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Pod #365: EFT for Feeling Like a Fraud

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Feeling like we don't belong is tough. It might be because we don't feel we are smart enough, talented enough, have something offer the world, or that we just don't fit in.

Feeling like a fraud means that we don't contribute or speak up, we hide in the background, or we don't even show up. All of these strategies are to keep us safe because we don't want to be found out.

In most cases, feeling like a fraud has nothing to do with who we are, what we can do, and what we have to offer. Instead, it is because we are comparing what is going on inside our head with what we see on the outside of those around us.

We know our intentions and when we don't live up to them. We know the fear or insecurity we feel when we are taking action. At the same time, we only see what others do and assume (wrongly) that they are acting with perfect confidence and calm.

This means we aren't treating ourselves fairly!

Below is a tap-along audio and tapping script that will help you to tap when you feel like a fraud. It will help you to see yourself for who you are and see those around you for who they are.

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I know what my interior life is like…I know the thoughts that I have…I know the feelings I have experienced…I know when I'm afraid to take action…I know when I'm insecure about what I'm doing…When I see others around me taking action…I assume they are calm…I assume they are confident…Because all that I can see is their outside…I don't know their emotional state…I don't know their internal dialogue…I don't understand their true level of confidence in the moment…When I don't understand their emotional state and I do understand my emotional state…It's easy for me to make an unfair comparison…I assume they have everything together…And I know that I don't know what to do…Therefore I don't feel like I belong…I feel like I shouldn't be respected…I feel like I have less to offer…I feel like I'm a giant fraud…And when I feel like I'm a fraud…I'm even more hesitant to take action…I'm afraid that I'm going to be found out…I'm afraid they're going to see me for who I truly am…I believe they are going to think less of me…The truth is that I do belong…The truth is I do have much to offer…The truth is they aren't as confident as they seem…Because they have an internal dialogue as well…They have an internal emotional state as well…When I feel like a fraud…It is because I'm making an unfair comparison…I'm comparing their external facade with my internal turmoil…That's not fair to me…That is not a fair comparison…I give myself permission to feel present and connected…I give myself permission to know that I belong…I give myself permission to know that I have something to offer.

Download the Tapping Q & A app for free which include this and 50 other tapping scripts: Apple App | Google/Android App

Pod #364: Getting To The Bottom Of It w/ Lori Lamont

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In Recovering Sell – A Healing Manifesto I share twelve thoughts on healing. Number six is: “There is always resistance to change because if there weren't resistance, you would have changed already.”

As a tapper, this means that one of our most important tasks is to find the root cause(s) preventing us from taking action or making change.

Lori Lamont has developed an easy tool that you can use as a practitioner, or when you are tapping on your own to uncover these hidden resistances.

In addition to showing you how to uncover resistance, we also talk about a new way to capture these underlying issues so you can come back to them again and again.

This is a tool that every tapper needs to have in their tapping tool box.

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Guest: Lori Lamont

Contact: website @ FemaleEmpowermentEFT.com; email @ FemaleEmpowermentEFT@gmail.com; facebook @ Female Empowerment EFT; youtube @ Lori Lamont

About: Lori Lamont is a Certified and Accredited Advanced EFT Practitioner through EFT International (formerly AAMET). She is also certified in Matrix Reimprinting and Level 2 Goddess Reiki. Lori guides and inspires women to claim their power through EFT classes, workshops, speeches and sessions.

Being a mother of four, married, and a business owner, she understands what it is like to be pulled in too many directions. She has learned how to use EFT to her advantage, how to balance her life, and how to live life to the fullest. She teaches moms how to use EFT to have a positive impact on their children and more harmony in the home.

Pod #363: EFT for Grief w/ Lynne Staley

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Grief is a topic that we don't talk about much publicly. We talk about loss. We talk about moving on. But we don't talk about grief itself.

When we don't talk about and process grief, it lingers and can cause problems for us in the future.

