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Pod #125: EFT For Lessons And Experiences From Our Childhood That Impact Us Today w/ Jacqui Crooks

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There is no question that we are impacted by our past. That seems so obvious that it doesn’t even seem worth commenting on.

Nevertheless I think it is easy to underestimate how some past experiences impact us.

In my private sessions with clients it is amazing how often we find our way back to roots planted firmly in their childhood via current issues. We are more than impacted by our childhood experiences, we are deeply imprinted by them.

In this interview I talk with EFT Master Jacqui Crooks about how we are affected by these childhood moments and how we can tap to create freedom from memories and lessons that are no longer helpful.


Jacqui Crooks

Guest: Jacqui Crooks

Contact Jacqui: web @ JacquiCrooks.com

About Jacqui: Jacqui is one of the pioneers in using Energy Psychology, finding EFT IN 1999. Her life’s not been the same since! She is an International speaker and trainer and an EFT Founding Master. She specializes in helping people to change limiting beliefs and old family and ancestral patterns that create self sabotage and keep people stuck. Her background is in Ericksonian hypnotherapy and NLP and through the development of unique ways of combining EFT with hypnotic language and NLP, Jaqui is able to help effect deep level changes quickly and easily without trauma. She runs retreats in interesting places and trains EFT, worldwide. She presents at conferences and is one of the authors of EFT and Beyond.

Here is the tapping script Jaqui read at the end of the interview:

Even though there is a blueprint of the shining essence of me and I forgot that that is who I am, I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself.

Even though I forgot, I now gratefully accept help from my guides, helpers, angels, source, my higher self and all parts of me, to help and support, while cleaning, clearing and repairing all damage to my chakras, aura or any of my bodies, so that I return wholly to that shining, glowing essence of who I am.

Even though I forgot, I’m choosing now, to align to that blueprint of my shining essence and I ask that this is fuelled so that it continues, in ways that I don’t need to know, continually clearing the connection to source, so that I can continue to shine and glow and completely fill that me shaped space in the universe.

What Would You Do If You Lost Your Home In A Typhoon?

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Good morning,

Last November super typhoon Haiyan devastated parts of the Philippines.

  • 12 million people were impacted directly
  • 4 million people were displaced from their homes
  • 1 million homes were damaged or destroyed

In addition to the hardship of the destruction, I can’t even begin to imagine the emotional toll an experience like that would have on me. Some of the children who lived through it described being crippled with fear every time the wind blows.

My friend Sebastiaan van der Schrier decided that something needed to be done for those impacted by the storm. Especially the kids!

In December he went to the Philippines where he worked with local government leaders to introduce EFT in as many schools as he could reach and he tapped with hundreds of kids to bring relief to the trauma they had suffered.

After this experience he decided he wanted to do more!

His new goal?

  • Tap with 10,000 kids (yes, 10,000)
  • Train 100 local practitioners
  • Train 3 local trainers
  • Build 200 sustainable homes
  • Build 5 storm proof classrooms

To achieve this goal Sebastiaan is doing two things.

First, he has invited 10 practitioners to join him April 21st – May 12th in the Philippines to tap with kids and run trainings. These practitioners are closing down their practices for few weeks to help out.

Second, he is reaching out to the tapping community help raise the funds to pull off this amazing ambitious goal.

Last week I received a note from Sebastiaan asking if I would be willing to support him in this endeavor.

The answer was yes, of course.

On a closer reading of his note I realized he was inviting me to be one of the 10 practitioners to join him.

I was (and still am) amazed by the invitation.

I looked at my calendar, moved a few things around and I will be joining the team for 10 days.

I Need Your Help

I am reaching out to ask for your help.

In order to pull off everything that Sebastiaan wants to do we need to raise $150,000. I figured that since I was one of the 10 practitioners going that I should try to raise 10% of that.

My personal goal is to raise $15,000. If we do this it means I will be able to work with 1000 kids and we will be able to build one storm proof classroom.

If everyone who reads this email donated just $25 we would reach that goal many times over.

Think of it this way… $25 will mean that I will get to work with 5 kids tapping on a major trauma working to giving them back the joy of childhood.

You Help AND You Get Something

If you donate $25 or more I will send you an ebook containing 50 tapping scripts to help you stop self-sabotage in your own life, a copy of Steve Wells and David Lake’s ebook “New Energy Therapies”, and a copy of the EFT Level Manual ebook by Tania A. Prince.

ALSO, if we reach our goal of $15k then I will run a 4-week series of tapping calls for everyone on my mailing list, not just the people who donated.

Your donation means that:

  • Kids receive trauma relief
  • Homes and schools are built
  • You get 50 awesome tapping scripts, “New Energy Therapies” ebook, and Level EFT Manual
  • Everyone can participate in free tapping teleclasses.

How could you say no to that?

If you are looking for more information on the project please take a few minutes to watch this video.

To ensure you get your bonus for donating use the following link. By doing that I will be able to send you an email with your tapping scripts via the donation system.

(I will still be able to send you the ebook if you donate anonymously. I won’t even know who you are.)

Donate here!

Thanks for your consideration. If you have any questions about the trip, the work, or making a donation, please let me know.

Blessings,

Gene

PS: I know I ask you all the time to pass my stuff along to people you know who might benefit from the resources on the site. This time it would mean even more to me if you would pass along the link to this very worthy cause.

Pod #124: EFT For Performance Anxiety w/ Gina Parris

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It happens all the time. You know how to do something. You might have done it a ton of times before. But the moment you step in front of someone else and have to do it you freeze.

