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One of the most powerful tools in my own learning as a practitioner has been listening to other practitioners working with real clients on real issues. It is a great chance to see how a skilled practitioner takes concepts I understand intellectually and apply them in real world situations.
In this unique audio you have the opportunity to hear me working one-on-one with a real client. As well as hearing me tap with my client, you’ll hear my additional commentary explaining my choices and my thought process in the moment.
You can find the full tapping script as a pdf of this audio over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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Thanks for taking part in the November 30-Day Tapping Challenge! If you liked today’s video, please share it with a friend.
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Thanks for taking part in the November 30-Day Tapping Challenge! If you liked today’s video, please share it with a friend.
Don’t forget to sign up to receive daily reminders so that you don’t miss a day of tapping.
Thanks for taking part in the November 30-Day Tapping Challenge! If you liked today’s video, please share it with a friend.
Don’t forget to sign up to receive daily reminders so that you don’t miss a day of tapping.
For me, loneliness is one of the toughest emotions.
The sense of disconnection that comes with feeling lonely almost feels like we are losing touch with our own humanity. That swirling black hole of emotion seems to keep pulling us in ever deeper.
One of the hardest parts of loneliness is feeling it even when we are surrounded by others. Here is the tapping that I do when I feel lonely.
You can find the full tapping script of this audio in pdf form over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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Everyday in the month of November I am going to be posting a new tap-along video.
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It is no fun when we feel hurt by what someone else says or does. In many cases these hurtful words or actions are unintentional, and others may be completely unaware that they have hurt us.
Even though it wasn’t their intention to cause us pain, we feel hurt nonetheless.
In this podcast we explore the best way to respond when we are hurt by the words or actions of others.
You can find the full tapping script as a pdf of this audio over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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Sometimes it’s hard to know where to start tapping on an issue.
We know tapping will help. We know that we just need to start. But we don’t quite know where to start. Our emotions feel like a knotty, tangled up necklace, with no obvious place to begin.
In this week’s audio I have the perfect way to start tapping for an issue when you don’t know where to begin. It’s particularly useful for helping us to tap when we are feeling stuck about taking action.
I encourage you to listen to find out how to tap for:
The beautiful thing about this process is that after you listen to it just once, you will be able to use it any time you sit down to tap.
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Tapping is a powerful tool that can be used to clear a huge range of issues, even those that have plagued us for years.
Starting to make better choices feels great and allows positive change to seep into every part of our daily lives.
At a certain point we almost forget about the issue because it seems like a distant memory.
But then: WHAM! Out of nowhere we are right back in the middle of the old issue, emotions, or belief.
We feel bad because of what we are experiencing AND we feel bad because we feel we’ve failed by falling back into our old behavior.
That happened to me recently. Something I thought I had cleared snuck back up on me.
In this audio I share how that can happen and what we can do to respond to backsliding on issues we thought we had cleared for good.
You can find the full tapping script as a pdf of this audio over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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I pride myself on being a thoughtful and helpful person. I like to believe that I am good at living up to my commitments.
Most of the time this is true.
BUT I am also human and I do make mistakes and unintentionally let people down.
This week I have a very simple tap-along audio (and tapping script) to deal with those times in which we feel shame for letting others down.
You can find the full tapping script as a pdf of this audio over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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In my client sessions over the last few weeks I have found myself repeatedly saying that there are four reasons why we sabotage ourselves and stand in the way of taking the action we know we want to take.
Without exception my clients respond with, “Wait! I want to write this down.”
So here are those four reasons written down for you:
There are practical and emotional reasons that can show up in each of these four areas.
In this week’s podcast I walk through all of these AND how you can start tapping for them.
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In my early years of tapping I was super eager to share tapping with everyone I possibly could.
Over time I learned that it was best to share tapping (or anything for that matter) only with people who are actually open to learning something new.
A number of years ago I was on a flight from Los Angeles to Chicago and ended up in a conversation with a fellow passenger that led to us doing a tapping session right there on the flight.
Here are the twelve lessons I took away from the experience that might help you when you are tapping on your own, tapping with others, or are in a situation where you might be able to share tapping with others.
You will find a written version of the twelve lessons below the player.
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I was recently on a flight from LA to Chicago. For the last 45 minutes of the flight I ended up tapping with the woman seated next to me. I think there are a number of lessons that can be learned from this session.
Here is what happened and what I noticed:
What lead to this encounter?
When I boarded the flight, both of my seatmates were already seated. I was on the aisle. The woman in the middle seat, “Rachel”, didn’t even look up to make eye contact when I sat down. For most of the first three and half hours of the flight she slept and in the moments she was awake she didn’t say a single word to anyone.
