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Pod #473: Attachment Trauma v Generational Trauma w/ Mark Wolynn

August 5, 2020 by Gene Monterastelli

In the most basic terms it means that if one of our parents has a fear of water because of a traumatic instance in their life it is very likely we will have the same fear because it is in our DNA.

I believe that one of the most important discoveries in the study of trauma is the recognition that trauma can be passed down from generation to generation through our genetic code.

In the most basic terms, it means that if one of our parents has a fear of water because of a traumatic incident in their life, it is highly likely we will have the same fear because it is in our DNA.

The good news is that just because it is in our DNA, does not mean we are stuck with it forever. It just requires a different approach for the transformation because we don’t have a specific memory to tap on.

In my first interview with Mark we talked about how trauma can be passed down through our epigenetics. This time we talk about how to identify if something is a generational trauma or an attachment trauma (in other words, something that has happened to us) through recognizing what he calls “trauma language”. The language we use to describe our trauma will help us to tell which type of trauma it is.

Take the time to dive into this one. I recommend that you listen to it twice.

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Guest: Mark Wolynn

Contact: web @ MarkWolynn.com; facebook @ Mark Wolynn

About: Mark Wolynn, director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, is a leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma. A sought-after lecturer, he has taught at the University of Pittsburgh, the Western Psychiatric Institute, Kripalu, The Omega Institute, The New York Open Center, and The California Institute of Integral Studies. Mark specializes in working with depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, fears, panic disorders, self-injury, chronic pain and persistent symptoms and conditions. His book IT DIDN’T START WITH YOU: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (Viking/Penguin) is the winner of the 2016 Nautilus Book Award in psychology. His articles have appeared in Psychology Today, Mind Body Green, MariaShriver.com, Elephant Journal, and Psych Central.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Generational Trauma, Mark Wolynn, Trauma

Pod #472: Not knowing what to say when tapping w/ Nancy Forrester

July 29, 2020 by Gene Monterastelli

Especially for beginners, and sometimes for more skilled tappers, knowing what to say and where to start is often the part of tapping that trips people up.

Just because we recognize the fact that the words themselves aren’t magic and that there is no such thing as the perfect tapping phase, does not mean it’s easy to start when we are experiencing a lot of mixed emotions all at once.

In this conversation Nancy Forester and I talk about a number of approaches and tools that you can use to start your tapping. These will ease you into tapping when you don’t know where to begin and also help you to get more out of your tapping sessions each time you sit down.

If you enjoy this conversation, you should check out Nancy’s Conscious EFT 101 which is a free five-part series introducing you to her trauma informed approach to safe and effective EFT.

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Guest: Nancy Forrester

Contact: web @ neftti.com

About: Nancy Forrester is a retired clinical psychotherapist, coach, international speaker, corporate consultant and Canada’s only Accredited Master Trainer and Trainer of Trainers in Emotional Freedom Techniques (often referred to as EFT or Tapping).

Since discovering the enormous power of Energy Psychology in the late 90’s, Nancy has been a passionate student, teacher and advocate of this advanced approach to transformation. Nancy blends a variety of research-based tools and modalities to maximize impact and is internationally recognized as a leading expert in integrating the most cutting-edge mind-body-spirit strategies for health and personal development into therapy and coaching work.

Nancy founded the National EFT Training Institute in 2012 out of a desire to bring EFT to a broad audience of professionals. NeftTI offers professional-level training, mentoring and certification to active psychotherapists, medical professionals, social workers, personal and business coaches, holistic practitioners as well as to people looking to transition to being transformational coaches. NeftTi’s trainings are renowned for their high standards, trauma-informed approach, high level of warmth and personal engagement as well as post-training involvement in a closely held community of like-minded practitioners.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: How To, Nancy Forester, Phrases, Words

Past failures do not define me – Video

July 28, 2020 by Gene Monterastelli

There’s no doubt that past choices impact our lives, but we also tend to think that these past choices determine our future. Even though the past informs our present, we can make new choices in this moment. This tap-along will help you to do exactly that.

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Filed Under: Video Tagged With: Core-16, Failure, Past

Pod #471: Why Tapping Works w/ David Feinstein, PhD

July 22, 2020 by Gene Monterastelli

The two most common questions asked by those new to tapping are “Does tapping work?” and “How do we know tapping works?” As someone who loves tapping, it’s great that I can share my personal first hand experience of tapping, but for some people it just isn’t enough.

In this conversation David Feinstein and I talk about six criteria to determine whether or not tapping works. Then we move on to what the scientific research has shown as to why tapping works.

I believe this information is useful for a couple of reasons. First, when we know how something works, it makes it easier for us to get the most out of the tool. Second, when we know how and why it works, it makes it much easier to explain to others.

I think this is an essential conversation for anyone who taps and would like to share tapping with others.