This week I have a conversation with Lynne Staley. Lynne is a tapper and certified Grief Recovery™ Specialist. In this podcast episode we cover:

  • Why we experience grief
  • The difference between grief and mourning
  • All of the experiences that can cause grief in addition to the death of a loved one (and the list is longer than you might think)
  • Practical steps you can take to work through your own grief and how to help someone else through theirs
  • How to use tapping while using these steps

This interview is a must-listen because every single one of us has experienced grief and will experience it again. Our conversation is practical and you will be able to use what you learn right away.

Note: Here is the the feelings inventory from the Center For Nonviolent Communication that we talked about in the interview.

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Guest:Lynne Staley

Contact: website @ Llife-After-Loss.com/; facebook @ LifeAfterLossCoach; email @ lynne@life-after-loss.com; book @ In Death Is the Secret to Life: A Tribute Journal

About: Lynne Staley has been a Companion to Grievers since 2002 and has a wealth of knowledge about grief, loss and life transitions. She is a Certified Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner and incorporates tapping in her work with clients to address grief-related stress. Lynne recognizes that grief is not just related to death; there are more than 40 losses identified by The Grief Recovery Institute, including health diagnoses, job loss, family estrangement, etc. In addition to Grief Integration, she teaches EFT to elders, hospice staff, school personnel, student athletes, student musicians, other “creatives”, etc. She is the author of In Death Is the Secret to Life: A Tribute Journal.

Pod #362: Emotions Are Not The Enemy

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One the most important ideas that I try to convey to all of my clients is the fact that emotions are not the enemy. Emotions are not a problem that we need to fix.

Instead, our emotions can provide us with useful information about how we are interpreting what is happening to us in the moment.

The aim of tapping is not to get rid of our emotions. Instead, we are working towards understanding why we are feeling those emotions, which in turn enables us to transform our understanding so that our emotions show up in a proportionate, well-informed way.

Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to recognize your emotions for what they are and stop feeling like you are caught in a battle with your emotional state. This is a great way to tap by itself and it also serves as a perfect way to set up a tapping session when you are working on a bigger issue.

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I recognize the fact that my emotions are information…I recognize the fact that I feel emotions to understand the world…My emotions are my internal guidance system…And the sold objective of my emotions is to keep me safe and healthy…My emotions are simply trying to communicate information…My emotions are not the enemy…It is not a failing for me to feel emotions…I also understand that sometimes my emotions can work too hard…Sometimes my emotions are disproportionate for the situation…Sometimes my emotions are misinformed as to what is actually going on…And when this happens…My emotions are really big…When this happens…My emotions seem overwhelming…When this happens…It feels as if my emotions are too much…But just because I feel emotions that are too large….Does not mean that I am failing…And it does not mean I am doing this wrong…It does not mean that I am emotionally immature…It simply means that my emotional information system is working too hard and over functioning…When this happens…It is possible for me to return my emotions to a regulated state…This does not mean I am emotionless…This does not mean I am thoughtless…And this does not mean I am careless…It only means I am returning my emotions to their natural state…Emotions are not my enemy…Emotions have never been my enemy…My emotions are just pieces of information…By taking a few minutes to tap…I am simply returning my emotions to a proportionate, regulated state…Even though being in a highly emotional state can feel very challenging…I'm glad I feel the emotion…It is information from my system that is trying to keep me safe.

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Pod #361: Tapping Success Stories

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It is always encouraging to hear first-person success stories.

Hearing about other people's success helps us in a couple of ways.

First, it shows us what is possible. When we aren't making the progress we would like, and as quickly as we would like, it is easy to feel discouraged. Hearing about the success others have had gives us encouragement and inspiration.

Second, other people's success stories offer us a great opportunity to learn. Hearing how they overcame obstacles and found their way to success gives us ideas on how we can do the same.

In this week's podcast I have three stories of people who have used tapping successfully. This a great chance for all of us to learn and take encouragement!

You can reach out my guests Esti Allina and Jackie Simek.

Over the next year I will be sharing more stories like these, so if you have your own stories about tapping you'd like to share, please let me know and I will follow up with you to see if it is a good fit.

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