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Pod #368: EFT for the Critical Voice w/ Jacqui Letran

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Our internal critical voice is one of the key reasons we fail to take the action we want in life. This constant nagging voice in our heads points out all of our past failings, why we aren't capable of taking action now, and why we will fail in the future.

When we have a voice inside of our head telling us this over and over again, it can become crippling. The stronger the critical voice is, the less likely we are to take action.

In this podcast Jacqui Letran and I talk about why the critical voice exists (and there is a good reason), how we can tap for it, and a new analogy for how to think about it.

The image that Jacqui shares for the critical voice is one I had never thought of and is just perfect. Her description completely changed the way I think of my own critical voice.

We also talk about how best to tap in the moment to reduce the power of the critical voice.

Note: During the conversation we talk about forgiveness, the pitfalls around being able to forgive, and how to approach forgiveness in a healthy way. Here is a more comprehensive reflection on how to achieve forgiveness of others and of self into your tapping work.

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Guest: Jacqui Letran

Contact: Web @ JacquiLetran.com;
Amazon Author's Page @ Jacqui Lentran; Podcast @ Stop the Bully Within
Instagram @Roving.Vegans

About: Jacqui Letran is an Author, Speaker, Mindset Mentor and the Host of the Stop the Bully Within podcast. Jacqui’s Words of Wisdom for Teens book series won multiple awards and is often regarded as “must read” books for teens and young adults struggling with low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression.

Through her one-on-one sessions, workshops, keynotes, as well as her books and podcast, Jacqui teaches that success and happiness are achievable by all, regardless of current struggles and circumstances. Jacqui is a gifted and energetic leader who dedicates her life’s work to help her clients and students transform their inner critic into their best friend and cheerleader, so they can create that powerful and resilient mindset needed to be happy and successful in life.

Pod #367: Tools to add to your tapping tool box w/ Kris Ferraro

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As much as I love tapping, it is not the only or best tool that we can use for our health and wellbeing.

In her latest book “Energy Healing: Simple and Effective Practices to Become Your Own Healer” Kris Ferraro goes beyond the basic EFT tapping recipe and teaches many other tapping-type tools. They are all easy to learn, can be self-applied and each take less than a minute to perform.

Kris shares three of those tools on this week's podcast, which you will be able to use right away. In the conversation we cover:

  • Polarity switching
  • How to calm the flight, fight, and freeze response
  • How to clear governing vessel

I recommend that you add all of these tools to your tapping tool box!

Note: During the interview I talked about where I learned muscle testing. In case you are interested, this is the training I did from Quantum Techniques: Truth Techniques – digital download

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Guest: Kris Ferraro

Contact:
web @ KrisFerraro.com; email @ me@krisferraro.com

About: Kris Ferraro is an Energy Coach, Author, and Speaker based in northern NJ. She is the creator of Spiritual Freedom Techniques, a series of practices that combine ancient wisdom with EFT for transformation. Kris is a “true believer” in everyone's innate ability to heal. She helps clients release their debilitating emotional patterns so they can step into their power and purpose. Her book, “Energy Healing: Simple and Effective Practices to Become Your Own Healer”, published by St. Martin's Press, introduces energy psychology to new audiences.

Pod #366: Midday Tapping

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In part one of “Getting Out Of My Own Way”, the ten-part guide for using tapping to eliminate self-sabotage, I shared with you tapping to use at each end of your day.

Tapping is a great way to start off your day on the right foot. Ending the day with tapping helps to let go any unresolved emotions from the day and helps us to get a better night's sleep.

But tapping in the middle of the day is often overlooked and can be really helpful, providing the opportunity to:

  • Release any disappointment about what you haven't achieved in the morning
  • Catch your breath and re-ground yourself
  • Set your intention for the rest of the day

Tapping in this way is super easy! I have included a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to reset at midday.

