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Pod #208: EFT For Emotional First Aid w/ Jondi Whitis

February 17, 2016 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

EmotionalFirstAid

One of the reasons that we love tapping so much is its versatility. Because we can use tapping in so many different settings it can often be confusing to know exactly how to tap in a given moment.

For example, there is a huge difference between tapping with someone who is emotional in a public setting versus working with a client one-on-one in the safety of a practitioner’s private office.

Our primary goal when tapping with someone in a public setting or when we have limited time to deal with an issue is to return the person we are working with to a state of calm. By doing this we can keep them safe and also avoid uncovering a bigger issue that can’t be resolved in the moment.

Jondi Whitis has created a wonderful process, which she refers to as emotional first aid, which is a systematic way of helping someone to an emotionally safe space in public or in a short amount of time.

In this week’s podcast she shares how the process came about and how you can ensure that you are tapping with others in a safe way.


Jondi Whitis

Conversation with: Jondi Whitis

Jondi’s Contact: web @ EFT4Results.com;

About Jondi: Jondi Whitis is a certified EFT Master Trainer, Practitioner, Mentor and Board Member for AAMET International, delighting in creating practitioners of excellence. She’s passionately interested in refining and up-levelling core EFT skillsets, cutting-edge techniques, and training for practitioners and trainers worldwide, upholding the most thorough and professional EFT standards. She offers deeply personal, hands-on training to anyone interested in heart-centered healing, from children to teachers, parents to professionals, and for diverse communities worldwide, including veterans, Native Americans, teachers, healthcare professionals, and those who work with kids.

An ‘integration specialist’, Jondi enthusiastically guides each person to find authentic ways to integrate EFT into their purpose, professional practice and life. Join her in person, at the annual gathering just north of NYC, Spring Energy Event

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Emotions, First Aid, Jondi Whitis

Pod #207: EFT For Acute And Chronic Pain w/ Dan Cleary

February 10, 2016 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

EFT For Acute And Chronic PainNot all physical pain is the same. Pain can have many different root causes, ranging from physical wounds to emotional issues. Some pain passes as the body heals, while other pain is chronic.

In this week’s podcast I talk to Dan Cleary who damaged his arm in a serious motorcycle accident decades ago. To this day he continues to experience considerable nerve pain as a result of the accident.

Because of this experience he is dedicated to working with people experiencing pain. In this interview we talk about why he never uses the term “pain management”, the types of pain (chronic and acute), and how to approach each with tapping.


Dan Cleary

Guest: Dan Cleary

Contact Information: DanClearyHypnosis.com

Bio: Daniel F. Cleary, is an internationally recognized, Pain Relief Educator and Hypnosis Instructor. He provides individual and group programs in Pain Relief, Hypnotic Techniques, and Communication Skills, to Doctors, Psychologists, Therapists and Caregivers, throughout the United States, Europe and Australia,. His specialties include; Pain Relief, Personal Transformation, and Effective Communication. Dan lives in Hobe Sound, Florida and is available worldwide for phone and Skype sessions.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Dan Cleary, Pain, Physical Response

Pod #206: EFT For Allergies w/ Sandi Radomski

February 3, 2016 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

EFT ForAllergy

Good communication is hard. It is easy to be misunderstood because we all understand specific words in different ways. I can say one thing and yet you may understand something completely different.

More than likely when you think of allergies you imagine a runny nose because of flower pollen, or someone having a dangerous reaction to eating nuts or shellfish.

For this week’s podcast we are using a much broader definition of allergy. In this context we are talking about how when we encounter one substance it reminds us on a subconscious level of something negative. This is a subtle concept, but one that I have found to be important to health and healing.

To talk about this concept I turned to Sandi Radomski as it was her work that originally introduced me to this idea and informs my own work with kids who have been diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum.

In the interview we discuss a new way to look at the term ‘allergy’ and how you can approach allergies with tapping.

We talk about muscle testing in the interview. This is the resource I used to learn how to muscle test:
Muscle Testing Vol 1 DVD and Muscle Testing Vol 1 – 4 digital download

The workbooks that I used (and still reference regularly) can be found on Sandy’s website


Sandi Radomski

Guest: Sandi Radomski

Contact: web @ AllergyAntidotes.com

About: Sandi Radomski wears many professional hats. She is board certified in social work, she is a psychotherapist, and she is a naturopathic doctor. Her background includes teaching in the University of Wisconsin medical school for eight years, doing biofeedback with pain patients for ten years, conducting research in psychoneuroimmunology to benefit children with cancer, and private practice.

Dr. Radomski has combined her medical background and her extensive training in Energy Psychology to create her Allergy Antidotes system for identifying and treating sensitivity reactions. She uses these techniques to treat autism, weight loss, learning and behavioral problems, anxiety, and depression. She was the first to use the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to balance the body’s energy system in relation to a reactive substance.

Sandi is a national as well as international lecturer and trainer. Recognizing her significant body of work, Dr. Radomski received the “Award of Recognition from the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology (ACEP) for her major contribution to the field of energy psychology” in 2015. Sandi is available for private sessions either by telephone or on Skype.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Allergies, Sandi Radomski

Pod #205: EFT For Being Who We Aspire To Be

January 27, 2016 By Gene Monterastelli 5 Comments

NotreDame

In podcast #204 I showed you a straightforward technique that you can use to tune into the emotional states that you would like to have as you move through the day.

