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Pod #8: Energy Hygiene – Managing the Energy of Other’s Emotions

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After podcast #7 (Sensitive Temperaments) I was inundated with requests. Lots of readers and clients said something to the effect of, “Rue was talking about me. I never knew what was going on. Now that I know this is who I am, what do I do about it?”

In this episode I go through five of my favorite ways of dealing with the emotions of others that sensitive temperaments feel so deeply.

We’ll explore what surrogate tapping is and a couple of the current theories on why it can be so effective, as well as how surrogate tapping can be beneficial for us even when we think we are doing work for someone else’s issues. Finally we talk about a very simple way you can add surrogate tapping to your tapping tool set.

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Video: Energy Hygiene – Managing the Energy of Other’s Emotions

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After podcast #7 (Sensitive Temperaments) I was inundated with requests. Lots of readers and clients said something to the effect of, “Rue was talking about me. I never knew what was going on. Now that I know this is who I am, what do I do about it?”

In this episode I go through 5 of my favorite ways of dealing with the emotions of others that sensitive temperaments feel so deeply.

Show Topic: Surrogate tapping can be one of the most confusing topics when learning Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT/EvEFT eveft.html). It can be difficult enough to accept that tapping on the body while tuning into physical and emotional issues can provide relief. It can be a much more difficult leap to believe that tapping in the same way on our own body will provide relief for someone else.

We’ll explore what surrogate tapping is and a couple of the current theories on why it can be so effective, as well as how surrogate tapping can be beneficial for us even when we think we are doing work for someone else’s issues. Finally we talk about a very simple way you can add surrogate tapping to your tapping tool set.

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Host: Gene Monterastelli

Contact Info: web @ eftQandA.com, e-mail @ eftQandA.com/contact, twitter @ twitter.com/genedavid

Bio: Gene Monterastelli is a Baltimore-based EFT practitioner. He regularly works with clients in the areas of stress, weight loss, limiting beliefs, anxieties, learning disabilities, pain management, and relationship issues. He is the editor of EFT Q & A. There is a very special place in his practice for parents of special needs children, especially for parents of children who have been diagnosed with Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD). Gene works with clients from all over the world, one-on-one and in groups.

Sensitive Temperaments

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Everyone in my life says that I am “way too sensitive” and it’s frustrating. I love the fact that I feel so deeply, but I don’t like everyone thinking I am overreacting. Is there something wrong with me?

There are lots of people in the world who are very aware of and in tune with their own emotions and the emotions of others. EFT Master Rue Hass describes this as having a “sensitive temperament”. People with sensitive temperaments feel very deeply their own emotions and the emotions of those in their lives.

There is nothing wrong with having a sensitive temperament, but it can be hard having a sensitive temperament because you can feel that your emotions are out of control and that others don’t understand what you are experiencing.

When I interviewed Rue for Pod #7 – Sensitive Temperaments she talked about how we can use EFT to feel more comfortable as a person who has a sensitive temperament.

During the interview she talked about ways in which we can use EFT in this process.

Below is a number of thoughts and resources that Rue (Intuitive Mentoring) provided me after the interview on how to understand sensitive temperaments and how to work with that point of view.

Blessings of Sensitive Temperaments

The essence of the sensitive temperament is the spirit of:

  • Freedom
  • Creativity
  • Imagination (Flow, Movement, Flexibility, Growth, Change, and Expansion)

The intention of the person with a sensitive temperament is to foster:

  • Profound awareness of sensations
  • Loving goodness
  • Mission to bring peace
  • Deep sense of connection
  • Vision of possibilities/Idealism
  • Healing
  • High standards
  • Intuitive, empathic, perceptive
  • Sense of unity, oneness
  • Originality
  • Deep sense of joy, beauty
  • Love of nature

Struggles of Sensitive Temperaments
Common worries, struggles, and questions of people with sensitive temperaments are:

  • What is wrong with me?
  • Told I am too energetic, too smart, too talkative, too emotional
  • I am not good enough
  • I can't express who I am
  • Let me out , I'm trapped
  • I am all alone, no one understands
  • I have to tough it out and soldier on
  • I have to save the world   before I can tend to myself
  • I have to make the world a better, safer place, so that I can be here
  • Only death will bring me peace
  • Overwhelmed
  • Dissociation
  • Compulsive helping, boundary issues
  • Low self worth
  • Perfectionism
  • Fear, anger, shame, grief
  • Chronic emotional/physical pain, illness

