to how I ate, when I went to bed, or how I treated my body in general. Now that I am in my forties there are mornings when I can tell exactly what I ate or drank the night before just by how my body feels.

I'm not exactly sure when it happened. One day I felt like I was immortal, the next day not so much.

In today's interview I talk with Gregg Levoy about the aging process, the emotions that accompany it, and how we can tap for that experience.

During this interview we reference this article: Top Five Regrets of the Dying

Gregg Levoy

Guest: Gregg Levoy

Contact: web @ GreggLevoy.com

About Gregg: Gregg Levoy is the author of Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion, and the bestselling Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life rated among the “Top 20 Career Publications” by the Workforce Information Group.

He has presented lectures and seminars for the Smithsonian Institution, Environmental Protection Agency, Microsoft, National Conference on Positive Aging, American Counseling Association, National Career Development Association, and others, and been a frequent guest of the media, including ABC-TV, CNN, NPR and PBS.

A former adjunct professor of journalism at the University of New Mexico, and former columnist and reporter for USA Today and the Cincinnati Enquirer, he has written for the New York Times Magazine, Washington Post, Omni, Psychology Today, Reader’s Digest, and many others.

The 10 Questions That Changed My Life

March 20, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

Good morning,

I was having dinner with a friend I'll call “Sally” at a place that serves the most amazing chicken and waffles.

As we were enjoying dinner she explained that she was having a really hard time. She was in the middle of a move. Her job was stressing her out. She was thinking of changing careers. AND she had been sick for weeks.

I was listening closely as caring friend.

She stopped. Looked me dead in the eye and said, “I know you like to leave your work at work, but right now I don't need my friend Gene. I need Gene the coach. Help!”

So I smiled, ordered another drink, and began to ask her some questions.

It Only Took 10 Questions

Over the next 45 minutes I asked her ten questions. With each answer she gave I repeated back what she had said in my own words and asked a few follow-up questions.

At the end of 45 minutes she said, “Wow! You're so smart. Thank you for helping me out with that.”

The funny thing is, I didn't say anything smart.

I didn't offer any advice. I didn't make any suggestions. I didn't help her plan anything.

I simply asked ten questions and in the process of answering those questions she was able to see clearly what she wanted – and, more importantly, needed – which led to knowing the steps she needed to take, and the emotional blocks she needed to clear in order to be successful.

These Are Not Random Questions

When Sally asked me to put my coach hat on I didn't just start asking her random questions, but instead I worked her through a specific process designed to move us from confusion, to clarity, and then to action.

The 10 Question System (I know it's not an awfully catchy name) is very powerful and something I use in my own life as well as with my clients.

This system guides me when I'm trying to do something as small as reorganizing my office or something as large as creating a new product line.

I Want You To Learn This System

On the surface this system looks super simple and that is because it is simple.

BUT just because something is simple doesn't mean that it is easy to do at first.

To that end I have created a training program that will walk you through the full system. Not only will you know the right questions to ask and the right order in which to ask them, but you will understand the motivation behind each of the questions.

Once you master the why of each question it will stop being a formula and start to be something that you can integrate into your daily life as you make choices, as you are helpful to your friends and family, and can be integrated into client work if that is what you do.

And it is not just ten questions!

Each step along the way I teach you how you can tap for the information that comes up from each of the questions. You are not just figuring out what you want and need but also how to clear the issues that will (and always do) come up along the way.

What Is In The Program?

The system consists of more than 4 hours of audios which will teach you:

How and why we create limiting beliefs, and how to break down your goals in a way so that you can find every fear and limiting belief lurking in your subconscious.
Tools to knock out these limiting beliefs anytime, anywhere. THIS IS KEY: Not only will this tool set help you when you are sitting at home working through your goal list, but when any fear or limiting belief pops up in any situation you will be able to knock it out.
How to recognize when limiting beliefs are holding you back (because sometimes we don't even see them).
In addition to more than 4 hours of instruction you will also receive a digital workbook that will take you through the ten steps. Because this system works for any of your goals, when it is time to go after the next one you'll easily be able to print out a fresh copy of the workbook to guide you through the steps.

Bonus Tools To Help You Achieve Your Goals

This system is great at uncovering the root causes for not taking action and the limiting beliefs that make it difficult for you to take action.

