photo by Luigi Anzivino A number of studies have indicated that the simple act of writing down what we are thinking and worrying about takes some of the charge out of the emotions. Dragging the thoughts into the light of day helps us to see what we are overreacting to and what is truly going on. When we leave our thoughts alone in our head they have a tendency to be magnified. The mind serves as an echo chamber (especially in the middle of the night). Each time a thought or worry is ...
Our Emotions Are Illogical And Make No Sense
Sometimes the healing process is hampered by our logical mind. We get to the point where we can name our issues, but they make no sense at all. We can logically see how things are different from what our emotions believe. This can be a very difficult point in the healing process because we realize that we can’t talk ourselves out of misguided or wrong emotional beliefs. Because we can’t logic our way out of something, we don’t know where to turn and can feel helpless in the healing process. I ...
One Issue That Is Really Three or Four Issues
I am dealing with homework issues and tantrums with my 8 year-old daughter. Parenting her really takes all my energy. It seems I spend more time battling with her than enjoying her. How can I approach this issue? photo by Kathryn Rotondo Sometimes when we face a situation it looks like one issue, because it is one situation, but in reality it’s more than one issue. At first it might seem daunting to break the issue down into smaller parts because it appears to require more ...
Getting Back To That Session That Was So Powerful
photo by Meredith Farmer Occasionally we have unusually powerful Evolving Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT/EvEFT) sessions. When we sit down later to tap, we wish there was a way to recapture the healing aspects of that session or continue to work on those issues. It is much easier to do than one would think. There are times when I can relate to the issue my client is bringing up, so while they tap on their issue, I get to tap on my issue at the same time. There are other times when ...
Need To Know How We Got Here
To work down a path of healing we need to take stock of where we are and what issues we would like to heal. One of the questions that come to mind when we do this is, “How did I get here?” This can become a consuming question, to the point that it distracts us from the healing process itself. It is a natural question to ask. First, we may think that it will help us to heal our way out of the current feeling or circumstance. Second, we may believe we need to know how we got here to insure that ...
I found myself being grounded and present every 15 minutes all day long!
A Chime For The Soul I spent the first three days of the New Year on retreat. It was everything a retreat is supposed to be. It was restful. It was challenging. It helped me to heal and gave me insight for more healing in the future. We spent a great deal of time in silence. Each day began with a 20-minute contemplative sit. We were given two or three minutes of silence to quiet ourselves before each presentation and to absorb what we’d just heard after presentations. Each of these ...
Let The Subconscious Fill in the Blanks
photo by Adam Holloway The most common reason my clients don’t do their EFT homework between sessions is, “I don’t know what words to say. When I tap with you it is so easy. When I’m on my own I get stuck.” But there is a way for the subconscious to solve this problem for you. The reason may be lack of confidence, worry that you’ll do it wrong, worry that you’ll waste time, or that you simply don’t know how to approach the issue. At other times we may have a hard time saying some of ...
Overwhelmed By How Much Healing I Need
In the article Stages of Awareness I talk about how we move through the healing process. In stage one we are going through life unaware of what is going on internally. In stage two we start the investigation process. This stage can be the most difficult because we’ve taken our blinders off. We feel as if we have just added a whole new set of problems and issues. The moment we start investigating what’s going on in our lives we become aware of many areas of healing that we had been blind to ...
Physical Pain From Injury
I am very aware that there are times when we have pain in the body that has an emotional base. There are also times when we just hurt ourselves. I just twisted my knee and it still hurts a few days later. Do I tap in the same way with this sort of physical pain as I would for pain that is emotionally-based? Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT/EvEFT) is a very powerful tool when dealing with physical pain. When I first teach EFT/EvEFT I generally start with physical pain for two reasons. ...
Ev/EFT – Evolving Emotional Freedom Techniques
Why do you use the term Evolving Emotional Freedom Techniques (EvEFT) instead of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)? When Gary Craig introduced EFT to the world I believe he did a very smart thing when chose the name. He called it Emotional Freedom Techniques. Most people don’t notice the “s” on the end of the word techniques, because it seems like one technique. As far as I can tell Gary did this because he knew EFT would grow and change over time, as it indeed has. Part of the ...