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This is my chance to reset…This is my chance to reground myself…In the middle of the day it is so easy to feel rushed…In the middle of the day it is so easy to feel overwhelmed…I give myself a few moments to reground myself…I give myself permission to be refocused where I am…I give myself permission to take a pause without feeling panicked or overwhelmed…I acknowledge and appreciate everything I have done so far today…Even if I didn't get everything done that I wanted to do…Even if everything didn't go as planned…Everything that happened this morning is behind me…And I appreciate the fact that it is done…There are some things that didn't get done this morning…And I give myself permission to be easy with myself…They were even things that I avoided this morning…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…There are lots of things that I wish had gone better this morning…But the morning is over…I can't change what happened…But I get a chance to start again…I get a chance to refocus…I get a chance to resettle myself…I get a chance to be in this moment…My intention is to be grounded this afternoon…My intention is to stay in flow this afternoon…My intention is to do one task at a time…Being as present as I can to the task I'm doing…And doing the best job that I can…Knowing that I'm not going to be perfect this afternoon…Knowing I might not get everything done this afternoon…Knowing that unexpected things may happen this afternoon…I give myself permission to be in the moment…If I do that I will be successful…If I do that, my afternoon will be everything it needs to be…Even if that is imperfect…I give myself permission to be me and to be fully present this afternoon.

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Pod #365: EFT for Feeling Like a Fraud

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Feeling like we don't belong is tough. It might be because we don't feel we are smart enough, talented enough, have something offer the world, or that we just don't fit in.

Feeling like a fraud means that we don't contribute or speak up, we hide in the background, or we don't even show up. All of these strategies are to keep us safe because we don't want to be found out.

In most cases, feeling like a fraud has nothing to do with who we are, what we can do, and what we have to offer. Instead, it is because we are comparing what is going on inside our head with what we see on the outside of those around us.

We know our intentions and when we don't live up to them. We know the fear or insecurity we feel when we are taking action. At the same time, we only see what others do and assume (wrongly) that they are acting with perfect confidence and calm.

This means we aren't treating ourselves fairly!

Below is a tap-along audio and tapping script that will help you to tap when you feel like a fraud. It will help you to see yourself for who you are and see those around you for who they are.

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I know what my interior life is like…I know the thoughts that I have…I know the feelings I have experienced…I know when I'm afraid to take action…I know when I'm insecure about what I'm doing…When I see others around me taking action…I assume they are calm…I assume they are confident…Because all that I can see is their outside…I don't know their emotional state…I don't know their internal dialogue…I don't understand their true level of confidence in the moment…When I don't understand their emotional state and I do understand my emotional state…It's easy for me to make an unfair comparison…I assume they have everything together…And I know that I don't know what to do…Therefore I don't feel like I belong…I feel like I shouldn't be respected…I feel like I have less to offer…I feel like I'm a giant fraud…And when I feel like I'm a fraud…I'm even more hesitant to take action…I'm afraid that I'm going to be found out…I'm afraid they're going to see me for who I truly am…I believe they are going to think less of me…The truth is that I do belong…The truth is I do have much to offer…The truth is they aren't as confident as they seem…Because they have an internal dialogue as well…They have an internal emotional state as well…When I feel like a fraud…It is because I'm making an unfair comparison…I'm comparing their external facade with my internal turmoil…That's not fair to me…That is not a fair comparison…I give myself permission to feel present and connected…I give myself permission to know that I belong…I give myself permission to know that I have something to offer.

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Pod #364: Getting To The Bottom Of It w/ Lori Lamont

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In Recovering Sell – A Healing Manifesto I share twelve thoughts on healing. Number six is: “There is always resistance to change because if there weren't resistance, you would have changed already.”

As a tapper, this means that one of our most important tasks is to find the root cause(s) preventing us from taking action or making change.

Lori Lamont has developed an easy tool that you can use as a practitioner, or when you are tapping on your own to uncover these hidden resistances.

In addition to showing you how to uncover resistance, we also talk about a new way to capture these underlying issues so you can come back to them again and again.

This is a tool that every tapper needs to have in their tapping tool box.

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Guest: Lori Lamont

Contact: website @ FemaleEmpowermentEFT.com; email @ FemaleEmpowermentEFT@gmail.com; facebook @ Female Empowerment EFT; youtube @ Lori Lamont

About: Lori Lamont is a Certified and Accredited Advanced EFT Practitioner through EFT International (formerly AAMET). She is also certified in Matrix Reimprinting and Level 2 Goddess Reiki. Lori guides and inspires women to claim their power through EFT classes, workshops, speeches and sessions.

Being a mother of four, married, and a business owner, she understands what it is like to be pulled in too many directions. She has learned how to use EFT to her advantage, how to balance her life, and how to live life to the fullest. She teaches moms how to use EFT to have a positive impact on their children and more harmony in the home.

Pod #363: EFT for Grief w/ Lynne Staley

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Grief is a topic that we don't talk about much publicly. We talk about loss. We talk about moving on. But we don't talk about grief itself.