I want you to be successful. I want you to achieve your goals. To that end I am adding 4 audio bonuses that you can use to knock out these common beliefs and fears:

Resistance To Change: If there weren't resistance to change we would already have changed. Sometimes this resistance has nothing to do with the specific change, but is about change in general. This audio will make you more comfortable with change, which will help you to take action. ($13.77 value)

Being Open To The Process: It can be scary to think that we will uncover our fears and limiting beliefs. This audio will help you to know that it is safe and good to do this investigation and work. ($13.77 value)

Believing You Are Worthy of Better: Almost daily I talk to clients who don't believe they deserve a better life. This audio helps you recognize your worthiness, which will help you take action. ($13.77 value)

Permission To Be Easy With Yourself: We are our own worst critics. We are harder on ourselves than anyone else ever could be. When we are kinder and more loving towards ourselves we are able to move forward faster. ($13.77 value)

That is $55 in free tap-along audios that you can use over and over again.

Very Special Deal

The system normally costs $189, but for the next two weeks I am making a special offer. In addition to the $55 in bonus tap-along audios you can get the system in one of three ways.

1) The Full Program: You receive the bonus audios and the full program for only $97. That is a 49% discount. Get It Now!

2) The Program + A Little Help: You will receive the bonus audios, the program, and one full hour working one-on-one with me to help you quickly knock out the stubborn issues uncovered by the system for only $197. That is an 89% discount on the program. Get It Now!

3) The Program + A Lot Of Help: You will receive the bonus audio, the program, and five one-on-one sessions with me. Imagine what it will like to have someone walking with you helping to clear out these issues. You get all of this for $787. When you do this you receive the whole system free of charge! Get It Now!

Act Today!

People just like you are taking control of their lives and taking the action that they want. Join them today. Don't miss this opportunity to transform the way you approach your problems.

When you order you will be given instant access to all the downloads.

Do it now: Yes! I want access to the system right now.

Gene

PS: The longer you wait to get clear, the longer you are going to be stuck where you are right now. That is time that you are never going to get back. The sooner you take action, the sooner you will have what you want. Order now! https://tappingqanda.com/actnow

Pod #212: EFT To Help You Be A Better Parent w/ Heather Chauvin

March 16, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

I am constantly amazed at how willing parents are to put their children first. It’s common for parents to make sure their child's needs are met before they do anything for themselves. As well meaning as this is, it can cause problems in the long term.

By always putting their family first and not taking care of themselves parents can find themselves unable to be the best parent they could be. One of the most important ways that parents can take care of their children is to make sure they also take care of themselves.

This week I interview Heather Chauvin about how parents can use tapping to be better parents.

Heather Chauvin

Guest: Heather Chauvin

Contact: web @: http://heatherchauvin.com; podcast @ Mom's In Control; Free Gift @ 21 Day Mom Is In Control Challenge

About Heather: Heather Chauvin has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deepest potential and lead the life their soul craves. She reaches thousands of readers worldwide and leads innovative retreats and coaching programs that teach women to succeed in their most sacred work in parenting and business. Heather’s the creator of the New & Noteworthy Podcast, Mom Is In Control and has been featured on the OWN network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others. Through her Courageous Rewrite Initiative, Heather has given voice to many humans who have courageously taking inspired action towards creating a life they’re proud of.

With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of how they want to lead, work, play and parent.

Pod #211: EFT For The Fear Of Letting Others Down

March 9, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

There is a very primitive part of our nature that knows we are safest when we belong. This instinct was a key to survival for our nomadic ancient ancestors who sought safety in numbers at times of danger.

While we no longer have to worry about being attacked by large animals, humans still have a strong instinct that tells us belonging means safety. This is one of the reasons it can feel so devastating when we let someone else down.

In addition to not living up to our work or their expectations, letting down others triggers the fear of ostracisation and we feel unsafe as a result. Even if this is far from the reality of a situation, it is often how we respond emotionally.

This week we tap for the fear of letting others down. Even if you can't think of a specific example in your life right now, it is likely that this issue is lurking below the surface. Take a few moments to tap along.

The Best Resource I Have Ever Created (PLEASE READ!)

March 5, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

Good morning,

As you may know, for two years I was lucky enough to teach tapping as part of an advanced anger management class in a county jail.

