Tapping Q & A with Gene Monterastelli - Get the most out of tapping and EFT

Pod #359: Tapping for the Fear of Rejection

by

Through my work with clients, I have come to realize that the fear of rejection is the biggest obstacle to taking positive action in our lives.

The power of this particular fear goes right to the heart of why the human species has survived. Thousands of years ago, humans were able to survive because of the protection and support of their tribe. Exclusion from the tribe would have meant facing a dangerous world alone, an almost certain death.

That's why rejection stirs up this powerful and primitive fear, and usually stops us in our tracks.

Tapping on the fear of rejection is one of the most important types of tapping that we can do!

This week I have for you three different tap-alongs you can use to help you overcome the fear of rejection.

Tapping scripts for all three tap-alongs are included below the audio player.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify

The basic fear of rejection

I recognize the fact…That there is a part of me…That is worried I will be rejected by others…They will see who I am…And decide that I am not good enough…They will see who I am…And decide that I am not worth connecting with…They will see who I am…And they will decide I am not worth their time…And that I am not worth their energy…I appreciate why this fear of rejection is so big…Because at one point in our history as a species…Being rejected meant certain death…Being rejected meant the end…Being rejected meant being pushed to the outside forever…It is true that not everyone will accept me…It is true that not everyone will understand me…It is true that not everyone will appreciate me…Just because they reject me in this way does not mean I am in danger…It does not mean I am in peril…It does not mean that I'm going to die…Instead it simply means that we are not a good fit and we are not a good connection…That is not a value judgment of who I am…That is not a value judgment on my existence…I can be in a situation where I don't connect with everyone and still be safe…There are lots of people I do connect with…There are lots of people I do resonate with…Even if they aren't always around me…They are there and they exist…I recognize that I am safe even when I am not accepted by all…I give myself permission to know that I am safe when I am myself.

Fear that my work will be rejected

I recognize that the work I do is not for everyone…The type of work that I do is right for me…The type of work that I do is good for me…There will be times when I have a preference for the type of work that I want to do that other people are not going to resonate with…They will have different ideas about how things should be done…They will have different ideas about the work that I should do…People can even be well-intentioned and wanting me to do something else…But that does not mean I should be doing something else…I can truly be me and still be safe…I can do the work that I'm supposed to do and be safe…I can offer the work that I want to do, have that work rejected, and still be safe…I can be in a position where I offer my work and be OK if someone turns me down…They are not rejecting me as a person…They're simply saying the work I do isn't the right fit for them…I give myself permission to do the work that I want to do…Knowing that I will find the right people to connect with…The people who were right for me…When someone says no to my work I am still safe…When someone says no to my work I am not in trouble…It is simply a statement of best fit…I give myself permission to keep working in the way that I work…Because I know I can find the right connections…I know I can serve the right people…I can be safe even in the face of someone rejecting my work…I can be happy in the face of someone rejecting my work…I can be healthy in the face of someone rejecting my work.

Fear that people will reject my offer

I believe in the work that I do…And I believe in the way that I do that work…It is the right way for me to work…It is the best way for me to use my gifts and talents…I enjoy the work that I do…This does not mean the way I work is the right fit for everyone…Or the way I work is good for everyone…Or that everyone will be open to my work…That is OK…The way I work doesn't have to resonate with everyone…There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to doing this kind of work…And because that is the case…People will say no to me…When they say no to me they aren't saying I am bad…They aren't saying my work is useless…They aren't saying I'm doing this wrong…They are simply saying this is not a good fit for them…I give myself permission to be OK with that fact…It's not always going to be the right fit…When someone says no they are making a statement about best fit…Someone can say no to how I work and I will still be safe…Someone can say no to how I work and I can still be healthy…Someone can say no to how I work and I can still move through the world in a way where I'm connecting with those I am supposed to connect to…It is safe for me to work in the way that I want…Even if that way isn't right for everyone…The way I work is right for me…The way I work is right for those I serve…I can be healthy and safe working in the way that makes the most sense for me…Even if it isn't the right way for everyone.

Pod #358: Will Tapping On Negative Phrases Manifest Negative Outcomes?

by

Because of all of the conversations around the law of attraction and manifesting in the self help community, I often hear the concern “I don't want to say any negative phrases when I am tapping because I'm worried I'll manifest negative outcomes in my life.”

Given the way that manifestation in this world view is taught, I can understand how this might be a concern.

To help you understand how to get the most out of your tapping, this week's podcast covers:

  • The scientific research on visualization
  • What happens when we say only positive phrases when tapping
  • How to get the most out of tapping to create change in your life

I also teach you a bonus method that I use when I am trying to create a new way of acting and being in the world.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Pod #357: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) vs. Tapping w/ Joan Kaylor, M.S.Ed., L.P.C., DCEP

by

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) focuses on challenging and changing thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors, improving emotional regulation, and the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems.

