When I am working with clients I pay particular attention to the words they use to describe what they are experiencing. That's because more often than not our emotional response is informed by how we describe what is going on, rather than what is actually going on. To that end I have created a number of resources to help you decode the language you (or your clients) are using. In this audio, you will hear me working with one of my clients as we discuss the difference between and "fix" and ...
Recently I was working with a client who was frustrated with the process of tapping. He felt angry. The process went like this: he felt angry he tapped for the angerhe felt bettersome time would passhe felt angry again Dealing with the same issue over and over again had him feeling incredibly frustrated. As we did some work, it emerged that his anger was a symptom of a much deeper issue. The tapping for the anger was helpful in the short term, but since it wasn't the core issue, it ...
There is a part of our subconscious mind that wants to remember all of our mistakes. It believes that if we keep coming back to these mistakes again and again, then we won't repeat those mistakes. In reality, when we beat ourselves up like this, we do exactly the opposite. Instead, we shy away from taking new actions to avoid beating ourselves up again in the future. That's why forgiving ourselves for past mistakes makes it easier for us to make good choices in the future. Did you know you ...
We know that the most effective way to tap is when we are able to be as specific as possible with the issue at hand. But a common misconception about this idea is that tapping is only useful if we are specific. But that is not what the statement above says. It says "as specific as possible". There are times when we can't be super specific because what we are feeling isn't super specific! Sometimes our experience is a collection of emotions and feelings that are much more general OR we are ...
When I am planning the free resources for TappingQandA.com I take a number of factors into consideration. I receive feedback and requests from readers like you, common topics come up over and over again in my sessions with clients, and I look at past performance. I am not one to obsess over download stats, but every few weeks I check in to see how the show is doing. As I was looking back on 2019 and looking forward to 2020, I thought I would share with you some of the best of the best from ...
Working with clients has allowed me to understand a fundamental of human nature: All the choices we make are functional choices. In practical terms this means that all of the choices we make are the best choices that we can make in any given moment based on the information we have and our current resource state. This does not mean that we always make good choices, choices we are proud of, or choices that we would like to make again in the future. Instead it means that we are making choices ...
Sometimes we try to focus but find that our minds are jumping all over the place. This short tap-along will help you to focus on the task before you. Did you know you can receive an email reminder every time a new tapping video is uploaded?>>Sign up here!<< If you liked today’s video, please share it with a friend. ...
Recently I was working with a client on using tapping to help him to go after some major goals in his life. He didn’t need to address a particular issue, but instead he was looking for a good way to set himself up to pursue his goals. After we had done a few minutes of tapping, he felt at peace and was ready to pursue his goals for the day and in the long-term. He then said to me, “You need to share this as a podcast. Others will find it super helpful.” So here it is! The audio is less ...
We all know that New Year Resolutions don't work. It would be nice to believe that making a statement at midnight on December 31st would be enough to create fresh ways of thinking and acting, but it doesn't work that way. With that being said, a new year is a great time to reevaluate our lives AND tapping is a great way to support any new goals. This week I have a simple tap-along audio that will help you to create lasting change, rather than just a fleeting thought about what you'd like ...
We live in a time of so many options. If we choose to do one thing, then we are choosing away from something else. This creates a fear of missing out which causes us to choose to do nothing at all. Here is a simple tap-along for when you are fearing that you are missing out. Did you know you can receive an email reminded every time a new tapping video is upload? >>Sign up here!<< If you liked today’s video, please share it with a friend. ...
It seems like every client I've worked with in the last ten days has asked me about using tapping to help them to sleep better. Daily stress is a common cause of sleep disruption because our systems can get caught up in trying to solve the problems of the previous day and consumed with the worries of tomorrow. In this simple tap-along audio we spend time on physical and mental fatigue, as well as emotional exhaustion, and work on preparing the system for a great night of rest and ...
Even though we spend most of our time tapping to try to reduce emotions, emotions are not our enemy. Our emotional response is our internal guidance system trying to keep us safe and on track. Fear is an extremely helpful emotion in that it helps us to see danger BUT problems arise if our fear response is excessive and causes us to go into a state of flight, fight, freeze, or fog. When this happens, the fear moves from pointing out a problem, to crippling us. Even when we notice that we ...
Often times we move to the beat of a different drummer than those in our lives. This can feel overwhelming and isolating. Here is some simple tapping you can do when you feel like an outsider. Did you know you can receive an email reminded every time a new tapping video is upload? >>Sign up here!<< If you liked today’s video, please share it with a friend. ...
On a recent episode of the Judge John Hodgman podcast, one of the litigants (when talking about her husband) said "I want him to have what he wants. I just want him to want something different." That is such a relatable sentiment. Sometimes we believe we can see the best path for our loved ones, but at the exact same time we want them to be in control of their own lives and choices. This week we talk about and tap about how to come to terms with wanting the best for others when they are ...
The holidays are a cray time. There is a all the extra holiday events, the financial stress of gift giving, and a never ending to do list. Here is a simple tap-along to help you with holiday stress. Did you know you can receive an email reminded every time a new tapping video is upload? >>Sign up here!<< If you liked today’s video, please share it with a friend. ...
When we are wanting to take action, it is very easy for us to be stuck because of worry. Worry is nothing more than a part of us trying to keep us safe by keeping an eye out for everything that could possibly go wrong. The problem is that the part of us that worries, often worries way too much. The size of the concern for our safety doesn't match the size of any potential danger. This week I have a simple question you can ask when facing self-sabotage and resistance to taking action. If ...
My clients tell me all the time: "This is so frustrating! I feel like I am dealing with the same issue over and over again. When am I going to get past this!?!" I can appreciate their frustration. We want to feel like the time we are spending on our transformation is fruitful. We want to move in a positive direction as we continue to do the work. In reality, we aren't dealing with the same issue over and over again but dealing with different issues that feel the same. This week I ...
It is good that we are thankful for what we have in our lives. Expressing gratitude helps us to be appreciative, grounded, and there are even health benefits to being thankful. The problem is that on a subconscious level we may feel that wanting more means do not appreciate what we already have, and that can prevent us from moving forward. This week I have a short tap-along audio and script to help you to be thankful AND move forward at the same time. You can find the full tapping ...