When I left my seat to use the restroom I tossed my notebook on to my seat. The front of the notebook has the crest of the “National Guild of Hypnotists” on it and I noticed that Rachel read it when it hit the seat.
When I returned to my seat she asked, “Are you a hypnotist?” I told her I was and she asked if I could use hypnosis to get people to stop smoking. I told her that I had done lots of work with smoking cessation in the past. She asked, “Can you hypnotize me right now so I can stop smoking?”
What she knew?
I told her that this wasn’t the ideal situation to hypnotize someone. It would be possible, but there was a much easier way for us to create change. I told her there was this odd tapping thing we could do.
She said, “Oh yeah, my mom does that and she has tried to get me to do it in the past.” She then demonstrated tapping on a number the tapping points.
I simply asked if she wanted to give it a try and she readily agreed.
What might have felt unsafe?
Obviously this was not like my normal client sessions. Instead of being in the comfort of my office, or working over the phone with a client who is in familiar surroundings, we were in a very public place. As many as fifteen people could very easily have overheard our conversation if they wanted to listen in. Also, because I had no history with Rachel, no intake information, and no rapport built, I knew that I needed to tread gingerly.
It was obvious she was very motivated to do work, but I didn’t want to put her in an uncomfortable position of saying something that might make her feel unsafe with me or in this public place. As much as I would have liked to have done some regression work to get back to early memories that were at the root of the issue, I needed to make sure that I kept her comfortable and safe. Also, I didn’t want to put her off tapping. If she had an uncomfortable experience, then she might not come back to it ever again.
What did she notice?
To start with I had Rachel tune into the sense of craving. For someone who normally smokes a cigarette every fifteen minutes, it was easy to find the craving after being on the flight for over three hours.
Once she was tuned into the craving I had her spend a few moments offering some thanks for the craving. The craving itself wasn’t good for her, but there was a reason the craving was there.
I had her tap on:
Even though I can’t see why the craving is helping…and I know the smoking isn’t good for me…there is a reason my system has the craving…and the system thinks it has a good reason for this craving…I am glad the system is trying to care for me in this way…even if I don’t like the way it is doing it.
I then asked her how the craving felt. Rachel reported that it was a little calmer and she felt much less frustrated with her craving for cigarettes. I then had her ask of the craving sensation, “Now that you recognize that it might be trying to help you, why is it trying to help you?”
She said it was like comfort food.
I then had her ask it, “In what way is this craving trying to comfort you?” She said it was to stop the anxiety.
The Solar Plexus
Once we had tuned into the fact that the smoking was creating a sense of comfort from anxiety, I had Rachel tune into where that anxiety lived in her body. She said, “Here in my stomach” and pointed. She didn’t point to her stomach, but to her solar plexus.
The Color Yellow
Once Rachel had let me know that the emotion was referencing her solar plexus I had her tune into that space and to imagine the color yellow filling the space. When an issue is located in the solar plexus, it often has a lot to do with self-esteem issues and this is the location of the third chakra, which is associated with the color yellow.
I had Rachel tap until she felt the space had enough yellow. When she reported there was enough yellow for now she also said that she was feeling much calmer.
Repeat, Repeat, Repeat
For the next twenty minutes I had her imagine smoking again and again. First, I had her just think about a cigarette. Once we tapped away all the symptoms and emotions I had her do it again. Each time she thought of smoking I had her think about smoking a little more and a little more, such as adding in lighting a cigarette and taking a drag. I had her imagine she was walking off the flight and going to the smoking lounge. I had her imagine the smell of the smoke coming from the lounge and seeing the other smokers.
Each time we added a new detail I would get Rachel to tune into the emotions and physical sensations again. We would tap on what was happening until it was gone and then repeated the process.
“I don’t believe you!”
The process of repeating again and again can get a little boring for a client. It can be frustrating to see the same symptoms continue to pop up. From my point of view I could see we were making progress because it was taking longer and longer with each image before the symptoms would appear, but to the client it could look very much the same: think of smoking and feel a craving.
I could tell Rachel was starting to get bored with the process. When I asked her to tune in one more time and asked her if she noticed the craving she said, “No”, but right before she said it she did something interesting: she licked her lips. It was a physical sign that the craving was coming up.
So I simply said, “I don’t believe you. What symptoms do you notice now?” She laughed and shared what she was feeling.
“What if I smoke a cigarette today…does that mean I failed?”
After doing 45 minutes of work she had made some great progress. We weren’t finished, but considering the magnitude of the work and the very public setting, we had done some amazing work. As we walked off the flight I asked her how she was doing.
She said, “I feel great. Normally after a long flight like this I would be in a cold sweat. But I have one question…if I smoke a cigarette later today does it mean I have failed?”
