• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Leave A Tip

Tapping Q & A with Gene Monterastelli - Get the most out of tapping and EFT

  • Learn Tapping
  • Podcast
  • Video
  • About Gene
  • Work w/ Gene
  • Archive
    • Every Post Ever
    • Q&A
    • Podcast
    • Videos
    • Tools
    • Tap Along
    • Sessions
  • Events
  • Contact Us

Pod #620: Tapping with the HARP participants featuring Kerri Rhodes

July 17, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

One of the highlights of this year's 24 Hours of Tapping was the conversation that I had with Kerri Rhodes. Kerri is one of the program directors of the Helping Addicts Recover Progressively (HARP) program in the Chesterfield (VA) County Jail.

The inmates use many of the tools created by the Peaceful Heart Network to create emotional healing and transformation as part of their recovery process.

In addition to learning about the HARP program from Kerri, we also had the opportunity to hear from the women in the program. Not only did they share their firsthand experience of tapping, but they also led us in a number of rounds of tapping.

This is a conversation that you don't want to miss.

Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Watch on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Peaceful Heart Network, recovery

Pod #619: Just feeling your emotions

July 10, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Most of the time, when we sit down to tap, we are trying to create positive change.

We are trying to:

  • Release a negative emotion and create a positive one in its place
  • Clear resistance and limiting beliefs so that we can take consistent action
  • Heal a past trauma or story so that our present is not haunted by our past

I love every single one of these tapping outcomes!

But there are times when we cannot create profound change or facilitate deep healing.

Sometimes the best and healthiest course of action is simply to be fully present to the emotions we are feeling. And that is no bad thing.

This week in the podcast I explore the power of feeling the full depth and breadth of our emotions in the moment as we tap. It is one of my favorite ways to tap and something I do multiple times a week.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Watch a video version on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Emotions, reframe

Pod #618: Tapping in response to failure

July 3, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

The primary goal of our subconscious mind is to keep us safe.

To do this, it is constantly learning lessons from our experience. For example, after touching a hot stove a small child quickly learns quickly not to do that again.

This only becomes a problem when the subconscious mind learns the “wrong” lesson from an experience.

I frequently see this come up when working with my clients around their reluctance to take action. Their resistance usually stems from one of these lessons that is neither useful nor true.

The most common lesson learned is that failure is bad, painful, and must be avoided at all costs. At first glance, this seems reasonable…except that the solution proposed by the subconscious mind is not to try at all.

The logical fallacy is obvious: Not taking action doesn't keep us safe, it keeps us stuck.

In this week's podcast, I share two ways to release the resistance to taking action that is created by past failures.

Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Watch on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Failure, Healing

Pod #617: Overcoming the corrosive nature of the word “too”

June 26, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Wanting to belong is a basic human desire.

For our ancestors thousands of years ago, belonging to a tribe was a matter of life and death. Without the protection of a tribe and its strength in numbers, death was a real prospect, so this desire to be accepted is part of our genetic heritage.

Even today, on a subconscious level, belonging equals safety and not belonging equals death, though intellectually we know that is no longer true in most situations.

We evaluate whether or not we belong in many ways.

  • Are we included in activities?
  • Do people ask us for our input and listen to our contributions?
  • Do others share and celebrate their success with us?
  • Are we given a warm welcome when we arrive?

Those are clear indications of invitation and inclusion, but there are more subtle signs too. When I am working with clients and students, one of my favorite ways to unearth times in their past when they felt excluded is to ask the question, “In the past, when were you told you were too much of something?”

These types of being “too something” include being too loud, too emotional, too closed off, too dramatic, too quiet, too serious…and the list goes on.

Being told that you are “too something” can bring up subconscious fears of being wrong, and therefore excluded from your tribe.

This week in the podcast we explore how and why the word “too” feels corrosive and as if it undermines our experience. I also share a tapping process you can use to transform those times when you were told you are “too something” into an asset and empowering resource.

If you have ever been told you are too something, then this is a must-listen.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Watch YouTube Version

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Childhood, insecurity, too

Pod #616 Tapping for peak performance w/ Erik Tait

June 19, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Erik Tait is a world class magician and someone I love to see perform. He has spent over two decades performing as a juggler, standup comedian, and magician.