That sounds a lot like what we are trying to do with tapping.

This week I have a conversation with Joan Kaylor who uses both tapping and CBT with her clients. She compares and contrasts the two approaches, highlights where they overlap, and how one can inform the other.

Understanding other modalities, tools, and techniques is a great way for us to improve the tools we are using.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Guest: Joan Kaylor

Contact: Email @ Joan@joankaylor.com; Web @ TappingWithJoan.com
Facebook @ FreedomFromFear-JustTapIt; LinkedIn @ JoanKaylor; Twitter @JoanKaylor; Instagram: JoanKaylor; Podcasts @ Freedom From Fear – Just Tap It; Podcast @ Life Without Limits

About: Joan is an Accredited Advanced EFT Practitioner with AAMET International. She is a keynote speaker, consultant and best-selling instructor on Udemy.com. Joan is certified in cognitive behavioral therapy and has been working with individuals and families since 1994. Joan is a member of the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology, ACEP, EFT International, the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, the International OCD Foundation, the Pennsylvania Counseling Association and the TLC Foundation for Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors.

Pod #356: The Science Behind Tapping w/ Dr. Peta Stapleton

by

With every passing year, more and more research is being conducted into how tapping works and its efficacy. Dr. Peta Stapleton is one of the researchers at the forefront of this work.

Peta recently completed writing The Science Behind Tapping (publication date: April 16th). The book provides a brief history of tapping and a comprehensive overview of existing scientific research on tapping. Based on scientific research, it also provides a clear set of recommendations on how to get the most out of tapping, depending on the issues you are addressing.

In this conversation Peta provides a preview of The Science Behind Tapping, as well as ways you can get better results from your tapping practice.

Knowing the latest scientific research on tapping will make it easier for you to share tapping with your skeptical friends and loved ones. If you want to share tapping with others, you must listen to this conversation!

You can pre-order it today!

Peta is also offering 4 free gifts if you order the book. So right after you pre-order the book you can sign up for your free gifts here.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Guest: Dr. Peta Stapleton

Contact: web @ PetaStapleton.com; twitter @PetaStapleton; instagram @petastapleton

About: Dr. Peta Stapleton has 22 years of experience as a registered Clinical and Health Psychologist in the State of Queensland, Australia and has completed a Bachelor of Arts, Postgraduate Diploma of Professional Psychology and Doctor of Philosophy. Peta held academic positions at Griffith University for 14 years, teaching and coordinating psychological research trials into new therapies in the area of obesity and weight management and is now Associate Professor in Psychology at Bond University

Peta regularly contributes to the academic field with publications in the areas of nursing, morale, communication, psychological interventions and eating disorders. She regularly reviews for academic journals and offers supervision for new and existing Psychologists as well as students.

All interviews with Dr. Peta Stapelton:

Pod #355: Tapping To Magnify Celebration

by

As Dr. Rick Henson shared with us back in Podcast 349, it is important that we spend time not just feeling positive emotions, but reveling in them. By doing this we can do more than enjoy feeling good in the moment, we can turn it into a habit for life.

For most of us, including me, spending a lot of time feeling celebratory isn't the most natural experience.

Celebration can feel embarrassing. It can feel boastful. It can even feel egotistical.

This week we talk and tap about how celebration can make us feel uncomfortable AND tapping in the spirit of celebration. All the tapping scripts from this audio can be found below the audio player.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

I am worthy of success…I am worthy of celebrating that success…When I am successful…I'm not stealing success from others…When I am successful…I'm not pushing other people down…When I experience success…I can also lift others up…I am made for success…I am worthy of success…It is appropriate that I acknowledge that success…It is important that I celebrate my successes…And I'm not doing this in an egotistical way…I'm not doing this because I want other people to look at me…I'm doing it because acknowledging success is healthy…Celebrating my success creates space for more success…I know many people think celebrating is the wrong thing to do…Some friends and family believe we should all just be humble…But it is possible for us to be humble and still acknowledge the truth of our success…Some of my friends and family believe celebrating success is a sinful thing to do…They believe that celebrating is a sign of bad character…It is possible for me to appreciate their disposition without buying into it…I can appreciate my success and remain grounded…I can celebrate my success and keep moving forward…I am worthy of success…Because I am made for success.

I give myself permission to be happy about the good things happening in my life…I give myself permission to enjoy and savor them…Being happy about my success does not deprive other people of success…I'm happy about the good things happening in my life…Even though my life is not perfect…I can appreciate what I'm experiencing…And I can move through this in a way where I continue to connect deeply to my success…While continuing to experience joy…I am happy with the progress I am making…Even though it isn't happening as quickly as I would like…I celebrate each small step forward…Knowing that each of these moments is contributing to greater and greater success in the future…I appreciate how far I've come…I appreciate the amount of work that I have put in…I give myself permission to enjoy my success…Enjoying my success helps me to create more success in the future for myself…And more success in the future for others…I am comfortable and happy with my success.