Yes!

I had guys in prison jumpsuits tapping along with me and really liking it.

I quickly realized that a number of inmates would never make it to my classes because of other obligations, such as studying for their high school diploma or working through a rehab program.

So I wrote a book containing all the tools I taught in class to make this powerful and transformative emotional work possible for them, despite not being able to attend the class.

It's Not An Anger Management Book
One day in class I had the guys writing answers to some questions be used with the next tool I planned to teach them.

One of the guys stopped and looked up at me. He said, “Mr. Gene this isn't an anger management class. This is an emotion class.” He paused for a second or two and then said, “And I'm OK with that,” and returned to his work.

He was right. I only framed the class as an anger management class because I knew that it would appeal to a lot of the inmates. Many of the men I met in jail were there as a direct result of their inability to control their anger. None of them would have been looking for an “emotions class”.

Once I had them on board with the approach and gained their trust, we could spend time on the deeper issues that were showing up as anger.

So this book is not an anger book, despite its title. It is about responding to all emotions in a healthy and proportional way.

The Best Resource I Have Ever Produced
Of all of the tools I have created, I believe this the best one! The comprehensive tools it teaches are presented in a straightforward, user-friendly, step-by-step fashion.

In the last week I have sent pdf copies of it to five of my clients. I told them, “I think that you’d find this tool in my anger book really useful. Let me send you a copy of it.”

I want you to have a copy of it too!

You Can Have A Copy Free Of Charge
I believe in the power of the tools in this book and I’d love everyone to be using them so I have set up a ‘name your own price’ deal for the pdf version of the book.

Which means that if you want a free pdf copy you can have one.

All of the proceeds from the book sales go towards supplying copies of the books to inmates. Each one costs me about $3.20 to print and send to an inmate. So if you do decide to buy it you will know exactly how many men and women you will be helping.

If you don't want a pdf version the book you can also purchase a Kindle or paperback version. (Unfortunately, I can't do name your own price for those two versions.)

I Will Match Your Contribution
In addition to all proceeds of the sales going buying more books I am going to match all sales in March and April with an equal donation to Kiva.

Kiva is an organization that makes micro loans to help people move from poverty to being able to take control of their circumstances. Socio-economic factors are a key contributor behind why people commit crime.

This way we are helping people who have made poor choices and helping people in desperate need avoid having to turn to crime.

You can access the book here:

Paperback for $19.95

Kindle Version for $9.95

Name your own price and download a PDF version. (And, yes, you can make that price $0!)

NOTE About Matching Donations: Kiva is an organization that makes micro loans to help people move from poverty to being able to take control of their circumstances. Socio-economic factors are a key contributor behind why people commit crime.

This way we are helping people who have made poor choices and helping people in desperate need avoid having to turn to crime.

I Am Serious About The Book Being Free
I don't want you to feel like I am laying a guilt trip on you. If right now you can't afford to buy the book then please, please, please download it free.

It contains powerful information and I want you to have it.

PS: The shopping cart for the pdf will default to $10, which is the Kindle price, but you can change to less (even 0) or more, if you are so inclined. Get it here:

Pod #210: Systems For Healing w/ Deborah Donndelinger

March 2, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

We all know that the more specific we can be when tapping, the more effective it will be. As a concept this is easy to understand, but in practice it is much harder to implement.

Humans are complicated creatures. We can talk about the difference between our mind, body, and spirit, but the lines between these three are blurry. As a simple example, the thoughts in my mind can impact my physical body.

To help manage the complicated system that we are, employing a healing framework as a lens to facilitate the healing process can be helpful. This week I have a conversation with Deborah Donndelinger about three such systems to help us find our way to root causes.

Deborah compares and contrasts the three, shares how to use each, and which might be most useful for you based on the issues you are tapping for.

Deborah Donndelinger

Guest: Deborah Donndelinger

Contact: email @ deb@eftwithdeborah.com; web @
DeborahDonndelinger.com; facebook @ EFTwithDeb; phone @ 410-861-0333

About Deborah: Deborah is an EFT practitioner and personal development coach living in central Maryland. She works with clients, near and far, using tapping, human design, and other tools as they journey from self-judgement and doubt to trusting and understanding themselves. She's the creator and author of the book Family Energetics.