In 2020 Erik decided that he wanted to compete in the 2022 FISM, which is the world championship of magic. Even though he is comfortable on almost any stage in the world, in preparing for the competition he realized he had some deep-seated fears that were affecting his performance. His fear was so acute that it would cause his hand to shake uncontrollably, which is the last thing a card magician wants.

Erik's therapist taught him tapping and he credits it (and other tools) with helping him to overcome his fear and win third place in the competition. This made him only the fourth American to accomplish this, and the first American to stand on the podium for card magic in two decades.

In this week's podcast, Erik shares how he was first introduced to tapping, how he used it to overcome his fear when preparing for FISM, and how he still uses it today.

Even if you never want to perform on stage, Erik's insights are valuable for anyone interested in improving their performance in any arena or endeavor.

ALSO, if you want to be blown away by world class magic, you can watch the act we talked about during the interview here: Erik Tait's FISM performance

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Guest: Erik Tait

Contact: web @ ErikTait.com; instagram @eriktait

About: Erik Tait has won awards for both standup comedy and magic throughout North America, appeared on Penn & Teller: Fool Us, and was the 2018 International Brotherhood of Magicians Gold Cups Close Up Competition Champion. He took home third place at FISM Quebec 2022, the world championships of magic, in the category of card magic. Erik is only the fourth American to accomplish this, and the first American to stand on the podium for card magic in two decades. He graduated with honors from the prestigious Humber College Comedy Writing and Performance program, which means Erik can academically prove why he is hilarious. Beyond that, Erik is the only magician in the world with a degree in funny. He has put academic theory into practice on some of the most prestigious stages in the world, including The Magic Castle, Second City Toronto, and the Hollywood Improv. His client list has some of the most recognizable brands in the country including Honda, Macy’s, and Bark Box.

Watch a video version on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Erik Tait, Fear, Performance

Pod #615: Tapping for perfectionism

June 12, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

There is a natural human tendency to want to make sure everything is “exactly right” before we take action. That's because when everything is exactly right, we can be as sure as we can be of getting the results we desire.

Our subconscious mind takes this idea to the extreme because its key driver is the need to keep us safe. In addition, it has a tendency to overreact when things go wrong.

Here's how it goes:

  • The subconscious wants us to be safe
  • Any small thing that goes wrong is not only unsafe, the subconscious mind judges it as catastrophic
  • The easiest way to make we are safe is to do everything “perfectly”
  • As perfection is generally an unrealistic and unattainable goal, the subconscious holds us back from taking action while waiting for ideal circumstances that never come

On the surface, this logic makes sense except for the fact that things will never be perfect. That leads us to over-thinking and failing to take decisive action.

This week in the podcast I share a simple concept and how to incorporate this concept into your tapping so you can avoid getting caught in this unproductive trap.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Watch a video version on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Action, perfectionist, Subconscious

Pod #614: What the novel Dune taught me about fear AND how that impacts my tapping

June 5, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

One of the reasons I love art is because it gives us the ability to communicate meaning in ways that we aren't always able to do when simply talking about our lives.

We have all heard the expression that “a picture is worth a thousand words”, which is true, and it is so much more than just that.

The genres of science fiction and fantasy offer us the opportunity to explore the human experience without the political and cultural baggage of our modern world.

Recently, I have been listening to the audiobook version of Frank Herbert's Dune. One of the underlying themes is how our emotions impact our ability to make good choices in moments of crisis.

There is one particular litany that the main character Paul recites multiple times in the story to calm his fear in the moment.

In this week's podcast I explore how that litany and Paul's journey to conquer his fear has impacted my tapping. I even built a tapping script based on the book's text.

Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Watch a video version on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Fear

Pod #613: Tapping to create a new state

May 29, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

One of the reasons I love tapping so much is that it can be used for so many types of issues. It can be used to:

  • Provide emotional first aid
  • Break down a limiting belief
  • Heal a past memory
  • Manage pain
  • Clear a substance sensitivity

For me, it is super important to know why I am tapping in each given moment. Am I simply trying to calm myself when I feel overwhelmed so I can take action OR am I dealing with emotional resistance to taking action because I fear failing at my next task?

