One of the healthiest changes that has happened in the tapping world over the last decade is that we spend less time talking about the one-minute or one-session miracles.
This sort of instant transformation does happen and it happens regularly. It just doesn't happen all the time!
The reason I am happy that we no longer talk in those terms is because it creates unrealistic expectations for tapping. Assuming that tapping always works quickly means that when it doesn't, we think we are doing something wrong, or tapping doesn't work, or it won't work for our particular issue.
Even with a healthy expectation of the speed of healing and transformation, we can still hold unrealistic hopes for a round of tapping or the healing process.
This week in the podcast, we look at the rate of healing, how we can measure it to gauge whether we are on the right track and how to avoid creating unrealistic (and harmful) expectations.
If you have a regular tapping practice, I highly recommend listening to this episode.
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As a tool, tapping is such a powerful way to tune in to our emotions. Feeling, processing, and moving through emotions is a key part of the healing and transformational experience.
You know you'd benefit from some tapping, so you sit down ready to get into it. You want it to work…but as soon as you start, your mind goes blank. You freeze because you can't think of the right words to use. After a few minutes, you give up, thinking you must be doing it wrong.
brutal truth nobody talks about in the self-help world: The healing and transformational work never ends. Every breakthrough just reveals a fresh layer of issues to be worked through.
When you have been through something hard, such as grief, trauma, or a season of disconnection in your life, it is easy to forget what wholeness feels like. You lose touch with the part of you that still knows peace, still feels love, and still remembers who you were before the story changed.
When you were first taught how to tap, more than likely you were asked to tune in to your issue in some form or fashion. You might have been asked to describe where you feel it in your body, what it reminds you of, or to rate its intensity on a 0–10 scale.
I know this sounds strange, but you’re not afraid tapping won’t work. You’re actually afraid it might.
One of the most common questions I receive is “Can we use tapping to help the animals we love?”
One of my favorite questions when interviewing someone about their tapping journey is, “If you could share one piece of advice with your younger self, what would that advice be?”
Finding a balance between taking responsibility for our lives and taking too much responsibility for what is going on is a tricky matter.
One of the ideas that really makes my clients bristle is the possibility that their self-sabotaging behaviors are guided by their system's well-meaning intention to keep them safe.
For some issues, tracking progress is simple.
One of our biggest struggles in creating transformation and change in our lives is those moments where we know WHAT to do, we know HOW to do it, and we know WHY it is valuable to take an action…and yet we just don't.
One of Marianne Williamson's most cited quotes starts “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”
Letting ourselves down is one of the deepest betrayals that we humans can experience.
The words change and improve are very close in meaning.
Not all stress is created equal.
One of the most consistent struggles my clients have is coming up with the “right” words.
Grief is unlike other emotions when it comes to tapping.
We often refer to tapping for stress and feeling overwhelmed as emotional first aid. That is because we are applying a tool for quick relief in the moment in the same way we would use first aid for a physical injury.