Pod #354: Why Does Healing Always Have To Be A Process?

by

Even though tapping is such a powerful tool, at times it feels as if it is just taking too long to get the results we want.

In this week's podcast we are talking about:

  • Why healing sometimes needs to happen as part of a process
  • How to make the healing process as quick as possible (when it doesn't feel quick at all)
  • How to deal with the frustration of slow transformation

In the last step we will tap for the frustration around our healing not happening as fast as we would like, and why healing has to be process. (The tapping script is also included below the player.)

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

I'm frustrated by the rate of healing…I wish it was happening faster…I wish it was happening easier…I recognize the fact that when I feel this sort of resistance…And I feel this sort of resentment towards the healing process…I will slow the healing process…Because I don't want to waste time…And I don't want to waste energy on something that isn't going to work out…On something that isn't going to be fruitful…But at the same time I appreciate my frustration…Not because I enjoy being frustrated…But because frustration means that there is a part of me that wants healing and transformation to happen…Frustration is just my system saying it is dissatisfied with what is going on…I hear the frustration loud and clear…I don't want me to be unhealthy…The frustration has done its job…By pointing out the slow rate of this transformation…And since I know this is true…The feeling of frustration can relax…And if the frustration needs to come back in future…That's OK and I allow it to come back…I give myself permission to be easy and gentle with my frustration…Knowing it is possible for me to heal.

Intellectually I understand that transformation is a process…I understand that sometimes it doesn't happen in a single step…That is because some of my issues are more complicated…Some of my issues have multiple layers to them…Sometimes my goal for tapping is to create release in the moment…And tapping is a very good tool for doing exactly that…But at times I want to create lasting and deep change…It's more than just dealing with symptoms in the moment…I'm not looking for quick relief…I'm looking for a long term transformation…I give myself permission to be patient with the process…Even though I would like this to be quick…It is more important that it is lasting change…I give myself permission to be easy with the process…I give myself permission to allow this to take time…I am in this for the long haul…I am in this for long term, lasting transformation…I'm open to the possibility of instantaneous healing…But I'm willing to put in the work for lasting transformation even if it is not instantaneous.

I give myself permission to heal…I give myself permission to transform…By giving myself permission to heal and transform…I'm acknowledging that some of this work might be hard…I recognize the fact that I can do hard work in a way that is safe and healthy for me…I give myself permission to put in the time and effort…By investing in the short term in this way…I am ensuring my long term transformation will be lasting and deep…My goal is lasting transformation…I trust my system to create the process that will allow the healing to persist…To allow this transformation to take root…I am a healing machine…And I allow my system to keep healing.

Pod #353: How You See Yourself Can Stop Your Healing w/ Brad Yates

by

In this conversation with Brad Yates he shares the Zig Ziglar quote “You cannot consistently perform in a manner which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself.”

The quote came up because we were talking about the reasons we sometimes don't get the results we are seeking with tapping.

We often tap because we want something to change in our lives. BUT if we don't believe we are the type of person who can have the outcome we want, we will sabotage ourselves to make sure we don't get it.

For example:

  • If we can't see ourselves as a successful business owner, we will sabotage the growth of our business.
  • If we don't believe we are worthy of love, finding a lasting romantic relationship will be hard.
  • If we think it is too late for change, we won't get around to finding time to tap.

In this conversation Brad and I talk about four of the ways in which we can uncover the beliefs about ourselves that are incongruent with what we want, and how to tap for them.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Guest: Brad Yates

Contact: twitter @EFTWizard; web @ TapWithBrad.com; facebook @ facebook.com/BradYatesTapping

About Brad: Brad Yates is known internationally for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). Brad is the author of the best-selling children's book The Wizard's Wish, the co-author of the best-seller Freedom at Your Fingertips, and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution,” He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including Jack Canfield's “Breakthrough to Success”, has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale, and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows. Brad also has well over 800 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 23 million times.

Here is every interview that I have done with Brad:

10-Year Anniversary

by

This post is a little different than the usual one you get from me. I am going to do three things. I am going to celebrate, I am going to share a useful challenge with you, and I am going to ask you for help.

#1 Celebration!
Sunday March 3rd marked the 10-year anniversary of the Tapping Q and A Podcast!!!!

When I started the podcast all I had was a $19 microphone and a doohickey that I bought from RadioShack (remember them?), which allowed me to connect my landline (remember them?!) to my computer so that I could record telephone interviews.

I had no idea what I was doing, but I thought it would be fun.

I certainly didn't think I would still be doing it 10 years later!

In that time, between interviews, instruction, tap-alongs, and bonus episodes, I have recorded over 400 hundred episodes.