When we don't talk about and process grief, it lingers and can cause problems for us in the future.

This week I have a conversation with Lynne Staley. Lynne is a tapper and certified Grief Recovery™ Specialist. In this podcast episode we cover:

  • Why we experience grief
  • The difference between grief and mourning
  • All of the experiences that can cause grief in addition to the death of a loved one (and the list is longer than you might think)
  • Practical steps you can take to work through your own grief and how to help someone else through theirs
  • How to use tapping while using these steps

This interview is a must-listen because every single one of us has experienced grief and will experience it again. Our conversation is practical and you will be able to use what you learn right away.

Note: Here is the the feelings inventory from the Center For Nonviolent Communication that we talked about in the interview.

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Guest:Lynne Staley

Contact: website @ Llife-After-Loss.com/; facebook @ LifeAfterLossCoach; email @ lynne@life-after-loss.com; book @ In Death Is the Secret to Life: A Tribute Journal

About: Lynne Staley has been a Companion to Grievers since 2002 and has a wealth of knowledge about grief, loss and life transitions. She is a Certified Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner and incorporates tapping in her work with clients to address grief-related stress. Lynne recognizes that grief is not just related to death; there are more than 40 losses identified by The Grief Recovery Institute, including health diagnoses, job loss, family estrangement, etc. In addition to Grief Integration, she teaches EFT to elders, hospice staff, school personnel, student athletes, student musicians, other “creatives”, etc. She is the author of In Death Is the Secret to Life: A Tribute Journal.

Pod #362: Emotions Are Not The Enemy

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One the most important ideas that I try to convey to all of my clients is the fact that emotions are not the enemy. Emotions are not a problem that we need to fix.

Instead, our emotions can provide us with useful information about how we are interpreting what is happening to us in the moment.

The aim of tapping is not to get rid of our emotions. Instead, we are working towards understanding why we are feeling those emotions, which in turn enables us to transform our understanding so that our emotions show up in a proportionate, well-informed way.

Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to recognize your emotions for what they are and stop feeling like you are caught in a battle with your emotional state. This is a great way to tap by itself and it also serves as a perfect way to set up a tapping session when you are working on a bigger issue.

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I recognize the fact that my emotions are information…I recognize the fact that I feel emotions to understand the world…My emotions are my internal guidance system…And the sold objective of my emotions is to keep me safe and healthy…My emotions are simply trying to communicate information…My emotions are not the enemy…It is not a failing for me to feel emotions…I also understand that sometimes my emotions can work too hard…Sometimes my emotions are disproportionate for the situation…Sometimes my emotions are misinformed as to what is actually going on…And when this happens…My emotions are really big…When this happens…My emotions seem overwhelming…When this happens…It feels as if my emotions are too much…But just because I feel emotions that are too large….Does not mean that I am failing…And it does not mean I am doing this wrong…It does not mean that I am emotionally immature…It simply means that my emotional information system is working too hard and over functioning…When this happens…It is possible for me to return my emotions to a regulated state…This does not mean I am emotionless…This does not mean I am thoughtless…And this does not mean I am careless…It only means I am returning my emotions to their natural state…Emotions are not my enemy…Emotions have never been my enemy…My emotions are just pieces of information…By taking a few minutes to tap…I am simply returning my emotions to a proportionate, regulated state…Even though being in a highly emotional state can feel very challenging…I'm glad I feel the emotion…It is information from my system that is trying to keep me safe.

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Pod #361: Tapping Success Stories

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It is always encouraging to hear first-person success stories.

Hearing about other people's success helps us in a couple of ways.

First, it shows us what is possible. When we aren't making the progress we would like, and as quickly as we would like, it is easy to feel discouraged. Hearing about the success others have had gives us encouragement and inspiration.

Second, other people's success stories offer us a great opportunity to learn. Hearing how they overcame obstacles and found their way to success gives us ideas on how we can do the same.

In this week's podcast I have three stories of people who have used tapping successfully. This a great chance for all of us to learn and take encouragement!

You can reach out my guests Esti Allina and Jackie Simek.

Over the next year I will be sharing more stories like these, so if you have your own stories about tapping you'd like to share, please let me know and I will follow up with you to see if it is a good fit.

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Pod #360: The Possibility of Healing Being More Than Just Relief

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Tapping is a powerful tool in helping us to find relief from physical and emotional discomfort. It can reduce pain in the moment, diminish overpowering emotions, and can even help us to see a problem more clearly.