This week’s podcast is something I use to help me to tune into the type of person I would like to be. The script I have used is very personal and is inspired by my Catholic faith so I don’t expect it to be helpful for everyone.

If it works for you, great!

If changing the language makes it work for you, great!

If it doesn’t work for you at all, not to worry! Come back next week for something else that might be helpful.

The tapping script can be found below or you can download the pdf.

Filed Under: Podcast

Dirty Rotten Marketing Trick (AKA Last Chance)

January 25, 2016 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Fail

Good morning,

In addition to this newsletter, I also have a mailing list which teaches people how to run and grow small businesses.

A few weeks ago I sent an email with the subject line “Why I Love January 5th!”

The email went on to explain that, as a person who helps people reach their goals, one of the reasons I love January 5th is because that is the day when most people give up on their New Year’s resolutions.

I don’t love the fact that people have failed at their goals.

Instead, I love the fact that it is an opportunity to have an honest conversation with people like you about what really needs to happen for change to occur in our lives.

Coming up with a to-do list of new habits to start the year at 11:48pm on New Year’s Eve is not the best path to change. Something more is needed.

So it might seem like a dirty rotten marketing trick when I pointed out the fact that you failed at your New Year’s resolutions in order to sell you something.

But that is not the case!

Now that you have seen your resolutions are not enough to make real change, I want you to consider how real change happens.

Below is the story of how real change happened in my life (and the 3 key elements to making change happen).

If you don’t do the program I am offering, I encourage you to use the story below as a guide to making changes in your life.

I want to support you in your transformation because I know how hard it can be to do on your own.

There are only a total of 8 spaces in this program to ensure I am giving everyone the support they need.

Look at the details below and let me know if you’d like to have a conversation to see if this is the right fit for you.

Have a great Monday,

Gene

PS: If you are ready to have a conversation to see if this is right for you, just let me know here: https://tappingqanda.com/?p=10897


The Cost Of Looking Fear In The Eye

Last year I spent some time trying to figure out what my next venture would be.

Working on a new project that calls on my creativity feeds my soul.

The project I was considering was a new podcast called “Facing Fear”. My plan was to record a weekly podcast where I would explore one of my deepest, darkest fears.

I’m talking about the kind of fears that would have me tossing and turning for hours in the middle of the night.

Fears like:

  • There is nothing exceptional about me.
  • I’m 42. Since I haven’t found anyone to love me yet, I never will, and will die alone.
  • I spend too much time worrying about my own crap and my loved ones don’t know that I care about them.
  • I am just filling my life with tasks so as to avoid facing my loneliness.
  • At my core I am really a selfish person. I worry more about replacing my computer than I do about the real suffering in the world.

I know. It’s upbeat stuff. My heart aches a little just in typing that list.

Each morning I set aside a little time to work on the project.

My list grew and grew as I tried to find the ten “best” fears for the first set of shows. I started outlining short essays about each fear and what I believed to be the root cause.

I found myself practicing the wording about the fears for the recordings while I was in the shower or on my exercise bike.

Then something really unexpected happened…

One afternoon I went to get a glass of water and there were no glasses in my cupboard.

A Pile Of Dishes In The Sink And No Clean Bowls Or Glasses

I know that an empty cupboard isn’t really such an odd thing but let’s consider a few facts.

  • I live alone.
  • I have at least a dozen glasses.
  • When I am looking for an excuse to be busy and feel productive I do dishes.

That last point is the important one.

Whenever I am trying to avoid my worries about things that feel dangerous or overwhelming I head straight to my kitchen and clean.

In that moment I noticed that my counter and sink were cluttered with dishes. Almost every dish I owned was visible and dirty.

And the reason was because I was so busy doing more important tasks that I wasn’t feeling the negative emotions about those tasks.

By thinking about this new podcast I was facing my fears head on and healing them.

I have never been so happy to see a pile of dirty dishes in my life!

It Wasn’t Just Clearing Core Issues. There Was Another Key Factor

I need to be clear it wasn’t just a matter of facing my fears. Three key factors created the change:

  1. I named my fears fully and honestly.
  2. I thought about the root causes of those fears in a systematic way.
  3. I was working towards a clear set of goals.

Wallowing in my fears would not have been helpful. That can become self-indulgent and unhealthy.

Taking the time to uproot the fears meant that I was healing and feeling better BUT real transformation only happened because I had a clearly-defined list of goals and I was able to step into action.

The Right Number Of Goals

I think there was also a secondary factor that contributed to my success in taking action: I had the right number of goals.

There have been times in my life where I have had a full page of detailed goals. Goals for my personal life, my physical health, my spiritual growth, and my business.

It’s great to have that sort of clarity, but in truth I have found it difficult to commit to working towards so many goals.

Around the time I started working on the fear project I had pared down my list of goals to just three.

I wasn’t saying that my life was perfect or that I only needed to work on three goals but by focusing on just three I was able to give each one the attention required to make real progress. I had learned that spreading myself too thinly meant that I wasn’t moving forward with anything.

You Can Do This Too!

I want you to have the opportunity to experience what I did.

I want you to have the opportunity to find and clear the core issues holding you back. I want you to have a clear idea of what you want AND I want to support you so you don’t have to figure this out on your own.

In the past I have offered 8-month programs which have been more geared toward business owners.

This winter I am offering a 4-month program focused on transformation in your daily life.

This program will help you to get clear about what you want, uncover what is holding you back, and guide you as you clear those issues systematically.

