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Pod #170: What Phrases Should I Use For…

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WhatPhrasesForI love receiving questions from my listener and readers. They help me to understand what the community needs and how I can best serve you.

You can always ask a question here.

The question I get more than any other is “What are the right tapping phrases for [insert issue]?” (emphasis added)

I can understand where this question comes from.

When most people learn EFT they are taught to say words. When we see an expert practitioner leading someone else we marvel at the “perfect” phrases they use in the moment.

This leads us to believe that there are perfect and right phrases.

In reality this is not the case. There are phrases that are more useful than others, but there is no right and wrong.

In this audio I will teach you some of the ways I come up with tapping phrases that will make your tapping more effective.

The 10 Questions That Changed My Life

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Good morning,

Last week I was having dinner with a friend I’ll call “Sally” at a place that serves the most amazing chicken and waffles.

As we were enjoying dinner she explained that she was having a really hard time. She was in the middle of a move. Her job was stressing her out. She was thinking of changing careers. AND she had been sick for weeks.

I was listening closely as caring friend.

She stopped. Looked me dead in the eye and said, “I know you like to leave your work at work, but right now I don't need my friend Gene. I need Gene the coach. Help!”

So I smiled, ordered another drink, and began to ask her some questions.

It Only Took 10 Questions

Over the next 45 minutes I asked her ten questions. With each answer she gave I repeated back what she had said in my own words and asked a few follow-up questions.

At the end of 45 minutes she said, “Wow! You’re so smart. Thank you for helping me out with that.”

The funny thing is, I didn't say anything smart.

I didn't offer any advice. I didn't make any suggestions. I didn't help her plan anything.

I simply asked ten questions and in the process of answering those questions she was able to see clearly what she wanted – and, more importantly, needed – the steps she needed to take, and the emotional blocks she needed to clear in order to be successful.

These Are Not Random Questions

10 Question System When Sally asked me to put my coach hat on I didn't just start asking her random questions, but instead I worked her through a specific process designed to move us from confusion, to clarity, and then to action.

The 10 Question System (I know it’s not an awfully catchy name) is very powerful and something I use in my own life as well as with my clients.

This system guides me when I’m trying to do something as small as reorganizing my office or something as large as creating a new product line.

I Want You To Learn This System

On the surface this system looks super simple and that is because it is simple.

BUT just because something is simple doesn't mean that it is easy to do at first.

To that end I have created a training program that will walk you through the full system. Not only will you know the right questions to ask and the right order in which to ask them, but you will understand the motivation behind each of the questions.

Once you master the why of each question it will stop being a formula and start to be something that you can integrate into your daily life as you make choices, as you are helpful to your friends and family, and can be integrated into client work if that is what you do.

And it is not just ten questions!

Each step along the way I teach you how you can tap for the information that comes up from each of the questions. You are not just figuring out what you want and need but also how to clear the issues that will (and always do) come up along the way.

What Is In The Program?

The system consists of more than 4 hours of audios which will teach you:

  • How and why we create limiting beliefs, and how to break down your goals in a way so that you can find every fear and limiting belief lurking in your subconscious.
  • Tools to knock out these limiting beliefs anytime, anywhere. THIS IS KEY: Not only will this tool set help you when you are sitting at home working through your goal list, but when any fear or limiting belief pops up in any situation you will be able to knock it out.
  • How to recognize when limiting beliefs are holding you back (because sometimes we don’t even see them)
  • In addition to more than 4 hours of instruction you will also receive a digital workbook that will take you through the ten steps. Because this system works for any of your goals, when it is time to go after the next one you’ll easily be able to print out a fresh copy of the workbook to guide you through the steps.

Bonus Tools To Help You Achieve Your Goals

This system is great at uncovering the root causes for not taking action and the limiting beliefs that make it difficult for you to take action.