As wonderful as all of this is, I believe we are missing half of the benefits tapping can provide by focusing only on finding relief.

What if it were possible for us to have more than relief with tapping?

A few weeks ago at the Spring Energy Event I presented two tools that can be used to move not just from pain to relief, but from pain to empowerment.

This week's podcast teaches you one of those two tools.

After you listen to the instruction, all you will need are the five steps below to execute this simple but powerful tool. (And, yes, these instructions will make total sense after you listen to the audio!)

  1. Name the negative emotion you're experiencing
  2. Name the positive emotion you would like to experience instead
  3. Rate from -10 to +10
  4. Do three rounds of tapping, checking in each time with the new number and to gather more information
  5. Repeat the process described in step 2, redefining the emotion you are moving towards

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Pod #359: Tapping for the Fear of Rejection

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Through my work with clients, I have come to realize that the fear of rejection is the biggest obstacle to taking positive action in our lives.

The power of this particular fear goes right to the heart of why the human species has survived. Thousands of years ago, humans were able to survive because of the protection and support of their tribe. Exclusion from the tribe would have meant facing a dangerous world alone, an almost certain death.

That's why rejection stirs up this powerful and primitive fear, and usually stops us in our tracks.

Tapping on the fear of rejection is one of the most important types of tapping that we can do!

This week I have for you three different tap-alongs you can use to help you overcome the fear of rejection.

Tapping scripts for all three tap-alongs are included below the audio player.

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The basic fear of rejection

I recognize the fact…That there is a part of me…That is worried I will be rejected by others…They will see who I am…And decide that I am not good enough…They will see who I am…And decide that I am not worth connecting with…They will see who I am…And they will decide I am not worth their time…And that I am not worth their energy…I appreciate why this fear of rejection is so big…Because at one point in our history as a species…Being rejected meant certain death…Being rejected meant the end…Being rejected meant being pushed to the outside forever…It is true that not everyone will accept me…It is true that not everyone will understand me…It is true that not everyone will appreciate me…Just because they reject me in this way does not mean I am in danger…It does not mean I am in peril…It does not mean that I'm going to die…Instead it simply means that we are not a good fit and we are not a good connection…That is not a value judgment of who I am…That is not a value judgment on my existence…I can be in a situation where I don't connect with everyone and still be safe…There are lots of people I do connect with…There are lots of people I do resonate with…Even if they aren't always around me…They are there and they exist…I recognize that I am safe even when I am not accepted by all…I give myself permission to know that I am safe when I am myself.

Fear that my work will be rejected

I recognize that the work I do is not for everyone…The type of work that I do is right for me…The type of work that I do is good for me…There will be times when I have a preference for the type of work that I want to do that other people are not going to resonate with…They will have different ideas about how things should be done…They will have different ideas about the work that I should do…People can even be well-intentioned and wanting me to do something else…But that does not mean I should be doing something else…I can truly be me and still be safe…I can do the work that I'm supposed to do and be safe…I can offer the work that I want to do, have that work rejected, and still be safe…I can be in a position where I offer my work and be OK if someone turns me down…They are not rejecting me as a person…They're simply saying the work I do isn't the right fit for them…I give myself permission to do the work that I want to do…Knowing that I will find the right people to connect with…The people who were right for me…When someone says no to my work I am still safe…When someone says no to my work I am not in trouble…It is simply a statement of best fit…I give myself permission to keep working in the way that I work…Because I know I can find the right connections…I know I can serve the right people…I can be safe even in the face of someone rejecting my work…I can be happy in the face of someone rejecting my work…I can be healthy in the face of someone rejecting my work.

Fear that people will reject my offer

I believe in the work that I do…And I believe in the way that I do that work…It is the right way for me to work…It is the best way for me to use my gifts and talents…I enjoy the work that I do…This does not mean the way I work is the right fit for everyone…Or the way I work is good for everyone…Or that everyone will be open to my work…That is OK…The way I work doesn't have to resonate with everyone…There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to doing this kind of work…And because that is the case…People will say no to me…When they say no to me they aren't saying I am bad…They aren't saying my work is useless…They aren't saying I'm doing this wrong…They are simply saying this is not a good fit for them…I give myself permission to be OK with that fact…It's not always going to be the right fit…When someone says no they are making a statement about best fit…Someone can say no to how I work and I will still be safe…Someone can say no to how I work and I can still be healthy…Someone can say no to how I work and I can still move through the world in a way where I'm connecting with those I am supposed to connect to…It is safe for me to work in the way that I want…Even if that way isn't right for everyone…The way I work is right for me…The way I work is right for those I serve…I can be healthy and safe working in the way that makes the most sense for me…Even if it isn't the right way for everyone.