Here Is What The Program Includes:

This will be in the format of a 3-hour phone or Skype call, which will be recorded. (Yes, we will take breaks as needed.) At the end of the call we will have a clear plan with well-framed goals and benchmarks to measure your progress along the way. (Assessments, planning sessions, tap-along audio, clearly articulated goals, and plan – $1000 value)

[Note: We don’t have to do this as a call. You are welcome to come to NYC and we can do this work together in person. I will even buy you lunch!]

After each call you will receive an audio recording of the session so that you can return to the tapping we did AND you will be given a tapping code that you can do twice a day to help you to continue clearing the issues covered during the session.

  • Goal, Asset, and Obstacle Assessment – Before we can begin we need to know where you are right now in your life. This assessment is designed to help us gain a clear picture of the obstacles you face and your unaccessed assets to allow you to reach your goals (even if you aren’t quite sure what they are right now).

  • Core Issue Assessment – Most of my clients have one or two core issues holding them back in many areas of their life. This assessment will help us to zero in on those core issues to guide our work.

  • Assessment Prep Tap-Along Audio – Starting a process like this can feel a little scary. You might be worried that we will uncover something awful or that you will do the assessment wrong. There are no right or wrong answers in these assessments but to make it easier for you I have created a tap-along audio to help you to feel comfortable and safe as you go through the process.

  • Kick Start Planning Call And Long Term Plan – After you have completed the assessments and I have had the chance to study them we will create your personal plan. During this call we’ll define your focus for the program in the form of three goals. We will also find clarity on which core issues we will target head on.

  • 14 Weekly 45-Minute Coaching and Tapping Calls – Each week we will have a 45-minute call in which we will review the week’s progress, tap for any new issues that have arisen, tap on the core issues standing in the way of progress, and create very specific actions steps to be taken over the next week. ($2100 value)
  • Weekly SOS Tapping Call – Sometimes issues and resistance to taking action pop up. I would hate for you to feel like you have to wait for our next call to receive tapping help. Every week you will have the opportunity to have one 15-minute SOS call where you can jump on the phone and do a little tapping with me. ($700 value)

  • Email Support – This is something that I only offer to clients working with me for a long period of time. I will respond to any email within 24 hours. This is a great way to get questions answered promptly and keep you moving toward your goals.

  • Advanced Tapping Techniques – In this 8-hour audio training course I teach you exactly how I tap, the tools I use in client sessions and when I am working on my own, and how to know which tools to use in each situation. ($497 value)

  • 10 Question Process – I use this process for tasks as small as rearranging my office and as big as creating a new product line. In over 3 hours of audios I will teach you the process so you can use it again and again to figure out your next steps and name the core issues getting in your way. ($187 value)

  • 6 Months Access To The Ruach Center – The Ruach Center is a membership website that has over 200 tapping audios and hours of instruction to help you to eliminate self-sabotage and take action. Every morning you will receive email with a link to a new tap-along audio to help you start off your day on the right foot. ($97 value)

[Note: If you purchased Advanced Tapping Techniques or the 10 Questions Process in the last six months I will apply that purchase price to the cost of this program.]

Yes, This Is A Serious Investment.

That is over $4800 in products and personalized service.

I am offering this program for an investment of $3750. (There is also a four month payment plan available.)

Yes, this is a serious investment.

BUT that is exactly what it is, an investment in yourself. This isn’t about the next four months or about achieving some short term goals.

The transformation on offer will be carried with you throughout your life. The skills you learn through this transformation will be useful again and again in the future.

Is This Right For You?

This isn’t for everyone. Like I said above, I can only to work with 8 people in this program.

We need to make sure that we are a good fit. I don’t want you to waste your time and money. If you are interested I need you to fill out a short application (it is only four questions). After I read the application I will get in touch with you. If we seem like a good fit I’ll set up a time for us to talk so we can have a conversation to see if that is the case.

Then and only then, we will begin.

If this is going to work it has to be the right fit. This is non-negotiable for me and it should be non-negotiable for you too.

Are you interested? Then click the link and fill out the application.

>> Yes! I am ready to clear the core issues holding me back and achieve my goals!

If you have any questions just reply to this note and I will answer anything you have.

I look forward to serving you,

Gene

PS: Remember, when we clear a core issue related to a goal we are not just clearing it for that goal, but for all areas of our life. When you do this work the effect will ripple into all areas of your life and not just for four months, but for the rest of your life. Join me on this journey.

PPS: If you are a small business owner and are looking for something more comprehensive geared to growing your business reply to this message so we can set up a longer conversation.

Filed Under: Notes

Pod #204: EFT For Growing Positive Emotions

January 20, 2016 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

EFT For Growing Positive Emotions

The Center For Nonviolent Communication created one of my favorite tools, the feelings inventory, which I used a great deal when working with the incarcerated.

I found that the men I had the opportunity to work with lacked vocabulary when it came to describing emotions. Even though their emotional experience was highly nuanced, they had only a very limited way of talking about it.

Talking about and creating change is difficult with a limited emotional vocabulary because our experience can only be described in stark and blunt terms.

In working with these inmates I found that when I spent time with a comprehensive list of emotions it deepened my understanding of my own experience, which helped me to transform my emotional state.