You might be before a whole group of people, like giving a presentation, or just in front of one person, like in a job interview. You get tense. And sweaty. You can’t remember what to say or do. You might even shake.

Things that usually come easily to us are suddenly really difficult when others are watching us.

In this interview with Gina Parris we talk about performance anxiety and how you can use what Gina calls “3 R” to move past it.


Gina Parris

Guest: Gina Parris

Contact:
web @ GinaParris.com
web @ WinningAtRomance.com

About Gina: Gina Parris is a speaker and performance coach. She works with competitors who want to play at their peak under any pressure. Gina is an expert on overcoming performance anxiety – whether in your most public performance or in your most “intimate” game. Gina has been a practitioner of EFT since 2004.

[Note: As we talked about in this interview there are lots of reasons why we can be worried when we are taking action. If you are finding that anxiety is holding you back for taking action I would encourage you to check out the Ruach Center. There are over 160 tap-along audios that are designed to help you get out of your own way and take the action you want.]

You Are Acting Too Responsible AND It Is Hurting You

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I’m lucky.

My life is filled with caring people. People who go much more than the extra mile to take care others. They are thoughtful, they are insightful, and they often know the needs of their loved ones before their loved ones do.

When I see this type of love, care, and concern I am inspired.

And I am heartbroken.

Give Too Much
The problem that very insightful and caring people have is that because they so clearly see the suffering and needs of other that they often put other people’s needs first.

Well, that is not true.

Often they put other people’s needs first, second, third, fourth, and sometimes fifth.

When this happens they end up putting themselves last.

Not only does this make it harder to pursue their goals but there are times where they end up hurting themselves.

Creating Boundaries
Once we realize that we are giving too much we realize that we need to start creating boundaries.

There are two problems with this.

One, we feel like we are letting other people down. We feel like we are being selfish. We feel like we are no longer being caring. Or at the extreme we can feel like because we are not taking care of others we are actively hurting them.

Two, it is hard to recalibrate relationships after we have created a precedent of us always taking care of the needs of others first.

I was talking to my sister last week about this idea and her struggle to create boundaries with some of her co-workers. She said something that I think rings true.

I need to be a responsible adult. I am not responsible for my co-workers.

I really think that sums it up perfectly.

It puts us in the right frame of mind. We are not saying we don’t care. We are not saying we are only thinking of ourselves. We are saying that we are going to be responsible adults.

Responsible adults help those in desperate need. Responsible adults are thoughtful about how their actions impact others.

But at the same time we are not taking responsibility for someone else’s life or actions. They need to do that.

I need to be a responsible adult. I am not responsible for my co-workers.

For me that statement cuts a nice middle ground of not giving up and not taking on too much.

Tapping To Create Boundaries
If you are struggling to create boundaries in your life the first thing I would do is to take my sisters phrase “I need to be a responsible adult. I am not responsible for other.” and just tap on that over and over again.

Next, I would take these aspects one at a time and tap for them

  • I feel like I am letting other people down.
  • I feel like I am being selfish.
  • I feel like I am no longer being caring.
  • I feel like I am actively hurting others by caring for myself.

If you are looking for support in helping to clear this issue there are lots of tap-along audios around letting others down, being selfish, and how others will respond to you if you are following your goals in the Ruach Center.

There you will find over 160 tap-along audios (with more added each week) and there are a number of them are focused on creating boundaries and being able to put ourselves first. Full details: Ruach Center.

The Reason You Aren’t Tapping? You Aren’t In Enough Pain

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[Note: If you find listening to instruction more helpful than reading you should check out the podcast version of this topic.]

I have some of the nicest readers in the world.

Like anyone who has an email newsletter, people unsubscribe from my list every day.

When unsubscribing there is an option to leave me a comment. Not everyone leaves one, but when they do my readers leave the nicest messages.

They thank me for my work, let me know the ways in which newsletter has been helpful, and wish me well.

On Wednesday I received an interesting note from someone who unsubscribed. She wrote:
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Why My Readers Open My Emails

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A few weeks ago I sent out an email explaining why I run TappingQ&A. As part of the email I invited readers to unsubscribe from this mailing list.

It’s not that I wanted people to unsubscribe. It is just that I know how valuable your time is and my aim is to be helpful, not a drain on your time. I only want to be sending emails to people who find them useful.

Two things happened.

One, I had a higher unsubscribe rate than I normally do. Many of the people who unsubscribed explained why and thanked me. It was very nice.

Two, I received a flood of emails saying just the opposite. Things like this:

“I really appreciate not only the great products you produce but also your honesty and authenticity.”

“One of the things I really like about your style is your honest clarity. You are the friend I have not personally met, a spectacular mentor, teacher and more and I really look forward to your emails.”

“Thanks for all the emails! They are a thread of sanity some days! I keep sending them on to friends as well.”

That didn’t happen by accident. I have worked really hard to create a relationship with my readers.

Would you like to learn how to create the same rapport with your readers and customers? If so, I encourage you to check out the live event I am presenting at the end of March.

Full details here: http://111marketinglessons.com

And you can register here: http://111marketinglessons.com/now

As always, let me know if there is anything I can do for you,

Gene

PS: If you have specific questions about the event do please drop me a note or call me on 443.957.1317.

PPS: Remember if you sign up before February 10th there is a $500 discount with the code “earlybird”.

You Have Questions! I Have Answers!

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Good morning!