Pod #358: Will Tapping On Negative Phrases Manifest Negative Outcomes?

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Because of all of the conversations around the law of attraction and manifesting in the self help community, I often hear the concern “I don't want to say any negative phrases when I am tapping because I'm worried I'll manifest negative outcomes in my life.”

Given the way that manifestation in this world view is taught, I can understand how this might be a concern.

To help you understand how to get the most out of your tapping, this week's podcast covers:

  • The scientific research on visualization
  • What happens when we say only positive phrases when tapping
  • How to get the most out of tapping to create change in your life

I also teach you a bonus method that I use when I am trying to create a new way of acting and being in the world.

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Pod #357: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) vs. Tapping w/ Joan Kaylor, M.S.Ed., L.P.C., DCEP

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Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) focuses on challenging and changing thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors, improving emotional regulation, and the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems.

That sounds a lot like what we are trying to do with tapping.

This week I have a conversation with Joan Kaylor who uses both tapping and CBT with her clients. She compares and contrasts the two approaches, highlights where they overlap, and how one can inform the other.

Understanding other modalities, tools, and techniques is a great way for us to improve the tools we are using.

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Guest: Joan Kaylor

Contact: Email @ Joan@joankaylor.com; Web @ TappingWithJoan.com
Facebook @ FreedomFromFear-JustTapIt; LinkedIn @ JoanKaylor; Twitter @JoanKaylor; Instagram: JoanKaylor; Podcasts @ Freedom From Fear – Just Tap It; Podcast @ Life Without Limits

About: Joan is an Accredited Advanced EFT Practitioner with AAMET International. She is a keynote speaker, consultant and best-selling instructor on Udemy.com. Joan is certified in cognitive behavioral therapy and has been working with individuals and families since 1994. Joan is a member of the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology, ACEP, EFT International, the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, the International OCD Foundation, the Pennsylvania Counseling Association and the TLC Foundation for Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors.

Pod #356: The Science Behind Tapping w/ Dr. Peta Stapleton

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With every passing year, more and more research is being conducted into how tapping works and its efficacy. Dr. Peta Stapleton is one of the researchers at the forefront of this work.

Peta recently completed writing The Science Behind Tapping (publication date: April 16th). The book provides a brief history of tapping and a comprehensive overview of existing scientific research on tapping. Based on scientific research, it also provides a clear set of recommendations on how to get the most out of tapping, depending on the issues you are addressing.

In this conversation Peta provides a preview of The Science Behind Tapping, as well as ways you can get better results from your tapping practice.

Knowing the latest scientific research on tapping will make it easier for you to share tapping with your skeptical friends and loved ones. If you want to share tapping with others, you must listen to this conversation!

You can pre-order it today!

Peta is also offering 4 free gifts if you order the book. So right after you pre-order the book you can sign up for your free gifts here.

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Guest: Dr. Peta Stapleton

Contact: web @ PetaStapleton.com; twitter @PetaStapleton; instagram @petastapleton

About: Dr. Peta Stapleton has 22 years of experience as a registered Clinical and Health Psychologist in the State of Queensland, Australia and has completed a Bachelor of Arts, Postgraduate Diploma of Professional Psychology and Doctor of Philosophy. Peta held academic positions at Griffith University for 14 years, teaching and coordinating psychological research trials into new therapies in the area of obesity and weight management and is now Associate Professor in Psychology at Bond University

Peta regularly contributes to the academic field with publications in the areas of nursing, morale, communication, psychological interventions and eating disorders. She regularly reviews for academic journals and offers supervision for new and existing Psychologists as well as students.

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Pod #355: Tapping To Magnify Celebration

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As Dr. Rick Henson shared with us back in Podcast 349, it is important that we spend time not just feeling positive emotions, but reveling in them. By doing this we can do more than enjoy feeling good in the moment, we can turn it into a habit for life.

For most of us, including me, spending a lot of time feeling celebratory isn't the most natural experience.

Celebration can feel embarrassing. It can feel boastful. It can even feel egotistical.

This week we talk and tap about how celebration can make us feel uncomfortable AND tapping in the spirit of celebration. All the tapping scripts from this audio can be found below the audio player.