This week I share a simple tool with you to help transform your emotional state. If you have ever thought “I don’t know what to tap on” or “I don’t know where to start” then this is the tool for you.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Emotions, Positive

What You Are NOT Doing Is Breaking My Heart

January 18, 2016 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

What Makes My heart

A few weeks ago I was tapping with one of my clients for a deep ache she was feeling in her heart.

The situation: she was in the process of filling up one of her programs and was having lots of conversations with prospective clients who would be perfect for it. They would commit to the program, get really excited…and then back out at the last minute.

My client said, “It’s not that I am worried about the loss of the sale but my heart aches over the fact that they are so close experiencing transformation and they are letting their fear get the best of them. I can sympathise because I was there once too! I know what it is like being scared of change.”

“Even knowing that, it still makes my heart ache knowing they are not making their lives better. They are so close and it hurts to see them miss out.”

Amen to that!

It SUCKS to see people so close, only to have them back out.

I’m not saying this for effect, but just like my client expressed above my heart aches when I see people miss opportunities to transform.

Last Friday I had a conversation with someone who is considering my most recent program. We talked a lot about what happens when we change and how sometimes change (even for the good) can be scary.

I asked her, “How will you feel 5 months from now if you don’t do this and you are still in exactly the same place?”

She loved the question so much she asked me to email it to her so she could reflect on it over the weekend as she was making her decision.

I don’t want you to miss this opportunity.

There are only a total of 8 spaces in this program because I want to make sure everyone receives the attention they deserve.

This isn’t for everyone on my list, but it might be for you.

Look at the details below and let me know if you would like to have a conversation to see if this is the right fit for you.

Have a great Monday,

Gene

PS: Imagine what it will be like 5 months to feel a new sense of freedom in your life AND imagine what it will be like to laugh at how silly you were when you were on the fence about this, because now you know it was a great choice!

PPS: If you are ready to have a conversation to see if this is the right fit for you, just let me know here: https://tappingqanda.com/?p=10897


The Cost Of Looking Fear In The Eye

Last year I spent some time trying to figure out what my next venture would be.

Working on a new project that calls on my creativity feeds my soul.

The project I was considering was a new podcast called "Facing Fear". My plan was to record a weekly podcast where I would explore one of my deepest, darkest fears.

I’m talking about the kind of fears that would have me tossing and turning for hours in the middle of the night.

Fears like:

  • There is nothing exceptional about me.
  • I'm 42. Since I haven't found anyone to love me yet, I never will, and will die alone.
  • I spend too much time worrying about my own crap and my loved ones don't know that I care about them.
  • I am just filling my life with tasks so as to avoid facing my loneliness.
  • At my core I am really a selfish person. I worry more about replacing my computer than I do about the real suffering in the world.

I know. It’s upbeat stuff. My heart aches a little just in typing that list.

Each morning I set aside a little time to work on the project.

My list grew and grew as I tried to find the ten "best" fears for the first set of shows. I started outlining short essays about each fear and what I believed to be the root cause.

I found myself practicing the wording about the fears for the recordings while I was in the shower or on my exercise bike.

Then something really unexpected happened…

One afternoon I went to get a glass of water and there were no glasses in my cupboard.

A Pile Of Dishes In The Sink And No Clean Bowls Or Glasses

I know that an empty cupboard isn't really such an odd thing but let's consider a few facts.

  • I live alone.
  • I have at least a dozen glasses.
  • When I am looking for an excuse to be busy and feel productive I do dishes.

That last point is the important one.

Whenever I am trying to avoid my worries about things that feel dangerous or overwhelming I head straight to my kitchen and clean.

In that moment I noticed that my counter and sink were cluttered with dishes. Almost every dish I owned was visible and dirty.

And the reason was because I was so busy doing more important tasks that I wasn't feeling the negative emotions about those tasks.

By thinking about this new podcast I was facing my fears head on and healing them.

I have never been so happy to see a pile of dirty dishes in my life!

It Wasn't Just Clearing Core Issues. There Was Another Key Factor

I need to be clear it wasn't just a matter of facing my fears. Three key factors created the change:

  1. I named my fears fully and honestly.
  2. I thought about the root causes of those fears in a systematic way.
  3. I was working towards a clear set of goals.

Wallowing in my fears would not have been helpful. That can become self-indulgent and unhealthy.

Taking the time to uproot the fears meant that I was healing and feeling better BUT real transformation only happened because I had a clearly-defined list of goals and I was able to step into action.

The Right Number Of Goals

I think there was also a secondary factor that contributed to my success in taking action: I had the right number of goals.

There have been times in my life where I have had a full page of detailed goals. Goals for my personal life, my physical health, my spiritual growth, and my business.

It’s great to have that sort of clarity, but in truth I have found it difficult to commit to working towards so many goals.

Around the time I started working on the fear project I had pared down my list of goals to just three.

I wasn't saying that my life was perfect or that I only needed to work on three goals but by focusing on just three I was able to give each one the attention required to make real progress. I had learned that spreading myself too thinly meant that I wasn't moving forward with anything.

You Can Do This Too!

I want you to have the opportunity to experience what I did.

I want you to have the opportunity to find and clear the core issues holding you back. I want you to have a clear idea of what you want AND I want to support you so you don’t have to figure this out on your own.

In the past I have offered 8-month programs which have been more geared toward business owners.

This winter I am offering a 4-month program focused on transformation in your daily life.

This program will help you to get clear about what you want, uncover what is holding you back, and guide you as you clear those issues systematically.