Reframing Sensitivity
A profound tool that can be used with EvEFT is to reframe our point of view. A reframe is nothing more than looking at something in a new way. Some common ways to reframe the characteristics of people with sensitive temperaments are to:

  • See Too Sensitive/Overwhelm as Profound awareness of sensations
  • See Compulsive Helping as Mission to bring peace
  • See Boundary Issues as Deep sense of connection
  • See Perfectionism as Vision of possibilities

Tapping Phrases if You Have a Sensitive Temperament
Here are a number tapping phrases that sensitive temperaments can use as a jumping off point:

  • Especially because I LOVE THAT I AM SO SENSITIVE…
  • I CHOOSE to deepen and expand my sensitivity in even more powerful wonderful ways.
  • I hunger for deep and meaningful relationships.  I make creating and maintaining a good and satisfying relationship with myself my first priority.
  • I have a mission of bringing peace into the world, I CHOOSE a mission of bringing peace into my own life. I deserve this!
  • I CHOOSE TO STAND UP FOR MYSELF, and express who I am with love and a light heart.
  • I CHOOSE to love and appreciate and honor this world-changing soul quality that I embody.  The world needs what I have to offer.  I am ready to be more!

Make sure you check out the interview with Rue (Pod #7) and her web site (Intuitive Mentoring)

Pod #7: Sensitive Temperaments w/ Rue Hass

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Have people often told you, “Oh, you are just too sensitive…You take things so hard…Why can’t you just let it go…What’s wrong with you…You are such a cry baby”? If the answer is yes, then you probably have a sensitive temperament. BUT that is not a bad thing. In this podcast I talk with Rue Hass about what a sensitive temperament is, how it can be a blessing, and how you can use EFT to manage the challenges of having a sensitive temperament.


Rue Hass

Guest: Rue Hass

Contact Information: IntuitiveMentoring.com, rue (at) intuitivementoring (dot) com

How Rue describes herself: When I first meet a new client/customer/co-creative partner, I walk them through an interesting process of understanding their life as a story. It concludes with asking them to consider what they want their life to leave in the world as a legacy. How do they want the world to be a better place for their having been in it?

When I contemplate this in myself and ask, “What do I want to focus on in this phase of my life, as a culmination of everything I have learned and gained?”, what emerges for me is the concept of “spiritual eldering.” This impulse finds expression in my work with individuals and local groups, inviting and assisting people and communities to move into a sense of the real transformative power of their spiritual Presence in the world.

I particularly like to work with young people, adolescents and young adults as a mentor/coach. I have always been drawn to the kind of kid who might find him/herself in trouble in school, academically or socially, but who on the inside is bright, sensitive, perceptive, intuitive, often artistic or athletic, deep hearted and imaginative, and who just doesn’t fit the norm. I want to make it easier for these young people to find their place in the world. I think they are here to save it.

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Video: Sensitive Temperaments w/ Rue Hass

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Have you ever heard, “Oh, you are just too sensitive…You take things so hard…Just let it roll off your back…Why can’t you just let it go…What’s wrong with you…You are such a cry baby”??? Then you probably have a sensitive temperament. BUT this is not a bad thing. There are many blessing that come with a sensitive temperament. In this podcast I talk with Rue Hass about what sensitive temperament is, how it can be a blessing, and how you can use EFT to manage the challenges of sensitive temperament.

Guest: Rue Hass

Contact Info: IntuitiveMentoring.com, rue (at) intuitivementoring (dot) com

How Rue describes herself: When I first meet a new client/customer/co-creative partner, I walk them through an interesting process of understanding their life as a story. It concludes with asking them to consider what they want their life to leave in the world as a legacy. How do they want the world to be a better place for their having been in it?

When I contemplate this in myself, and ask, “What do I want to focus on in this phase of my life, as a culmination of everything I have learned and gained?”, what emerges for me is the concept of “spiritual eldering.” This impulse finds expression in my work with individuals and local groups, inviting and assisting people and communities to move into a sense of the real transformative power of their spiritual Presence in the world.

I particularly like to work with young people, adolescents and young adults as a mentor/coach. I have always been drawn to the kind of kid who might find him/herself in trouble in school, academically or socially, but who on the inside is bright, sensitive, perceptive, intuitive, often artistic or athletic, deep hearted and imaginative, and who just doesn’t fit the norm. I want to make it easier for these young people to find their place in the world. I think they are here to save it.

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