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I am worthy of success…I am worthy of celebrating that success…When I am successful…I'm not stealing success from others…When I am successful…I'm not pushing other people down…When I experience success…I can also lift others up…I am made for success…I am worthy of success…It is appropriate that I acknowledge that success…It is important that I celebrate my successes…And I'm not doing this in an egotistical way…I'm not doing this because I want other people to look at me…I'm doing it because acknowledging success is healthy…Celebrating my success creates space for more success…I know many people think celebrating is the wrong thing to do…Some friends and family believe we should all just be humble…But it is possible for us to be humble and still acknowledge the truth of our success…Some of my friends and family believe celebrating success is a sinful thing to do…They believe that celebrating is a sign of bad character…It is possible for me to appreciate their disposition without buying into it…I can appreciate my success and remain grounded…I can celebrate my success and keep moving forward…I am worthy of success…Because I am made for success.

I give myself permission to be happy about the good things happening in my life…I give myself permission to enjoy and savor them…Being happy about my success does not deprive other people of success…I'm happy about the good things happening in my life…Even though my life is not perfect…I can appreciate what I'm experiencing…And I can move through this in a way where I continue to connect deeply to my success…While continuing to experience joy…I am happy with the progress I am making…Even though it isn't happening as quickly as I would like…I celebrate each small step forward…Knowing that each of these moments is contributing to greater and greater success in the future…I appreciate how far I've come…I appreciate the amount of work that I have put in…I give myself permission to enjoy my success…Enjoying my success helps me to create more success in the future for myself…And more success in the future for others…I am comfortable and happy with my success.

Pod #354: Why Does Healing Always Have To Be A Process?

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Even though tapping is such a powerful tool, at times it feels as if it is just taking too long to get the results we want.

In this week's podcast we are talking about:

  • Why healing sometimes needs to happen as part of a process
  • How to make the healing process as quick as possible (when it doesn't feel quick at all)
  • How to deal with the frustration of slow transformation

In the last step we will tap for the frustration around our healing not happening as fast as we would like, and why healing has to be process. (The tapping script is also included below the player.)

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I'm frustrated by the rate of healing…I wish it was happening faster…I wish it was happening easier…I recognize the fact that when I feel this sort of resistance…And I feel this sort of resentment towards the healing process…I will slow the healing process…Because I don't want to waste time…And I don't want to waste energy on something that isn't going to work out…On something that isn't going to be fruitful…But at the same time I appreciate my frustration…Not because I enjoy being frustrated…But because frustration means that there is a part of me that wants healing and transformation to happen…Frustration is just my system saying it is dissatisfied with what is going on…I hear the frustration loud and clear…I don't want me to be unhealthy…The frustration has done its job…By pointing out the slow rate of this transformation…And since I know this is true…The feeling of frustration can relax…And if the frustration needs to come back in future…That's OK and I allow it to come back…I give myself permission to be easy and gentle with my frustration…Knowing it is possible for me to heal.

Intellectually I understand that transformation is a process…I understand that sometimes it doesn't happen in a single step…That is because some of my issues are more complicated…Some of my issues have multiple layers to them…Sometimes my goal for tapping is to create release in the moment…And tapping is a very good tool for doing exactly that…But at times I want to create lasting and deep change…It's more than just dealing with symptoms in the moment…I'm not looking for quick relief…I'm looking for a long term transformation…I give myself permission to be patient with the process…Even though I would like this to be quick…It is more important that it is lasting change…I give myself permission to be easy with the process…I give myself permission to allow this to take time…I am in this for the long haul…I am in this for long term, lasting transformation…I'm open to the possibility of instantaneous healing…But I'm willing to put in the work for lasting transformation even if it is not instantaneous.

I give myself permission to heal…I give myself permission to transform…By giving myself permission to heal and transform…I'm acknowledging that some of this work might be hard…I recognize the fact that I can do hard work in a way that is safe and healthy for me…I give myself permission to put in the time and effort…By investing in the short term in this way…I am ensuring my long term transformation will be lasting and deep…My goal is lasting transformation…I trust my system to create the process that will allow the healing to persist…To allow this transformation to take root…I am a healing machine…And I allow my system to keep healing.

Pod #353: How You See Yourself Can Stop Your Healing w/ Brad Yates

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In this conversation with Brad Yates he shares the Zig Ziglar quote “You cannot consistently perform in a manner which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself.”

The quote came up because we were talking about the reasons we sometimes don't get the results we are seeking with tapping.