I want you to be successful. I want you to achieve your goals. To that end I am adding four audio bonuses that you can use to knock out these common beliefs and fears:

Resistance To Change: If there weren’t resistance to change we would have already changed. Sometimes this resistance has nothing to do with the specific change, but is about change in general. This audio will make you more comfortable with change, which will help you to take action. ($13.77 value)

Being Open To The Process: It can be scary to think that we will uncover our fears and limiting beliefs. This audio will help you to know that it is safe and good to do this investigation and work. ($13.77 value)

Believing You Are Worthy of Better: Almost daily I talk to clients who don’t believe they deserve a better life. This audio helps you recognize your worthiness which will help you take action. ($13.77 value)

Permission To Be Easy With Yourself: We are our own worst critics. We are harder on ourselves than anyone else ever could be. When we are kinder and more loving towards ourselves we are able to move forward faster. ($13.77 value)

That is $55 in free tap-along audios that you can use over and over again.

Very Special Deal

The system normally costs $189, but for the next two weeks I am making a special offer. In addition to the $55 in bonus tap-along audios you can get the system in one of three ways.

1) The Full Program: You receive the bonus audios and the full program for only $97. That is a 49% discount. Get It Now!

2) The Program + A Little Help: You will receive the bonus audios, the program, and one full hour working one-on-one with me to help you quickly knock out the stubborn issues uncovered by the system for only $197. That is an 89% discount on the program. Get It Now!

3) The Program + A Lot Of Help: You will receive the bonus audio, the program, and five one-on-one sessions with me. Imagine what it will like to have someone walking with you helping to clear out these issues. You get all of this for $787. When you do this you receive the whole system free of charge! Get It Now!

Act Today!

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When you order you will be given instant access to all the downloads.

Do it now: Yes! I want access to the system right now.

Gene

PS: The longer you wait to get clear the longer you are going to be stuck where you are right now. That is time that you are never going to get back. The sooner you take action the sooner you will have what you want. Order now!
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Pod #169: Clearing The Habits Created By Old Root Causes

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changing-habitsOver the last few years I have noticed a pattern with a number of my clients. It would play out something like this…

  • Client would come to me with an issue
  • We would work to find the root cause
  • They would have relief for a few weeks
  • The symptoms would come back
  • We would do more work looking for more root cause, but would find nothing

As I researched what all these clients had in common it turned out that all of them had come to me for an issue that had been with them a long time and the actions they were taking were no longer motivated by the root cause, but had instead become a habit.

In this audio from the 2015 Spring Energy Event I show you how this phenomena happens and 5 times you can do clear the habit created by root issues after you clear the root issue.

Pod #168: Is It OK For Christians To Use EFT

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is-it-OK-for(Today's podcast is sponsored by PRM. Click the link to get 20% off your order.)

One of the reasons that EFT is so appealing is that it can be easily combined with other tools and modalities. In fact I know few people who do just EFT.

The problem with this for a newcomer to EFT is knowing what is EFT and what is the stuff that is added to it. This becomes even more complicated for Christians because it is often the other things that are combined with EFT that make many of them uncomfortable.

Most people who visit this site don't know that since 1997 I have traveled the US and Canada working in Catholic youth ministry with the group APeX Ministries. We have worked with hundreds of thousands of young people. We were even Pope John Paul II’s opening act in 2001.

Because of this I have had the opportunity to give a lot of thought to and have a lot of conversations about whether it is OK for Christians to be using EFT.

To be clear, I am not a theologian or am I an ecclesial minister (meaning I am not commissioned by or speaking for the church). These are the questions I am asked, the reasons I feel comfortable using EFT, and the setting within which I feel comfortable using it.

I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences.

The Problem With “I Should”

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ShouldShouldntAndOughtToA few weeks ago in When You Explain Cause And Effect Wrong It Makes Your Life Harder I started with:

When I am listening to my clients talk about their issues I am not just listening for the meaning of what they are sharing, but I am also listening to the very specific words they are using.

The words we use to describe something will impact the way we understand a situation which then in turn impacts our emotional response to the situation.