That is more than 168 hours of free content! (As in, it would take you seven straight days without sleeping to listen to all of the podcasts.)

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! For your willingness to listen, to tap along, and to share with other people.

The podcast has been downloaded by people in over 160 countries and more than 1.75 million episodes have been downloaded. (The number is actually closer to 2 million, but because stats weren't tracked in the early years of the show I don't know the exact number for sure.)

#2 Go Learn Something
Even if you have been with me from the very beginning and even if you have listened to every minute of the podcast, there is still so much we can learn from those past interviews.

Think of it like an old book you love or your favorite movie. Even though you have read or watched it before, there's something new for you each time you go back.

The podcasts are no different. There will be something useful when you hear it again – and it might even feel like you are hearing again for the first time.

My challenge to you is to pick seven podcasts from the archive and listen to one each day for the next week. It's a simple commitment to yourself that will pay huge dividends. (I would also love to hear which seven you chose.)

The whole archive is waiting for you, free of charge, at http://TappingPodcast.com

#3 Help me out!
The podcast is a labor of love.

They don't just magically appear on the website or in your podcast app of choice. There is scripting, reaching out to guests, recording interviews, editing interviews, writing show notes, writing these emails, making the graphics for social media, and creating the final version of the show.

On average I spend about four hours on every episode of the podcast. Assuming a 40-hour work week, that means I have spent over 10 months working solely on the podcast. (And that doesn't take into account all the time I have spent learning how to do the podcast and my continuing education to make them better.)

I love doing it. I love the fact you listen. AND I need your help.

There are two ways in which you can support the podcast.

First, tell a friend about the podcast. Well actually, I want to you tell three friends. The marketing budget for the podcast is word of mouth and the most common way new people find their way to it is via a recommendation from a friend.

Think of three people you think would benefit from the podcast. Send them an email, show them how to listen to a podcast, or you might even help them by showing them how to subscribe on their phone the next time you see them.

When people join my email list, I ask them how they found me. My favorite response is always “A friend told me about your podcast.” Those emails warm my heart.

Please help to warm my heart some more and tell a friend about the podcast!

My goal in the next year is to double the number of listeners to the podcast. This isn't for the pure vanity of doubling my downloads. I believe in my heart of hearts the more people who tap regularly, the healthier the world will be for all of us. This is a small way in which you can help that to happen.

Second, support the podcast. In addition to my time, there are actual costs for producing the podcast. I pay for the hostings, software to edit and make it sound good, and my editor who makes sure all the emails and show notes look good.

There are two ways you can give your support:

  • You can become a monthly supporter of the podcast. For as little as $5 a month you get access to a bunch of bonus content, including extra podcasts every month only for supports. You can join here: http://tappingqanda.com/support
  • You can make a one-time contribution of any amount https://tappingqanda.com/tip/

The podcast is set up on an interesting business model. Everyone gets free access and then if you think it is valuable, you can give your financial support. It is a risk on my part, putting in the work without any support up front.

Not everyone is in the possion to support the podcast financially, but if you are, I would encourage you to do so. Not because you get bonus content (which is nice), but because it is something you value.

By investing in the podcast you are letting me know you value it AND you are making a statement to yourself that you value your personal growth through the podcast.

There are a number of ways I am hoping to grow the podcast in the future (including transcriptions of all the interviews, including the archives), but I won't be able to do that without your support.

Thank you!
Once again, thank you for continuing to support the podcast. I hope you keep listening, learning, and tapping along.

Here is to another 10 years!

Pod #352: EFT for Anxiety and Worry w/ Julie Schiffman

by

Fear, worry, and anxiety are some of our most primitive emotions. Their main goal is to keep us safe and in some cases, alive.

Because of their vital function, these emotions will override all our other emotions, ensuring that they are heard first.

For the most part, this is a good thing and these emotions truly do keep us safe. Problems arise when our feelings of worry and anxiety are too intense for what is actually going on.

In this week's podcast Julie Schiffman and I talk about how to figure out the root cause of our fear, and how to tap effectively for it.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Guest: Julie Schiffman

Contact: web @ JulieSchiffman.com; facebook @ Julie Schiffman EFT; instagram @Julieschiffman_tapintolife; youtube channel @ Julie Schiffman; YouTube demonstrations @ over 100 videos

About: Julie Schiffman, MSW, is an internationally recognized Expert EFT Practitioner. For more than 20 years, she has counseled thousands of clients, helping them break through physical and emotional barriers. Her life-changing YouTube videos have been viewed more than 4 million times.

She is best known for her expertise in helping others heal from pain, disease, weight issues, phobias and other emotional and physical stressors.

She was formerly the chief EFT practitioner for Dr. Mercola’s Center for Natural Health for over 15 years. Julie has been a featured presenter at the “Tapping World Summit” every year since its inception in 2008.