Here Is What The Program Includes:

This will be in the format of a 3-hour phone or Skype call, which will be recorded. (Yes, we will take breaks as needed.) At the end of the call we will have a clear plan with well-framed goals and benchmarks to measure your progress along the way. (Assessments, planning sessions, tap-along audio, clearly articulated goals, and plan – $1000 value)

[Note: We don't have to do this as a call. You are welcome to come to NYC and we can do this work together in person. I will even buy you lunch!]

After each call you will receive an audio recording of the session so that you can return to the tapping we did AND you will be given a tapping code that you can do twice a day to help you to continue clearing the issues covered during the session.

  • Goal, Asset, and Obstacle Assessment – Before we can begin we need to know where you are right now in your life. This assessment is designed to help us gain a clear picture of the obstacles you face and your unaccessed assets to allow you to reach your goals (even if you aren’t quite sure what they are right now).

  • Core Issue Assessment – Most of my clients have one or two core issues holding them back in many areas of their life. This assessment will help us to zero in on those core issues to guide our work.

  • Assessment Prep Tap-Along Audio – Starting a process like this can feel a little scary. You might be worried that we will uncover something awful or that you will do the assessment wrong. There are no right or wrong answers in these assessments but to make it easier for you I have created a tap-along audio to help you to feel comfortable and safe as you go through the process.

  • Kick Start Planning Call And Long Term Plan – After you have completed the assessments and I have had the chance to study them we will create your personal plan. During this call we’ll define your focus for the program in the form of three goals. We will also find clarity on which core issues we will target head on.

  • 14 Weekly 45-Minute Coaching and Tapping Calls – Each week we will have a 45-minute call in which we will review the week’s progress, tap for any new issues that have arisen, tap on the core issues standing in the way of progress, and create very specific actions steps to be taken over the next week. ($2100 value)
  • Weekly SOS Tapping Call – Sometimes issues and resistance to taking action pop up. I would hate for you to feel like you have to wait for our next call to receive tapping help. Every week you will have the opportunity to have one 15-minute SOS call where you can jump on the phone and do a little tapping with me. ($700 value)

  • Email Support – This is something that I only offer to clients working with me for a long period of time. I will respond to any email within 24 hours. This is a great way to get questions answered promptly and keep you moving toward your goals.

  • Advanced Tapping Techniques – In this 8-hour audio training course I teach you exactly how I tap, the tools I use in client sessions and when I am working on my own, and how to know which tools to use in each situation. ($497 value)

  • 10 Question Process – I use this process for tasks as small as rearranging my office and as big as creating a new product line. In over 3 hours of audios I will teach you the process so you can use it again and again to figure out your next steps and name the core issues getting in your way. ($187 value)

  • 6 Months Access To The Ruach Center – The Ruach Center is a membership website that has over 200 tapping audios and hours of instruction to help you to eliminate self-sabotage and take action. Every morning you will receive email with a link to a new tap-along audio to help you start off your day on the right foot. ($97 value)

[Note: If you purchased Advanced Tapping Techniques or the 10 Questions Process in the last six months I will apply that purchase price to the cost of this program.]

Yes, This Is A Serious Investment.

That is over $4800 in products and personalized service.

I am offering this program for an investment of $3750. (There is also a four month payment plan available.)

Yes, this is a serious investment.

BUT that is exactly what it is, an investment in yourself. This isn't about the next four months or about achieving some short term goals.

The transformation on offer will be carried with you throughout your life. The skills you learn through this transformation will be useful again and again in the future.

Is This Right For You?

This isn't for everyone. Like I said above, I can only to work with 8 people in this program.

We need to make sure that we are a good fit. I don't want you to waste your time and money. If you are interested I need you to fill out a short application (it is only four questions). After I read the application I will get in touch with you. If we seem like a good fit I’ll set up a time for us to talk so we can have a conversation to see if that is the case.

Then and only then, we will begin.

If this is going to work it has to be the right fit. This is non-negotiable for me and it should be non-negotiable for you too.

Are you interested? Then click the link and fill out the application.

>> Yes! I am ready to clear the core issues holding me back and achieve my goals!

If you have any questions just reply to this note and I will answer anything you have.

I look forward to serving you,

Gene

PS: Remember, when we clear a core issue related to a goal we are not just clearing it for that goal, but for all areas of our life. When you do this work the effect will ripple into all areas of your life and not just for four months, but for the rest of your life. Join me on this journey.

PPS: If you are a small business owner and are looking for something more comprehensive geared to growing your business reply to this message so we can set up a longer conversation.

Filed Under: Notes

Pod #203: EFT For Confidence

January 13, 2016 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

EFT FOR ConfidenceIn my own life I have found that my level of confidence has less to do with how good I am at something and much more to do with how comfortable I am with myself at a given moment.

I think it is a mistake to believe that all we need to do is get better at something to be more confident. In reality confidence is all about who we allow to be the judge our success.

No matter how good we are we will not feel confident if we judge success based on what others think.

This week we tap to shift mentally how we see our actions moving from judging our success based on other’s interpretation of events to our own.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Confidence

Facing My Fears Unexpectedly Led To Action

January 12, 2016 By Gene Monterastelli

The Cost Of Looking Fear In The Eye

a sink full of dirty dishes made me happyLast year I spent some time trying to figure out what my next venture would be.

Working on a new project that calls on my creativity feeds my soul.