When I know what I am trying to accomplish, it makes it easier for me to stay on track so I can better evaluate my progress to see if I need to keep tapping on the issue.

Over the last few months, I have come to realize there are two different types of tapping issues that I had conflated into a single issue. I was approaching how I feel in a moment and what state I am in as if they are the same thing.

These are two distinct areas to tap for, with each having a different approach and different goals from the tapping itself.

In this week's podcast, I break down the difference between tapping for an emotion versus tapping to change your state, when you should be tapping for each, and how to tap to change your state.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Watch YouTube Version

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Emotional First Aid, Emotions, state

Pod #612: Tapping to become an agent for peace in the world

May 22, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Late last year my friend Brad Yates reached out to see if there was some way we could use our platforms to encourage more people to tap for peace and to become more active peacemakers in the world.

Late last year my friend Brad Yates reached out to see if there was some way we could use our platforms to encourage more people to tap for peace and to become more active peacemakers in the world.

After a number of conversations and with help from lots of our tapping friends, we relaunched the Tapping4Peace.com website.

The movement is simple. If you sign up to participate, you will receive a short email every week.

The email will remind you to do some tapping for peace AND if you aren't exactly sure how to do that, the email will contain a link to a tapping resource from a different practitioner every week to help you to do exactly that.

After signing up to join us, a number of people suggested that it would be fun to gather live and do some tapping together as a community. It was such a great idea that is what we did last Sunday.

People from all over the world joined us live.

This week in the podcast I am sharing some of the tapping we did, so that you too can tap with us to create more peace in the world.

Please tap along and join the Tapping For Peace Movement here: Tapping4Peace.com

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Watch a video version on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Peace, World

Pod #611: Tapping to reinforce the positive

May 15, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

I love how tapping can be used to clear and transform the negative.

It can be used to:

  • Release a negative emotions
  • Heal a past memory
  • Transform a limiting belief
  • Reduce (or even) eliminate physical pain
  • Quiet our critical voice

Did you know that in addition to being able to transform the negative, tapping can also be used to reinforce and embed the positive?

This week in the podcast I share a simple step-by-step process that you can use to reinforce and enhance positive feelings and positive states so that you can access them in future.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

YouTube Version

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: How To, Positive

Pod #610: Better results by releasing your hidden tapping agenda

May 8, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Tapping is deceptively simple.

It is so easy to teach the basics of tapping that I have done it before in under five minutes with a quick drawing on a bar napkin.

But hidden behind its simplicity are the subtleties of the art of delivery. Each issue, person, and resource state can require a different approach to get the maximum effect.

With this in mind, it is easy to fall prey to trying to find the exact best way to tap for an issue. Searching for the very best approach can lead us to overthinking the process, which may result in us not tapping at all.

This week in the podcast I share a simple tapping approach to counter this type of overthinking. This approach can be your full tapping session, a way to get unstuck in the middle of a tapping session or you can use it to start a tapping session.

It is so straightforward to add to your tapping tool box that you'll be able to start using it right away.

Handout: https://tappingqanda.com/no-agenda

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Watch the YouTube Version

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Agenda, Resistance, Wordless

Pod #609: How to tap for tailenders

May 1, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

One of the most important parts of the Tapping Action Journal is the instruction to spend time writing down notes at the end of each tapping session on what just happened.

You are encouraged to write down:

  • what surprised you
  • what you learned
  • any insights you gained
  • any tailenders you unearthed

Tailenders are the responses our subconscious mind gives at the tailend of a tapping phrase.

For example, I could tap on “I am going to make at least five new sales this week.” As soon as I tap on that phrase, my subconscious would respond with “No you are not. You failed before and are going to fail again!”

In other words, tailenders are your subconscious mind's rebuttal to what you are saying and tapping on.

I love tailenders because they tell us exactly what subconscious resistance is standing in our way of moving forward and they provide a road map for what to tap on next.

Last week, one of my students asked the question “I know I am supposed to tap on tailenders, but how exactly do I do that?”