I Don’t Deserve Healing
One of the biggest struggles in our process of growing and changing is the fact that we don’t often believe that we deserve healing. We believe: We have too much We have done too much wrong It is too late Sometimes it is just a deep ache that we can’t explain, a feeling that we don’t deserve any better. I often use the image of a brick wall when dealing with this general sense of not deserving better. We are standing on one side of it, and our healing is on the other side. As long as ...
Did you give up on your New Year’s Resolution today?
When I was at the gym today for my morning workout I didn't have to wait in line for any of the machines, but everything was basically full.When I went to the gym three days ago I had to wait 15 minutes to use one of the machines.The reason why?New Year's resolutions!Everyone makes them...and no one keeps them.If you made a resolution to loose weight or exercise this year on New Year's Eve then on average today or tomorrow is the day you will give up on that resolution.You might not know you ...
After A Powerful EFT Session
I have found EFT to be a very powerful tool. I have used it to clean up a number of deep emotional issues, but have noticed a number of unusual sensations after doing a session. Sometime I am really tired after a session, while other times I feel a little more emotional than when I started but wake up the next day feeling like a new person. Are these common experiences? Is there anything I can do after a session to make sure I’m taking care of myself? Is there anything I can do to make sure the ...
Peace (Personal and World)
During the holiday season we are re-reminded that it is important to give thanks for the peace in our lives, homes, and world. We are also given the chance to consider the peace we long for. Please take some time this week and tap on these phrase to help bring peace. I give thanks for the fact that I am reminded to consider the peace I have in my life...I am thankful for moments of peace...for people who create peace...and the people who call me to peace...I know there are places in my life that ...
Not Knowing What To Tap On/Tapping To Help Getting To Sleep/Tapping For Relaxation
There are times when I want to spend a little time tapping, but I don’t have a specific issue or I don’t really want to dive into a very emotional issue. Is there any benefit to just tapping with no particular intention? [Note: The example in this article on how to tap without words is a perfect way to tap to help you get a good night’s sleep or to just relax.] photo by James Blann One of the reason I love Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is because it costs us nothing more ...
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Children Who Are Reluctant To Tap
My 8-year-old son has been taught how to tap by an EFT Practitioner and I have done it with him off and on. When something comes up and I tell him to tap on it, he doesn’t want to! Do you have any suggestions on helping my son make tapping a part of his life? [[This article is written by Angie Muccillo. Angie is the author of "Tapping For Kids‚ A Children's Guide To EFT." This book puts the extraordinary power of EFT firmly into the hands of children and young people, as a tool for life, to ...
Using EFT to Give Thanks!
I always seem to be using EFT for the things that go wrong in my life or the things I want to change. Does it do any good to tap on things that are going right and if so how would I do this? photo by Scott Ableman Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is a very powerful tool for giving thanks. I am a firm believer that one of the most powerful tools we have for moving our lives to the places we want is to recognize the blessings we have. This puts us at ease, giving us the ability ...
Using EFT In Tough Times
Everywhere you turn there seems to be bad news. It’s hard to be hopeful for the future when all you hear is doom and gloom. How can I use EFT to lift my mood and make it possible to thrive in these troubled times? [Note: This article is by Chip Engelmann. Make sure you check out Chip's web site ChipEFT.com for many great articles, ebooks, and recordings of past teleseminars.] photo by Daniel H. Agostini It is easy to get sucked in. We turn on the TV and a talking head economist is ...
Don’t Know How To Forgive Myself
What is the best procedure a person can take to learn how to forgive one’s self? I need to forgive myself desperately but don’t know how! The question of forgiveness comes up a lot with the clients I work with. In the article Forgiveness Equals Condoning The Action I talk a great deal about forgiveness, why forgiveness is hard, and how we can forgive ourselves and others. But what happens when we don’t think forgiveness is even possible? There is an ongoing conversation among EFT ...