I often hear from frustrated clients because they have tapped for an issue, but they haven't made any progress. When this happens they question whether tapping can help. The reality is that in many of these cases the issue isn’t whether tapping will work, but instead what is the best way to tap for an issue. This week I have for you a simple four-step process to ensure you are tapping in the most effective way to get to the root cause of an issue. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | ...
For me, one of the hardest feelings is that of feeling like an outsider. When you are in a room full of people, feeling like you don’t belong and your head spins with imagining what everyone is thinking about you - and NONE of it is good! Last weekend I found myself feeling exact this way - even though I know that, in reality, most people are far too caught up in their own lives to spend much time worrying about or judging me. Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script for when you find ...
It can tough to see our loved ones making choices that aren't serving them well. Because we have distance from their situation, we are able to see the bigger picture in that way that they cannot. What can be even more difficult is that often they are so deeply entangled in the issue that they aren't able to hear our our advice. This week I have for you a simple process that you can tap to when you are wanting better for someone in your life. While remaining responsible for their own actions, ...
Sometimes I put off tapping because I don't feel I have enough time for an in-depth tapping session. But often you don't need much time to make a huge difference to how you are feeling. Recently I had a small physical issue that was more of an inconvenience than the cause of any great pain. I never thought to tap for it because it was so small. Eventually I got around to tapping for it, which was really effective and I couldn’t believe I’d waited so long! Here’s the simple three-step process I ...
Many of our beliefs are held at a subconscious level and some of them do not serve us well. They may be inaccurate in the way we describe ourselves, our relationships, and the world and this inaccuracy causes us problems in daily life because subconsciously we believe them to be true. Once we identify these beliefs we can then use tapping to transform them into a clearer reflection of the way the world works. Beliefs that have been passed on to us by our loved ones are particularly hard to ...
For some reason, certain situations and certain people just push our buttons, despite knowing logically that our response is irrational and shouldn't elicit as much emotion as we feel. In this week's podcast I share with you a simple 7-step process you can use when you are having your buttons pushed. In the audio I also share with you how you can get a free printed version of this tool (and 13 others). Support the podcast! ...
Our relationships are living, breathing organisms, alive with the constant dynamic of give and take. At times there is a lot more give than take. This can affect our feelings about the relationship, about the other person in the relationship, and can even have a detrimental effect on our other relationships At this year's Spring Energy Event, held just outside NYC, I shared how our relationships impact us and 5 simple tools you can use to cultivate healthier, stronger relationships. This ...
In last week's podcast I talked about (and shared the scientific evidence) as to why it can be useful to swear while tapping. Even if we accept that swearing is useful, it doesn't necessarily mean that we are comfortable doing it. When I say uncomfortable I don't mean in terms of using swear words. Instead, we may feel bad because we are angry at all. Anger feels like such a strong and primitive emotion that we may believe that we should be above it and feeling angry represents some sort of ...
Did you know that swearing is good for you? And I don't mean just swearing for the sake of it, but there are a number of contexts in which scientific research has shown it is actually good for you. It can help to manage pain, build comradery, and release stress. It can also be a powerful tool in helping you to tune into your emotions while tapping. Recently Emma Byrne combined her own research into the power of using curse words with the large body of other research on the same subject into a ...
One of the situations that my clients struggle with the most is dealing with the expectations of their loved ones. Our loved ones want what is best for us, but they want what is best of us in terms of what they think will make us happy. Often what they think will make us happy and what will actually make us happy are totally different. Difficulties arise when going against the expectations of our loved ones feels like a violation of the relationship and the trust inside it. When we fear ...
We all know that tapping is a powerful tool when we are in pain, distress, and discomfort. Did you know it can also be a useful tool when we are celebrating success? The reason for this is because it is common to feel a number of negative emotions at the exact same time as feeling happy and successful. It is possible to feel: That we are not worthy of success Uncomfortable in the spotlight of attention that success can bring Under pressure to always be successful Anxious that our ...
Recently I was listening to the actor and comedian Dan Van Kirk being interviewed on Kevin Pollak's Chat Show podcast. Dan told the story of his career path, moving from rural Illinois to LA, then to Chicago, and finally back to LA where he ultimately found success. Dan described the choices he made early in his career and why he made them: I have this thing, if it's not true north, get the arrow going that direction as much as you can. Conan O'Brien was on Charlie Rose...and he said "Identify ...
Sharing EFT/Tapping with our loved ones can be a difficult task, mostly because it is kind of weird. Talking about tapping in a way that others will listen to is a skill. This week I have a conversation with someone who has mastered this conversation. Robin Bilazarian is a licensed mental health professional who has been tapping with her clients for over 20 years. In addition to her private practice she currently works 20 hours a week serving the staff of an urban hospital. Because of the ...
As much as we would like to share tapping with our friends and family, it is not something that we can share with young children. Young children do not have the focus and ability to tap, and infants are clearly unable. This does not mean that they can't benefit from tapping because it is possible for us to tap on their behalf, which is known as “surrogate tapping”. In this conversation Dawn Pensack and I talk about the fundamentals of surrogate tapping and best ways to do it for the children ...
In our modern world it is so easy to become disconnected from our bodies, especially as most of us spend our days seated at desks, rather than engaged in any kind of physical labor. When we take the time to tune into our bodies, we can access a wealth information that we can use to improve our health and wellbeing. In this conversation Deborah Miller and I talk about how we can better tune into our physical bodies, how to interpret physical sensations, and then how to respond with tapping to ...
Recently I made a mistake and I hurt my friend "Dave". That mistake caused him a lot of trouble. In addition to being mad at me for making the mistake (which he had every right to be), Dave was also mad at me because he thought I had taken advantage of him. Because I knew him so well, he thought I’d used that knowledge against him to get what I wanted. It simply wasn't true. I had made a mistake, but I hadn't done anything malicious or intentional. Dave didn’t give me a chance to explain ...
A few weeks ago in Podcast 299 I shared with you a simple way to use intentions at the beginning of every day as gentle way of taking more positive action throughout the day. I heard from a number of clients who tried the process and struggled to use it. One described how when she sat down to tap, she completely went blank. Not just for the tapping phrases, but she couldn't remember the type of progress she wanted to achieve. As unbelievable as it might seem, our system can put up resistance ...
Sometimes we tap with the aim of just feeling better, without a clear focus for our tapping. We might feel unsettled or out of sorts, but not in a precise way. From a tapping point of view this can pose a problem because often the best results come when we are very specific about an issue. When this happens to me, I have a simple way to tap for peace, calm, and tranquility. Here is a tap-along audio that’s perfect for those times and will help bring you peace. (Full tapping script below the ...
Quit has become a dirty word. American football coach Vince Lombardi is credited with saying that "Winners never quit and quitters never win!" Early in the movie "Molly's Game" (based on the life of Molly Bloom) there is a flashback to Molly’s childhood and a session training to be a competitive skier. After hours of training she asks her father (who is also her coach) if she can quit because she is tired. Her father replies that she can quit only after she gives him a synonym for tired. She ...
The beginning of a new year provides a great opportunity to reset and refocus. Even though I am not the biggest fan of New Year's resolutions, I have found a way to make a small commitment to tapping each day that is making huge changes in the way that I behave and feel. In this audio I share with you how I have used tapping for a simple intention at the beginning of my day to create this change. The reason I love this process so much is because it doesn't require a complicated plan. It ...