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Pod #595: Tailenders – The most value part of a round of tapping

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One of the very first ideas I was introduced to when I was learning the basics of tapping was something called a “tailender”.

Tailenders are the little (or big) pieces of resistance that speak up when we are tapping.

For example I could tap on the phrase “I am going to lose 25 lbs to start the year.” The moment I finish saying that phrase, my subconscious mind speaks up with “No you are not. You failed before and you are going to fail again!”

It is a tailender because it is something that is said on the tailend of us saying something else.

I have come to realize in my own tapping practice and also working with clients that these tailenders are actually the key to deep lasting transformation.

This week in the podcast we do a deep dive into what tailenders are, why they exist, and how we can use them to facilitate a more powerful healing process.

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Pod #594: Tapping when you are feeling emotion beaten up AND how to bounce back

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My daily tapping practice is NOT designed to make my life go perfectly. Instead, it is designed to build my emotional resilience.

What I mean by this is that the more emotionally resilient I am when something goes wrong, either it doesn’t impact me and my progress OR it has minimal impact on me.

Even when we spend time working on building our resilience, it doesn’t mean that we are impervious to taking emotional hits. Sometimes, really big things happen which can knock us off our stride. At other times, the sum total of lots of many small things going wrong adds up.

That is exactly what happened to me in December. So many small things went wrong over the course of a number of weeks. Some of those were errors that I had made. Others were because of external factors beyond my control.

In some ways, it felt like a death by a thousand paper cuts.

In this week’s podcast I share about my experience, how it impacted my emotional resilience, and what I have been doing to bounce back.

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Pod #593: I want you to feel beautiful – Tapping Mini-Tools (Part 5)

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I have spent a lot of time thinking about what it means to live an authentic life. One of the ways I would describe this sensation is being comfortable in my own skin.

And when I say that, I don’t just mean comfortable as in not in pain, but comfortable in a way of luxuriating in something I was made for.

It is much like a beautifully made pair of leather shoes that have been broken in to fit you absolutely perfectly.

In 2022, one of the presenters at the Eden Energy Fest was describing their work and said “When I am helping others I feel beautiful!”

That phrase continues to rattle around in my head ever since I heard it. It is perfect.

In this week’s podcast I talk about how I used that idea to create a simple, but powerful tapping tool.

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Pod #592: 4 questions to end the day– Tapping Mini-Tools (Part 4)

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We have all experienced lying in bed at night trying to get to sleep 

BUT our racing minds keep us awake. 

Usually we are replaying everything that didn’t work out today, and worrying about everything that could be difficult tomorrow.

As our thoughts spin, we become increasingly unsettled, which makes sleep even harder.

Regardless if you are someone who anxiously tosses and turns in bed at night, letting go of the stress from our day and releasing worry about tomorrow is a good thing for everyone.

This week, as we continue the Tapping Mini Tools series we look at four questions that are perfect for letting go of today’s stress and worries about tomorrow.

The questions can be used at the end of your work day or just before you go to bed at night. AND there is a great way you can use these questions to tap your children at the end of the day.

In this week’s podcast I share the four questions and how to use them to maximum effect.

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Pod #591: Step into the slipstream – Tapping Mini-Tools (Part 3)

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It would be very easy to assume by looking at a group of migratory birds, like ducks, flying in a V-Formation to assume the bird in the front in the leader.

But if you watch the flight for any length of time you will notice that the leader changes quite frequently.

The bird in the front is not the leader, but instead the one who is working the hardest as the other birds fall into the slip-stream. The slip-stream is the space created behind a moving object that is easier to move through.

By flying in this way it is easier for the flock to move, with less effort by taking advantage of aerodynamics of the slip-stream.

I found that it is possible to create a slip-stream in my daily life. And I don’t mean walking in a V-Formation as we move through the day, but instead it is possible to find an emotional slip-stream which makes the day easier.

This week in the podcast as we continue the Tapping Mini-Tools Series I am going to share with you the way I create and emotional slip-stream to make it easier to get through the day will a little tapping.