The example I love to use is when my client “Deb” said “Everyone at work hates me!”

I asked, “Really, everyone?”

She replied, “No. It's really just Dave and Sue.”

You can see the emotional difference between “everyone” hating us and just two people hating us. (And that doesn't even get into if they really do hate Deb.)

Should, Shouldn't And Ought To

This week we are looking at another way in which we use language that leads us to respond to our daily experience in ways that aren’t useful. In this article we are examining the words “should”, “shouldn't” and “ought to”.

The problem with these words is that often we give them too much weight.

When we say should or ought what we mean is “it would be my preference to have” but on an emotional level it feels like “I have failed because I haven't.”

The same is true with shouldn't. What we mean is “it would be my preference not to have” but we feel it as “I failed because I did.”

Let's look at a few examples.

“I should have gotten more work done today.”
* What we mean when we say this: “In order to stay on track with this project I would have liked to have gotten more done today.”
* What we feel when we say this: “I have failed today because I don't live up to my expectations.”

“I should have been born in a different era.”
* What we mean when we say this: “Because of my world view and preferences my life might be more enjoyable if I had been born at a different time.”
* What we feel when we say this: “I am in the wrong time and this will always be painful for me.”

“You shouldn't be mad at me.”
* What we mean when we say this: “It hurts me that you are mad at me and you might feel differently if you have more information.”
* What we feel when we say this: “You are not allowed to feel this way and you are betraying me by doing so.”

You can see the clear emotional difference between what we mean and what we end up feeling. In all of these examples what we feel will have a much stronger (and often much less healthy) response to what is going on.

My Preference Would Be

When one of my clients uses a should, ought to, or shouldn't I generally ask a the question “What proof do you have that it has to be this way?” Often this is enough to help them to see they are turning an opinion or preference into a fact.

When you are doing work on your own and you notice you are use one of these words, try the simple step of replacing them with “it would be my preference”.

“I should have gotten more work done today” becomes “It would have been my preference to have gotten more work done today.” It is also helpful to ask the reason why. So this example now becomes “It would have been my preference to have gotten more work done today because then we would still be on track and I wouldn't be rushing around.”

There is still an emotional charge to that statement, but instead of feeling like a failure we feel a little rushed or overwhelmed because of the work we need to do. Even though the second emotion is also negative it is easier to respond to it in a healthier way.

Sometimes We Really Should Do Something

There will be some cases where using the word should is helpful and we don't want to make the substitution.

For example, “I should not embezzle money from my employer” is more accurate than “It would be my preference not to embezzle money from my employer.”

If you are looking for more resources about how to respond to the things you should do check out EFT For Shoulders And Shoulds where Gwenn Bonnell shares a simple tapping process for things you feel like you should do.

Pod #167: How Many Tapping Sessions Do I Need To Clear My Issue 100%

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HowManyThis week's podcast sponsored by Pain Relief Miracle.

One of the biggest mistakes I see people make with tapping is not spending enough time on an issue to make sure that it is completely cleared.

Because tapping brings relief so quickly in the moment it is easy to feel like we are done with the issue but in reality that’s often not the case.

A good way to think of it is to compare it to cleaning a room. While you are cleaning you feel great about the progress you are making. You feel satisfied with a job well done.

Then you leave the room and when you return you realize it wasn't was clean as you thought to begin with. It is not that the room got messier, but when you were cleaning the room you could see that it was so much better than before.

Upon returning you were no longer comparing it to how bad it was, but instead you are seeing it for what it is.

The same thing happens when we tap. While tapping we are only comparing our current state to what we just moved through, but we don't always have a clear picture if we have done enough.

In this week's podcast I share how we can know if we are 100% (and if we even need to be 100% clear).

Pod #166 EFT For Loneliness

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Tapping For Loneliness
I am always humbled at how willing my clients are to share some of the most private parts of their lives.

Once we have established a trusting relationship, during sessions I hear it all. And that’s a really positive thing because it makes it easier for me to help them because we know what we are going after.

