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Pod #360: The Possibility of Healing Being More Than Just Relief

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Tapping is a powerful tool in helping us to find relief from physical and emotional discomfort. It can reduce pain in the moment, diminish overpowering emotions, and can even help us to see a problem more clearly.

As wonderful as all of this is, I believe we are missing half of the benefits tapping can provide by focusing only on finding relief.

What if it were possible for us to have more than relief with tapping?

A few weeks ago at the Spring Energy Event I presented two tools that can be used to move not just from pain to relief, but from pain to empowerment.

This week's podcast teaches you one of those two tools.

After you listen to the instruction, all you will need are the five steps below to execute this simple but powerful tool. (And, yes, these instructions will make total sense after you listen to the audio!)

  1. Name the negative emotion you're experiencing
  2. Name the positive emotion you would like to experience instead
  3. Rate from -10 to +10
  4. Do three rounds of tapping, checking in each time with the new number and to gather more information
  5. Repeat the process described in step 2, redefining the emotion you are moving towards

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Pod #359: Tapping for the Fear of Rejection

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Through my work with clients, I have come to realize that the fear of rejection is the biggest obstacle to taking positive action in our lives.

The power of this particular fear goes right to the heart of why the human species has survived. Thousands of years ago, humans were able to survive because of the protection and support of their tribe. Exclusion from the tribe would have meant facing a dangerous world alone, an almost certain death.

That's why rejection stirs up this powerful and primitive fear, and usually stops us in our tracks.

Tapping on the fear of rejection is one of the most important types of tapping that we can do!

This week I have for you three different tap-alongs you can use to help you overcome the fear of rejection.

Tapping scripts for all three tap-alongs are included below the audio player.

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The basic fear of rejection

I recognize the fact…That there is a part of me…That is worried I will be rejected by others…They will see who I am…And decide that I am not good enough…They will see who I am…And decide that I am not worth connecting with…They will see who I am…And they will decide I am not worth their time…And that I am not worth their energy…I appreciate why this fear of rejection is so big…Because at one point in our history as a species…Being rejected meant certain death…Being rejected meant the end…Being rejected meant being pushed to the outside forever…It is true that not everyone will accept me…It is true that not everyone will understand me…It is true that not everyone will appreciate me…Just because they reject me in this way does not mean I am in danger…It does not mean I am in peril…It does not mean that I'm going to die…Instead it simply means that we are not a good fit and we are not a good connection…That is not a value judgment of who I am…That is not a value judgment on my existence…I can be in a situation where I don't connect with everyone and still be safe…There are lots of people I do connect with…There are lots of people I do resonate with…Even if they aren't always around me…They are there and they exist…I recognize that I am safe even when I am not accepted by all…I give myself permission to know that I am safe when I am myself.

Fear that my work will be rejected

I recognize that the work I do is not for everyone…The type of work that I do is right for me…The type of work that I do is good for me…There will be times when I have a preference for the type of work that I want to do that other people are not going to resonate with…They will have different ideas about how things should be done…They will have different ideas about the work that I should do…People can even be well-intentioned and wanting me to do something else…But that does not mean I should be doing something else…I can truly be me and still be safe…I can do the work that I'm supposed to do and be safe…I can offer the work that I want to do, have that work rejected, and still be safe…I can be in a position where I offer my work and be OK if someone turns me down…They are not rejecting me as a person…They're simply saying the work I do isn't the right fit for them…I give myself permission to do the work that I want to do…Knowing that I will find the right people to connect with…The people who were right for me…When someone says no to my work I am still safe…When someone says no to my work I am not in trouble…It is simply a statement of best fit…I give myself permission to keep working in the way that I work…Because I know I can find the right connections…I know I can serve the right people…I can be safe even in the face of someone rejecting my work…I can be happy in the face of someone rejecting my work…I can be healthy in the face of someone rejecting my work.

