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Pod #450: Tapping For Loved Ones We Struggle With

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Family is complicated. Because they are family we want what is best for them. But at the same time we put up with more from them than we'd put up with from others because they are family. We will allow our family to say and do things that we would not tolerate from anyone else in our lives.

This can cause an internal conflict. How can we be a loving family member whilst at the same time not want to be around the person?

This week's podcast explores and taps for:

  • family relationships
  • how to want what is best for them
  • how to claim the space we need for our safety and well-being

Even if you have a great relationship with your family, there will be some parts of the relationship you find frustrating.

You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.

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Accept That My Emotions Are Not My Enemy – Video

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One of the main reasons that we tap is to reduce or eliminate negative emotions, but that doesn't necessarily mean that negative emotions are bad. Emotions are just information coming from our internal guidance system.

Tap along with this short video to help you to establish a better relationship with your negative emotions, moving from thinking of them as an enemy that needs to be eliminated, to being able to recognize them for what they are, a useful source of information.

This will promote good emotional health and also improve your knowledge of how to use tapping efficiently.

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Pod #449: Tapping For Self-Forgiveness

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One of the most difficult parts of the healing process is being able to forgive ourselves.

It's common to believe that if we forgive ourselves, we are letting ourselves off the hook and failing to take responsibility for our past choices.

Self-forgiveness is actually the opposite of this. Being able to move to a place of forgiveness means we are taking responsibility for the past and making sure it stays in the past. When we don't forgive, we're just reliving the past over and over again.

This tap-along audio is a recording of one of my client sessions where we were tapping on the idea of self-forgiveness. I was given permission by my client to use this recording and I have also removed his voice from the audio. This will allow you to tap along as if I were tapping with you.

You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.

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Pod #448: Tapping For Feeling Emotionally Taxed

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These uncertain times mean that our emotional guidance system is on overdrive. It is working nonstop to keep us safe because it's dealing with the unknown.

That means we're expending energy all day long in the background as our emotional system tries to protect us. It's like we are starting off every day paying a 20% emotion tax, meaning that we only have 80% of our usual reserves and resilience.

This podcast explores:

  • the impact of the 20% emotion tax
  • how to structure your work and to-do lists accordingly
  • what are reasonable expectations at this time
  • how to tap to manage this situation

I also share the tapping I have been doing first thing in the morning to get the most out of each day.

You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.

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Permission To Care For Myself – Video

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Those who are interested in learning tools such as tapping are often the types of people who are thoughtful and caring. Those are wonderful qualities, but can be taken too far if we put everyone else's needs before our own.

Because this is the case, we (and I am using “we” because I do this too) often don't take the time to care for ourselves or feel bad when we do. Tap along to this short video to ensure that you take the time to take good care of yourself.

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Pod #447: Tapping To Feel Worthy To Be Here

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One of the most common issues I uncover in my client sessions is the feeling of not being worthy to be here.

It's seldom the main issue my clients present when we start working together, but as we work we find instances from their past where they felt dismissed or ignored by the people who were important to them.

This creates a feeling of not believing you are worthy to be here at this moment. Here is a simple tap-along that will help you to recognize that you are worthy and valuable!

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Pod #446: Tapping To Move From Emergency to Urgency

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The most primitive part of our emotional guidance system is our fear response. Fear's primary goal is to keep us from dying. I know that sounds like an overstatement, but this is exactly how it functions.

Of course it's good that part of our internal guidance is on alert and doesn't want us to die, but in the modern word just because we fear something doesn't mean there are fatal consequences.

Because of this, our fear can often get out of proportion. When we are acting out of fear we don't make the best choices. Sometimes we just freeze and don't do anything at all.

At the same time, we don't want to be so casual that we become careless.

When I am in a pressured situation my goal is to move from fear to urgency. When I am feeling a sense of urgency I understand that I need to act decisively. While fear makes us feel stuck, urgency gives us focused energy to take action.

Here is a simple tap-along to help move you from a state of fear to one of urgency.

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Becoming Aware Of Your Feelings – Video

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Do you find yourself floating through some days completely disconnected from your emotions? It can be a useful way to get through tricky or boring days, but over the long term it isn't a healthy approach.

Here's a tapping video to help you reconnect with your emotions without feeling overwhelmed.

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Pod #445: Tapping To Move Beyond Bad Choices From The Past

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While past choices may have contributed to your present, they do not mean that what comes next is predetermined.

