Right now I’m having trouble with cravings. There are times I crave Diet Dr. Pepper, but I don’t like the taste. I almost feel like a person possessed. I must consume it even though I don’t enjoy it. How do I use EFT to kill this type of craving? My favorite part of this question is the phrase, “I almost feel like a person possessed. That is exactly what cravings feel like, a force that seems to exist outside of us, that comes into us, and draws us to choices we don’t want to make - choices we ...
Tapping On Someone Else’s Behavior
There is someone at work who drives me crazy, always picking fights and causing lots of disharmony in the office. Changing jobs isn’t really an option for me. Is it possible for me to tap to change their behavior? If you read most EFT websites (especially Gary's site) you will find a number of accounts of how surrogate tapping has been successful. (To surrogately tap for someone else means to tap on your own body for someone else’s issues and that other person receives healing or relief.) You ...
Cold and Flu
Cold and Flu season is coming. Is there a way I can use EFT to keep myself healthy? I have used Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) very effectively against cold and flu symptoms in two ways. One is preventive and the other is symptom management. Prevention I have found it is very helpful to take a little time each morning and night to do tapping for general health. I take a few deep breaths to relax myself, tune into my body, and tap on phases like this: I am so blessed to have the body I ...
Forgiveness Equals Condoning The Action
I was introduced to EFT about a year ago and I love it. I’m amazed at the way it quickly gets rid of unwanted emotions, but I’m wondering if this is always a good thing. I made some really poor choices in the past. I feel really bad about these choices. I know EFT would be a great tool for getting rid of these emotions, but I’m afraid that if I don’t feel bad about them that I am condoning the past behavior. Is it okay to let go of these negative emotions about my past choices? At its core this ...
Using Color With EFT
I was on the teleclass you did with Catherine Poole on color and I loved it. But there is still something I am confused about. She talked about how each type of physical issue is related to a color (or a couple of colors). It sounds like if we are suffering in that part of our body we could tap using EFT and just image that color coming in. My questions is how do I know which color to bring in? I asked Catherine if she would answer this question by creating a list of issues, by color, that we ...
Not Sure How To Be Specific – AKA I Don’t know what to say (part 6)
I know EFT is most effective when I am really specific about what I am tapping on, but I am really having a problem with that because there are so many emotions at once I don’t know where to start. One thought leads to the next that leads to the next. What do I do when I don’t know what to focus on because there is so much going on at once? Almost every resource on Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), including mine, will tell you that the fastest way to have success with EFT is to be as ...
The Power of Color
There are a number of healing traditions that use color as part of the healing process. Is it possible to use these techniques or color in general in combination with EFT? [This article is by Catherine Poole. Catherine is a medical intuitive who has spent decades studying and teaching color theory. In this article she explores what each color represents when it comes to healing. At the end of this article there is a short audio which shows you how to combine color with EFT. Catherine is ...
Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)
[Note: Since posting this in 2008 I have written a guide for parents. You can find it here: EFT for ASD] Anyone who has the opportunity to get to know a family with a child who has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) knows how baffling and mysterious ASD can be. One of my regular clients has a son, “Nathan”, who was diagnosed with ASD. About two years ago I approached Nathan’s father, “Jason”, and share with him that EFT can be very effective for clearing up substance ...
Getting Started
I know EFT works because it has worked for me before. For some reason I just can’t get myself to sit down and do the tapping I want and need to do. What is my problem, and is there anything I can do about it? photo by Jon Marshall I’ve lived this reality myself. I know how powerful Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is. But there are times that I just can’t do the work I know I need to do. [As a side note, sometimes I then get frustrated with myself for not doing the work I need to ...
Getting What We Want (Part 4 of 4) – Taking Inspired Action
I know that I can use EFT to help me get what I want in my life, but I don’t know how. Do you have any suggestions? So far we have named what we didn't want, named what we do what, and started to get clear of the emotional blocks that are preventing us from moving forward. There is one final step. We need to take action. Often when the idea of getting what we want is presented it is oversimplified. "Just think about what you want and you will get it. It's really that simple." But without ...