We often tap because we want something to change in our lives. BUT if we don't believe we are the type of person who can have the outcome we want, we will sabotage ourselves to make sure we don't get it.

For example:

  • If we can't see ourselves as a successful business owner, we will sabotage the growth of our business.
  • If we don't believe we are worthy of love, finding a lasting romantic relationship will be hard.
  • If we think it is too late for change, we won't get around to finding time to tap.

In this conversation Brad and I talk about four of the ways in which we can uncover the beliefs about ourselves that are incongruent with what we want, and how to tap for them.

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Guest: Brad Yates

Contact: twitter @EFTWizard; web @ TapWithBrad.com; facebook @ facebook.com/BradYatesTapping

About Brad: Brad Yates is known internationally for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). Brad is the author of the best-selling children's book The Wizard's Wish, the co-author of the best-seller Freedom at Your Fingertips, and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution,” He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including Jack Canfield's “Breakthrough to Success”, has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale, and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows. Brad also has well over 800 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 23 million times.

Here is every interview that I have done with Brad:

10-Year Anniversary

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This post is a little different than the usual one you get from me. I am going to do three things. I am going to celebrate, I am going to share a useful challenge with you, and I am going to ask you for help.

#1 Celebration!
Sunday March 3rd marked the 10-year anniversary of the Tapping Q and A Podcast!!!!

When I started the podcast all I had was a $19 microphone and a doohickey that I bought from RadioShack (remember them?), which allowed me to connect my landline (remember them?!) to my computer so that I could record telephone interviews.

I had no idea what I was doing, but I thought it would be fun.

I certainly didn't think I would still be doing it 10 years later!

In that time, between interviews, instruction, tap-alongs, and bonus episodes, I have recorded over 400 hundred episodes.

That is more than 168 hours of free content! (As in, it would take you seven straight days without sleeping to listen to all of the podcasts.)

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! For your willingness to listen, to tap along, and to share with other people.

The podcast has been downloaded by people in over 160 countries and more than 1.75 million episodes have been downloaded. (The number is actually closer to 2 million, but because stats weren't tracked in the early years of the show I don't know the exact number for sure.)

#2 Go Learn Something
Even if you have been with me from the very beginning and even if you have listened to every minute of the podcast, there is still so much we can learn from those past interviews.

Think of it like an old book you love or your favorite movie. Even though you have read or watched it before, there's something new for you each time you go back.

The podcasts are no different. There will be something useful when you hear it again – and it might even feel like you are hearing again for the first time.

My challenge to you is to pick seven podcasts from the archive and listen to one each day for the next week. It's a simple commitment to yourself that will pay huge dividends. (I would also love to hear which seven you chose.)

The whole archive is waiting for you, free of charge, at http://TappingPodcast.com

#3 Help me out!
The podcast is a labor of love.

They don't just magically appear on the website or in your podcast app of choice. There is scripting, reaching out to guests, recording interviews, editing interviews, writing show notes, writing these emails, making the graphics for social media, and creating the final version of the show.

On average I spend about four hours on every episode of the podcast. Assuming a 40-hour work week, that means I have spent over 10 months working solely on the podcast. (And that doesn't take into account all the time I have spent learning how to do the podcast and my continuing education to make them better.)

I love doing it. I love the fact you listen. AND I need your help.

There are two ways in which you can support the podcast.

First, tell a friend about the podcast. Well actually, I want to you tell three friends. The marketing budget for the podcast is word of mouth and the most common way new people find their way to it is via a recommendation from a friend.

Think of three people you think would benefit from the podcast. Send them an email, show them how to listen to a podcast, or you might even help them by showing them how to subscribe on their phone the next time you see them.

When people join my email list, I ask them how they found me. My favorite response is always “A friend told me about your podcast.” Those emails warm my heart.

Please help to warm my heart some more and tell a friend about the podcast!

My goal in the next year is to double the number of listeners to the podcast. This isn't for the pure vanity of doubling my downloads. I believe in my heart of hearts the more people who tap regularly, the healthier the world will be for all of us. This is a small way in which you can help that to happen.

Second, support the podcast. In addition to my time, there are actual costs for producing the podcast. I pay for the hostings, software to edit and make it sound good, and my editor who makes sure all the emails and show notes look good.

