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Tag Archives: Self Sabotage

Pod #510: The Reason I Wasn’t Taking Action

May 26, 2021 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

One of my favorite ways to use tapping is to help people to take the actions they want more consistently. At this point it is probably the number one focus of my work with clients in private sessions. It's an issue that I love working with BUT it ...

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Action, Fear, Resistance, Self Sabotage

Pod #413: The Question That Can Change Everything

December 16, 2019 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

When we are wanting to take action, it is very easy for us to be stuck because of worry. Worry is nothing more than a part of us trying to keep us safe by keeping an eye out for everything that could possibly go wrong. The problem is that the part ...

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Self Sabotage

Pod #410: Tapping To Be Happy With Where We Are And Striving For More At The Same Time

December 4, 2019 By Gene Monterastelli 2 Comments

It is good that we are thankful for what we have in our lives. Expressing gratitude helps us to be appreciative, grounded, and there are even health benefits to being thankful. The problem is that on a subconscious level we may feel that wanting ...

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Action, Gratitude, Self Sabotage

Pod #395: 4 Reasons Why We Sabotage Taking Action

October 14, 2019 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

In my client sessions over the last few weeks I have found myself repeatedly saying that there are four reasons why we sabotage ourselves and stand in the way of taking the action we know we want to take. Without exception my clients respond with, ...

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Pod #393: The Reason You Aren’t Tapping? You Aren’t In Enough Pain!

October 7, 2019 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Note: If you find reading instructions more helpful than listening, you should check out the article version of the topic. When people unsubscribe from my mailing list they have the opportunity to leave a comment. I recently received a really ...

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Action, Pain, Self Sabotage

Pod #392: The Two (Surprisingly) Different Outcomes That Come From Tapping

October 2, 2019 By Gene Monterastelli 13 Comments

My first memory of using EFT on my own was getting rid of one of the most profound headaches I had ever had in about 90 seconds. My second big moment was dealing with my social anxiety. It makes sense that this is what I thought EFT was all about ...

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Action, Self Sabotage

Pod #130: How To Use EFT To Move You To Take Action

April 23, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 4 Comments

The first weekend of April the 2nd annual Spring Energy Event was held outside NYC. My friend Jondi Whitis did an awesome job once again of putting together a great event. This year I was asked to talk about how we can use tapping to move ourselves ...

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Action, Sabotage, Self Sabotage

Pod #127: Your Self-Sabotage Is Brilliant w/ Brad Yates

March 19, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Self-sabotage can be so frustrating. There are times when we know exactly what we need to be doing, yet we still choose the wrong course of action. Sometimes I can see myself getting in my own way and I am amazed at how creatively I self-sabotage. ...

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Brad Yates, Self Sabotage

The Reason You Aren’t Tapping? You Aren’t In Enough Pain

February 8, 2014 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

[Note: If you find listening to instruction more helpful than reading you should check out the podcast version of this topic.] I have some of the nicest readers in the world. Like anyone who has an email newsletter, people unsubscribe from my ...

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Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Action, Pain, Self Sabotage

The First Question I Ask When I Can’t Get To The Root Of My Self-Sabotage

August 11, 2013 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

photo by Nina Matthews Sometimes we can be in two minds when it comes to change. There is one part of us that wants the change because it knows our life will be better because of it and then there is another part that wants things to stay the ...

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Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Core Issue, Self Sabotage

Pod #112: Discover Why You Are Sabotaging Yourself

May 22, 2013 By Gene Monterastelli 3 Comments

Last weekend I had the chance to speak at the Spring EFT & Energy Gathering (Northeastern USA) just outside NYC. I was asked to speak on EFT and Self-Sabotage. My talk was about 5 lenses we can use to figure out the core issues of our ...

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You Don’t Have To Tap Away Your Fear With EFT In Order To Take Action

May 13, 2013 By Gene Monterastelli 5 Comments

photo by Svante Adermark My life is a little crazy right now. From the outside it looks like I am being really brave in the midst of all the craziness. I am in the process of moving from Baltimore to Brooklyn, NY. I am uprooting my life ...

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Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Fear, Self Sabotage

Why Do I Always Make Change So Hard? How To Make It Easier With EFT!

February 4, 2013 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

photo by mjzitek Why do I always make it so hard for myself to change? I know there is an easier way, but I always choose the hard way. Why am I doing that? That is a direct quote from one of my clients this week. (Did you know you can ...

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Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Self Sabotage, Worthy

I Can’t Do It Unless I Do It Perfectly – One Of The Most Common Reasons We Don’t Take Action

November 5, 2012 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

There are lots of things that motivate us to do well. We all want to be successful. We want to be proud of our work and we want others to recognize our good work. Sometimes there is an even more powerful driver to success itself: the worry that ...

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Self Sabotage: The Number One Issue I Use EFT For (And How I Get Past It)

August 7, 2012 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Good morning! Don't you hate it when you get in your own way? You know what you want, you know the right steps to take, and you just don't take action. (And to make matters worse, you then beat yourself up for not doing what you need to ...

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Pod #90: EFT To Quiet The Inner Critic w/ Judy Byrne

July 18, 2012 By Gene Monterastelli 1 Comment

Do you have a good relationship with your inner critic? Very few people answer that question in a positive way because to most of us it is nothing more than a “critic”. It is always there waiting to pounce, waiting to point out everything we have ...

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Critical Voice, Judy Byrne, Self Sabotage

Fear of Loving and Being Loved

April 1, 2010 By Gene Monterastelli 8 Comments

I know I would like to have deeper loving relationships in my life, but for some reason I keep self-sabotaging. Is there a reason I might be doing this and is there a way to us Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT)/tapping to deal with it? Often ...

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Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Deborah Miller, Fear, Guest Author, Love, Phrases, Relationships, Self Sabotage

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