I am so excited about the live training event I am doing in March!

After sending the note out last week I received a number of emails and phone calls with questions about the event, which I have answered below.

If you have any other questions please let me know by replying to this email or calling 443.957.1317.

As always, let me know what I can do to be helpful,

Gene

PS: If you don’t know what I am talking about, you can check out the full details here: http://111marketinglessons.com

*** Questions and Answers ***

Is there still room?
Yes! We would love you to come. You can register here: http://111marketinglessons.com/now
Remember, use “earlybird” for $500 off.

When I get home after the event what will be able to do?
The two day training is structured so you will walk away with two things. First, you will understand at a conceptual level how I run my business and my marketing. More importantly you will understand why I have structured by business in this way so that you can apply the ideas that are right for you to your own work.

Second, the bulk of the class will be in the form of actionable steps that you can take right away. Because each lesson will be taught with real world examples you will see how to apply it to your own business.

Here are the outcomes of what you will learn in each module:

  • Module 1 will show you how to create a plan to communicate with customers, help you determine which steps need to be taken, and decide which are the most valuable steps to be taken first.
    • You will say: “I’m no longer just stabbing the in dark. I now know exactly what the goal of each email, blog post, web page, tweet, status update, audio and video is and how it fits into the big picture, serves my clients, and grows my business.”
  • Module 2 will teach you to communicate clearly about what your products and services do and make it easier for your customers to make buying decisions.
    • You will say: “I now know how to talk about my work and my products in such a way that my clients see exactly how they fit into their lives.”
  • Module 3 will give you the tools to create a client base that is looking forward to hearing from you (and buying from you) because they know when you communicate it will serve them and make their lives better.
    • Your customers will say when they get your emails: “I can’t wait to see what they have to say this time!”
  • Module 4 will teach you how to create useful and desirable offerings which are much easier to sell.
    • You will say: “I am no longering creating products and hoping they resonate with my customer. I know what they need and want to buy!”
  • Module 5 will teach you how to write in a way that doesn’t feel painful and time consuming, but instead makes writing an easy and manageable task.
    • You will say: “I am no longer dreading sitting down to write. I am actually looking forward to it!”
  • Module 6 will prevent you from shooting yourself in the foot by avoiding the things that confuse your customers. Instead you will help customers see how your products and services fit into their lives.
    • Your customers will say: “I can see clearly how that will improve my life. I need that!”
  • Module 7 will teach you to communicate with your clients in manageable chunks that are easy to understand and will prompt them to develop a craving for wanting more of what you have to offer.
    • Your customers will say: “That was so useful. I want to know what else they have to offer.”
  • Module 8 will give you the tools that will help you to communicate more clearly with your potential customers to educate them on what they are struggling with and how you can be helpful to them.
    • Your customers will say: “Wow! I didn’t know it was that bad. I am glad I found this product/service so I can deal with this before it gets any worse.”

What materials am I going to walk away with?
Each of the 8 modules comes with a spiral notebook including all the lessons and all of my slides. In addition to the content there will be lots of space in the notebooks for you to take additional notes.

You will also take home a library of marketing, writing, and communication books that I use in my own practice. (Note: If you don’t want to carry the books home I will happily to mail them to you after the event.)

Am I going to get a chance to try out anything I am learning while I am there?
Yes, there will be a number of exercises and opportunities to try out what you are learning. You will receive feedback from your classmates and from me. I believe it is really important to try things out in order to learn.

Is there some sort of money back guarantee?
If you are not completely satisfied by what you are learning by lunch time on Saturday I will give you a full refund on the spot. No questions asked.

Do I have to stay at the hotel?
No. We have a group of rooms set aside at the hotel at the discounted rate of $99, but you can stay where you like. There are two hotels that share the same parking lot as our host hotel and many others within a 5 minute drive.

How easy is it to get to Baltimore?
Super easy! One of the reasons I chose Baltimore is because the airport is one of the cheapest to fly in and out of in the US. We are also very close to the Amtrak station. (That is how I am getting to the event!)

Are you going to record the class and make it available for purchase later?
At this point there are no plans to record the class.

Register Now: http://111marketinglessons.com/now and remember to use “earlybird” for $500 off.

Pod #123: Tapping For New Year’s Resolutions That We Have Already Given Up On

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In a recent Time magazine artile Jessica Lamb-Shapiro points out that only 8% of us follow through on our New Year’s resolutions, with most people giving up within a week.

There are lots of reasons for this. We create goals that are too big, we don’t create an infrastructure or system that will set us up for success, and we are trying to change old habits with willpower alone.

It is really easy to feel frustrated with our failed attempts at change. In this week’s podcast we tap for dealing with the frustration of not following up on our goals and also do some tapping to set you up to start taking action towards your New Year’s resolutions.

Think of this as the reset button for your New Year’s Resolutions.

Are you tired of failed New Year’s Resolutions and setting goals that rapidly fall by the wayside? Ruach Center is designed to help you get clear about your goals, create action steps, and provides over 150 tap-along audios that will help you to take the action necessary to achieve them.

For more information and how to gain access to over 150 tap-along audios and other tools check out the details.

Gene, Stop Sending Me So Many Emails!!! (Why Does TappingQ&A Exist)

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I have heard it a lot lately.

“Gene, why are you sending so many emails?”

Since the question has come up I thought it would be a good time to share why I send these emails and why TappingQ&A exists.

Why Do I Send These Emails?
There is one and only one reason I send an email. It is because I think the content of the email will be useful to you in some way.