It is all too easy to feel trapped by both past choices and your current situation BUT they do not define who we are or who we can choose to be.

In this short tapping audio we place ourselves at a fresh starting point. This audio is lifted directly from a client session, with my client's permission. I have also edited out my client's voice so that you can tap along as if you are working one-on-one with me.

This is the perfect type of audio to use to start your day! Try using it daily for a week or two and see what shifts you notice.

You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.

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Pod #444: Tapping Over Grief For Lost Opportunities

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Grief is a much more common emotion than we might think. It is obvious that we feel grief when a loved one dies, or when an important relationship or job ends.

In reality, grief shows up any time we experience a loss. This could be for an opportunity, an ability, or even something as simple as a predictable daily routine.

For the large changes it is easy to recognize grief. For smaller changes it is much harder. We often dismiss the feelings of grief as agitation, tiredness, or just being off kilter.

As our daily lives have changed so radically with the COVID-19 pandemic, it's likely that we are feeling much more grief than we realize.

Last year I interviewed Lynne Staley, an expert on grief, on how to identify grief and I think that now would be a great time to revisit that podcast.

Use this week's simple tap-along audio and script to help you deal with the grief you are feeling right for your loss of normalcy.

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Allowing Others To Make Their Own Life Decisions – Video

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Do you sometimes catch yourself thinking “If people just did what I said, then it will be easier for everyone”?! Even though I'm pretty sure that you know it isn't true, it's a tempting thought.

Here is a tapping video to help you to release the desire to control the choices and lives of others.

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Pod #443: Tapping To Accept God’s Unconditional Love

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When I was younger I had a hard time accepting the idea that God could love me unconditionally. I believed that I had to earn God's unconditional love.

Meaning that I wasn't understanding that unconditional means unconditional, aka it doesn't have to be earned!

Here's an audio from a client session where we tapped for accepting unconditional love. My client gave me permission to use this recording and I have removed his voice so you can tap along as if you were tapping one-on-one with me.

You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.

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Pod #442: What I learned about tapping from Dolly Parton

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Sometimes we find inspiration in the strangest places. A few weeks ago I attended the On Air Fest, an event for podcast creators and podcast fans.

One of my favorite presentations was given by Shima Oliaee who was one of the producers for Dolly Parton's America.

During the presentation Shima shared a number of lessons she learned from interviewing Dolly and working on the project. Dolly is clearly a woman who feels deeply. When talking about how she deals with positive and negative emotions she said, “When I feel an emotion I am fully committed to it.”

This week's podcast explores what being “fully committed” to our emotions means and how we can use this idea to get more out of our tapping.

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Choosing Quality Over Quantity! – Video

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Having more isn't always best! It is often healthier for us to choose experiences, opportunities, and friendships that are of high quality.

This tap-along video will help you to make choices based on quality, not quantity.

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Pod #441: Tapping For Second Wave Emotions During COVID-19

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Our initial emotional response to a major crisis like the COVID-19 pandemic is with feelings of shock, worry, and overwhelm.

At a certain point, the initial shock wears off and we move on to what I call second wave emotions that arise as we contemplate what is next and the future.

Here are 7 tap-along audios for second wave emotions. They are:

  • Going stir-crazy (4:42)
  • Not having any personal space (7:44)
  • Feeling isolated and alone (10:40)
  • Mourning the loss of many activities we love (14:52)
  • Not feeling motivated to do anything (18:24)
  • Frustrated with all the extra steps we have added to our daily routine (23:06)
  • Tired of everyone only wanting to talk about COVID-19 (26:33)

If you'd like to jump to the tapping for one particular issue listed, you can go directly to that section by using the timestamp above. For example, if you wanted to tap for the second issue, not having any personal space, you would find it at 7 minutes and 44 seconds in the player below.

Make sure you check out the full list of tapping resources from around the web, which is being updated all the time. Currently I am adding many resources for second wave emotions.

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Learning To Accept Fear And Worry – Video

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Worry and fear are facts of life. Tapping is a great tool to use to reduce our fear, but there will inevitably be times when we can't completely eliminate it.

This tap-along video will help you to be in the middle of fear and worry without being overcome by it.

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Pod #440: Even More Tapping For Worry And Stress In The Face Of COVID-19

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After sharing 40 minutes of tapping on Friday I asked my listeners and readers what other topics would be useful for me to cover.