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Guest: David Feinstein, PhD

Contact: web @ Eden Energy Medicine

About: David Feinstein is a clinical psychologist and a pioneer in developing innovative therapeutic approaches, leading to nine national awards for his books on consciousness and healing. He and his wife, Donna Eden, have built the world’s largest and most vibrant organization teaching energy medicine. Their latest award-winning book, The Energies of Love, achieved best-seller status on the NY Times Relationship List. David has served on the faculties of The Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, Antioch College, and the California School of Professional Psychology.

David received the 2002 “Outstanding Contribution” Award from the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology (and again in 2012), the U.S. Book News Award for the Best Psychology/Mental Health Book of 2007, the 2015 “Outstanding Leadership” Award from the Canadian Association for Integrative and Energy Therapies, and the Infinity Foundation’s 2013 “Spirit Award” (with Donna) for their contribution to “the evolution of consciousness” and its “impact on society.” A licensed psychologist (Oregon), he has contributed more than 100 articles to the professional literature.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: David Feinstein, Research

Here are just 20 of things that you will learn

July 21, 2020 by Gene Monterastelli

On Saturday I was reading an sales email from someone who works in the professional development space about a program they are selling. My first thought was “Is that really true?”

I wasn’t questioning the modality they use and I wasn’t questioning the quality of their work.

But I wasn’t entirely convinced by the story that was being told about how and why I was receiving the email. It felt more like a marketing tactic than an honest explanation of what was really going on.

The reason I bring this up is because I don’t ever want you to think that I am doing that as a marketer. I know that I need to be good at marketing both in order to have a successful business and to make a difference in the world with the work I do.

I never want to be a cynical marketer.

Instead, my aim is to communicate clearly about what I am offering and why I think it will be helpful to you. If what I am offering is a good fit for you then I hope you will say yes. In the best of all worlds you feel like you are receiving value and I feel like my work is being valued and I’m making a difference.

All of this is a long way around explaining the bullet list below. In seeking to demonstrate the value of the Mastering the Art of Delivery training, I knew at some point it would be useful to send at least a partial list of what you would learn in the class.

As I read over it now it feels a little hype-y. But with that being said, here are just 20 of the lessons, tools, and techniques you will learn in the Mastering the Art of Delivery training:

  1. What I tap on before I tap on the issue that improves my results
  2. Why my first round of tapping is without words
  3. The reason the subconscious mind overreacts emotionally and what we can do about it
  4. Why clients forget about all the progress they have made and how that gets in the way of more healing
  5. The main reason we subconsciously prevent ourselves from healing (and the tapping phrase that overcomes it)
  6. Why I stopped trying to achieve total relief with tapping and how that improved my results
  7. Why I start almost every round of tapping with the phrase “I give myself permission…” and why that makes each round of tapping emotionally easier
  8. The one key issue that I tap for every single morning
  9. What I learned from tapping on fungus, viruses, and bacteria that I now use when tapping for emotions and past memories
  10. How I tailor tapping phrases for each specific client so our work is more personal and effective
  11. The three-question sequence that makes parts work easy to do – especially when we are tapping for our own issues
  12. How using the “rule of three” helps clients to be more honest with themselves about their issues, which leads to faster results
  13. The visualization I learned from a client that transformed my approach to parts work (I use this at least once a week for myself)
  14. The best way to measure the success of tapping or any healing modality (and it’s not the SUD scale)
  15. My favorite question to ask clients to help them find answers to questions they can’t consciously see in the moment (I sometimes even use this question on myself and even though I know it is a trick, it still works on me)
  16. The first thing I do when a client shares something completely unexpected with me to ensure I am never lost in a session and my client is emotionally safe at all times
  17. Why one of my clients decided to bring Bruce Willis from Die Hard into a guided imagery while tapping, why it was the perfect resource for healing, and how you too can get your clients to come up with the perfect healing resources
  18. My seven-step parts work formula you can use effectively right away, even if you’ve never studied parts work
  19. How to tap successfully with a client when they are unwilling to share details of the issue they are struggling with
  20. The step I recently added to doing inner child work which makes the process much gentler and more effective

I believe every statement above is true. I know you will learn all of this and so much more from the Mastering the Art of Delivery training.

Over the weekend I received an email asking what was the difference between this training and the Advanced Tapping Techniques audio I sell on my site. In addition to going through the specifics of the topics, I shared this:

The other difference is nine years of experience. Even though some of the topics are the same, I am a more skillful practitioner because of the hundreds of hours that I have tapped on my own and the thousands of hours that I have tapped with clients. The art of delivery is about the ability to use these tools and techniques in the moment. I am so much better at that today than I was nine years ago, and a better practitioner and teacher as a result.

I would really love it if you joined us for one of the weekends I am teaching Mastering the Art of Delivery!

You can find all the details about the class, how to participate from anywhere in the world, and how to sign up by going to http://TappingArtOfDelivery.com.

REMEMBER: You will receive 50% off the registration if you use the coupon code “art”.

Get more out of your tapping sessions: http://TappingArtOfDelivery.com

If you have any questions about the training, let me know,

Gene

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