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Pod #590: You should stop saying should – Tapping Mini-Tools (Part 2)

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When working with clients, it is important to listen closely to the words they use and pay attention to everything they are saying.

When I do this, I am not just listening to the meaning of the story my clients are telling, I am also paying particular attention to the words they use.

This is because we respond to the world emotionally based on the way that we describe it, not how it is.

A simple example of this is if someone said, “Everyone at work hates me” If a client says that, emotionally it doesn’t really matter if everyone at work hates them. It also doesn’t matter if they truly believe that everyone at work hates them.

Saying “Everyone at work hates me” means they will respond emotionally as if it is true.

That is why I pay such close attention to the exact words used by my clients. Their words are the key to how they are feeling emotionally.

In this week’s podcast, we are continuing the Tapping Mini-Tools Series and I share with you the one word I pay the closest attention to when it’s used by my clients.

If my client says this word, I can immediately see where their emotional struggle will come from. I also share an easy way to reframe this word so that you communicate clearly and without creating unnecessary emotional distress.

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Pod #589: A new way to think about goals – Mini-Tools (Part 1)

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I love goals.

They are a powerful way to focus attention and to help us stay motivated to keep taking action.

At the same time, the moment we create a goal, we also create expectations. Naming something that we want to happen means opening ourselves up to possible disappointment if we do not achieve the goal.

This week, as we start the Mini-Tool Series, I share with you a brief phrase I add to the beginning of all my goal statements that ensures I am not adding pressure to my life by stating my goal.

I also share a simple way to tap with this phrase that will make it even easier to take consistent action towards my goal.

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Pod #588: How I designed the 30-Day Tapping Challenge

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This November we hosted our most successful 30-Day Tapping Challenge to date.

The goal was to, as a community, do 15,000 rounds of tapping collectively. We ended up doing over 20,000 rounds in the month of November alone AND people keep tapping.

You are more than welcome to revisit any of the videos as they will remain on YouTube, where you can access them free of charge. Full playlist

This is the fourth year that we have run the challenge. With each passing year, I have spent more time ahead of the challenge designing and planning the process.

In the first year, the goal was simply to get people to tap. In the second and third years, I gave more thought to the topics and how all 30 topics worked together.

This year I took it a step further. As well as giving a lot of thought to the topics for tapping, a huge amount of thought also went into designing how we tapped.

In the last few months, I have been exploring a new healing framework to understand why we resist healing, taking action, and moving forward. This new framework has not only improved my personal tapping practice, but it has also helped to create faster, deeper, and longer lasting healing for my clients.

In this week’s podcast I share the design behind the challenge and how you can incorporate this framework in your own personal change work.

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Pod #587: The most important goal of tapping  – Healing Fundamentals (Part 18)

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Whenever I start working on a new project, I begin with getting clear on what I want to accomplish. That clarity makes it so much easier to decide on where to start and what steps to take.

Tapping is no different. If you know what you would like to accomplish with a round of tapping, then you will have a better idea of where to start. You will approach calming your nerves differently than trying to change a limiting belief.

You are using tapping in both cases, but where you start and how you approach the tapping will be different to get the best results.

On a more global level, I think it is important for us to understand the main goal of healing and transformation. A simple answer might be “to feel better”, but I think it goes much deeper than that.

In this week’s podcast we are continuing the [Healing Fundamentals](https://tappingqanda.com/tag/transformation-fundamentals) series with a look at what I believe is the primary goal of tapping.

Of all the fundamentals in this series, I think this is the most important as it informs every other aspect of the transformational process. I hope you enjoy the podcast.

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Pod #586: Letting yourself go there emotionally

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The deeper we get into our study of transformation, the more we understand.

We gain a greater understanding of how transformation works, the workings of the subconscious mind, how emotions operate and, most importantly, how we are in the world.

This understanding can speed and deepen the healing process because we better grasp the nature of our struggles, and we can use our healing tools more effectively.

But sometimes our understanding can hold us back. A combination of all this knowledge and all the tools available to us can result in intellectualizing the process to the point that we get stuck.

This week in the podcast I talk about how we can overcome overthinking in a way that will liberate the healing process.

You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.

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