Pod #351: Why You Don’t Get The Results You Want With Tapping w/ Dr. Kim D’Eramo

by

Dr. Kim D'Eramo was frustrated that she wasn't getting the results that she wanted in her medical practice. Then she discovered tapping. Using tapping with her clients made a huge difference…but she still wasn't getting the results she wanted.

Because of this she dedicated a lot of time to thinking about why some issues were more difficult to clear, and why some symptoms lingered.

In this interview we talk about the two main reasons why issues don't clear with tapping.

Supporters of the podcast have access to a bonus interview with Dr. Kim. Become a supporter today to have access the this and all the bonus podcast.

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Listen to both Kim and Gene in this year's Tapping World Summit.

Guest: Dr. Kim D’Eramo

Contact: web @ DrKimDeramo.com; instagram @drkimderamo; youtube @YouAttractWellness; facebook @DrKimDeramo

About: Dr Kim D'Eramo graduated medical school in 2002 from University of New England College of Osteopathic Medicine, where she also completed a Fellowship in Osteopathic Medicine and Medical Gross Anatomy, as well as an undergraduate Fellowship in Neuroanatomy. She completed her Emergency Medicine residency at Emory University in 2005, and is board certified in Emergency Medicine.

Dr. Kim founded The American Institute of Mind Body Medicine (AIMBM) to train other doctors and health practitioners how to activate the body’s ability to heal itself. Through AIMBM, she conducts live workshops and retreats, and assists clients online internationally.

Dr. Kim and her husband Dr. Mario Torres-Leon produced a Top-10 podcast “The Thrive Doctors” featuring the latest in MindBody healing.
In 2012 she published The MindBody Toolkit, which was a #1 Amazon Bestseller, and her work has also been featured on national television networks in America.

Pod #350: EFT for Long-Term Transformation – Practical Application Based on the Interview with Rick Hanson

by

In podcast #249 I talked to Rick Hanson about our three basic human needs for safety, satisfaction, and connection. Most of the unconscious, subconscious, and conscious actions we make are driven by one of these three needs.

Tapping can be a powerful tool in helping us to make sure that we meet these needs in a healthy way.

This week's podcast covers firstly how you can identify which one of these needs you are trying to meet, and then how best to tap for each of these needs.

If you didn't listen to the interview I did with Rick I would encourage to you to listen to it first before diving into the application.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Pod #349: EFT for Long-Term Transformation w/ Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

by

When people are looking for long term results with tapping they commonly run into one of two problems. Either they are working on the wrong issue for their desired outcome OR they are only working on a symptom and not the root cause.

If you are making either of these mistakes, chances are that you're not getting as much as you can out of your tapping practice.

New York Times bestselling author Rich Hanson has done a masterful job in breaking down the types of problems in relation to our sense of safety, satisfaction, and connection. He has also developed a clear set of tools which can help us to bring about transformation and healing in each area.

When we know the right issues and we are using the right tool, transformation comes more quickly and is much longer lasting.

In Podcast #350 I share how to apply everything Rick and I talk about in your daily tapping practice.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Guest: Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

Contact: web @ rickhanson.net; Just One Thing Newsletter; facebook @ Buddha's Brain ; podcast @ Being Well Podcast

About: Rick Hanson, Ph.D.,is a psychologist, Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, and New York Times best-selling author. His books are available in 28 languages and include Resilient, Hardwiring Happiness,Buddha’s Brain,Just One Thing, and Mother Nurture.

A summa cum laude graduate of UCLA and founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom, he’s been an invited speaker at Oxford, Stanford, Harvard, and other major universities, and taught in meditation centers worldwide. In 2016 he gave a keynote address at the annual meeting of the American Psychological Association.

Pod #348: Raising Happy Healthy Kids with EFT w/ Carrie Contey, Ph.D.

by

Parenting can often feel like a struggle. As a parent you have a clear idea of what needs to be done over the course of day. There are meals to be planned and served, errands to be run, getting the kids to and from school, homework to be done, and all of the other tasks that fill daily life.

Kids, on the other hand, lack the same sense of priorities or an understanding of the necessity of this structure, which means it can feel like hard work for their parents just to get through the day.

This week I have a conversation with parenting specialist Carrie Contey about how parents can manage the demands of daily life while still helping their kids to grow in a happy and healthy way.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Carrie ConteyGuest: Carrie Contey, Ph.D.

Contact: web @ carriecontey.com; email @ hello@carriecontey.com; Instagram @carrieconteyphd

About: Carrie Contey, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized coach, author, speaker and educator. Her work offers a new perspective on human development, parenting and family life. She guides, supports and inspires her clients to live with wide-open and courageous hearts so they can approach family life with skill and spaciousness.