But even with that being true, loneliness is an issue that my clients find difficult to talk about.

As we become more emotionally intelligent it is easier for us to be honest about where we are coming from, yet loneliness feels like the last emotion that we can be open about.

Loneliness feels like such a failure. Especially when we feel it in a room full of people.

Here is some tapping that you can do to help with the ache of loneliness.

I would love to hear how it works for you.

Pod #165: Using Hero Tapping To Take Action

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HERO TappingWe know that when we are trying to make a change but not taking the required action we need to find out what is behind our resistance.

We can ask ourselves what the penalties are for trying, for failing, and for succeeding. But sometimes these questions aren't helpful in discovering why we are resisting taking action.

When that happens to me I use this three-step version of hero tapping. Hero tapping is a handy tool where we use the example of someone doing what we want (aka the hero) to discover the reasons we are resisting stepping into action.

In this short audio I will show you how easy it is to use hero tapping to discover the reasons you are resisting taking action for both big and small goals.

I would love to hear about your experience with this tool.

When You Explain Cause And Effect Wrong It Makes Your Life Harder

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ThisDidNotCauseThat

When I am listening to my clients talk about their issues I am not just listening for the meaning of what they are sharing, but I am also listening to the very specific words they are using.

The words we use to describe something will impact the way we understand a situation which then in turn impacts our emotional response to the situation.

The example I love to use is when my client “Deb” said “Everyone at work hates me!”

I asked, “Really, everyone?”

She replied, “No. It's really just Dave and Sue.”

You can see the emotional difference between “everyone” hating us and just two people hating us. (And that doesn't even get into if they really do hate Deb.)

For this reason I pick apart my clients’ speech pattern to understand what is really going on vs. what they are responding to emotionally.

Cause And Effect

One of the places we commonly make the mistake of using words that do not line up with reality is in cause and effect statements.

We use cause and effect statements all the time.

  • (cause) Because I was late (effect) I missed out on the sale.
  • (cause) Because I didn't return her phone call (effect) she didn't know I was coming.
  • (effect) I can now legally work with clients (cause) because I passed the certification exam.
  • (cause) I forgot to close the shades (effect) so I didn't sleep in because of the sun coming in the window.

That is not too complicated. The problem comes when we start making statements that aren't accurate in describing their cause and effect relationship.

  • (effect) Thing went wrong this morning (cause) because it's Monday.
  • (cause) Smoking (effect) causes cancer.
  • (effect) I don't have a girlfriend (cause) because the men in my family are bad at relationships.

On the surface all three of these statements seem reasonable, but there are logical flaws in all of them which illustrated with a question or two.

Thing went wrong this morning because it's Monday. Do things go wrong every Monday? Do things not go wrong on other days of the week?

Smoking causes cancer. Does everyone who smoke get cancer?

I don't have a girlfriend because the men in my family are bad at relationships. Are all men in your family bad at relationships?

In all three cases the statements work in absolutes which lead us to react emotionally to situations in a particular way. But when we are able to see the statements for what they are then we are able to react in less emotional fashion.

Ask Questions About The Extremes

The way that we put this knowledge to use is to question our own statements. If there is something you are struggling with write down a statement that describes what you believe about the situation.

Once you have done this start to question it at the extremes. Is it really always this way? Is it really never this way? Does this outcome happen for other reasons?

By doing this we can see things more clearly which will help us to respond in a healthier way.

Pod #164 EFT For The Times It Feels Like It Is Too Late And There Is No Hope

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It's Too Late For MeWhen working with clients I have noticed that people often believe change is possible and they believe EFT is the tool that will help them to make that change…but they don't believe it is possible for them.

They tell me stories of how they have made too many bad choices, their family history runs too deep, or their habits are just too ingrained.

Over and over again I have heard them say, “It's just too late to change.”

When a part of us doesn't believe it is possible for us to change, it’s very difficult to transform because we don't want to waste effort.