There are two ways you can give your support:

  • You can become a monthly supporter of the podcast. For as little as $5 a month you get access to a bunch of bonus content, including extra podcasts every month only for supports. You can join here: http://tappingqanda.com/support
  • You can make a one-time contribution of any amount https://tappingqanda.com/tip/

The podcast is set up on an interesting business model. Everyone gets free access and then if you think it is valuable, you can give your financial support. It is a risk on my part, putting in the work without any support up front.

Not everyone is in the possion to support the podcast financially, but if you are, I would encourage you to do so. Not because you get bonus content (which is nice), but because it is something you value.

By investing in the podcast you are letting me know you value it AND you are making a statement to yourself that you value your personal growth through the podcast.

There are a number of ways I am hoping to grow the podcast in the future (including transcriptions of all the interviews, including the archives), but I won't be able to do that without your support.

Thank you!
Once again, thank you for continuing to support the podcast. I hope you keep listening, learning, and tapping along.

Here is to another 10 years!

Pod #352: EFT for Anxiety and Worry w/ Julie Schiffman

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Fear, worry, and anxiety are some of our most primitive emotions. Their main goal is to keep us safe and in some cases, alive.

Because of their vital function, these emotions will override all our other emotions, ensuring that they are heard first.

For the most part, this is a good thing and these emotions truly do keep us safe. Problems arise when our feelings of worry and anxiety are too intense for what is actually going on.

In this week's podcast Julie Schiffman and I talk about how to figure out the root cause of our fear, and how to tap effectively for it.

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Guest: Julie Schiffman

Contact: web @ JulieSchiffman.com; facebook @ Julie Schiffman EFT; instagram @Julieschiffman_tapintolife; youtube channel @ Julie Schiffman; YouTube demonstrations @ over 100 videos

About: Julie Schiffman, MSW, is an internationally recognized Expert EFT Practitioner. For more than 20 years, she has counseled thousands of clients, helping them break through physical and emotional barriers. Her life-changing YouTube videos have been viewed more than 4 million times.

She is best known for her expertise in helping others heal from pain, disease, weight issues, phobias and other emotional and physical stressors.

She was formerly the chief EFT practitioner for Dr. Mercola’s Center for Natural Health for over 15 years. Julie has been a featured presenter at the “Tapping World Summit” every year since its inception in 2008.

Pod #351: Why You Don’t Get The Results You Want With Tapping w/ Dr. Kim D’Eramo

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Dr. Kim D'Eramo was frustrated that she wasn't getting the results that she wanted in her medical practice. Then she discovered tapping. Using tapping with her clients made a huge difference…but she still wasn't getting the results she wanted.

Because of this she dedicated a lot of time to thinking about why some issues were more difficult to clear, and why some symptoms lingered.

In this interview we talk about the two main reasons why issues don't clear with tapping.

Supporters of the podcast have access to a bonus interview with Dr. Kim. Become a supporter today to have access the this and all the bonus podcast.

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Listen to both Kim and Gene in this year's Tapping World Summit.

Guest: Dr. Kim D’Eramo

Contact: web @ DrKimDeramo.com; instagram @drkimderamo; youtube @YouAttractWellness; facebook @DrKimDeramo

About: Dr Kim D'Eramo graduated medical school in 2002 from University of New England College of Osteopathic Medicine, where she also completed a Fellowship in Osteopathic Medicine and Medical Gross Anatomy, as well as an undergraduate Fellowship in Neuroanatomy. She completed her Emergency Medicine residency at Emory University in 2005, and is board certified in Emergency Medicine.

Dr. Kim founded The American Institute of Mind Body Medicine (AIMBM) to train other doctors and health practitioners how to activate the body’s ability to heal itself. Through AIMBM, she conducts live workshops and retreats, and assists clients online internationally.

Dr. Kim and her husband Dr. Mario Torres-Leon produced a Top-10 podcast “The Thrive Doctors” featuring the latest in MindBody healing.
In 2012 she published The MindBody Toolkit, which was a #1 Amazon Bestseller, and her work has also been featured on national television networks in America.

Pod #350: EFT for Long-Term Transformation – Practical Application Based on the Interview with Rick Hanson

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In podcast #249 I talked to Rick Hanson about our three basic human needs for safety, satisfaction, and connection. Most of the unconscious, subconscious, and conscious actions we make are driven by one of these three needs.

Tapping can be a powerful tool in helping us to make sure that we meet these needs in a healthy way.

This week's podcast covers firstly how you can identify which one of these needs you are trying to meet, and then how best to tap for each of these needs.

If you didn't listen to the interview I did with Rick I would encourage to you to listen to it first before diving into the application.

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