Carrie received her doctorate in clinical psychology with an emphasis on prenatal and perinatal psychology and is masterful at synthesizing and articulating the science, psychology and spirituality of humanhood. She is the creator of Evolve, a year-long “personal growth through parenting” program which ran from 2011-2017. She is also the co-founder of the Slow Family Living movement and the co-author of CALMS: A Guide To Soothing Your Baby.

Pod #347: Intention Based Tapping w/ Steve Wells

by

One of the best parts about tapping is how easily it can be combined with other tools and modalities. Recently, Steve Wells has been working using the power of intention combined with tapping to achieve deeper healing and longer lasting results.

The idea of intention in this context is not about the outcome we desire (for example “my intention is to be confident speaking in public”) but instead holding specific intentions about the healing process.

Steve calls his new approach Intention-based Energy Process (IEP) or Intention Tapping for short. In the conversation Steve shares how he came to use intention in this way, as well as teaching you the entire process.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Note: For the first time since 2013 Steve is running live training in North America. There is a 3-hour workshop on April 4th and three days of advanced training from April 5th – 7th in Toronto. Here are details

If you can't make it to Toronto in April, Steve also offers a number of online training opportunities

Guest: Steve Wells

Contact: web @ EFTDownunder.com; email @ admin@eftdownunder.com; More interviews with Steve @ TappingQ&A

About Steve: Steve Wells is an international leadership coach and peak performance consultant based in Perth, Western Australia. He helps people to overcome the hidden blocks to achieving their goals and getting what they really want from life.

Steve was one of the first to apply tapping to performance enhancement work with elite athletes and to take tapping to the corporate environment. He regularly teaches and consults worldwide with elite sport and business achievers to improve their performance and enhance the performance of their teams.

Steve is co-creator (with Dr David Lake) of the user-friendly tapping approach Simple Energy Techniques (SET) and the unique advanced Energy-based approach Provocative Energy Techniques (PET). He has helped thousands of people through his worldwide personal development and professional training workshops.

Steve is on the faculty of the Curtin University Centre for Entrepreneurship, where he presents to business owners and senior leaders on peak performance and resilience. He is also on the faculty of the Emotional Intelligence Institute. He is co-author of four books, including Enjoy Emotional Freedom.

Steve's programs and presentations are always inspiring, engaging and filled with powerful practical strategies you can use immediately to get better results – with less stress.

Here are all the interviews that I have done with Steve:

Pod #346: Improving Your Performance With EFT w/ Dr. Tom Hanson, PhD

by

Making mistakes can be frustrating, but it is even more frustrating when you mess something that you know you can do, have done before, but right at the moment when it's most important to get right, you mess up.

Athletes deal with this problem all of the time. There are actions that they can do perfectly over and over again in practice, but are unable to perform to the best of their ability when they get into a game setting.

We may not be professional sportspeople, but the same can happen with any of the tasks we perform. It is easy to let the pressure of the moment get the better of us.

In this week's podcast I have a conversation with performance coach Dr. Tom Hanson. Over the last three decades Tom has worked with countless professional athletes and top-level collegiate athletes.

Where performance is concerned it doesn't matter if you are in a stadium in front of tens of thousands of people, or you are making a small presentation to your co-workers, if you are worried about the outcome, your nerves can be hard to conquer.

This also means that the tools and techniques that Tom uses with top level athletes will also help us when we need to perform at our best.

In this conversation we talk about how tapping can be used to:

  • Remove the one part that is making it harder
  • How to find the right focus
  • How to let go of the wrong focus
  • How to deal with extreme nerves – often called the yips in sports

No matter what level or what setting you need to perform in, Tom will show how you how to use simple tapping to get the most out of each opportunity.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Guest: Dr. Tom Hanson, PhD

Contact: email @ DrTomHanson@gmail.com; web @ HeadsUpPerformance.com; web @ PlayBigBaseball.com; web @  HeadsUpBaseball2.com; phone @ 813-453-3467

About Tom: CEO of Heads-Up Performance, Inc., Tom is a certified professional coach with over 30 years of experience in coaching, speaking and training. He earned his doctorate in sport psychology from the University of Virginia and uses his expertise in human performance to evoke excellence in professional athletes, CEOs and other corporate performers.

Formerly a tenured professor and head baseball coach, Hanson co-authored the books Heads-Up Baseball and Heads-Up Baseball 2.0, which have sold over 200,000 copies and have been used by many Major League Baseball, top college and high school teams. Labeled the bible of mental toughness in baseball by Collegiate Baseball, the books have been translated into several languages. His book, PLAY BIG: Mental Toughness Secrets that Take Baseball Players to the Next Level is widely used by teams at all levels of play.

For the last 20 years he has helped executives and entrepreneurs bring their game to work each day and coached them on how to be successful on the many days they aren't at their best. His clients are often surprised to learn that, like an effortless golf drive that rockets the ball long and straight, they can produce better results by learning to lead with effortless power.