This could be for a variety of reasons. It might be instructional, encouraging, challenging, or even fun.

It might be something free or it might be something for sale.

I don’t hit send unless I truly think it will be of benefit to you.

The nice thing is that you are in control. If you don’t want to hear from me any more you can hit unsubscribe at the top or bottom of this note.

There will be no hard feelings. Promise!

I don’t want my messages to be clutter in your life. If they are not useful, get rid of them.

Why Does TappingQ&A exist?
There are 3 reasons TappingQ&A exists.

To Teach
Right now there are over 540 free resources at TappingQandA.com. It is one of the most comprehensive resource libraries of free tapping-related content on the web.

In no way do I think these are the only or the best resources online. I just hope they provide one more helpful resource to make your healing journey easier.

It makes me so happy to know that people in over 120 countries have downloaded the podcast or to know that thousands of people have tapped along to the parts of the client session I’ve shared over the last few weeks.

We live in an amazing technological age where my thoughts written in a Brooklyn coffee shop or recorded in my home office can reach people all around the world.

If you are here just for the free stuff….AWESOME! Keep after it.

To Learn
One of the reasons I love creating the content for this site is because each time I create something new it adds to my own knowledge and development.

I generally have a good idea of what I think when I sit down to write, but when I am forced to bring those ideas out of my head into full detail I learn so much.

By spending time interviewing others and crystallizing my own ideas I have grown, learned, and am a much better practitioner because of the process of creating these resources.

I hope you get half as much out of this as I do.

To Make A Living
I know it might be hard to believe, but this is how I make my living. I don’t have an employer. I don’t have someone providing benefits. If I don’t bring it in, it doesn’t come in.

That is the reason why I sell products, charge for private sessions, have a paid membership site, and work with long term clients one-on-one.

From time to time I hear from people who say, “How dare you charge for something that should be free like EFT! It was given to you and you should give it away as well.”

It is true, I could run TappingQ&A and not charge for anything, but that would mean that I’d need another job to pay my bills. If that were the case I wouldn’t be able to spend as much time as I do creating the free resources available on the site.

If you are offended by the fact that I sell stuff or you think your inbox is being flooded with sales letters then please unsubscribe. It won’t hurt my feelings.

What Can You Do?
As reader of the TappingQ&A resources I would ask a few things of you.

Use The Resources
Don’t just read, watch, and listen. Put it into practice. It is not how much you know about tapping that matters. It is how much you use it. After you read something on the site, give it a try.

Share The Resources
It would mean a great deal to me if you would pass one of the great free resources along to the people in your life. I’m not asking you to spam your address book or send it to everyone you know.

If there is something from the site you think would be helpful to a loved one, please take a moment to pass it along to them. You will reach people I am never going to reach. It won’t cost you anything but a few seconds, but it could make a real difference in their life.

Consider Buying Something
Invest in the advanced tapping. Work with me one-on-one on that issue you just can’t shake. Join the membership site that gives you access to over 150 resources.

It is all really good stuff that I think will make your life better. I wouldn’t offer it if I didn’t it was of the best quality.

Over 99% of the people who visit TappingQ&A don’t buy a thing. And that is perfectly OK.

If that is you and you are getting lots of great stuff from the site, please keep coming back again and again.

I am not telling you have to or need to buy something. Just asking that you consider it.

You know who I am, what I stand for, and what I think is important in the healing process.

If that is something you think will be helpful for you, I would be honored to help you in that way.

Clearing The Air
I hope this note clears the air so you know where I am coming from and why I do what I do.

As always, you can let me know how I can be helpful by just hitting reply to this note.

Blessings,

Gene

Tapping To Feel Better (And Why That Isn’t Always A Good Thing)

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I think one of the reasons that tapping is so appealing is because it is so easy to use and it produces relief very quickly.

The first time I experienced the true power of tapping out in the wild (as opposed to being in a training session) was when I woke up in the middle of the night with a massive headache. It felt as if a dagger had been stuck into the top of my head.

I started tapping. 60 seconds later I was pain free and 90 seconds later I was asleep.

It is truly an amazing thing that we have at our fingertips: a tool that we can use to find our way to relief any time and anywhere.

But this isn’t always a good thing. Let me explain…
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Pod #122: Ask The Expert w/ Gene Monterastelli

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In December I was the guest on the Tapping Solution’s monthly ‘Ask The Expert’ call. We answered questions about anger, fear of finding work, how to tap for the fear that comes up when physical symptoms persist, how to tap for feeling overwhelmed, and what to do when we keep sabotaging our own success.

Thanks to Kris (and the callers) for such a great time.

If you missed the call you can hear the whole thing here.

If you enjoy this type of opportunity to hear Gene answering questions about tapping you can do it every month at the Ruach Center. Every month Gene hosts a teleclass where he answers all your questions. For more information and how to gain access to those calls and over 150 tap-along audios and other tools check out the details.

The Best Of 2013 @ TappingQandA.com

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2013 was the busiest year yet at TappingQandA. Thank you for taking the time to listen, read, tap along, and comment. Here are some of the best of, most commented upon, and some of my personal favorites of the year.

I would love to hear what you liked over the past year!

My Holiday Embarrassment – Last year during the holiday season I learned a valuable lesson about what is important to me and how I can care for others. This is worth a re-read to remind us of what we can do day to day for other.

EFT for Shame – This short tap-along video was the most commented upon post of the year. Shame can be a crippling emotion and this video will help you to find relief.