In this week's podcast I share a simple four-step approach to choosing the right tailender to tap for next, and how to tap for that issue.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Watch a video version on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: daily tapping, Resistance, Tailenders

Pod #608: Why empaths struggle with boundaries and how to tap for stronger ones

April 24, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Something I really love about the people I work with is their tendency to see the bigger world outside of themselves. They recognize the people in their lives who are struggling and in pain, and they also want to do something about it.

As wonderful as it is to want to help others, it can mean that we become known for being a helper, and the requests become increasingly frequent and demanding of our time and energy.

The next thing we know, we are helping everyone else to the point that we neglect our own needs and our lives, meaning we need to do the tough work of creating stronger boundaries.

If you are someone with an empathetic nature, creating and maintaining boundaries is even harder.

This week in the podcast, we explore how being a helper can turn into a full time job, how to create new boundaries, and why putting boundaries in place is particularly difficult for empaths.

We also spend time tapping to make it easier (even for empaths) to create boundaries.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Watch a video version on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Boundaries, empath, helper

Pod #607: The 4 Types of Resistance

April 17, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

For the 2024 Spring Energy Event I was asked to give a reflection on what I have learned in my personal and professional transformational journey.

For me, the measure of the value of transformation is seen in how our life is different. What do we believe that is different? How do we feel that is different? In what ways are we asking in new ways?

Because this has been my focus, I am supremely interested in the resistance to change. Even when we know the type of change we would like to make in our lives and how valuable that change is, we still don't change.

This led me to create a presentation where I shared the four basic root causes of our resistance to change as well as how to identify the story that is holding you back.

This week in the podcast I share the full presentation so you can learn along with everyone who attends live.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Watch YouTube Version

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Resistance, SAWD, SEE

Pod #606: Your Tapping Questions Answered

April 11, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

One of my favorite ways to learn is by listening to the questions others ask.

When I am asking questions I am bringing my experience and preconceived notions to the questions. This is a useful way to learn, but sometimes I am too close to my own experience to ask the most useful question.

When someone else is asking a question they are often asking a question I never would have thought of. This gives me a chance to ponder the questions from a distance which allows me to hear the answer in a new way.

One of my favorite parts of the Authentic Action Academy is the Office Hour sessions. This is when my students have the chance to .ask me anything

They ask questions about what has been taught in class, how to get more out of their own tapping practice, and they even bring tapping requests.

My favorite part of these sessions is seeing all the comments in the chat box from what everyone else is learning through the process.

In March I hosted an Ask Me Anything session, where anyone who showed up could do exactly that…ask me anything about tapping.

The session was recorded and I pulled 4 questions which I thought you would also enjoy learning from and tapping along to.

The four topics I have pulled for you are:

  • Clearing limiting beliefs around our ability to be successful
  • Finding and clearing the root cause of emotional eating
  • How to deal with the grief around the death of someone who hurt us
  • How do I know if I should be tapping on the negative or positive when trying to clear and issue

I know you will learn a lot from this conversation.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Watch YouTube Version

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: AMA, Grief, Resistance, Weight

Pod #605: How to tap when your goals are getting in your way

April 3, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Goals are a powerful tool in helping us to move forward. They give us clear direction, they help to create clarity for our best next steps, and they serve as a measuring stick for us to evaluate the action we take.

Goals are great!

Except when they aren't.

Sometimes goals can feel like a constraint, homework, or something we “have to do”. When this happens, they become more of a hindrance than a help.

This week in the podcast we explore how to create a goal, as well as a healthy relationship to that goal, based on what we are trying to achieve and our personal context.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Watch a video version on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Action, Goals

Pod #604: How to tap when you let yourself down

March 27, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

One of the phrases I spend a lot of time tapping on with my clients is the idea that “time is a zero sum game”. What I mean by this phrase is that if you are doing one thing, you can't be doing anything else.

It means that when we choose to do something, we are choosing not to do anything else.

Because this is the case, it is so easy to judge ourselves harshly as we look at our past choices. When we look to our past, not only are we able to see how we invested our time, we also see all the actions we could have taken…but did not.

I know I can be really hard on myself and my past choices when I feel I have squandered time and opportunities. 

In the last week I found myself feeling deeply disappointed with my past choices. Normally, this leads to frustration for not taking the best action, and sadness over the wasted opportunities.