I explained, “No, you would not have failed!” and we then had a longer conversation about how the chemicals from the cigarettes were working as a way of taking the edge off her emotional state. More work might be needed, but she now had a tool to deal with the cravings when they came up. I reassured her that even if she only remembered to tap for one out of every four cigarettes, then she would be smoking twelve to sixteen few less cigarettes a day. That is huge.
Staying Connected
Right before Rachel left the airport to meet her ride, I gave her my email address and told her, “I have a number of scripts and audios that you can tap along to for smoking. If you send me an email I will send you all these resources.”
She smiled knowing that she had support in this and went on her way.
She might become a reader of my blog, she might refer a friend to me, she might become a client in the future, or I might never hear from her again. The act of offering her some free resources was intended to help her with no strings attached, but it could turn into something else. If we want to help more people and grow our practice, we must be willing to reach out to people so they know how to find us in the future.
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When people unsubscribe from my mailing list they have the opportunity to leave a comment.
I recently received a really interesting comment from someone who was unsubscribing from my list. She wrote:
“I am very busy at the moment and I don’t have time to practice, so I feel stressed out.”
I find that a fascinating comment. She is saying that her life feels so out of control that the thought of doing something that will make it better (like tapping) is too overwhelming!
The reason she isn’t willing to take the time to tap? It’s not because she doesn’t have the time or know how.
The reason is because she isn’t in enough pain.
I’m serious.
In the podcast I explain why being in pain can be a really positive thing AND how we can cultivate this pain to help us to take action.
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My first memory of using EFT on my own was getting rid of one of the most profound headaches I had ever had in about 90 seconds. My second big moment was dealing with my social anxiety.
It makes sense that this is what I thought EFT was all about because in both cases I felt SO much better.
But there will be times when using tapping only as a way to feel better will do us a disservice because it impacts the action we take.
This week I explore the two different types of outcomes that come from tapping and how to make sure we get the outcome that makes the most sense for the issue we are tapping on.
Trying again where we have failed in the past is one of the hardest things to do.
I was recently faced with wanting to do something that didn’t go well in the past. It wasn’t that it went badly, but it was far from as successful as I would have liked, so I was hesitant about trying again.
Here is an audio of me tapping in real time for this issue. You will hear me tapping for the issue and then processing each round of tapping to see what needs to be tapped on next.
The tapping produces a useful tapping script and also shows you how I process through issues in real time.
I would love your feedback on the tapping and to know if you find it helpful.
You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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Theoretically we all want to be our authentic selves and show up in the world as we actually are.
But for most of us it’s just not that simple. From past experience we have learned that there are some situations where others don’t understand us, or we have been judged harshly for being our authentic selves.
That makes us reluctant to present ourselves in a way that will be judged by others.
In truth, being our authentic selves is not an all-or-nothing proposition. We can choose how much of ourselves to share, with whom we share it, and when we share it. This will ensure we are doing in a way that is safe for us.
This week I have a tap-along audio and tapping script that will help you to feel safe as you find the ways in which you want to share your authentic self.
You can find the full tapping script as a pdf of this audio over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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As many of you know, I also run the member site the Ruach Center. Every day members of the site receive an email from me with a link to a tap-along audio that is designed to conquer self-sabotaging behavior.
Recently, as I was recording one of those audios, I personally experienced a huge emotional shift.
This tap-along is about connecting to and appreciating all parts of our being and our experience. Even though the audio and script are short, it will make you feel more grounded right away.
I thought it would be a great thing to share with everyone, not just the site members.
I hope you find it as powerful as did.
You can find the full tapping script as a pdf of this audio over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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Tapping is a tool that is both relatively simple to learn and implement, but deceptively complicated to master.
The basics of tapping are easy to explain. So much so that I have given full instructions on the basics in under five minutes on the back of a bar napkin.
At the same time, tapping effectively for a particular issue can require much subtlety and nuance and sometimes we need the help of an outside practitioner to be successful. That’s why, despite being an experienced tapper and practitioner myself, I regularly work with a practitioner on my own issues.
One of the biggest mistakes people make when tapping is choosing the wrong starting point for their issue. When this happens, progress is slow and relief is hard to find.
Here is a simple process that I use to ensure that I am using the best starting point for my tapping.
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The basics of tapping are so simple that they can be taught in mere minutes.
But just because tapping is simple, doesn’t mean that effective tapping is easy. There is so much more to it than knowing the tapping points.
In this short audio I explain three simple ideas to keep in mind before you tap to help you to get the most out of your tapping sessions. Each of the three ideas comes with a short tap-along to help you execute them.
I would love to hear how this works for you. Let me know your results down in the comment section.
You can find the full tapping script as a pdf of this audio over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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