When EFT Goes Wrong – Sometimes we take healing, EFT, and ourselves a little too seriously. This should give you a chuckle.

FasterEFT – This interview with FasterEFT creator Robert Smith was the most controversial post of the year. Robert has a unique perspective on the healing process with tapping as you can hear in this thought provoking conversation.

Fear Of Rejection In The Age Of Invitation – This conversation with Rick Wilkes was the most downloaded podcast of the year. It is a great look at how we can connect with others in more meaningful ways.

Is It OK To Say ‘Not’ While Tapping? – We are repeatedly told not to use negative statements when we are tapping because the subconscious doesn’t hear or understand the word ‘not’. I dug into the scientific research to see if this is true and how the word ‘not’ impacts our tapping. The results are surprising.

Everything I Needed To Know About Manifesting I Learned From Good Will Hunting – Personally, I think we have wrecked the word manifesting. It has been used in so many ways by so many people it doesn’t mean anything useful anymore. Here is everything I think you need to know about manifesting.

Not Everything That Feels Personal Is Personal – Just because something hurts us in a personal way does not mean it was a personal attack. It is helpful to know the difference between something that is personal and something that feels personal when we are trying to heal.

My Ego Gets In The Way Of My Healing – I learned a valuable lesson this year about my ego and how it hurts the healing processes because of something that happened on Facebook.

2 Surprisingly Different Outcomes From Tapping – There are two types of results that can come from “successful” tapping sessions. This realization changed the way I tapped.

Best Of The Rest:

The First Tool I Teach After I Teach The EFT Basics

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Good Morning!

Every day I receive emails from all over the world asking me questions about tapping and how to best use to use it. As I talked about last week (last week’s newsletter) I love getting these questions.

To help manage my time better I set aside a couple of hours every few days to answer all the emails at once.

After doing a few client calls on Saturday morning I was doing just that and something strange happened. I sent eleven emails with the exact same link in the email. I hadn’t received the same question eleven times, but eleven different tapping questions led me to the same resource.

After you know the basics of tapping this is the most powerful tool I know!

The reason it is the answer to some many different questions is because it is all about relationships.

It can be used when tapping about people close to you, like your immediate family.

It can be used when tapping about people you barely know, like a loan officer or a person at the DMV.

It can be used when tapping about people you will never see again, like passed on relatives.

I really believe this is the most powerful tool in my tapping arsenal!

I recorded a short instructional audio a few years ago explaining the three simple steps to the process.

Learn it now! Listen here:

[powerpress] Subscribe to the podcast in iTunes

As always, let me know what I can do for you,

Gene

PS: If you are looking to expand your tool set with the best tapping tools I know make sure you check out the offer I made last Friday: https://tappingqanda.com/?p=9343

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You Have Been My Greatest Catalyst To Learning AND I Want To Give Back

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Good morning!

Over 6 years ago when I created Tapping Q & A I thought it would be a good idea to build a website around the idea of answering questions. Little did I know how good an idea that would turn out to be.

At least, it was the best choice for me and my learning.

Every time I sit down to write about a topic in response to a question from one of my readers I learn something.

This is has made me a better tapper. I am better at tapping for my own issues and I am better working with my clients.

Thank you for reading, commenting, and asking questions. My life is better because of it.

AND The Questions Keep Getting Better
One of the neat things (my editor doesn’t like it when I use the word neat, but that is how it feels) I have noticed over time is that the questions you asking are becoming increasingly sophisticated.

Six years ago more than half the questions I received were some variation on, "What are the right tapping phrases for [insert issue]?" as if there were some magic words to clear a certain issue.

Today the questions are about clearing resistance, the best way to identify and deal with core issues, and the best order in which to deal with issues for optimum results.

It has been a great joy watching the tapping community grow up!

I am sure you are part of this evolution and are looking to be a better tapper, or you wouldn’t be reading this.

Getting Even Better At Tapping
Along with the development of the tapping community there has also been a maturing of the training resources available. There are at least 3 international organizations offering certification and it seems that every practitioner under the sun has created some "new" version of tapping they are teaching.

It is really hard to know which way to turn to expand your tapping tool set.

If you are looking to learn new tapping skills I have something for you to consider.

A Great Big Fat Marketing Mistake
I have put together what I believe are the best of the best tapping tools in what I think is the easiest way to learn them. This is probably a mistake, but I haven’t come up with a fancy name.

If I were a better marketer I would call it something like SuperTapping, Exceptional EFT, The Monterastelli Method, or The Best Gosh Darn EFT Method That Will Make You Rich And Beautiful Beyond Your Wildest Dreams (AKA BGDEMTWMYRBBYWD Method).

To be honest the only name I considered was "Kick-*** Tapping Techniques" but I was worried I might offend.

Coming up with names for things isn’t my strength. Look how creative I got with my website name. I created a site that answers questions about tapping and called it TappingQandA.com.

What is lacking in name is made up in what I think is some of the best tapping training available.

I have taken my favorite tools, broken them down into simple steps, and presented them in such a way that you can start them today!

Over the last 7 years I have been slowly building my own tool set. I have consumed books, DVDs, and attended live trainings.

I have studied NLP, hypnosis, age regression, parts work, neurological function, and guided imagery. I have spent hours with psychologists, doctors, chiropractors, acupuncturists, and psychiatrists picking their brains about what they have learned in their work.

I have spent hundreds of hours and well over $15,000 on building my tool set.

And I want to share that tool set with you.