The project I was considering was a new podcast called “Facing Fear”. My plan was to record a weekly podcast where I would explore one of my deepest, darkest fears.

I’m talking about the kind of fears that would have me tossing and turning for hours in the middle of the night.

Fears like:

    • There is nothing exceptional about me.
    • I’m 42. Since I haven’t found anyone to love me yet, I never will, and will die alone.
    • I spend too much time worrying about my own crap and my loved ones don’t know that I care about them.
    • I am just filling my life with tasks so as to avoid facing my loneliness.
    • At my core I am really a selfish person. I worry more about replacing my computer than I do about the real suffering in the world.

 

I know. It’s upbeat stuff. My heart aches a little just in typing that list.

Each morning I set aside a little time to work on the project.

My list grew and grew as I tried to find the ten “best” fears for the first set of shows. I started outlining short essays about each fear and what I believed to be the root cause.

I found myself practicing the wording about the fears for the recordings while I was in the shower or on my exercise bike.

Then something really unexpected happened…

One afternoon I went to get a glass of water and there were no glasses in my cupboard.

A Pile Of Dishes In The Sink And No Clean Bowls Or Glasses

I know that an empty cupboard isn’t really such an odd thing but let’s consider a few facts.

    • I live alone.
    • I have at least a dozen glasses.
    • When I am looking for an excuse to be busy and feel productive I do dishes.

 

That last point is the important one.

Whenever I am trying to avoid my worries about things that feel dangerous or overwhelming I head straight to my kitchen and clean.

In that moment I noticed that my counter and sink were cluttered with dishes. Almost every dish I owned was visible and dirty.

And the reason was because I was so busy doing more important tasks that I wasn’t feeling the negative emotions about those tasks.

By thinking about this new podcast I was facing my fears head on and healing them.

I have never been so happy to see a pile of dirty dishes in my life!

It Wasn’t Just Clearing Core Issues. There Was Another Key Factor

I need to be clear it wasn’t just a matter of facing my fears. Three key factors created the change:

    1. I named my fears fully and honestly.
    2. I thought about the root causes of those fears in a systematic way.
    3. I was working towards a clear set of goals.

 

Wallowing in my fears would not have been helpful. That can become self-indulgent and unhealthy.

Taking the time to uproot the fears meant that I was healing and feeling better BUT real transformation only happened because I had a clearly-defined list of goals and I was able to step into action.

The Right Number Of Goals

I think there was also a secondary factor that contributed to my success in taking action: I had the right number of goals.

There have been times in my life where I have had a full page of detailed goals. Goals for my personal life, my physical health, my spiritual growth, and my business.

It’s great to have that sort of clarity, but in truth I have found it difficult to commit to working towards so many goals.

Around the time I started working on the fear project I had pared down my list of goals to just three.

I wasn’t saying that my life was perfect or that I only needed to work on three goals but by focusing on just three I was able to give each one the attention required to make real progress. I had learned that spreading myself too thinly meant that I wasn’t moving forward with anything.

You Can Do This Too!

I want you to have the opportunity to experience what I did.

I want you to have the opportunity to find and clear the core issues holding you back. I want you to have a clear idea of what you want AND I want to support you so you don’t have to figure this out on your own.

In the past I have offered 8-month programs which have been more geared toward business owners.

This winter I am offering a 4-month program focused on transformation in your daily life.

This program will help you to get clear about what you want, uncover what is holding you back, and guide you as you clear those issues systematically.

Here Is What The Program Includes:

This will be in the format of a 3-hour phone or Skype call, which will be recorded. (Yes, we will take breaks as needed.) At the end of the call we will have a clear plan with well-framed goals and benchmarks to measure your progress along the way. (Assessments, planning sessions, tap-along audio, clearly articulated goals, and plan – $1000 value)

[Note: We don’t have to do this as a call. You are welcome to come to NYC and we can do this work together in person. I will even buy you lunch!]

After each call you will receive an audio recording of the session so that you can return to the tapping we did AND you will be given a tapping code that you can do twice a day to help you to continue clearing the issues covered during the session.

    • Goal, Asset, and Obstacle Assessment – Before we can begin we need to know where you are right now in your life. This assessment is designed to help us gain a clear picture of the obstacles you face and your unaccessed assets to allow you to reach your goals (even if you aren’t quite sure what they are right now).

       

    • Core Issue Assessment – Most of my clients have one or two core issues holding them back in many areas of their life. This assessment will help us to zero in on those core issues to guide our work.

       

    • Assessment Prep Tap-Along Audio – Starting a process like this can feel a little scary. You might be worried that we will uncover something awful or that you will do the assessment wrong. There are no right or wrong answers in these assessments but to make it easier for you I have created a tap-along audio to help you to feel comfortable and safe as you go through the process.

       

    • Kick Start Planning Call And Long Term Plan – After you have completed the assessments and I have had the chance to study them we will create your personal plan. During this call we’ll define your focus for the program in the form of three goals. We will also find clarity on which core issues we will target head on.

       

    • 14 Weekly 45-Minute Coaching and Tapping Calls – Each week we will have a 45-minute call in which we will review the week’s progress, tap for any new issues that have arisen, tap on the core issues standing in the way of progress, and create very specific actions steps to be taken over the next week. ($2100 value)
    • Weekly SOS Tapping Call – Sometimes issues and resistance to taking action pop up. I would hate for you to feel like you have to wait for our next call to receive tapping help. Every week you will have the opportunity to have one 15-minute SOS call where you can jump on the phone and do a little tapping with me. ($700 value)

       

    • Email Support – This is something that I only offer to clients working with me for a long period of time. I will respond to any email within 24 hours. This is a great way to get questions answered promptly and keep you moving toward your goals.