Pod #345: EFT For Recognizing That Just Because There Are Problems, Doesn’t Mean They Are Your Problems (Pro-You Choices Part 4)

by

Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call “pro-you choices”. These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 4 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series.

I can't imagine not being a thoughtful, kind person in the world. I am glad that at least some of the time I am able to respond to other people's wants, needs, and suffering.

But one of the consequences of being known to be thoughtful is that other people often come for help. In extreme cases, they aren't looking for help, they just want us to solve their problems.

At some point it can become too much and just because someone we love it having a hard time, it doesn't mean we are responsible for solving all their problems.

We can be thoughtful, helpful, and caring without taking on everyone's burdens. In this week's audio I have a story about how I was able to change the dynamics of a relationship where I had let a boundary down to the point that it was making my life difficult.

There is also a tap-along that will make it easier for you to be the kind and thoughtful person that you are without having to take care of every burden of everyone you know. (A printable tapping script can be found below the audio.)

Support the podcast!
Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

I know the people around me struggle…Because everybody struggles…Sometimes I can be helpful to the people around me…Because I don't want to see them suffer…And I don't want to see them struggle…And there are also times in which it is not best for me to be helpful…There are times when it is not best for the relationship for me to swoop in and solve the problem…And when that is the case…There is a part of me that feels bad for not being helpful…There's a part of me that feels bad when I see other people struggle…But I recognize that I am not able to solve everyone's problems all the time…I can't be in a situation where I take responsibility for other people's lives…Even though there's a part of me that feels like I need to help…I recognize the fact that sometimes that is not useful in the long term…I recognize the fact that is not healthy in the long term…It is possible for me to be responsible to my loved ones without being responsible for my loved ones…It is possible for me to be helpful without helping right away all the time…It is good for me to create boundaries…It is healthy for me to create boundaries…And it is necessary for me to create boundaries…I can be kind…I can be thoughtful…I can be helpful…I can be loving…And not take on the responsibility of everyone else's problem…There's a part of me that struggles with finding this balance…It is important that I find the balance…Creating boundaries isn't being mean…Creating boundaries isn't thoughtless…Creating boundaries isn't heartless…Creating healthy boundaries is a necessity for me…I give myself permission to create boundaries…I give myself permission to learn how to create boundaries and to stick to them.

Pod #344: Putting Yourself First with EFT (Pro-You Choices Part 3)

by

Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call “pro-you choices”. These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 3 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series.

For those of us who are of a thoughtful and caring disposition, it is natural to want to care for others.

The problem comes when we spend so much time taking care of everyone else, we don't spend the time and attention that we need to take care of our own needs.

The simple truth is: If we don't put ourselves first, no one else is going to.

This week I have a tap-along audio (with printable tapping script below the audio player) to help to manage the guilt we may feel when we decide to take care of ourselves.

I feel guilty whenever I think about taking care of myself…I feel selfish…I feel mean…When I take care of myself…I feel like I am letting other people down…Because so many people are dependent upon me…The people around me are struggling…The people around me are in pain…I don't want them to struggle…I don't want them to be in pain…I don't want them to have difficult times…But if I spend all of my time taking care of everyone else… Then I'm not going to be healthy…I'm not going to be safe…I'm not going to be in a good position moving forward…I need to spend time taking care of myself…Because if I don't take care of myself…No one else will do it for me…Taking care of myself is my responsibility…Taking care of myself is something I must do…Taking care of myself is important for the short and long term…If I don't take care of myself…It will be impossible for me to take care of anyone else…If I don't take care of myself…No one else will do it for me…I must take care of myself…I know that's not just a suggestion…It is an imperative…And when I take the time to take care of myself…I am happier…I am healthier…I am safer…When I am healthier…The world is a better place…When I am healthier…It is easier for me to respond to the needs of others…When I am healthy or I make better choices…I give myself permission to take care of myself…And I give myself permission to not feel guilty about that…I am worthy of taking care of myself…I give myself permission to take care of myself.

Pod #343: EFT To Help You Say “I Don’t Know” (Pro-You Choices Part 2

by

Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call “pro-you choices”. These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 2 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series.

I find that “I don't know!” is one of the hardest phrases to say.

When I say it, it is easy for me to feel disempowered, incompetent, and less than.

In a recent interview, actor and director John Krasinski talked about how the most powerful thing you can say is that you don't know.

It is an interesting idea. When we are able to acknowledge that we don't fully understand what we are supposed to do or how to do it, we are actually putting ourselves in a place of power. Our honesty means we can make the best possible choice, without fooling others or ourselves.

This week I have a tap-along audio (with printable script below the player) that will help you to be comfortable with not knowing.

Support the podcast!