We think, “Since this isn't going to work out in the end why would I bother putting forth any effort to make change?”

And when this happens it is obvious that nothing will change.

Here is a tap-along audio for when it feels like you are too far gone and that transformation just can’t happen for you.

Download it. Listen to it again and again. Each time you tap through it you are creating a little more room for hope. Hope is key to taking action.

Pod #163: EFT For Responding To Criticism

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Responding To CriticismDealing with unwanted criticism is hard.

It’s painful in the moment because the attack feels personal, and it often is. After the fact it tends to fester and gnaw at us.

It would be great to believe that we are able to see past the criticism and understand the motivation of the person making it. But it can and does hurt.

And if we aren't willing to deal with that hurt, it will get worse.

Even if you haven't been criticized lately I would encourage you to spend some time with this audio because, if you are like me, there is a piece of criticism that you are still carrying with you.

Can’t Keep Up? 6 Ways to Simplify Your Daily EFT Routine

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SimplifyLearning EFT can be very exciting at first. Tapping is so easy.

Anyone can do it!

It can be done anywhere!

It seems to work for everything!

You download podcasts, tapping scripts, and ebooks. You attend online seminars and sign up for programs. You start working on a personal peace procedure (listing every bad memory you have in your life to tap on in turn). You decide you are going to tap for your health, your relationships, your creativity, and getting a better job.

And then…

It just becomes too much!

[Read more…] about Can't Keep Up? 6 Ways to Simplify Your Daily EFT Routine

Pod #162: EFT For Not Feeling Special

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You Are Not A Special SnowflakeAs much as we would like to believe in ourselves, our actions, and our future there are times when that is really difficult to do.

We can be filled with self-doubt, feeling like we have squandered our opportunities, or that we have made so many mistakes it is hard for us to keep moving forward.

I know I have a great life and most of the time I am very much at peace with who and where I am.

But there are times when I doubt…when I really don't feel like that special snowflake I was told I would be.

Here is one of those moments caught on tape. This is me tapping for not feeling like I am at all special.

I encourage you to tap along with me.

Pod #161: Getting To 100% Yes When Taking Action w/ Steve Wells

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100% Yes!If you type “setting goals” into Google it will return over 450 million results. Study after study has shown how crucial setting goals can be to progress.

But goals aren't enough. They can get you moving down the right path, but we need more to take action consistently.

In this conversation with Steve Wells we talk about how can get in our own way when we are taking action. Often there is a part of our system that is committed to our goal AND at the very same time a part of our system doesn't believe it is safe to take action.

When this happens we find ourselves starting and stopping and not moving forward.

Steve shares how we can discover the true values beneath our goals and how we can use this information to facilitate deep healing. And when we have healed, we can move to taking consistent, powerful action.

Guest: Steve Wells

Contact: web @ EFTDownunder.com

About Steve: Steve Wells is an international leadership coach and peak performance consultant based in Perth, Western Australia. He helps people to overcome the hidden blocks to achieving their goals and getting what they really want from life.

Steve was one of the first to apply tapping to performance enhancement work with elite athletes and to take tapping to the corporate environment. He regularly teaches and consults worldwide with elite sport and business achievers to improve their performance and enhance the performance of their teams.

Steve is co-creator (with Dr David Lake) of the user-friendly tapping approach Simple Energy Techniques (SET) and the unique advanced Energy-based approach Provocative Energy Techniques (PET). He has helped thousands of people through his worldwide personal development and professional training workshops.

Steve is on the faculty of the Curtin University Centre for Entrepreneurship, where he presents to business owners and senior leaders on peak performance and resilience. He is also on the faculty of the Emotional Intelligence Institute. He is co-author of 4 books, including Enjoy Emotional Freedom.

Steve's programs and presentations are always inspiring, engaging and filled with powerful practical strategies you can use immediately to get better results – with less stress. More information on Steve and his programs can be found at eftdownunder.com and stevewells.com.au.