       

    • Advanced Tapping Techniques – In this 8-hour audio training course I teach you exactly how I tap, the tools I use in client sessions and when I am working on my own, and how to know which tools to use in each situation. ($497 value)

       

    • 10 Question Process – I use this process for tasks as small as rearranging my office and as big as creating a new product line. In over 3 hours of audios I will teach you the process so you can use it again and again to figure out your next steps and name the core issues getting in your way. ($187 value)

       

    • 6 Months Access To The Ruach Center – The Ruach Center is a membership website that has over 200 tapping audios and hours of instruction to help you to eliminate self-sabotage and take action. Every morning you will receive email with a link to a new tap-along audio to help you start off your day on the right foot. ($97 value)

       

 

[Note: If you purchased Advanced Tapping Techniques or the 10 Questions Process in the last six months I will apply that purchase price to the cost of this program.]

Yes, This Is A Serious Investment.

That is over $4800 in products and personalized service.

I am offering this program for an investment of $3750. (There is also a four month payment plan available.)

Yes, this is a serious investment.

BUT that is exactly what it is, an investment in yourself. This isn’t about the next four months or about achieving some short term goals.

The transformation on offer will be carried with you throughout your life. The skills you learn through this transformation will be useful again and again in the future.

Is This Right For You?

This isn’t for everyone. Like I said above, I can only to work with 8 people in this program.

We need to make sure that we are a good fit. I don’t want you to waste your time and money. If you are interested I need you to fill out a short application (it is only four questions). After I read the application I will get in touch with you. If we seem like a good fit I’ll set up a time for us to talk so we can have a conversation to see if that is the case.

Then and only then, we will begin.

If this is going to work it has to be the right fit. This is non-negotiable for me and it should be non-negotiable for you too.

Are you interested? Then click the link and fill out the application.

>> Yes! I am ready to clear the core issues holding me back and achieve my goals!

If you have any questions just reply to this note and I will answer anything you have.

I look forward to serving you,

Gene

PS: Remember, when we clear a core issue related to a goal we are not just clearing it for that goal, but for all areas of our life. When you do this work the effect will ripple into all areas of your life and not just for four months, but for the rest of your life. Join me on this journey.

PPS: If you are a small business owner and are looking for something more comprehensive geared to growing your business reply to this message so we can set up a longer conversation.

Filed Under: Notes, Q&A

Pod #202: EFT For Not Being Ashamed Of Your Dreams

January 6, 2016 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

EFT For Not Being Ashamed Of Your Dreams

“In most pursuits, one’s self is one of the biggest hurdles to get over. You can’t pursue something and be committed to it if you’re apologizing for it at every party.” – Lisa Kudrow, Vasser Commencement Address, 2010

For some reason part of us believes that it is not proper to want more.

Maybe it is because we recognize that we already have it better than so many other people. Maybe it is because we have been taught that we should know our place. Maybe it is because we don’t want to jinx our dream by saying it out loud.

Regardless of the reason, there is often something in us that feels ashamed of our dreams and ashamed of wanting more than we already have. Not only does this prevent us from striving for more, it also adds the emotional burden of feeling shame, my least favorite emotion.

Here is a simple tap-along to help you feel more comfortable with your dreams, which will lead to meaningful action.

PDF of tapping script.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Dreams, Goals, Shame

Pod #201: How To Make EFT A Daily Habit

December 30, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

How To Make EFT A Daily HabitAs we move into the new year I am guessing you are like most people as you consider the goals you want to achieve in 2016.

EFT can be such a powerful tool in helping you make the changes you want in life and will have the highest impact when used daily.

Here is what you can do to set yourself up for success in the new year by establishing EFT as a habit.

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Pod #200: What To Do When Your Speaking Voice And Your Inner Voice Are In Conflict While Tapping

December 24, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

What To Do When Your Speaking Voice And Your Inner Voice Are In Conflict While Tapping BlurI hear it all the time from my clients when we are tapping together. We’ll finish a round of tapping and they will report that while we are tapping their critical voice is saying the exact opposite to our tapping phrases.

I know how frustrating this can feel, but in reality it is one of the best outcomes to happen when you are tapping.

That seems counterintuitive, but it is quite true!

Listen here to see why and how you can leverage this to get more out of your tapping.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Critical Voice, How To, Phrases, What To Say

Pod #199: EFT For Clarity When Making Big Decisions

December 16, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 3 Comments

Big DecisionsMaking big decisions can be difficult because the choices aren’t always clear-cut and there may be many pros and cons to consider.

When this happens it can cause us to seize up and fail to make a choice at all.

Here is a tap-along audio to help you clear your head and make the best choice you can.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Choice, Decision

Pod #198: EFT For Beating Yourself Up Over Your Past

December 9, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

EFT For Beating Yourself Up Over Your PastAs humans we are skilled at learning from our past.

This also means that we can be overly critical and spend too much time beating ourselves up over poor choices we have made in the past.

Part of us resists self-forgiveness because of the concern that we will repeat the same mistake over and over again.