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

There's a part of me that doesn't want to look foolish…There's a part of me that always wants to look like I am competent…There is part of me that always wants to look knowledgeable…There is a part of me that wants to look like I'm trustworthy…I want other people depend on me…I want other people to believe in me…I want other people to think I'm capable…I want other people to be able to trust me…I am afraid that if I say I don't know…Other people won't trust me…Other people will look down on me…Other people won't think I am capable of being helpful…And they may judge me…But the truth is that it is useful for me to say I don't know…Then everybody knows where they stand…People know what they can expect of me…I know what I can expect of myself…By being honest in this way…I will create the greatest success…I will be able to move forward in the most natural way…And I will be able to get the help that I need…Getting help means I will be successful faster…Because I'm not dependent upon myself to figure it all out on my own…I give myself permission not to know everything…I give myself permission to admit to others when I don't know…Being honest about what I don't know serves me and serves everyone else.

Pod #342: Saying “No” To Holiday Invites With EFT (Pro-You Choices Part 1)

by

Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call “pro-you choices”. These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 2 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series.

The month of December is a super busy time of year. There are work parties, holiday parties, meals with friends, family obligations, performances, recitals…the list goes on and on.

In a vacuum, going to any one of these events is fine, but when they stack up on top of each other they can just become too much.

Actor and comedian John Hodgman wrote last week in his newsletter:

ALL SOCIAL PLANS ARE OPTIONAL. Especially HOLIDAY PARTIES. Everyone will understand if you can't make it. They probably won't even notice you're not there (sorry, narcissists!).

And if it's a one-on-one thing, that's OK too. Your friend will forgive you if you cancel. They will probably be relieved, too.

There is a part of you that knows this, and there is a part of you that feels like you are failing if you follow through and actually do this.  

This week I have a tap-along audio (with script below the player) that will help you to give yourself permission to say “no” to at least one invitation so that you are happier and healthier this holiday season

The holiday season is crazy…There are so many things going on…There are so many invitations that I have received..There's a part of me that feels like I have to say yes to all of it…There's a part of me that feels as if I'm letting other people down if I don't go…There is a part of me that feels like I am missing out if I don't say yes…I recognize the fact it is OK for me to say no…I recognize the fact it is OK for me to turn something down…If I say no…I'm not making a judgment about the thing I'm saying no to…I'm simply saying it's not a good fit for me in the midst of all of this…The reality is that if I don't go to something, most people won't notice…The reality is most people won't care…Some people will even be jealous at my courage in saying no…It is OK for me to say no…It is possible that some people might get bent out of shape if I say no…It is possible that some people will be frustrated if I say no…I am not responsible for their emotional state…I'm not responsible for how they feel about my choice…If they want to be bent out of shape because I said no to an invitation…They're allowed to do that…That is their choice…I am not responsible for that…I give myself permission to take care of myself…I give myself permission to be thoughtful about what I say yes to…I give myself permission to look at the whole season and make good healthy decisions based on my needs…If I don't put myself first, no one else is going to…If I don't take care of myself, no one else is going to…I give myself permission to make healthy choices…Saying no to an invitation is a great way for me to take care of myself…I don't have to feel guilty about saying no…I don't have to explain why I'm saying no…I am simply taking care of myself…I am worthy of taking care of myself.

Pod #341: Tapping For When We Hurt Others

by

Sometimes we make choices that hurt others. Sometimes our emotions get the better of us, or we act thoughtlessly and cause someone else pain.

Either way, it's easy to beat ourselves up for the pain we have caused. Even when we apologize and do what we can to make amends, we may still feel bad.

This week's podcast covers how to tap for those times when we have unintentionally hurt others with our words or actions. We tap for feeling bad because we have caused someone else pain, for feeling like a failure because of the mistakes we have made, and to create space to learn from the experience so that we make better choices in the future.

I have also included a printable version of the tapping script below the audio player.

Support the podcast! 

Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

I recognize my actions have hurt someone else…I recognize the fact that my thoughtlessness has caused pain…Just because I didn't intend to hurt the person doesn't reduce their pain…Their pain is real…And it deserves to be recognized…I need to take responsibility for causing that pain…I hate being in a circumstance where I have hurt others…I hate it when I make choices that make life more difficult for others…I wish I hadn't caused this pain…I commit to doing what I can to make it right…I know better than this…I know I shouldn't have acted in that way…And I feel like a failure because of that fact…I know I have failed in this particular moment…Because I want to be better than this…I think of myself as a better person than this…I need to act better than this…I give myself permission to learn from this moment…To recognize the fact that I can and should make better choices…Even though I can't change the past…I can ensure that I learn from the past and make better choices in the future…This mistake is a challenge for me to do better… This mistake is a challenge for me to be better…I give myself permission to do exactly that…Even though I can't take this moment back…I give myself permission to be a new person in the way that I move forward…I challenge myself to act better in the future…And I commit to accepting that challenge.