Tag Archives: Words

When we say we have no choice then we have no choice. But is doesn’t have to be this way. Look at how it is possible to change the way you use the phrase “no choice” and change your outcomes.

Simplifying your life can be very refreshing, but it can be hard to get the motivation to start. Here is some simple tapping that you can do to start moving your way to finding your inspiration and motivation to simplify.

It is very en vogue to talk about how our thoughts create our reality. This can be good when we it encourages us to think about what we want and how it will improve our lives. This can be destructive when we start beating ourselves up over what our life looks like because we have “created” it. In my mind it isn’t this black and white. Join me as well look at the difference between creating and being responsible.

One of the phrases I hear frequently from clients is “I don’t deserve…” When we believe we don’t deserve something then we are going to prevent ourselves from getting it. It doesn’t matter if it is a better job, a loving relationship, or better health. If we don’t feel we deserve it then we aren’t going to move forward. In this reflection we look at how changing the way we understand the word “deserve” can change the way we heal.

I have a real problem with the word “fix”. It means that something is broken. There are a number of draw back to looking at any issue or part of our life as broken. In this audio (with full transcript) we look at the key differences between fix and transform.

Sometimes the words we use to describe a problem do not prove to be helpful in the process of us getting what we really want or need. Here is a perfect example of asking the wrong question about our situation and how we can easily change the question to make a big difference. . .

Even though we know that when we say we “need” something we are really saying we “really want” something it can still lead to problems. The subconscious mind takes these need statements as absolutes which it must live up to. In this article we examine how “needs” can get us in trouble and how a simple change of language can accelerate our healing.

One of the common mistakes we make when assessing a situation is making a generalizations. We say things like, “Everyone at work hates me!” or “Nothing I do is good enough for my boss!” It is obvious with a few moments of reflection that these statements aren’t true. Sure, there might be one or two people at work we don’t get along with, but it is not “everyone”.

The problem with these types of generalizations is they move us to a place were we are responding to them as if they were true. (The words we say out loud have that much power.)

If I walk into my workplace believing that everyone hates me I am going to act in a particular way. If I walk into my workplace believing that I don’t get along with Bill and Mary. I am going to act in a different way.

I think being selfish gets are really bad rap. Most people think that being selfish is bad. We are taught we must not be selfish, but instead we must be giving. I personally don’t believe these things are opposite.