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Pod #68: Therapy v. Discipleship w/ Jake Khym

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Many of the practitioners I know are very spiritual people, but for one reason or another they are not connected to a particular denomination or faith tradition. My friend Jake Khym is a different in that regard. He explicitly does Christian counseling.

In this conversation we talk about how and why he transitioned from traditional counseling to Christian counseling and how his work now looks different. Also, we spend a great deal of time talking about what it means to provide instruction and teaching in a discipleship relationship vs. what a therapist would normally do.

Even if you are not Christian you are going to find this to be a fascinating conversation. Jake is one of the brights and most articulate people I know. His insights in to how people transform and what people are longing for are insightful and will help you with your healing journey regardless how you approach spiritually, faith, or religion.

 

Jake Khym (w/ wife Heather)

Guest: Jake Khym, BA, MA, RCC, CCC

Contact: web @ Life Restoration; twitter @jakekhym

About Jake: Jake offers inspiring and practical presentations throughout North America on many topics including the practical application of Christian psychology. Jake holds a BA in Theology and a Masters in Counselling Psychology. After working for almost 10 years in lay ministry, Jake has his own counselling practice and co-directs Life Restoration, a Catholic ministry offering restoration through counselling, workshops, and conferences. Jake and his wife Heather with their three children, Maria, Judah, and Eva, live in British Columbia Canada.

What do you think about Jake’s approach? How do you see spiritually and faith connecting with your tapping? Click here to add your own thoughts and comments or read what others have to say. I would really love to hear what you think!

My 10 Favorite Articles From 2011 Featured On Tapping Q And A

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photo by Susanna S.

Here is a look back at some of my favorite posts from 2011. They are not necessarily the best, but they are thoughts, ideas, and articles that I still look back and learn from.

Knowing Good Enough Is Good Enough OR The Myth Of Excellence
This is the thought that changed my life!

Create v. Responsible
Ever thought to yourself, “Everything that is going wrong in my life is all my fault! How did I create this mess?” You didn’t create it all! Here is new way of looking at what you create in your life.

There Is So Much, I Don’t Know Where To Begin When Using EFT
Feeling overwhelmed? Here is your starting point

Keeping the Long View – How To Understand The Healing Process With Tapping/EFT
When we understand how healing happens it is easier easier to create a space to heal.

Why Do I Have To Tap? – How Is EFT Different From Just Thinking About The Issue?
The title says it all. Here is why tapping is different (and powerful).

Set-Up Phrase Generator For Tapping/EFT
Having trouble with the set up phrases? Here is a over 2000 set-up phrases!

10 Lessons Learned From Teaching Tapping in Jail
One of the best things that happened to me in 2011 was getting a chance to teach a month long anger management class in a county jail. It is still one of my favorite parts of life. Here is what I have learned (so far) working with the guys.

Transforming Our Critical Voice In To Something Helpful With Tapping and EFT In 8 Easy Steps
My archenemy is my critical voice. Here is how I tame it (in 8 easy steps).

Is It A Big Deal?
It is okay to say something is a big deal when it is a big deal. By being honest with yourself you can begin healing.

10 Simple Steps To Tap On Any Emotion
Don’t know where to begin. Here are 10 steps you can do anytime to start clearing any issue.

What is your favorite lesson you learned about tapping in the last year? Click here to add your own thoughts and comments or read what others have to say. I would really love to hear what you think!

TapAlong: Saying “I am sorry.”

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Saying we are sorry is difficult. We have to admit that we are not perfect. Often we have to confront the fact that we have let someone else down or hurt them, but we need to do it.

Many times when I need to say I am sorry I have already decided that I am sorry and until I apologize the relationship will struggle. I need to say I am sorry for myself. I need to say I am sorry for the person I have hurt.

Better Then Any New Year’s Resolutions – Tap To Get Rid Of What Isn’t Needed

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This article was written while being powered by a tasty lunch bought by Lee Carter of FL. Thanks Lee!


photo by Roger Glenn

As we come to the end of another year I have been reflecting on my life, my goals, and how I spend my time. After careful concideration I have come to realize that my goals and dreams for the new year aren’t much different than the goals I had at the beginning of last year.

I would like to have better health and well being, richer relationships, more opportunities to share my giftedness with my readers and clients, and a more grounded perspective to enjoy each moment.

AND, I know how to do all these things. I have a few new tools and tricks, but for the most part I know what I am doing.

My problem isn’t knowing what, why I want it, or how to get it. My problem is filling my time and spending my energy on things that aren’t helpful.

Marc over at “Marc and Angel Hack Life” wrote a great piece a few weeks ago called “30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself“. Such as:

    1) Stop spending time with the wrong people.
    5) Stop trying to be someone you’re not.
    10) Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.
    18) Stop holding grudges.
    25) Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t.

When I create enough space in my life it is easy for me to make the right choice and I seem to effortlessly move towards my goals. It is when I am spending time, energy, and emotions on things that aren’t worth of my attention that I have a hard time doing (and being) who I want and need to be.

With that being said, sometimes it is really hard to get rid of things that have worked their way into our lives. When this happens I like to tap on it like this:

I know there are things in my life that I need to eliminate…they take my time…they take my energy…they take my emotional energy…they are not things I need to do…they are not things I want to do…they are there because they have been there for a really long time…they are there because I don’t know another way…they are there because I am afraid to let them go…I might hurt others feelings by letting them go…I might not know what to do instead…they might serve as a great distraction…I have been keeping them around because on some level they are serving me…even if I don’t know why they are serving me…I know it is going to be hard to let go of some of these things…I know that I am going to let them go for a short while and then pick them up again…I know it is going to be work to let some of them go…but I give myself permission to let go of the relationships that are not serving me…I give myself permission to let got of the tasks that are no longer serving me…I give myself permission to let go of the habits that are no longer serving me…by letting go of these things I am going to create space for the thing I need to do…I am going to create energy to do what I want to do…I am going to have time to become who I want to become.

Take a look at Marc’s list of “30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself“.

What are the things you need to remove for your life in the new year to move toward becoming who you want to be? Click here to add your own thoughts and comments or read what others have to say. I would really love to hear what you think!

TapAlong: Please See How Much I Am Putting Myself Last!

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I love helping other people out. I think I am good at it and I know that I enjoy it. I also know that others have noticed that I am good at helping people. I have personally and professionally been recognized for doing so. It is part of who I am and it is part of my identity. I am seen as a ‘go to’ guy.

None of this is bad unless I start defining myself as someone who helps others. None of this is bad unless I start to think this is the only way we can have value. We can find ourselves in a place where we are doing everything possible to make people see that we are helpers, that we are caregivers, or that we are putting everyone else first.

We start to think: “Please, please, please notice how much I am putting myself last!”

If we do this we risk losing our identity and ourselves and it can become very unhealthy.