Here is a tap-along audio to help you stop beating yourself up for the past and know that you have learned the lessons from your mistakes.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Forgiveness, Self Love, Self Respect

Pod #197: EFT For Resisting Doing EFT

December 4, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Resisting EFTThere is an amazing contradiction that exists for most people who use EFT. On one hand we know how powerful it is. On the other hand we don’t use it as much as we could.

I have even heard many clients report that there are times when they actively resist tapping. Just last week I had a client tell me:

I knew I should tap because my emotions were getting the best of me. While thinking this there was a part of me that just said “No! I refuse to tap.” It was almost as if there was a small child inside of me that was throwing a temper tantrum refusing to do it.

There is a very good reason why we resist tapping.

Here is why we struggle AND what you can do about it.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Resistance

Pod #196: EFT For Seasonal Overwhelm (w/ Tap-Along)

November 25, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

EFT For Holiday OverwhelmHere in the United States the unofficial beginning of the holiday season kicks off tomorrow with Thanksgiving.

As much fun as the holiday season is, it can also feel stressful and overwhelming.

There is a never-ending list of tasks that need to be done to prepare for the holidays AND it seems like there is another holiday party to attend every night of the week.

It can quickly feel like too much.

Here is a simple tap-along audio help you manage the holiday craziness.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Holiday, Overwhelm, Stress

Pod #195: EFT To Stay Healthy During Cold And Flu Season

November 18, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 4 Comments

EFTForColdandFluIt is that time of year again (at least in the northern hemisphere) where every time you turn around there is another person coughing or sneezing.

I have found tapping is a great way to keep these seasonal bugs at bay and to help to get healthy once you have gotten sick.

This week I have the tapping script I use to get and stay health. I have provided both a pdf and audio of the script.

Please feel free to share these as far and wide as you would like.

Download the tapping script pdf!

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Cold, Flu, Health, Sick

Pod #194: Where To Start An EFT Session

November 11, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

One of the most common questions I receive is “Where should I start? I have so many issues to tap on that I feel paralyzed. What should I do?”

This is a great question.

The truth is there is no one place to start, but it is much more important that you do start. I know how intimidating tapping can feel the first time you are trying it on your own. You want to get it exactly right. You feel self conscious because you it feel and looks weird.

As you do it, you will feel more comfortable. As you feel more comfortable, it will be easier to do.

In this week’s podcast I have for you a process that is great for new and experienced tappers alike. For new tappers it will provide a great guide to help you get your feet under you. For experienced tappers it will help to uncover new issues that need to be tapped on.

To do this process you will need to go to EFTSetupPhraseGenerator.com/

Listen to the podcast first, then go to the site to try it out.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Beginner, Self Esteem

Pod #193: EFT for Self-Respect

October 28, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli 3 Comments

Recently I was reminded of the Joan Didon quote “Self-respect is a discipline, a habit of mind that can never be faked but can be developed, trained, coaxed forth.”

I find this quote so encouraging because helps me to recognize that self-respect is a point of view about myself that I can cultivate.

This week I have for you some tapping that will help you (and me!) recognize that we are worthy of self-respect. Below you will find both a tap-along audio and the tapping script.

I choose to know I am worthy of respect…I choose to know that I am worthy of respecting myself…I don’t need to do anything to prove that I am worthy of self-respect…I am made for self-respect…I don’t need to do anything to gain my self-respect…I know I am not perfect…I know I make mistakes every day…I know there are things in my life I would like to improve…Even though I am not perfect…I am worthy of self-respect…I am worthy of seeing that I am good…I am worthy of seeing that I am lovable…It is possible to see that I am worthy and still know that I would like better…By respecting myself I am not stopping my growth…By respecting myself I am not stopping my healing…Who I am is not determined by other people…Who I am is not determined by what others think…My value is not determined by other people…My value is not determined by what other people think…I choose to know I am worthy…I choose to know I am lovable…I choose to know that I am worthy of being heard…I am worthy even if I don’t believe I am worthy…My belief in my worthiness is not a prerequisite to my worthiness…I am worthy of respect even if I don’t believe it right now.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Self Esteem, Self Love, Self Respect

Pod #192: EFT For The Fear Of Public Speaking w/ Tania A. Prince

October 21, 2015 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

PublicSpeakingIn survey after survey public speaking finishes near the top of the list of people’s greatest fears. It’s a fear that can hold us back professionally and can cause us much anxiety and discomfort ahead of having to speak in front of groups.

Most basic tapping and EFT trainings teach that when we fear something we should look for the first time we had a bad experience. The problem with doing this when it comes to public speaking is that often the moment in our past that taught us that public speaking was dangerous had little or nothing to do with public speaking.

In this week’s conversation I talk with EFT Founding Master Tania A. Prince about the many different root causes that can lead to a fear of public speaking and how we can tap for them.

 

Tania A. Prince

Guest: Tania A. Prince EFT Master

Contact: web @ eft-courses.co.uk, e-mail @ contact page

Biography: Tania is an EFT Master (one of fewer than thirty in the world). She has extensive experience of using EFT with clients and has worked on a vast range of issues, including fear of public speaking, blushing, panic attacks, success coaching, phobias, depression, addictions, anxiety, weight management, agoraphobia and serious illnesses, etc. She works from two clinics in Cheshire, England as well as working with clients throughout the UK and internationally via the phone. Her work has been featured on TV and radio shows both in the UK and abroad. She presents regularly at major international conferences and is a TAT Professionals Trainer.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Fear, Public Speaking, Tania A Prince

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