What Is Taught?
I like presenting things in digestible chunks so that you can take what you learn and start using it right away. The class is organized into 8 lessons.

  • Lesson 1 — 13 Foundations to Healing With Tapping That Every Practitioner Should Master
  • Lesson 2 — 18 Lessons From 10 Masters Of Healing
  • Lesson 3 — Hypnotic Patter And Language
  • Lesson 4 — Guided Imagery
  • Lesson 5 — Parts Work
  • Lesson 6 — Age Regression
  • Lesson 7 — Time Lines, Forgiveness Work, and Scoreboards Oh My!
  • Lesson 8 — Meta Models

(For a full description of each lesson please see the end of this note.)

Each of these lessons is designed to stand alone. You can start with any topic you want. I love this training because you don’t have to complete it all to improve what you doing. Each step of the way you will be able to do new things with your tapping.

The moment you complete any of the audios you will be ready to try the techniques.

But That’s Not All
In addition to the training audios I have these 4 bonuses to sweeten the deal:

Transcripts Of All Classes
Not everyone learns in the same way and sometimes it is easier to read through materials to find that one point you were looking for instead of searching through an audio file. This is over 150 pages of content!

Two Bonus Hours Of Teaching (plus transcripts)
Since the original recording of the training I have added two more hours of advanced tools. The hour on "Making sure you are solving the right problem" has revolutionized the way I do tapping work.

Audios Of Four Sessions
Want to hear exactly how I use these tools with my clients? You will receive four audio sessions of me working with real clients. There are two audios for each session. Audio one is an uninterrupted version of the session so you can get the flow. Audio two is interrupted from time to time with me explaining what I was thinking and why I did what I did every step of the way.

PowerPoint From All Presentations
All eight lessons were originally taught live using PowerPoint. You will receive copies of all PowerPoint slides so you can follow along.

Being Bad At Marketing With More Mumbo Jumbo
This is the part in the note where I am supposed to tell you how much all the bonuses are worth so you see the value in what you are buying. You will receive all the PowerPoint slides, all the transcripts, four client sessions where you see the tools in action, and two bonus hours of training.

I know these bonus materials are worth as much (if not more) than the price of the training program itself. I could tell you exactly what I would charge for each of these pieces. You might believe me, or you might think it is some marketing trick.

I know this for certain: this is A LOT of added value and it will transform the way you tap with yourself and the way you tap with clients.

Super-Duper Special Deal
When I first released this training program I offered it for $797. If you are careful reader of my newsletter from time to time you could have bought the program for $495.

For the next two weeks I want to try something different because I want you to better at tapping AND I want you to experience the Ruach Center.

If you don’t know, the Ruach Center is a membership website I run that is built to help you use tapping to conquer self-sabotage in your life. Right now there are over 125 resources on the site and every month at least 12 new resources are added, plus two new teleclasses.

At present a year’s membership to the Ruach Center costs $179.

I am going to combine the best training I can offer with access to regular tapping support that will help you take action every day.

You have three options:

Option #1: Personal Attention
With this option you will receive the Advanced Tapping Training, one full year’s access to the Ruach Center, and 4 one-on-one sessions with me. You can use these sessions to ask questions about the training or to tap on the issue you are trying to clear. If you purchased these separately it would cost $1,401.

You can get this option for $699. Yes, that is 50% off.
(Please note I can only offer this to 8 people because I want to make sure there is room in my client schedule to meet your needs.)

Option #2: Self-Directed Learning
With this option you will get the Advanced Tapping Training and one full year’s access to the Ruach Center. If you purchased these separately it would cost $676.

You can get this option for $299. That is a 56% discount!

Option #3: Access To The Ruach Center For One Year
With this option you will get access to the Ruach Center for one year.

You can get access for one year for $179.

Do It Now!
I am only making this available for the next two weeks AND there are only 8 spots for the individual attention so you are going to want to act now!

Sign up here: http://www.ruachcenter.com/?p=1656

If you have any questions about the program just hit reply to this message.

As always, let me know what I can do to be helpful.

Gene

PS: Imagine what it will be like to be filled with confidence the next time you sit down to tap on an issue because you have so many ways to approach it. Add to your tool box now. http://www.ruachcenter.com/?p=1656

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Full Descriptions Of Audio/Video Content

Lesson 1 — 12 Foundations To Healing With Tapping That Every Practitioner Should Master.
In over two hours of audio and videos we will cover:
Tapping: Not the basic recipe as a formula, but a comprehensive way of seeing tapping protocols

  • Everything We Experience Is Internal. Everything We Experience Is Interpretation
  • The Three Minds
  • Models Of Information
  • The Client As An Eye Witness To Their Own Life (Conference Room Of The Mind)
  • Everything Exists To Serve Us, AKA: The Power Of Thanksgiving
  • Resistance To Change
  • Pain Vs. Suffering
  • Stages Of Awareness
  • Inspired Action Vs. Inspired Outcome
  • Desire Without Emotional Attachment

Lesson 2 — 18 Lessons From 10 Masters Of Healing
There is much to be learned from the great teachers and masters in many different healing fields. We can learn from their teachings, how they learned themselves, and how they work with clients. In this section we will look at 18 different lessons from giants in the healing fields that have transformed the way I work. If you master even a handful of these lessons, it will transform your work.

Lesson 3 — Hypnotic Patter And Language
The lessons I have learned from hypnosis have affected not only the way I talk to and communicate with my clients, but every interaction that I have during the day. There are two main skills we can learn from hypnosis: building rapport and navigation/guidance.