Getting More Help In Clearing The Blocks To Taking Action

If this conversation struck a chord with you, helping you to recognize that there are a number of tappable issues that are holding you back from taking action, I would encourage you to check out the Ruach Center. The Ruach Center was built to help you to identify and clear the blocks to taking action.

He Called Me An Internet Huckster (AKA: Why TappingQ&A Exists)

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You Internet Hucksters!Good Morning,

I recently received another one of those emails when I was selling my Advanced Tapping Training.

It went like this:

“Oh I see how it is! You promise that you are going to give us all this free stuff only so you can sell us products.

I have seen this from other internet hucksters. Your bait and switch isn't going to work on me.

I never want to hear from you again! You should be ashamed!!!!!

It has been a while since I last did this and I thought this was a good prompt to re-explain why TappingQandA.com and this newsletter exist.

So here are the 3 reasons I send these newsletters and one change coming up.

Reason #1: To Provide Good, Useful Content

My hope is that every time I add a resource to TappingQ&A you will find it helpful. That it will help you understand your issues in a new way and that it will help you to grow your tapping skill set.

I know that not everything I create will be useful for everyone on my list. My aim is to listen to you, my readers, so that I am covering the topics that are most useful.

Reason #2: I Learn A Lot

The process of running the website has been an amazing learning experience for me. I have had the chance to interview some of the brightest minds in change work and there have been countless times where I have written a post and then thought, “Wow! I didn't realize I believed that.”

Having to think about what serves you every week is helping me to learn more and grow. I am so much healthier and happier because of this website.

Reason #3: To Grow My Business

Yes, this is in fact a business and livelihood. The only way I am able to create so much free content for the site is because I am able to make money from selling products and services.

The nice thing about the way I have built my business is that it’s dependant upon only a very small percentage of my readers. In most cases when I offer something for sale fewer than 1% of my readers buy it.

That means the odds are that you have never bought anything from me AND that is perfectly fine.

I hope at some point in the future you find an offering that works for you. Until that happens, keep enjoying the free content.

The One Change That Is Coming

I have been looking at the site data from the last few years and I have noticed an interesting trend. When I send emails less frequently, more people unsubscribe and when I send emails more often, people become more engaged.

I know, that seems backwards, but it is what is happening.

To that end you are going to start hearing from me more often. Instead of once a week it will be closer to twice a week.

The good thing is you control whether or not you hear from me. If at any point you no longer want to receive these emails because they are not serving you, all you have to do is click unsubscribe at the top or bottom of the email.

You will never receive another message from me again.

I don't want to send you emails unless you want to receive them. I am happy when people unsubscribe because it means they are controling their time and what is coming into their inbox.

Thanks For Being A Reader

It is really amazing to think that all of this started from a blog that I hosted free of charge in my spare time. I have learned so much from my clients and readers. My life is so much better because TappingQ&A exists.

Please continue to let me know how I can keep serving you in the future. The easiest way to reach me is to hit reply to a note like this.

Blessings,

Gene

Pod #160: The Problem With Empathy

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The Porblem With Empathy[Note: Last change for the 40% the Advanced Tapping Training go here http://bit.ly/gatherdeal]

One of the keys to being an emotionally intelligent human being is understanding what the people around us are feeling and experiencing.

This skill can be particularly useful when we are helping and caring for others.

When it comes to emotional intelligence there is a big difference between empathy and sympathy. Both are can be useful, but for us to be healthy we need to understand the difference between the two and when each is appropriate.

In this podcast we explore the difference between these two approaches, the consequences for using the wrong one, and how to be present in a healthy way to loved ones and clients.

I would love to hear your experience of how you have been successful and unsuccessful with this issue in your own life.

Pod #159: Action, Belief, and Identity – 3 Levels Of Change With Tapping

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Action Belief and IdentityThe things we want to change in our life show up most obviously in the choices we make daily. Because of this it makes the most sense to focus our tapping work on trying to transform these choices.

