I wasn’t the coolest of kids when I was in middle school. I was on the math team. At the age of 13 my feet were larger than my 6' 2" tall father's, although I was only 5' 7" at the time. AND to complete the picture, I had a mullet. It wasn’t ...
Note: This article was first published October 12th, 2014 and has been updated. If you have been reading my website or newsletter for any length of time, then I am sure you have read something where I was bragging about my great editor. She is the ...
This was originally written Jan 5th, 2010 and has been updated. Author Nick Hornby was interviewed by Jesse Thorn from the radio program The Sound of Young America around the time that his new book “Juliet, Naked” was published. In the ...
I live in New York City, a pedestrian city where most people don’t drive. Even when you take mass transit you still need to walk a lot just to get around. The subway stop I use most is 3/4 of a mile walk from my apartment. As a result, people here ...
Tapping is a powerful tool that can be used to clear a huge range of issues, even those that have plagued us for years. Starting to make better choices feels great and allows positive change to seep into every part of our daily lives. At a ...
Recently I was introduced to the quote "I'm not who I think I am. I not who you think I am. I am who I think you think I am." [Note: Unfortunately the source of this quote is not clear, or I would provide it. It is variously credited to Charles ...
For me, one of the hardest feelings is that of feeling like an outsider. When you are in a room full of people, feeling like you don’t belong and your head spins with imagining what everyone is thinking about you - and NONE of it is good! Last ...
Desire can be a double-edged sword. When we want something that we don't have and see others with it, we feel left out. Sometimes we even feel as if we are not as worthy or not as valuable as others because they have it and we don't. On the other ...
When I talk about the tapping work I am doing on and for myself, the phrase I always return to is "being comfortable in my own skin". When I am comfortable with who I am in a situation, it is a lot easier for me to be my authentic self. When ...
If I were to sum up all of my own personal development work for the last decade I would say it has been a process of becoming more "comfortable inside of my own skin". For me that phrase describes not only being OK with myself, but being in a place ...
One of the most common questions I receive is "Where should I start? I have so many issues to tap on that I feel paralyzed. What should I do?" This is a great question. The truth is there is no one place to start, but it is much more important that ...
Recently I was reminded of the Joan Didon quote “Self-respect is a discipline, a habit of mind that can never be faked but can be developed, trained, coaxed forth.” I find this quote so encouraging because helps me to recognize that self-respect is ...
Perfectionism is tricky. At its core perfectionism is motivated by wanting everything to be just perfect, because when everything is perfect it becomes manageable. Making life manageable is great but the problem is that it will never be perfect. ...
As much as we would like to believe in ourselves, our actions, and our future there are times when that is really difficult to do. We can be filled with self-doubt, feeling like we have squandered our opportunities, or that we have made so many ...
A number of years ago Andy Hunt wrote an interesting article on his site Practical Wellbeing that has stuck with me. In Self-Hate Speech he looks at the hate speech laws of the UK and asked the question of how would law enforment respond to you ...
When I look at the work that I have done on myself since I discovered tapping I can distill almost every issue down to one thing. Being comfortable inside my own skin. When I am comfortable inside my own skin I am more likely to follow inspiration, ...
A few weeks ago in podcast #149 we talked about the trouble with saying "I love and accept myself". As we discussed, sometimes it is hard to say and there are also times where it isn't helpful to say. It was a useful discussion you should check ...
When Gary Craig first introduced the world to Emotional Freedom Techniques he used something he called the setup phrase. You would tap on the side of your hand or rub the sore spot and say, "Even though I have [insert issue] I completely love and ...