RAPPORT: If we are NOT able to build rapport and gain the trust of our clients then it will be very difficult for us to work together. In this lesson we will explore the way a hypnotist uses language before, while inducing, and during a trance. We don’t have to hypnotize our clients to use these tools to help us to create a relationship of trust as well as more easily guiding our clients to finding their root issues. Because of the nature of hypnosis this rapport is essential and, knowing this, a good hypnotist is working on building rapport even before they speak with the client the first time. There is much tappers can learn from this approach.

NAVIGATION/GUIDANCE: In fact all hypnosis is nothing more than self-hypnosis. A hypnotist is nothing more than a navigator. They are providing instruction and guidance as the client works their way to root causes and transformation. We can learn a lot from this strategy when helping our tapping clients. Not only will this help us to get out of our clients’ way, but also we can learn how better to help clients transform.

Lesson 4 — Guided Imagery
Most of the emotional work we do with clients is done in the subconscious mind. (Note: A comprehensive video lesson on the unconscious, subconscious, and conscious minds is part of the pre-class work.) We can’t directly access the subconscious mind to change it (and this is a good thing) so using guided imagery is a gentle and powerful way to create transformation at the subconscious level. In this lesson you will learn the seven steps I use in guided imagery that allow the client’s subconscious to lead us to the root of the issue, plus the concept of "fairytale physics" which will unlock your client’s creativity.

Lesson 5 — Parts Work
There is no tool that I use more than parts work. Over 90% of the sessions I do use some form of parts work. When we help a client approach their issues through the lens of a part we are able to help them to focus in on a small part of something that is much too big to deal with at once AND we are able to discover the solutions to the problem that the system already has. This is the most powerful tool I have in my tool kit. In this lesson you will learn the many different types of parts work (including parts mediation), how to gently guide the client to find their way to root causes, and how to empower clients to use these tools and resources after the session so that their healing can continue.

Lesson 6 — Age Regression
Age regression is a very specific type of parts work, so I devote a complete lesson to it. In age regression we are working with the younger version of the client. (Anytime we are thinking of a past memory it is a version of age regression.) In this lesson we will not only look at what age regression is, but we will look at how we can easily bridge back into the past to find the root of an issue, determine if we have worked back to the earliest memory, and how to heal/transform once we are in contact with these earlier parts.

Lesson 7 — Time Lines, Forgiveness Work, And Score Boards Oh My!
In this lesson I cover three of my favorite tools in my tapping arsenal. I never plan to use these tools, but there are times when working with clients that it will become obvious that one of these three tools will help a client much quicker than just tapping on the thought or emotion they are feeling. These tools are simple to use, each with an uncomplicated step-by-step formula.

Lesson 8 — Meta Models
It is amazing how inaccurate our language is when we are describing what is going on in our lives. "Everyone at works hates me!" "I am never going to get ahead!" "I just can’t do it!" There might be a kernel of truth in these statements, but they are not true. The problem comes when we approach the world as if they are true. Meta Models is a set of tools that helps us to recognize the logical fallacies in our thoughts and words that are affecting our actions and choices. In this part we will explore the 10 most common meta models, ways of helping our clients to see the flaws, and strategies to help clients transform these beliefs. In the practical part of this lesson participants will get the chance to work through real client case histories to practice identifying and reframing these meta models.

Pod #121: Tapping For Holiday Stress and Frenzy

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The holidays can be a very stressful time. There are million things going on, we are tempted by tasty treats at every turn, and we are surrounded by people who sometimes push our buttons.

In this audio we tap for:

  • Not having enough time
  • Feeling like we have to accept every invitation we receive
  • The temptation of too much unhealthy holiday food
  • The financial stress of buying gifts
  • Holiday travel
  • Spending time with loved ones who are very different than us
  • The loneliness we feel during the holidays because of everyone else’s busyness.

If you enjoy this type of opportunity to tap with Gene you can do it every month with Ruach Center. For more information and how to gain access to over 150 tap-along audios and other tools check out the details.

What If Results From EFT Are Nothing More Than The Placebo Effect?

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The old joke goes something like this:

Dave is complaining of headaches. After a full examination his doctor can find nothing wrong with him but Dave insists that his doctor prescribe him something. Wanting to get Dave out of his office the doctor prescribes him harmless and useless sugar pills. Dave leaves the doctor’s office happy that he has something for the pain.

A week later Dave calls his doctor to report that he has been pain free since taking the pills twice a day. The doctor says, “Dave, you need to understand that I didn’t prescribe you anything other than sugar pills. The pills did nothing for your pain. It was a placebo.”

Dave listens for a moment and replies, “That’s great doc! I have a really busy week ahead of me and I was hoping you would prescribe me another bottle of those placebos.”

I am asked all the time if I think that tapping isn’t really doing anything and that the results that we get from tapping are just due to the placebo effect.

This is an interesting question, but I don’t think it is the most important question.

For me the most important question when doing work is, “How is it working for you?” If it is a useful tool: Use it! If it isn’t useful, try something else.

I don’t understand how many of the things that I find useful in my life work. For example, I am typing these words on a small piece of plastic and circuitry. It’s not even connected by a cord to a power source but somehow my thoughts make it to wherever you are in the world. I can’t explain how, but it works, and that is enough for me.

With that being said, it is important to pay attention to all the consequences of what we are doing. Eating ice cream works in that it makes me feel better in the moment, but if I used it habitually as a tool to deal with my emotions there would be less than desirable consequences.