In today's new audio we tap for the following topics:

  • Fear of the unknown (4:13)
  • Fear about how long this will last (7:24)
  • Fear for our most vulnerable loved ones (10:24)
  • Feeling like life is out of control (13:17)
  • Sorrow over the loss of normalcy (17:04)
  • The physical and emotional fatigue from the constant worry (21:35)
  • Worry about not having enough supplies (25:43)
  • Negative thoughts that are distracting us from our work and our creativity (29:37)

If you'd like to jump to the tapping for one particular issue listed, you can go directly to that section by using the timestamp above. For example, if you wanted to tap for the second issue, fear about how long this will last, you would find it at 7 minutes and 24 seconds in the player below.

Make sure you check out the full list of tapping resources from around the web.

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Free Tapping Resources From Around The Web Responding To COVID-19

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Here is a growing list of tapping resources from practitioners all over the world.

The resources below are grouped by topic to make it easier to find what you need. There are two types of emotions when dealing with situations like this. They are what I am calling first wave emotions and second wave emotions.

The first wave emotions are the worry and anxiety we feel right at the beginning of a crisis. The second wave emotions are the emotions we feel after we have recovered from the initial shock and move on to worrying about what will happen next and the future.

The two audio players below are tapping for first wave and second wave emotions and I encourage you to start there. Then scroll down the page to find more specific resources to meet your needs.

A few things to remember:

  • Wash your hands thoroughly before tapping.
  • Tapping is not a replacement for proper medical care. If you are feeling sick please follow local guidelines about how and when to contact medical professionals.

If you know of other free resources that should be included in this list, please let me know

8 Tap-Alongs For First Wave Emotions

The audio below contains 8 different tap-alongs for different issues. You can see the full list of issues as well as time stamps so you can jump directly to the part of the audio you want >> by going here <<.

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7 Tap-Alongs For Second Wave Emotions

The audio below contains 7 different tap-along audios for different issues. You can see a full list as well as time stamps so you can jump directly to the part of the audio you want >> by going here <<.

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More tapping resources from around the web, grouped by topic:

Tapping Basics

Stress And Overwhelm

Immune System Support AND Physical Issues

Sleep Issues

Stress Eating

Loss and Grief

Dealing With The Unknown

Financial Worries

Moving Forward In A Positive Way

On-Line Group Tapping Replays

Make sure you are keeping an eye on your loved ones. Let me know how I can be helpful.

Pod #439: More Tapping For Worry And Stress In The Face Of COVID-19

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You might not know that I am the lead coach in a program called the Transformational BizClub (BizClub for short) which is a program run by my friend Pamela Bruner. The BizClub is set up to help business owners grow their businesses through strategic help and mindset work (lots of tapping).

On Friday morning in our Facebook group there were a number of members who were, rightly, sharing their concerns about what is going on in the world and with their businesses. Pamela and I thought a bonus group call that afternoon to do some tapping would be helpful for the group.

So that’s exactly what we did AND I asked Pamela if I could share the audio with you and she immediately agreed.

We tapped on:

  • Worry about our personal health
  • Worry about the health of our loved ones
  • Feeling overwhelmed by the news
  • Thinking about doing work is being insensitive to others
  • Thinking that our work and day to day is unimportant in troubled times
  • Not knowing what to do because our plans have had to change
  • Trying to be thoughtful without making everything into a catastrophe
  • Having to deal with the overwhelming fear of others

It is almost 40 minutes of tapping.

The audio is from a Zoom recording so it doesn't sound like the normal podcast, but it is still a great tool for you to tap along to.

For more information about the BizClub visit CoachWithPamela.com.

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Pod #438: Tapping For Panic About Global Issues

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At the time of the recording of this podcast the COVID-19 virus is starting to impact daily life around the world. The number of cases is spreading. Sporting events are being canceled. People are being encouraged not to travel.

Because of the constant stream of news and information on our social media feeds, it is easy to feel panicked.

This panic is rooted in two factors. The first is the fear about getting sick. The second is the fear caused by knowing we can't do anything about the big picture problem. It's as if it is something that is slowly creeping towards us and we are powerless to stop it.

This week I have for you a simple tap-along audio and script to help you to feel calm in the face of a global problem that we don't feel like we can do anything about.

[Note: Here is a tap-along audio and script to help you to stay healthy. If you are feeling sick, make sure you reach out to your primary care provider. Tapping is a great tool to augment and support your health, but should not be the only tool you use.]

You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.

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