For the first time in ages I wasn't just frustrated or saddened, I was mad. And not just a bit mad…I was raging.

The more I thought about my mistakes, the madder I felt. In this week's podcast I share with you what happened and how I responded.

Not only do I explain my approach, I also do a fair bit of tapping. I hope you find this approach useful. 

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Watch a video version on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Anger, Disappointment, Resistance, self-esteem

Pod #603: How to tap for more than one issue at a time

March 20, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

When most of us learned the basics of tapping, one of the first bits of advice we received was to “be as specific as possible when you are tapping.”

Sometimes this is straightforward; the issue is singular and clear, so we know exactly where to start.

At other times, our issue involves multiple emotions, and it is hard for us to tell where one emotion ends and the next begins.

When this happens, the advice to “be as specific as possible when you are tapping” is difficult to apply, if not impossible.

In this week's podcast I share my favorite approach to use when there is no clear starting point for an issue. This handy tool will allow you to tap on multiple issues at once.

The approach can be used at the beginning or the end of a tapping session, and can also be applied to a session as a whole.

Listen as I lead you through the entire process after I provide the instruction. This is an essential tool for your tapping toolbox!

Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Watch a video version on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: issues, tool

Pod #602: The tapping script that is written just for you

March 13, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Tapping is a tool that is simple to explain and understand, but not necessarily easy to do.

The biggest hurdle most new tappers (and even experienced tappers) encounter is not knowing what to say when tapping.

When we first learn tapping we are guided by a skilled practitioner or teacher who seems to come up with perfect tapping phrases with little effort. We can't wait to add tapping to our daily routine.

Then you find yourself tapping on your own and you can't seem to come up with any tapping phrases. What seemed so easy for your teacher now feels impossible on your own.

Your mind goes blank.

You feel frustrated and disappointed that it “just doesn't work for me” and you might even give up altogether.

This week in the podcast I share my favorite way to write a tapping script that is perfect for you.

Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Watch a video version on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Personal, Phrases

Pod #601: 15 Years of the Tapping Q & A Podcast w/ Brad Yates

March 6, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

On March 3rd, 2009 the first episode of the Tapping Q & A Podcast went live…and within 90 minutes that same episode was taken offline because of a major editing error.

Fifteen years (and 600+ episodes) later, the show is still going. In that time, the podcast has featured wisdom and insights about tapping, healing and transformation from some of the brightest minds in change work.

The podcast has been downloaded millions of times and listened to by people in more than 150 countries.

In a very special episode of the podcast, Brad Yates joins Gene to talk to him about all that he has learned from the podcast. It is a great opportunity for you to learn those lessons without having to go through the 15-year archive. (Though you are more than welcome to do that as well!)

Enjoy the reflection and lessons from the past 15 years.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Watch a video version on YouTube

Filed Under: Podcast

  • « Go to Previous Page
  • Page 1
  • Interim pages omitted …
  • Page 6
  • Page 7
  • Page 8
  • Page 9
  • Page 10
  • Interim pages omitted …
  • Page 73
  • Go to Next Page »

10 Steps To Stop Self-Sabotage

Get your FREE 10 step guide to using EFT to stop self-sabotage in your life.

Search Tapping Q & A

Meet Gene Monterastelli

Gene MonterastelliGene Monterastelli is a Brooklyn based tapping practitioner. In addition to working with individual clients and groups, he regularly writes and records about how to use tapping to move from self-sabotage to productive action.
Gene’s Full Bio & Services


Subscribe via: Apple Podcasts | Google Podcast | Android Phone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | Audible | iHeart Radio | Castbox | Alexa | Stitcher | TuneIn | Deezer | aCast | Himalaya | Overcast | Luminary | RSS
Visit the complete Podcast Archive

Apple App | Google/Android App

 

This book is not just about EFT and tapping for anger. The book contains some of the most comprehensive step-by-step tapping tools that can be used for all emotions and can be added to your tapping tool set right away.

For every book purchased, four inmates will also receive a copy of the book.

For every book purchased 4 inmates will also receive a copy of the book.

Paperback | Kindle Version

Copyright © 2025 · Refund Policy · Terms of Use· Privacy Policy