I don’t really understand what is happening when we tap. I have some ideas, but I can’t say for sure.

With that being said, this is the calculation that I do: When I use tapping it is very beneficial in my life. Other than the occasional pimple because I didn’t wash my hands before tapping, I can’t see it causing any short or long term harm in my life, therefore I am going to continue to use it.

It works for me. I am always trying to learn more. I would love to know exactly what is going on because I am sure that would make me more effective as a tapper.

In the short term the fact that it works for me is enough.

I would love to hear your thoughts on EFT and the placebo effect in the comment box below.

Pod #120: Tapping For Social Anxiety w/ Sebastiaan van der Schrier

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Managing social anxiety can be difficult. It is not like the fear triggered by something like a snake we encounter in our path.

Social anxiety is insidious, sitting just below the surface, and impacting our every interaction in some way big or small. Not having one specific memory to start with can make tapping for it tricky.

I know this firsthand as this was the very issue that first brought me to tapping. I wish that I had known Sebastiaan van der Schrier when I started out on my own tapping journey.

Sebastiaan specializes in tapping for social anxiety. In this interview he walks us through his comprehensive 8-step process for working with social anxiety, which can also be applied to many other issues.


Sebastiaan van der Schrier

Guest: Sebastiaan van der Schrier

Contact: email @ address; web @ social-anxiety-solutions.com; youtube @ sebastiaandoc; tools @ Social Confidence System

About Sebastiaan: Sebastiaan is a social confidence coach who suffered from social anxiety disorder for nearly a decade. With persistence he eventually managed to become anxiety-free thanks to the power of EFT. Having experienced so much joy and connectedness after so much isolation and struggle, he decided to dedicate his life and make it his mission and exclusive focus to offer the best solutions to people dealing with social anxiety. As an EFT level III & Pro-EFT level III & Matrix Re-Imprinting & PSYCH-K & NLP Practitioner he has concentrated solely on working with people suffering from social anxiety disorder for over 4 years.

The 8-step framework to social confidence Sebastiaan introduces you to in the interview comes directly from his EFT-based “Social Confidence System”. This is an online DIY program where he guides you step-by-step via articles, EFT audio tap alongs, and subtitled videos from social anxiety to social confidence.

Roger Callahan Remembered

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Recently I was sitting on a flight that was about to take off and there was a small child crying a few rows behind me. I decided to try a little surrogate tapping for the poor little guy who was having a bad morning.

The person sitting next to me said, “Oh, you do that tapping thing too?”

When something like this happens I always ask lots of questions because I’m curious to how people find their way to tapping. In most cases it is a family member, friend, or health care provider who has introduced it to them.

Because tapping has now been around for a while many people know how to use it, but don’t know much of its history.

Most people don’t know that modern form of tapping as we know it came about because of the pioneering work of Roger Callahan, PhD.

Roger passed away on November 4th at the age of 88. Here is a beautiful tribute written by his family.

I was particularly touched by Gary Craig’s reflection on Facebook:

I never met Roger, but was lucky enough to do an interview with his wife Joanne about Thought Field Therapy, which is the grandfather of the tapping most of us use.

I hope all of us are willing to be as bold as Roger was in sharing healing tools with the world.

The Main Reason EFT Doesn’t Work (And What You Can Do About It)

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Good Morning!

I don’t know about you, but I love rollercoasters.

One of my favorite sounds in the world is the clicking sound of the car right as you are about to reach the top of a big hill on the track. Then there is a split second of silence that feels like an eternity. The next thing you are hurtling towards the earth at what feels like a million miles an hour.

As you read that last paragraph you were either thrilled or scared to death.

Fear (and our relationship with fear) is a funny thing.

I know I have a love/hate relationship with it. On a roller coaster I crave that feeling of fear in the silence at the top of the hill. While in my daily life there are few emotions that feel worse than fear.

When fear is experienced because of something we are encountering in our daily life it is crippling. Be it something like speaking in front of an audience or finding some unexpected creepy crawly thing under the bed, it shuts us down.

This week I was asked a question by someone who spent 20 minutes tapping for fear. After 20 minutes she had made no progress at all and was still just as fearful as when she started tapping.

I think the answer to why she didn’t make progress can be found in that love/hate relationship. On one level we need fear to keep us aware of dangerous situation and on another level it can cripple us.

This week I have for you a straightforward but powerful way to tap before you tackle fear (or any issue for that matter) to make sure your tapping is successful.

Here is that simple step with a tapping script: https://tappingqanda.com/?p=9306

As always, let me know what I can do to be helpful.

Gene

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What To Tap On Before Tapping On The Issue (Which Will Make All The Difference) – There are times when we can do everything right with tapping and still get not make any progress. Here is a simple step that is often missed that can make all the difference in how successful your tapping session is.

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Not Everything That Feels Personal Is Personal (And How To Respond With EFT)

The Most Forgotten & Most Powerful EFT Point – Gamut Point w/ Karin Davidson

A Thousand Paper Cuts Would Be Better Than Tapping On These Issues – Issues To Be Tapped On Someday

Tap-Along Audio: When We Don’t Feel Worthy Of Love

Video: Relax Your Body In 20 Seconds With The Rake

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My Ego Gets In The Way Of My Healing

It’s Not Your Fault – I Learned Everything I Needed To Know About Manifesting From Good Will Hunting

The 3 Stages Of Lasting Transformation

The Two (Surprisingly) Different Outcomes That Come From Tapping