Where To Tap
How do I use the tapping phrases you suggest in your articles? Here is the exact question I received recently from one of my readers: Q: At the end of your first article you give a tapping suggestion: "Tapping for this might look like: I am not a complainer...and I don’t want to be seen as a complainer...I know that there are many blessings in my life...I am thankful for these blessings...but I know that I can have more and I deserve more...in order to move down this path to get closer to what ...
Getting What We Want (part 3 of 4) – Getting Clear of Emotional Blocks
I know that I can use EFT to help me get what I want in my life, but I don’t know how. Do you have any suggestions? [Note: This is article number three in a four-part series on how to get what you do want. In this article we will look at the third of four steps in using EFT to change aspects of our lives.] So far we have looked at What We Don't Want and Knowing What We Do Want. Both of these steps are very important in making all types of changes in our lives, whether big or small. There are ...
Self Esteem Boost
Is there a way I could use EFT for a little bit of a self-esteem boost? The other night as I was finishing a call with one of my regular clients I asked, “Is there anything else you would like to do before we end this call?” She replied, “Is there something we could do to give me a little bit of a self-esteem boost?” When pressed to see what she meant by that she continued, ”It’s not like I can think of something specific right now as far as a memory or an issue, but I just know I have ...
Getting Help
When Do I Need the Help of an EFT Practitioner? [AnaMaria Herrera aka "Agent EFT," is a California based EFT practitioner. She publishes 'Success In Your Fingertips' a weekly E-zine for business owners and professionals to reach their goals with ease and elegance using Emotional Freedom Technique. Info at www.gotEFTsystem.com] photo by Thewmatt In the many years I’ve worked as a healthcare practitioner, it still amazes me the trap that health professionals get into of ...
Getting What We Want (Part 2 of 4) – Know what we do want
I know that I can use EFT to help me get what I want in my life, but I don’t know how. Do you have any suggestions? [Note: This is article number two in a four-part series on how to get what you do want. In this article we look at the second of four steps in using EFT to change our lives.] Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is a very powerful tool for changing our lives for the better. In part one of this series (Knowing What We Don't Want) we started by looking at the areas of our lives that ...
Getting What We Want (Part 1 of 4) – Know what we don’t want?
I know that I can use EFT to help me get what I want in my life, but I don’t know how. Do you have any suggestions? [Note: This is article number one in a four-part series on how to get what you do want. In this article we will look at the first of four steps in using EFT to make changes to our lives.] I would bet at least half of my client sessions are about helping clients make changes in their lives. They are seeking better health, a different work situation, financial abundance, or more ...
When A Client Is Too Much
I’m wondering how to approach a new client. She is interested in EFT, but says that she is only willing to give her issue two sessions, maybe three, tops, since she has been in therapy for years. She says she doesn’t want to start any long-term therapy. I saw her this last Friday for the first time, and we only talked (and when I say “we” talked I mean she only talked). You talk about multiple issues? This is the queen. I have a session with her next Friday. I don’t even know where to start. ...
Using Poetry with EFT (in this case for forgiveness)
In a recent newsletter you talked about using a forgiveness poem as a tapping tool. I’m not sure what I am supposed to do. Can you give me more instruction? photo by Pankaj One of the reasons I love Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) so much is because it’s so flexible. It can be adjusted only to deal with many different issues and many different personalities. I know I write this all the time, but one fifth of the questions I receive require this sort of answer: The words ...
The Body Has Information About Our Issues
I remember reading a suggestion about “asking” a troubled body part what it’s trying to tell you. What exactly does that mean? And how does the answer get conveyed? Would it be a thought or words popping into your head? If so, would it be immediately or would it require additional tapping? photo by Justin Litton Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is most effective when we can be very specific about the issue that we are working on, but sometimes this is very difficult. There might ...
Feedback – What We Can Learn From Each Round of Tapping
I read all these stories about how people get amazing results with EFT right away. It’s just not happening for me. What am I doing wrong? photo by dave_mcmt Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is easy to use, it can be used on many types of issues, and it can be done anytime anywhere. But even with that being said, the main reason people first become interested in learning EFT is because they hear stories of how EFT changes lives. We all want to heal and improve our lives and ...