Fear that people will reject my offer

I believe in the work that I do…And I believe in the way that I do that work…It is the right way for me to work…It is the best way for me to use my gifts and talents…I enjoy the work that I do…This does not mean the way I work is the right fit for everyone…Or the way I work is good for everyone…Or that everyone will be open to my work…That is OK…The way I work doesn't have to resonate with everyone…There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to doing this kind of work…And because that is the case…People will say no to me…When they say no to me they aren't saying I am bad…They aren't saying my work is useless…They aren't saying I'm doing this wrong…They are simply saying this is not a good fit for them…I give myself permission to be OK with that fact…It's not always going to be the right fit…When someone says no they are making a statement about best fit…Someone can say no to how I work and I will still be safe…Someone can say no to how I work and I can still be healthy…Someone can say no to how I work and I can still move through the world in a way where I'm connecting with those I am supposed to connect to…It is safe for me to work in the way that I want…Even if that way isn't right for everyone…The way I work is right for me…The way I work is right for those I serve…I can be healthy and safe working in the way that makes the most sense for me…Even if it isn't the right way for everyone.

Pod #358: Will Tapping On Negative Phrases Manifest Negative Outcomes?

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Because of all of the conversations around the law of attraction and manifesting in the self help community, I often hear the concern “I don't want to say any negative phrases when I am tapping because I'm worried I'll manifest negative outcomes in my life.”

Given the way that manifestation in this world view is taught, I can understand how this might be a concern.

To help you understand how to get the most out of your tapping, this week's podcast covers:

  • The scientific research on visualization
  • What happens when we say only positive phrases when tapping
  • How to get the most out of tapping to create change in your life

I also teach you a bonus method that I use when I am trying to create a new way of acting and being in the world.

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Pod #357: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) vs. Tapping w/ Joan Kaylor, M.S.Ed., L.P.C., DCEP

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Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) focuses on challenging and changing thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors, improving emotional regulation, and the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems.

That sounds a lot like what we are trying to do with tapping.

This week I have a conversation with Joan Kaylor who uses both tapping and CBT with her clients. She compares and contrasts the two approaches, highlights where they overlap, and how one can inform the other.

Understanding other modalities, tools, and techniques is a great way for us to improve the tools we are using.

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Guest: Joan Kaylor

Contact: Email @ Joan@joankaylor.com; Web @ TappingWithJoan.com
Facebook @ FreedomFromFear-JustTapIt; LinkedIn @ JoanKaylor; Twitter @JoanKaylor; Instagram: JoanKaylor; Podcasts @ Freedom From Fear – Just Tap It; Podcast @ Life Without Limits

About: Joan is an Accredited Advanced EFT Practitioner with AAMET International. She is a keynote speaker, consultant and best-selling instructor on Udemy.com. Joan is certified in cognitive behavioral therapy and has been working with individuals and families since 1994. Joan is a member of the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology, ACEP, EFT International, the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, the International OCD Foundation, the Pennsylvania Counseling Association and the TLC Foundation for Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors.

Pod #356: The Science Behind Tapping w/ Dr. Peta Stapleton

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With every passing year, more and more research is being conducted into how tapping works and its efficacy. Dr. Peta Stapleton is one of the researchers at the forefront of this work.

Peta recently completed writing The Science Behind Tapping (publication date: April 16th). The book provides a brief history of tapping and a comprehensive overview of existing scientific research on tapping. Based on scientific research, it also provides a clear set of recommendations on how to get the most out of tapping, depending on the issues you are addressing.

In this conversation Peta provides a preview of The Science Behind Tapping, as well as ways you can get better results from your tapping practice.

Knowing the latest scientific research on tapping will make it easier for you to share tapping with your skeptical friends and loved ones. If you want to share tapping with others, you must listen to this conversation!

You can pre-order it today!

Peta is also offering 4 free gifts if you order the book. So right after you pre-order the book you can sign up for your free gifts here.

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Guest: Dr. Peta Stapleton

Contact: web @ PetaStapleton.com; twitter @PetaStapleton; instagram @petastapleton

About: Dr. Peta Stapleton has 22 years of experience as a registered Clinical and Health Psychologist in the State of Queensland, Australia and has completed a Bachelor of Arts, Postgraduate Diploma of Professional Psychology and Doctor of Philosophy. Peta held academic positions at Griffith University for 14 years, teaching and coordinating psychological research trials into new therapies in the area of obesity and weight management and is now Associate Professor in Psychology at Bond University

Peta regularly contributes to the academic field with publications in the areas of nursing, morale, communication, psychological interventions and eating disorders. She regularly reviews for academic journals and offers supervision for new and existing Psychologists as well as students.

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