Even if our tapping is successful in doing this, it is often not enough to make long-term, lasting change. In addition to the choices we make moment to moment, our success is impacted by our beliefs about the world and our self-identity.

In this conversation with Adele Wang I share how we can distinguish between actions, belief, and identity. We also discuss how you can tap on each one to ensure long-term change and transformation.


Adele Wang

Guest Host: Adele Wang

Contact Adele: web @ SafeHavenHealing.net; YouTube @ Adele Wang

About Adele: Adele helps smart and sensitive women break through the stress of perfectionism and overwhelm so they can have better relationships, more professional success and better health. With an energy medicine and EFT background, she works with women to clear anxiety without the use of drugs so they can reclaim their lives and their natural feminine radiance. She is a licensed Art of Feminine Presence instructor, a frequent guest blogger on websites devoted to spirituality and consciousness, an advanced energy healer, and an EFT practitioner. She works with clients via Skype and in person in her office in Atlanta, GA.

Pod #158: Getting Unstuck w/ Carol Look

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Getting-UnstuckI think we all know what it is like to feel stuck. We know what we want to do or we know what we want to change, but for some reason we just can't take action.

There is an obvious cost to being stuck. For every passing moment that we don't change the thing we want changed, we lose that moment and never get it back.

Even more than that being stuck costs us all the emotion and energy we spend on the how we feel about being stuck.

In this interview with Carol Look we talk about the emotional cost of being stuck, how it impacts other parts of our life, and how we can tap for it.

Guest: Dr. Carol Look

Contact: web @ CarolLook.com; twitter @CarolLookEFT;

About Carol: A pioneer in the Energy Psychology field, Dr. Carol Look has brought unprecedented innovations to the application of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), and has produced outstanding results for her clients around the world.

Also, do forget to check out all of Carol's other podcast interviews.

Pod #157: Lovership w/ Rick Wilkes

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lovership-mainI always find my conversations with Rick Wilkes interesting. Of all of the interviews I do they tend to be the least planned because they are much more interesting conversations than they are traditional interviews.

When I email Rick to see what he wanted to chat about this time he replied with the world “lovership”.

My first thought was, “That sounds great!” and then, “I have no idea what that means.”

When Rick uses the word lovership he is talking about how we create relationships (that aren't sexual) in a way that is open, transparent, and in congruence with the other person.

It is somewhere between making choices out of obligation (saying yes or no without thought) and always saying yes to any request a friend has.

It is a state of intentional friendship building.

It is a great conversation that will help you to evaluate if your relationships are serving you.


Rick Wilkes

Guest: Rick Wilkes, LMT

Contact Info: thrivingnow.com, Rick@Thrivingnow.com, 1-828-357-4674 or 1-888-222-3856

Bio: Rick Wilkes is an EFT practitioner based in Asheville, NC. Over the last six years Rick has worked with more than 1500 clients. He works regularly with individuals and with his Thriving Now Groups.

Here's what one of Rick's loyal clients says: “Working with Rick Wilkes both privately and on team calls has helped me greatly to release the past, move more confidently into the future, and mostly to be more joyfully present in the now. Rick’s open-hearted broader perspective, amazing intuition, and great sense of humor always help me to get right to the core and effectively reframe whatever issue I have. Listening to him work with others has helped me to get in touch with stuff I didn’t even know was there and inspired me in my own work with others. It is a blessing and honor to work with such a master.”

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They Would Arrest You If They Could Hear Your Thoughts

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If-They-Could-Hear-Your-ThoughtsA number of years ago Andy Hunt wrote an interesting article on his site Practical Wellbeing that has stuck with me.

In Self-Hate Speech he looks at the hate speech laws of the UK and asked the question of how would law enforment respond to you if they heard the words you thought about yourself.

I don't know about you, but I am certainly capable of thinking some nasty things about myself.

In addition to thinking nasty, hateful things about ourselves, for some reason we also give those thoughts much more weight than the positive thoughts..

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